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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think they should allow more granular searching to allow those playing away / people open to playing away to have fun without bringing it to the attention of others. Recently I received a stream of ill judged abuse simply for the lifestyle I chose to live. Previously I felt fabs was very a very inclusive place.

Ps this thread isn’t asking for forgiveness or approval.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No I don't think so. People will still just lie about their marital status, particularly when they realise via the new search facility that very few people are actively looking to meet cheats. I can't really see much benefit in it.

I'd rather they introduce new features that benefit everyone, not just those playing away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think Fab needs to change but then i've received very little abuse. Don't let it get to you, it's their problem, not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't think so. People will still just lie about their marital status, particularly when they realise via the new search facility that very few people are actively looking to meet cheats. I can't really see much benefit in it.

I'd rather they introduce new features that benefit everyone, not just those playing away. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating isn't swinging, so no I don't agree with your idea OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But this site is also used for singles to meet singles. It’s not exclusive to swingers despite its name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like you said, fab is very inclusive. But there's a difference between inclusive and immoral.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m single but my balls swing regular does that count x

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Cheating isn't swinging, so no I don't agree with your idea OP "

Totally agreed !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think they should allow more granular searching to allow those playing away / people open to playing away to have fun without bringing it to the attention of others. Recently I received a stream of ill judged abuse simply for the lifestyle I chose to live. Previously I felt fabs was very a very inclusive place.

Ps this thread isn’t asking for forgiveness or approval. "

Being cheated on myself

I despise anyone who thinks that it's okay to be dishonest. Fine you want sex... Be honest counts more. Lots of people want sex for different reasons. If I am told from the beginning I then know you are not for me.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

nope.... for most people swinging involves the trust of the person they profess to love more than any other...

playing away without permission is almost by definition the opposite of that..

no judgements.... it is what it is

you ask people to understand where you come from, but you also need to understand wheres others come from too.... and why they may be repulsed by what you are doing....

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"But this site is also used for singles to meet singles. It’s not exclusive to swingers despite its name. "

Singles can already find singles quite easily on here though, without adding a "cheat" search function.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nope.... for most people swinging involves the trust of the person they profess to love more than any other...

playing away without permission is almost by definition the opposite of that..

no judgements.... it is what it is

you ask people to understand where you come from, but you also need to understand wheres others come from too.... and why they may be repulsed by what you are doing...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve met many women who want to remain anonymous and are in family life / bored marriages etc. What I’m saying is why not allow them to find each other without bringing it to the attention. Many statements in this thread are exactly what is trying to be avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who are part of fab couples play away with others so I dint think anything will solve it!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I’ve met many women who want to remain anonymous and are in family life / bored marriages etc. What I’m saying is why not allow them to find each other without bringing it to the attention. Many statements in this thread are exactly what is trying to be avoided. "

No offence or judgement intended here, but what do I get out of that? And the vast majority of people who aren't cheating? We pay our membership money too, and would rather that money is spent on improvements for ALL.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"I’ve met many women who want to remain anonymous and are in family life / bored marriages etc. What I’m saying is why not allow them to find each other without bringing it to the attention. Many statements in this thread are exactly what is trying to be avoided. "

There are sites for those wishing to have relationships beside their spouses back. This is swinging it’s just ‘cba so going to fuck others’ never a valid excuse in my book. There are sites for married people wanting sex outside of a monogamous relationship - this isn’t the definition of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So back to my original point. If you could make a selection in your profile that would allow someone like me to filter you out, you don’t see value in that?

I would love to only talk to women who were sympathetic / in the same situation.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"So back to my original point. If you could make a selection in your profile that would allow someone like me to filter you out, you don’t see value in that?

I would love to only talk to women who were sympathetic / in the same situation. "

No, because very few would honestly use it. All the cheats aren't going to suddenly become truthful because a message filter is introduced. So no value to me, and the majority, whatsoever.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I’ve met many women who want to remain anonymous and are in family life / bored marriages etc. What I’m saying is why not allow them to find each other without bringing it to the attention. Many statements in this thread are exactly what is trying to be avoided.

There are sites for those wishing to have relationships beside their spouses back. This is swinging it’s just ‘cba so going to fuck others’ never a valid excuse in my book. There are sites for married people wanting sex outside of a monogamous relationship - this isn’t the definition of swinging. "

they dont use those site because

a) stigma

b) they cost a lot of money! (hey.. why pay when you can use here for free!)

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I cant stand cheating, dishonest people really turn me off. I get the naughtiness of it might turn some people on but is it all really worth it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant stand cheating, dishonest people really turn me off. I get the naughtiness of it might turn some people on but is it all really worth it? "

If a really attractive married lady wanted to meet you and said it was behind her husband's back....you would say no ?

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I cant stand cheating, dishonest people really turn me off. I get the naughtiness of it might turn some people on but is it all really worth it?

If a really attractive married lady wanted to meet you and said it was behind her husband's back....you would say no ?"

Of course! Is that so hard to believe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not what this thread is about though.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Cheating isn't swinging, so no I don't agree with your idea OP "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating isn't swinging, so no I don't agree with your idea OP

"

We should bang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant stand cheating, dishonest people really turn me off. I get the naughtiness of it might turn some people on but is it all really worth it?

If a really attractive married lady wanted to meet you and said it was behind her husband's back....you would say no ?

Of course! Is that so hard to believe?"

Honestly yes it's hard to believe from someone on a swingers site...you must see that aswell

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Not what this thread is about though. "

Sorry, I just got the impression you was wondering how a feature that allows you to search for people playing away would pan out?

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I cant stand cheating, dishonest people really turn me off. I get the naughtiness of it might turn some people on but is it all really worth it?

If a really attractive married lady wanted to meet you and said it was behind her husband's back....you would say no ?

Of course! Is that so hard to believe?

Honestly yes it's hard to believe from someone on a swingers site...you must see that aswell"

As someone said earlier swinging isnt cheating. I'm not talking about swinging! Nothing wrong with that if that's what the couples want to do for fun. It's the lying and just plain betrayal of cheating I cant stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cheating on your woman? Shame on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating isn't swinging, so no I don't agree with your idea OP

Totally agreed !"

Same here

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Cheating isn't swinging, so no I don't agree with your idea OP

We should bang "

Drums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant stand cheating, dishonest people really turn me off. I get the naughtiness of it might turn some people on but is it all really worth it?

If a really attractive married lady wanted to meet you and said it was behind her husband's back....you would say no ?

Of course! Is that so hard to believe?

Honestly yes it's hard to believe from someone on a swingers site...you must see that aswell

As someone said earlier swinging isnt cheating. I'm not talking about swinging! Nothing wrong with that if that's what the couples want to do for fun. It's the lying and just plain betrayal of cheating I cant stand. "

I very much get what you are saying ... but in general most guys on here, would probably jump a glove puppet, if it nodded at them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating isn't swinging, so no I don't agree with your idea OP

We should bang

Drums?"

You know me so well

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I cant stand cheating, dishonest people really turn me off. I get the naughtiness of it might turn some people on but is it all really worth it?

If a really attractive married lady wanted to meet you and said it was behind her husband's back....you would say no ?

Of course! Is that so hard to believe?

Honestly yes it's hard to believe from someone on a swingers site...you must see that aswell

As someone said earlier swinging isnt cheating. I'm not talking about swinging! Nothing wrong with that if that's what the couples want to do for fun. It's the lying and just plain betrayal of cheating I cant stand.

I very much get what you are saying ... but in general most guys on here, would probably jump a glove puppet, if it nodded at them...."

Oh yeah I dont doubt that for a minute. We're a scummy species on average haha

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

If a really attractive married lady wanted to meet you and said it was behind her husband's back....you would say no ?"

oh i can answer that.... but it comes with a story

when i started would have done that... yep!

now "x" years in, would i do it now? nope!

so... what changed.... ask me what changed me!

so like i said.. i have been doing this "x" years now... i went to (and still go to) a lot of parties... and there were loads of other singles at these parties, and there was one that really respected and was respected across the swinging community....

so i see him at a party once saturday night.... and then get frantic calls on monday afternoon...

"had i seen him drinking?" nope tee totalled!... "drugs?" never!..."acting oddly in anyway" nicest guys id known!

why???

because on that saturday night he had gone home, been in a one-person accident on the motorway and killed instantly!

and thats when we found out that single guys wasn't quite as single as he said he was.... wife, children

and his wife had found his account details...

now this is where you say "well i am more secure that that, it would never happen to me!"..... I'm here to tell you, you are not as bulletproof as you like to think!

so.... anyway, she came on the site, and let out a ton of posts and you could tell she would hurt and angry...... and it was at that point i swore i wouldn't, because there is another person out there, and they were an innocent party!

so yeah... you might not say this is what the thread is about...... but you have to understand this is what it will be for some people. they won't want to be part of your deceit......

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Cheating isn't swinging, so no I don't agree with your idea OP

We should bang

Drums?

You know me so well "

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

(Lou) personally I believe if you have to get sex elsewhere without your partners knowledge then it is cheating and you are obviously with the wrong person if you feel the need to cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If a really attractive married lady wanted to meet you and said it was behind her husband's back....you would say no ?

oh i can answer that.... but it comes with a story

when i started would have done that... yep!

now "x" years in, would i do it now? nope!

so... what changed.... ask me what changed me!

so like i said.. i have been doing this "x" years now... i went to (and still go to) a lot of parties... and there were loads of other singles at these parties, and there was one that really respected and was respected across the swinging community....

so i see him at a party once saturday night.... and then get frantic calls on monday afternoon...

"had i seen him drinking?" nope tee totalled!... "drugs?" never!..."acting oddly in anyway" nicest guys id known!

why???

because on that saturday night he had gone home, been in a one-person accident on the motorway and killed instantly!

and thats when we found out that single guys wasn't quite as single as he said he was.... wife, children

and his wife had found his account details...

now this is where you say "well i am more secure that that, it would never happen to me!"..... I'm here to tell you, you are not as bulletproof as you like to think!

so.... anyway, she came on the site, and let out a ton of posts and you could tell she would hurt and angry...... and it was at that point i swore i wouldn't, because there is another person out there, and they were an innocent party!

so yeah... you might not say this is what the thread is about...... but you have to understand this is what it will be for some people. they won't want to be part of your deceit......

"

A sad story for his wife to have those last memories of him.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Ray

If you cheat then you're not happy or fulfilled with your current partner

Man up be honest and show your partner an ounce of respect

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"No I don't think so. People will still just lie about their marital status, particularly when they realise via the new search facility that very few people are actively looking to meet cheats. I can't really see much benefit in it.

I'd rather they introduce new features that benefit everyone, not just those playing away. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t once received abuse in 10 years on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I recently got a ton. Anyway. Every time I post something like this in here I get the same response... but I also get a couple of message on the side from curious women. So thankyou all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t once received abuse in 10 years on here."

You're not trying hard enough.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"I haven’t once received abuse in 10 years on here.

You're not trying hard enough. "

Two sides to victory or every coin ,You profess to love someone and ask if it's ok to swing , They may agree reluctantly to keep you happy!!! It happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If I pretended to love the abuse. Maybe it would stop lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If a really attractive married lady wanted to meet you and said it was behind her husband's back....you would say no ?

oh i can answer that.... but it comes with a story

when i started would have done that... yep!

now "x" years in, would i do it now? nope!

so... what changed.... ask me what changed me!

so like i said.. i have been doing this "x" years now... i went to (and still go to) a lot of parties... and there were loads of other singles at these parties, and there was one that really respected and was respected across the swinging community....

so i see him at a party once saturday night.... and then get frantic calls on monday afternoon...

"had i seen him drinking?" nope tee totalled!... "drugs?" never!..."acting oddly in anyway" nicest guys id known!

why???

because on that saturday night he had gone home, been in a one-person accident on the motorway and killed instantly!

and thats when we found out that single guys wasn't quite as single as he said he was.... wife, children

and his wife had found his account details...

now this is where you say "well i am more secure that that, it would never happen to me!"..... I'm here to tell you, you are not as bulletproof as you like to think!

so.... anyway, she came on the site, and let out a ton of posts and you could tell she would hurt and angry...... and it was at that point i swore i wouldn't, because there is another person out there, and they were an innocent party!

so yeah... you might not say this is what the thread is about...... but you have to understand this is what it will be for some people. they won't want to be part of your deceit......

"

How awful for her to have to deal with grief, children and decete too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nope.... for most people swinging involves the trust of the person they profess to love more than any other...

playing away without permission is almost by definition the opposite of that..

no judgements.... it is what it is

you ask people to understand where you come from, but you also need to understand wheres others come from too.... and why they may be repulsed by what you are doing...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definition of insanity....

Trying the same message time after time and expecting a different outcome

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No as it would rely on people being honest,which sadly many are not.

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By *oeandjanCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Been cheated on in a previous relationship, lies rip life’s apart .

Now I’m with joe we both love sex we talked about swinging , we both know what is going on , no lies nothing done behind the others back ,

It’s called TRUST ??

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By *oeandjanCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

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