FabSwingers.com forum: Am I being a prude/old fashioned

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

So I know that I'm going to get mixed response but general consensus.

Our daughter is 22 her bf is 26 she stays over his a few days a week and he at ours a couple of days.

Question is am I being a prude to expect them to refrain from sex while we are in the house?

It's just they are rather noisy and embarrassing.

Maybe I'm old fashioned but it's a respect thing .

Am I being a twat asking them to refrain from doing it????

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No, your house your rules.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I would not want my parents to hear me having sex. No no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly same situation and age here. I think you’re right, they should refrain. Luckily I’ve never heard them I’m not sure they would if I was here. But I wouldn’t like to hear it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe see if you can give them some time alone when they're at yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your house your rules. But they're going to have sex anyway. Nothing you can do to stop that

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Tell them ,im sure they will refrain if they know you can hear ,id not like it either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your house your rules. But they're going to have sex anyway. Nothing you can do to stop that"

I agree and I don’t have a problem with that. In fact I always ring/text saying on my way home for that reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your house equals your rules!

Besides no one wants to hear their siblings at it! I’m sure they wouldn’t want to hear you either.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

They're going to want to have sex somewhere. Better in the safety of the home than in the back of a car or similar.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I think I'd just ask them to keep it down - I know if my parents had said that to me I would have been so mortified I would have had a bit more consideration!

Mrs TMN x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"So I know that I'm going to get mixed response but general consensus.

Our daughter is 22 her bf is 26 she stays over his a few days a week and he at ours a couple of days.

Question is am I being a prude to expect them to refrain from sex while we are in the house?

It's just they are rather noisy and embarrassing.

Maybe I'm old fashioned but it's a respect thing .

Am I being a twat asking them to refrain from doing it????"

Maybe just tell her that you hear it and could they keep it down abit, they will then make an effort to either be quiet or just not have sex at your house.

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm 30 and married with children and wouldn't want my parents hearing me ??. I'd make it known that you heard them and that would probably put them off enough.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, asking adults not to will backfire. Ask me how I know

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Same issue here. I think we made the mistake of telling our daughter we’re open minded. Wish I was a bit deafer.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Your house your rules.

Whatever your reason

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Nope, as they probably wouldn't want to hear listen to them, unless our grown up cherubs were living together or married and staying while visiting us then they didn't even sleep in the same bed

( I appreciate that will look old fashioned to some )

Your house, your rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, as they probably wouldn't want to hear listen to them, unless our grown up cherubs were living together or married and staying while visiting us then they didn't even sleep in the same bed

( I appreciate that will look old fashioned to some )

Your house, your rules

I wasn’t allowed either. We were engaged before he was allowed to sleep in my room

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My parents think I'm a virgin

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Nope, as they probably wouldn't want to hear you have sex then why should you listen to them. When we were visiting parents we used to keep it down if we fancied a bit

Unless our grown up cherubs were living together or married and staying while visiting us then they didn't even sleep in the same bed

( I appreciate that will look old fashioned to some )

Your house, your rules

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Nope, as they probably wouldn't want to hear listen to them, unless our grown up cherubs were living together or married and staying while visiting us then they didn't even sleep in the same bed

( I appreciate that will look old fashioned to some )

Your house, your rules

I wasn’t allowed either. We were engaged before he was allowed to sleep in my room

I can't delete this now for the post that didn't sound right once seeing it in print

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My parents think I'm a virgin

My mother still thought i was a virgin, after I gave birth

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"My parents think I'm a virgin

So you are not? !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, as they probably wouldn't want to hear listen to them, unless our grown up cherubs were living together or married and staying while visiting us then they didn't even sleep in the same bed

( I appreciate that will look old fashioned to some )

Your house, your rules

I wasn’t allowed either. We were engaged before he was allowed to sleep in my room

I can't delete this now for the post that didn't sound right once seeing it in print

Surely you have the power to do anything!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you feel this way then don’t allow him to stay over, that way they won’t have sex in your house. Recommend a hotel to them so you get peace and quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the same issue.

They will have sex regardless, I would prefer mine are safe, comfortable and have privacy than anything else. I'd just have a chat and say I don't want to hear it and know what they were doing for the sake of their privacy and to save anyone getting embarrassed. But I've always had a massively open way with mine so they can talk about anything and not be shy embarrassed or feel like they can't talk to me. It's paid off so much.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Nope, as they probably wouldn't want to hear listen to them, unless our grown up cherubs were living together or married and staying while visiting us then they didn't even sleep in the same bed

( I appreciate that will look old fashioned to some )

Your house, your rules

I wasn’t allowed either. We were engaged before he was allowed to sleep in my room

I can't delete this now for the post that didn't sound right once seeing it in print

Surely you have the power to do anything!

Well I do have a button to make it disappear but then your comment goes too and I am saving you typing again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus you have to respect that their room is their only place that they can call theirs and its a massive deal to them if you put limits on their personal space.

I get its your house and your rules and I'd back this usually but not on their sex life.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"My parents think I'm a virgin

So you are not? !! "

Err... I'd joke about having fake veris if this were any other user

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Use reverse physiology on the daughter, when he’s not there have really noisy sex when she’s just gone to bed.

See if she says anything then pipe up with

“we’ll we are only as noisy as you dear!”.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I would find it very disrespectful if any guests, family or friends were having rampant sex in my home it shows little regard to your parentage and I wouldn't hesitate telling them , so no not a prude in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, your house, your rules. And it’s about courtesy and respect more than anything else. Might be difficult if it was your parents, but your (anyone’s) kids need to show some discretion and respect.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"My parents think I'm a virgin

So you are not? !!

Err... I'd joke about having fake veris if this were any other user

Reported !!

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By *edHeadedFunWoman
over a year ago

Didsbury

Not a prude or old fashioned.

My son and myself have an understanding that neither of us would have sex with our boyfirends/girlfirens/play partners while the other is at home it is just respect.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Have you always refrained from sex while they are in the house?

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's a complicated one.

Your house, your rules I agree. Maybe ask them to play music while they are at it to hide the noise..

One point I havnt mentioned and to be fair you never asked.

If you enforce the sex ban then don't be surprised if you are accused of double standards by them if they know you are swingers. On balance. Your house, your rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you always refrained from sex while they are in the house?"

I have especially when they’ve been older, if I thought there was any chance of them hearing. That was with my husband. I’ve never invited anyone else here and wouldn’t. Even if they weren’t here.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

You don’t seem to be asking them not to have sex you are just asking them not to have noisy sex when you are around. That is perfectly acceptable and they should agree to this if they have any respect for you. They probably haven’t considered you can hear them so hopefully they will be fine with your request

You have to feel comfortable in your own home.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If it was my son id just say either shag quietly or not at all. But my mumy made me and my exhusband sleep in seperate rooms until we where married and i was pregnant

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

"My parents think I'm a virgin

My mother still thought i was a virgin, after I gave birth"

It's the right time of year for those notions, I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Old fashioned you say?

Your reaction to this is in the 22nd century compared to what mine would be

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Maybe they aren’t aware you can hear them. Have a chat with her. At the end of the day it’s your house.

I’ve only done it a few times in my parents houses, but we damn made sure we were silent as

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"Have you always refrained from sex while they are in the house?

Well then I guess that's fair enough.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"Maybe they aren’t aware you can hear them. Have a chat with her. At the end of the day it’s your house.

I’ve only done it a few times in my parents houses, but we damn made sure we were silent as "

Or possibly suggest things for them to try out based on what you can hear - that's bound to kill their passion and shut them up. Y'know, reverse psychology and all that.

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

I heard my Mum and Dad having sex once, and it developed into a row about his failure to satisfy her and that he'd never made her happy. I have to say that it's remained with me for all my life.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"Maybe they aren’t aware you can hear them. Have a chat with her. At the end of the day it’s your house.

I’ve only done it a few times in my parents houses, but we damn made sure we were silent as

Or possibly suggest things for them to try out based on what you can hear - that's bound to kill their passion and shut them up. Y'know, reverse psychology and all that.

Perhaps even hint that you get off on it, just to reinforce that "eew!" reaction.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Looks like the general consensus is ‘no you're not a prude/old fashioned’ and I agree with that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think you’re being old fashioned. The fact you can hear them is awful. They should at least respect you and be quiet!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I would rather my children had sex under my roof than anywhere random, however I wouldn’t want to hear it. I haven’t had the conversation with mine but I haven’t felt a need. We all understand discretion, respect and consideration for others so it’s never an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're letting her boyfriend stay in her room it's probably a bit unrealistic to expect them not to have sex.

I don't think it's about respect unless you have actually asked them not to have sex.

The reality is that they will have sex and since they don't have their own place that will have sex where they are staying.

Would you rather they were only able to do it in alleyways, the back of a car or the woods? At least they have somewhere comfortable, warm and safe when they are in your home.

I'm sure they would keep the noise down if you asked them to. That is a respect thing.

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