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"Lots of people to chat to on here" Thank you very tough | |||
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"Hi Paul here. Just need to say this somewere as my friends in real life are bad. I've been diagnosed with depression a while ago and its seriously kicking my arse. Just need a friend to be with me. For chat and hug. I have two lady friends who are lil bit more than friends. One is local and weve slept together alot but shes decided to stay with her fiancee. We are still close but not as much support from me. The second one is localish who I've not meet yet. But we always txt and talk on the phone. But recently since I opened up shes saying I'm pushing and not being fair. Dont know why I bother. Just need people to talk to " I’ve found friends arnt always the best people to talk to . An if they are just play mates definitely not. Samaritan s have a helpline. I’ve found them helpful in the past. Find people who are trained or want to talk. Relate is a free counselling service too | |||
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"find your local Mind they usual have a pop in cafe area where you can meet and chat with fellow sufererers plus they offer 1 on 1 counciling sesions they can be a massive help failing that DONT try to force folk to help you especialy intimate partners they either will or thet wont if they want to " I'm not forcing anyone just need a friend | |||
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"Fella here - This problem tried to kick my arse a few years back and I was on all the meds too. Woke up one day and thought fuck this shit, slowly came off the meds and as hard as it was just got myself out there. That was 2 years ago and I've never looked back since. Good luck fella and just chat on the forums on here if it helps, you'll come good " Thank you | |||
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"Make sure you're seeking appropriate professional help, OP. Friends have limits as to what they can handle. I speak from experience! And they aren't always there when you need them, and they can burn out. If you're looking for new friends... New friends are very risky when you're suffering. You don't know how they'll react, it may not be positive. " I have got professional help | |||
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"Make sure you're seeking appropriate professional help, OP. Friends have limits as to what they can handle. I speak from experience! And they aren't always there when you need them, and they can burn out. If you're looking for new friends... New friends are very risky when you're suffering. You don't know how they'll react, it may not be positive. I have got professional help " I'm glad. But friendship carries risks in this situation, particularly new friendship, and particularly where you're hoping that lust will be a part of it. Be careful. (I speak from experience of my own psychological issues) | |||
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"Is your GP seeing you regularly, to check your medication is working? The Samaritans and Mind are really good resources too. Are there other friends or family you can chat to besides these two ladies you’ve spoken of? " And a health check Like blood pressure | |||
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"Hi Paul here. Just need to say this somewere as my friends in real life are bad. I've been diagnosed with depression a while ago and its seriously kicking my arse. Just need a friend to be with me. For chat and hug. I have two lady friends who are lil bit more than friends. One is local and weve slept together alot but shes decided to stay with her fiancee. We are still close but not as much support from me. The second one is localish who I've not meet yet. But we always txt and talk on the phone. But recently since I opened up shes saying I'm pushing and not being fair. Dont know why I bother. Just need people to talk to " Check out my recent thread Time for change You are not alone feeling alone if that helps. I know exactly how you feel. Peace and love bro | |||
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"Unfortunately OP even the closet of friends will appear to back off, not want to help. It’s not because they don’t want to, it’s because they don’t know how to help. As people have said already, seek that professional help and talk things through. If you need more information PM me Find something to focus on that you enjoy, could be as simple as going for a walk. It’s not an easy road, don’t try to fix everything at once, take one day at a time. " That top paragraph is so so true | |||
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"I must add you don't know how these ladies mental health is themselves. I have suffered depression and PTSD, and I'm someone many people lean on in multiple areas. If I'm in "could teeter downwards" mode myself I find I simply have no more of myself to give without it having a detrimental impact on me and possibly the other person too, by not being a good friend, by offering bad advice, by sending me into a bad spell. Sometimes people need to appear selfish to protect themselves unfortunately. P" I so agree with this. My mother has suffered with long periods of untreated depression all her life. As a child this impacted on me hugely and now I find it very difficult to support depressed friends. I would suggest to anybody in the midst of this horrible illness to talk to friends and close ones when you're well. Let them know how you feel and what you need from them when you're ill and help them to understand that your behaviour is caused by the illness not you. It probably won't make the experience easier but it might mean the support you need is easier to get. | |||
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"Sending love OP. Depression is deeply personal and can be isolating even when surrounded with friends. I know this. Others can never fully understand your experience and can have no idea how to support you unless you're clear. And still, its difficult to get it right, even when there's plenty love in their heart. Please love yourself. Be brave enough to give yourself exactly what you know you need..you are the only one that truly knows. Know yourself deeper than ever, tiny steps. Professional help can be hitty missy and not always enough..have you ever tried something like yoga or meditation? These techniques can be great for gently reeducating the mind..breaking old stuck patterns. And you're part of a group. It can be good support especially if you're embarking on therapy which is a big process. If groups are too much, try mindful meditations online. Try giving to yourself the gift of life. Stripped back, simple, breathing and eating and sleeping. If your friends cant give what you need .. give it to yourself, life will open up eventually when the time is right x " Thank you. I tried to message you | |||
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"Im ex soldier and understand your struggle. 1. Get out and about.fresh air is good. 2.dont be afraid to talk and vent. 3. Join groups meet people and most of all. Dont let every day bills and life get to you. Remember problem shared and all that. " Cheers mate. I'm in the gym alot while on holiday from work. Love it keeps me sane | |||
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"Hi Paul here. Just need to say this somewere as my friends in real life are bad. I've been diagnosed with depression a while ago and its seriously kicking my arse. Just need a friend to be with me. For chat and hug. I have two lady friends who are lil bit more than friends. One is local and weve slept together alot but shes decided to stay with her fiancee. We are still close but not as much support from me. The second one is localish who I've not meet yet. But we always txt and talk on the phone. But recently since I opened up shes saying I'm pushing and not being fair. Dont know why I bother. Just need people to talk to " I’m a full time single dad and know exactly what you’re feeling . Just a random morning or hey how you doing text makes the world of difference x | |||
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"Lots of people to chat to on here Thank you very tough " Yes it can be tough. Men and women suffer depression and everyone of us need a friend who we can chat to. In the middle of the day and on occasion the middle of the night. I'm lucky to have a school mate that has gone through alot of similar things as myself, she doesn't know I'm on here though. Helping people sometimes takes your mind off what you are going through for a while and can give you a boost. But there are also people out there that help you get lifted up but won't open up to you when you can tell they are low. There are always swings and roundabouts in life, you have to work out who you can talk to and how much they are helping. All these things have been said so hopefully you will be able to find 1 or 2 that can help as well as the professionals xx good luck Paul, well done for opening up xx | |||
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"I don't think fab is a good place to be if you're feeling low. You've got to learn to love yourself and constant rejection is rough if you're not mentally strong I'd forget sex and get out into the open air as that will do you good as will exercise. Join a club linked to your pastime or hobby or something new and meeting people with a common interest is great for conversations Good luck" Fab takes a lot of resilience and can tax it. | |||
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