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"I don't trust anyone anymore " Have you ever? | |||
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"How much do you trust? Are you a trusting soul or does it have to be earnt? Can we only truly trust in ourselves?" Not sure if it has to be earnt, but the more you know someone, the more you know if you can either trust them or you can't! Even so, there's some people I've known for 2 years and i trust them more than others I've known for 20 years! | |||
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"Trust has to be earned I used to be willing to trust anyone when I was much younger life and people has taught me not to anymore " This is exactly me, whereas my husband is more trusting in people. He trusts them until proven otherwise. I think a lot depends on how you have been treated by others in life. | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 28/12/19 07:10:49]" i trust some people ...but trusted the wrong people in the past, theres some pretty good actors out there . Now trust has to be earned | |||
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"How much do you trust? Are you a trusting soul or does it have to be earnt? Can we only truly trust in ourselves?" i trust a person I've built a friendship with, trust has to be earnt don’t you think | |||
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"I don't trust anyone anymore " Exactly this. Seems like everyone is out for themselves only!! | |||
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"How much do you trust? Are you a trusting soul or does it have to be earnt? Can we only truly trust in ourselves?" Trust has to be earnt | |||
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"How much do you trust? Are you a trusting soul or does it have to be earnt? Can we only truly trust in ourselves?" I believe that first and foremost we should trust ourselves. If we can't trust in our own person hpw can we extend that trust to other people. I'm a trusting soul at heart that often needs to temper that tendency with real world pragmatism. | |||
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"I don’t. I have trust issues. It’s probably a major reason in why i’m single. I turn into Miss Marple when in a relationship." i can't trust a woman until i see her naked sorry its a tried and tested theory | |||
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"I don’t. I have trust issues. It’s probably a major reason in why i’m single. I turn into Miss Marple when in a relationship.i can't trust a woman until i see her naked sorry its a tried and tested theory " Good luck with that | |||
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"I don’t. I have trust issues. It’s probably a major reason in why i’m single. I turn into Miss Marple when in a relationship.i can't trust a woman until i see her naked sorry its a tried and tested theory Good luck with that " oh cmon disprove my theory | |||
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"Never trust a fart" trust it but have a swift backup plan | |||
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"I don't trust easily, but once someone has shown me that I can trust them they get 100%. Conversely, if anyone abuses my trust, it's gone and they will never get it back. I'm an all or nothing kind of person " This. Once it’s gone it’s gone. Never ever will it return no matter what. | |||
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"I don't trust easily, but once someone has shown me that I can trust them they get 100%. Conversely, if anyone abuses my trust, it's gone and they will never get it back. I'm an all or nothing kind of person This. Once it’s gone it’s gone. Never ever will it return no matter what. " Although it will never be 100%. 99% maybe. Trusting anyone 100% makes me vulnerable and I don’t like that. | |||
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"I trust me 100%. Nobody else " This. I'm pretty open and authentic once I get past initial getting to know someone or getting confortable, and sometimes I need to pull that back. But the only person I can ever completely depend on is me. | |||
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"Trust has to be earned I used to be willing to trust anyone when I was much younger life and people has taught me not to anymore This is exactly me, whereas my husband is more trusting in people. He trusts them until proven otherwise. I think a lot depends on how you have been treated by others in life." Agree with this. With me though, I kind of get a sense, some people I will trust pretty quickly, others will never gain it. Thing with me tho and a lot of people, once my trust has been broken I'm not sure it can ever be rebuilt. Even if I may want to trust that person again, something inside me won't allow it. I'll just start to distance myself and float off into the ether P | |||
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"On little inconsequential things.. Pretty easily. On bigger things... Not so much I also find the older I get, the more my levels of trust seem to get eroded or are less easily given. The past few years I've really had my trust in some friends badly shaken and in some cases completely lost, and while you try not to paint everyone with the same brush or feel distrust around others, you can't help but let it affect other relationships. The best comparison I can make is, if you've ever been hit or punched, it doesn't matter who did the hitting or punching... Any raised hand will make you flinch after that, even one raised in greeting. " | |||
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"I’ve learnt from many mistakes and so now one would have to earn it. Then again depends what I am laying my trust upon" | |||
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"Think it's very sad when people have lost their faith in others through being hurt ... not trusting only holds ourselves back, doesn't affect others Trust comes in varying degrees, so I trust everyone at level one and through knowing them it's increased so threfore earned or, a better way would be to say it's improved upon I never trust unless I have met someone in person though as percieved trust isn't a positive thing in my eyes, a lot relies on communication and good communication is over 80% body language " I concur with this in many ways although I find I can develop significant amounts of trust with some people without meeting them. However what they have in common is an open, authentic, empathetic and compassionate way of communicating with significant ability to articulate feelings and thoughts. They paint the pictures of their body language in the way they write their messages. I would be seriously shocked to find they were untrustworthy. | |||
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"How much do you trust? Are you a trusting soul or does it have to be earnt? Can we only truly trust in ourselves?" Trust is earned not given. | |||
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"Think it's very sad when people have lost their faith in others through being hurt ... not trusting only holds ourselves back, doesn't affect others Trust comes in varying degrees, so I trust everyone at level one and through knowing them it's increased so threfore earned or, a better way would be to say it's improved upon I never trust unless I have met someone in person though as percieved trust isn't a positive thing in my eyes, a lot relies on communication and good communication is over 80% body language " Why would you submit to being kicked in the face over and over again? I've been kicked in the face too many times and am not taking it anymore. | |||
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"Think it's very sad when people have lost their faith in others through being hurt ... not trusting only holds ourselves back, doesn't affect others Trust comes in varying degrees, so I trust everyone at level one and through knowing them it's increased so threfore earned or, a better way would be to say it's improved upon I never trust unless I have met someone in person though as percieved trust isn't a positive thing in my eyes, a lot relies on communication and good communication is over 80% body language Why would you submit to being kicked in the face over and over again? I've been kicked in the face too many times and am not taking it anymore. " I have met people who have broken all trust but choose not to judge all people by the actions of a few bad eggs. I still prefer to see/believe in the good and over time have been shown that if I don't trust all people it doesn't stop the bad eggs from being bad eggs but it does stop meeting and trusting lovely great people and having the most amazing off-the-cuff experiences Not giving everyone the benefit of doubt only hurts me in the long run ... all relationships take time but have to start somewhere and found it to be the same with trust, has to start somewhere and takes time! | |||
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"On little inconsequential things.. Pretty easily. On bigger things... Not so much I also find the older I get, the more my levels of trust seem to get eroded or are less easily given. The past few years I've really had my trust in some friends badly shaken and in some cases completely lost, and while you try not to paint everyone with the same brush or feel distrust around others, you can't help but let it affect other relationships. The best comparison I can make is, if you've ever been hit or punched, it doesn't matter who did the hitting or punching... Any raised hand will make you flinch after that, even one raised in greeting. " So so so so so much this!! You know they ain't the same person that did it (or sometimes they are) but you know and have learned the possible and very real outcomes from those behaviours, even though we are certain it won't be the outcome in every individual case, we still flinch until we've learned it's safe not to around individual people P | |||
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"I think gullible is the word for me " Same here when I joined fab 10 years ago | |||
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