FabSwingers.com forum: Tonight

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had a meet, we were getting on great. I got told to go ahead to their hotel get a drink then meet them in their room.

I did that. Get a text ‘sorry mate, another time.’

Nothing since. Baby sitter wasted.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s all part and parcel of swinging. They changed their minds for whatever reason. Don’t fret over it and look for someone else.

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

Sorry to hear that....unfortunately it happens...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously not great for them.

It happens. Do you expect someone to take one for the team if they ain’t feeling it...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What more annoying is that there was a couple messaging me who are amazing, in my eyes asking me to go theirs.

I had agreed with the first couple originally though.

Now the other couple are having their fun.

Such frustration!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Oh pants sounds like you were used!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

At least they told you - they could of left you hanging. Plus next time, have a plan B like going to the cinema, so your babysitter isn’t ‘wasted’.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Obviously not great for them.

It happens. Do you expect someone to take one for the team if they ain’t feeling it..."

I’m a great guy, apparently, “definitely f*ckable just not tonight.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So they told you to go their hotel room and then said no?

I don’t get it. Had they booked a hotel room or had you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So they told you to go their hotel room and then said no?

I don’t get it. Had they booked a hotel room or had you?"

They had the hotel, said to go to the bar to get a drink and then meet them in their hotel room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So they told you to go their hotel room and then said no?

I don’t get it. Had they booked a hotel room or had you?

They had the hotel, said to go to the bar to get a drink and then meet them in their hotel room."

So did you meet them in the flesh? They met you and decided they didn’t want to take things any further?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"So they told you to go their hotel room and then said no?

I don’t get it. Had they booked a hotel room or had you?

They had the hotel, said to go to the bar to get a drink and then meet them in their hotel room."

Did they text you when you were in the bar then? How weird. Ah well maybe you'll get another chance with the other couple.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Seems a bit odd. They could’ve at least said over drinks that they didn’t want to take it further that night. Some people don’t appreciate the arrangements others have to make to get a night out.

I’ve been in that situation too where my kids are at my Mum’s and then I’m at a loose end. Not the first time I’ve gone to the cinema myself.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There was a reason you just don't know it.

Maybe one of them wasn't comfortable, the lady could have got her period, anything could have happened and its ok to decide they don't want to take things further.

At least they showed up and didn't leave you hanging.

I know it's not a good feeling but it is their prerogative to change their mind.

What about hitting a club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a shame mate.. it happens . Had a meet a while back .. just coffee.. fortunately we both knew we weren't right for each other

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So they told you to go their hotel room and then said no?

I don’t get it. Had they booked a hotel room or had you?

They had the hotel, said to go to the bar to get a drink and then meet them in their hotel room.

So did you meet them in the flesh? They met you and decided they didn’t want to take things any further? "

Meg them in the flesh. We chatted for a good hour, she had her hands on me, told me she wanted me, he was excited too... get to the hotel bar *raspberry noise* stupid text of thanks but no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So they told you to go their hotel room and then said no?

I don’t get it. Had they booked a hotel room or had you?

They had the hotel, said to go to the bar to get a drink and then meet them in their hotel room.

Did they text you when you were in the bar then? How weird. Ah well maybe you'll get another chance with the other couple. "

Yeah! Text when I was sat there after ordering a pint! And I’m home now. No point wasting more time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is all about highs and lows.

Just think next meet could be totally different and you’re be banging away.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

The way they did it wasn’t the best considering they had the opportunity to tell you to your face. But after meeting for an hour I don’t see any issue in changing your mind either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t get down mate, it happens to the best of them. You may never know why they choose to back out but maybe there was more to it than you knew. They may of loved the excitement of adding someone else so they got what they wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So they told you to go their hotel room and then said no?

I don’t get it. Had they booked a hotel room or had you?

They had the hotel, said to go to the bar to get a drink and then meet them in their hotel room.

So did you meet them in the flesh? They met you and decided they didn’t want to take things any further?

Meg them in the flesh. We chatted for a good hour, she had her hands on me, told me she wanted me, he was excited too... get to the hotel bar *raspberry noise* stupid text of thanks but no thanks. "

So all talk on their part then? They would have been a shit shag

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Sounds like they got last minute nerves. Could be an ice breaker for future meets though

It does suck tho fella

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock

She obviously didn't fancy you mate sorry women's prerogative. Hollie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She obviously didn't fancy you mate sorry women's prerogative. Hollie "

Or she fancied him and her husband was jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry lovely. You didn’t deserve this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry lovely. You didn’t deserve this! "

Awk, that’s kind, thanks.

At least I got out the house. Had a nice flirt but I just felt bad at the end.. oh well.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Sorry lovely. You didn’t deserve this!

Awk, that’s kind, thanks.

At least I got out the house. Had a nice flirt but I just felt bad at the end.. oh well. "

It’s not your fault. These things happen. One of the downsides to meeting random people for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like when they went off together away from you they had a conversation that changed things.

Maybe the guy got jealous

Maybe one wasnt feeling it at all and said so when you couldn't see or hear it instead of being negative towards you or didn't want to embarrass themselves or the other half.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"She obviously didn't fancy you mate sorry women's prerogative. Hollie

Or she fancied him and her husband was jealous."

I was just going to say the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is, by meeting for a social, sex shouldnt be expected. So many assume that because you've agreed to meet them that you've agreed to sex. This is so so wrong.

But yes, pants indeed that they sent you ahead to the hotel and let you down via text. Chalk it up to experience x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think the OP is upset because he didn't get his end away. I think it's more the way they messed him around. If they'd just told him they weren't feeling it tonight instead of sending him to sit in the bar like a lemon, that would have been perfectly fine. Why waste his time sending him to the hotel?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"What more annoying is that there was a couple messaging me who are amazing, in my eyes asking me to go theirs.

I had agreed with the first couple originally though.

Now the other couple are having their fun.

Such frustration! "

When you got let down in the hotel bar, why didn't you message this couple and ask if you could join them ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What more annoying is that there was a couple messaging me who are amazing, in my eyes asking me to go theirs.

I had agreed with the first couple originally though.

Now the other couple are having their fun.

Such frustration!

When you got let down in the hotel bar, why didn't you message this couple and ask if you could join them ?"

First thing I did, but they weren’t online and didn’t pick up the message for over an hour later.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think the OP is upset because he didn't get his end away. I think it's more the way they messed him around. If they'd just told him they weren't feeling it tonight instead of sending him to sit in the bar like a lemon, that would have been perfectly fine. Why waste his time sending him to the hotel?"

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The problem is, by meeting for a social, sex shouldnt be expected. So many assume that because you've agreed to meet them that you've agreed to sex. This is so so wrong.

But yes, pants indeed that they sent you ahead to the hotel and let you down via text. Chalk it up to experience x "

Nothing was ever expected but when someone has their hands on you and tells you that it’s going to happen, sends you to their hotel then nothing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you meet them in person prior to this hotel meet? Or?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you meet them in person prior to this hotel meet? Or?"

I was with them in a bar, having a drink for an hour maybe more it was going really well.

I guess they just changed their mind. Either way it was frustrating at the time.

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