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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend...

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "

Come spill the beans to me,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on let it out I’m all ears

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

Sometimes. Other times I just type out a message and hit send before I can stop myself

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "

Getting to know someone I'd the difficult bit.

Seei g if there's any mutual interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them. Then they go quiet or disappear

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By *attoo.GentMan
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

Yesssss. I have so many ladies and couples on my hotlist.

But i dont want to be "just another single guy" so i dint say anything haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep me!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "

Not really. I (Luke) have difficulty getting some to notice that I'm telling them how much I like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely a shy perv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, im quite forward in that sense.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yeah. I don’t tell anyone i like them. Just like i don’t message anyone. They have to be able to read my mind. And pick up on my subliminal messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, all the time x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It depends on the situation and the context. I don't just message people unless they're involved in a flirting thread, if not then I would look for another opportunity or reason to interact.

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By *ockNRollArtistMan
over a year ago

Derby

Always, both on here and in real life.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Oh god yes, and even if someone messages me I'm never sure if it's just random flirting.

Sometimes I think the FAF brigade may have the right of it; at least there's no ambiguity.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

Yep. I overthink it and then decide against it far too oft. Next year I'm going to be more proactive.

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Yep. I overthink it and then decide against it far too oft. Next year I'm going to be more proactive."

Close your eyes and hit send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep passed too many

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By *iggyStarjumpsMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Send a wink or view their profile not in stealth mode? Writing the first message is always tough

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Yep shy perve, could be a perfect description for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, women have so much choice on here I just assume if they're interested they would message themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I don't worry about it

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Occasionally. However, I’ve learnt to bite the bullet and tell them. What have you got to lose.... nothing. Take the bull by the horns.

Example I did this recently and found out we’d mutually been admiring from afar for three months, but neither thought the other was on each other’s radar.

If you don’t say you’ll never know and you could be pleasantly surprised

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Yes me

I don't tend to msg people because most times i just think being a transgender woman just put them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am one of those shy types and I'm not good at contacting people. When I pluck up the courage for a social, I come out of my shell a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easier to make myself known to them on the forum. And then just pray they dont message

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Yeah. I don’t tell anyone i like them. Just like i don’t message anyone. They have to be able to read my mind. And pick up on my subliminal messages.

"

Sister

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I found easier swing clubs and social meetings defenitly

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Me. I'm rubbish. Really rubbish.

I flirt well once I get started, but I'm not very good at first moves.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Me. I'm rubbish. Really rubbish.

I flirt well once I get started, but I'm not very good at first moves."

That's me i never take the first step

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead."

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

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By *iggyStarjumpsMan
over a year ago

Stockport

"Hi, I think you sound/look nice. Would you like to chat?"

Little kids are brilliant at it.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying. "

Use the forum games if it’s a forum person. If not write a message to them, along the lines of something you’d like to receive.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I don't tend to send messages unless part of a forum game or flirt for now. Sometimes shy, sometimes brazen sometimes discreet sometimes daft, sometimes deep or chatty.

It depends what mood I'm in.

Try that .. send them, but listen to your mood and try not to overthink. You've got nothing to lose!

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "

Yes

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

Use the forum games if it’s a forum person. If not write a message to them, along the lines of something you’d like to receive. "

Yeah but...

Err... Yeah that's not happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not great at it either, but I have tried more over the last couple of months. Prior to that, Tom sent the messages...

xx Niki

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "
yes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

Use the forum games if it’s a forum person. If not write a message to them, along the lines of something you’d like to receive. "

In my experience they say it’s mutual then never hear back after

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

Use the forum games if it’s a forum person. If not write a message to them, along the lines of something you’d like to receive.

Yeah but...

Err... Yeah that's not happening "

Oh Swing what am I going to do with you

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Definitely sometimes. I can chat to anyone but find it difficult to gauge interest which then holds me back.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

Use the forum games if it’s a forum person. If not write a message to them, along the lines of something you’d like to receive.

In my experience they say it’s mutual then never hear back after "

After that initial it’s mutual do you keep the conversation going ? Even after the initial hello effort has to be made

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

Use the forum games if it’s a forum person. If not write a message to them, along the lines of something you’d like to receive.

Yeah but...

Err... Yeah that's not happening

Oh Swing what am I going to do with you "

Accept me and my hideous failings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

Use the forum games if it’s a forum person. If not write a message to them, along the lines of something you’d like to receive.

In my experience they say it’s mutual then never hear back after

After that initial it’s mutual do you keep the conversation going ? Even after the initial hello effort has to be made"

I try to but if no reply I just leave it at that

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

Use the forum games if it’s a forum person. If not write a message to them, along the lines of something you’d like to receive.

Yeah but...

Err... Yeah that's not happening

Oh Swing what am I going to do with you

Accept me and my hideous failings? "

Of course. Not failings just different ways

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

Use the forum games if it’s a forum person. If not write a message to them, along the lines of something you’d like to receive.

In my experience they say it’s mutual then never hear back after

After that initial it’s mutual do you keep the conversation going ? Even after the initial hello effort has to be made

I try to but if no reply I just leave it at that "

Fair enough. Just don’t give up trying

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By *omesticflightMan
over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

yeah. In real life, always.

Here, not so much - there's something about being in the safety of my own bedroom, with the latitude to delete stuff, piece writing together at leisure as opposed to on the hoof in person.

But there's only so much to go on with online profiles. I see "no one sentence messages please", and I agree, but if you don't know anything about a person, it's difficult striking up momentum in conversation

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've don't have that problem now and hopefully never will again. The interest is often times not reciprocated but we can't be everyone's fancy.

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By *urulovesnylonMan
over a year ago

Harrow

Usually a shy perv, more times than not I’m not on their want list so I just perv along ??.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying. "

You've met 157 people, don't think you can get away with coming across as a shy wallflower

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

Age and experience has taught me to just say it - nothing worse than a small dint to your pride is likely to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "

Always and even at SX I do even when I get indications they may be interested. I'm definitely a bit shy lol

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

You've met 157 people, don't think you can get away with coming across as a shy wallflower "

And I initially approached... ooh, about none of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "

Me (mrs) PD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always ... Its hard to spark a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I largely stopped telling people years ago. Too often it resulted in an instant block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inbox me... Tell me yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely. In person is far easier to detect mutual interest!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s better to have fought and lost than not to have fought at all! Ask them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not particularly, if I like the look of someone I don't usually have a problem telling them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, if filters and preferences allow I’ll message

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Tbh, if I had to rely on getting over my own anxiety and approaching people... I'd probably still be a virgin

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "

Not at all! Like in a club; if the single guy doesn't make the first move, nothing happens

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By *ayden_82Man
over a year ago

corby

Yep I do so just avoid saying anything to out of the ordinary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend...

Not at all! Like in a club; if the single guy doesn't make the first move, nothing happens "

For some of us, if the single guy does make the the first move nothing happens.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Tbh, if I had to rely on getting over my own anxiety and approaching people... I'd probably still be a virgin "

Just drop them a friend request, a zillion blokes can’t be wrong after all!

Can they?

Or just send a Hello or a wink or something along the lines that you would be happy to receive?

x

Good luck

S&H

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I've told some people

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I use to keep it to myself but recently I've learned, nothing ventured nothing gained.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Naahhhh what is there to be shy/worried about?

What is the worst that can happen....they block you...so what.

Be pro active and let people know...you never know where it may lead.

No damn idea how to do it, never learned, idea is terrifying.

You've met 157 people, don't think you can get away with coming across as a shy wallflower

And I initially approached... ooh, about none of them "

Well make 2020 your year to start. Go after what you want in life. Go for it girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was when i first came to fab but theres no harm in trying you never know whats going to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well mostly just depends on who you come across and think hmmmm there might be a connection there.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I always do the looking to be truly honest...I look at people who clearly are looking at me...they are, as has been said, interested but maybe don't know what to say for fear of failing...

Then I do the initial message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No......

Im pretty upfront about it once they see me in the bushes

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Yeah, I'm extremely shy initially and find it very difficult to bring myself to message women out of the blue - even sending a wink.

I'm fine once I get to know someone and, in fact, I'm totally uninhibited and don't shy away from any subject at all... it's just getting over that first hurdle that's hard.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "

(Ray)

Nope lol unfortunately I have zero filter and I've never put much weight behind what others think of me ! Not in a nasty or horrible way I mean I'd never say anything derogatory or to emotionally hurt someone but if I think "I'd like to try that or this" then I say it what's the worse that can happen ? They say No.

To many people theses days don't say what they think and end up with regrets, just do it pal

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think we're all works in progress in one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think we're all works in progress in one way or another. "

Agreed

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I think we're all works in progress in one way or another. "

Everyone is one way or another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes though the rare time il just go for it ,next year if I fancy a guy I'm just going to bite the bullet and tell him the worst that can happen is he ignores me blocks me or just says no ,atleast il know

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Yes though the rare time il just go for it ,next year if I fancy a guy I'm just going to bite the bullet and tell him the worst that can happen is he ignores me blocks me or just says no ,atleast il know"

Precisely this

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Not shy in the slightest but not got a friend that I can really tell all my real secrets too sadly.

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "

Well, yes. But as you asked... no too shy to say!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

You would think it'd be obvious for woman chatting to men, if we're chatting, we're interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would think it'd be obvious for woman chatting to men, if we're chatting, we're interested "

Not necessarily. I talk to people I'm not interested in, on those occasions when I get to talk to someone.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You would think it'd be obvious for woman chatting to men, if we're chatting, we're interested "

I don't think that's the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,find it hard to message people i fancy,don’t like being rejected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met people at Club SX that when looking at their profile here prior going off the forum post for the event aren't looking for girls like me.

So when I meet them I'm not sure so don't ask. Despite the fact quite a few are. Just takes a while before both show a mutual interest.

Also I mostly look for women and couples so maybe bit more difficult finding who is interested x

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley


"Yes,find it hard to message people i fancy,don’t like being rejected "

If as a single man you don't like being rejected stay away from Fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't see how the internet works for meeting people if you're shy about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don’t have a problem confessing interest. But I do have a problem turning potential into actual. I have found sometimes I confess sexual interest too early and it seems to do me no favours. Others In probably not forward enough with or proactive enough and any spark there might have been dies. The other thing I’m very successful at is turning sexual friendship into a platonic friendship.

I might get it right someday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I don't see how the internet works for meeting people if you're shy about it."

It doesn't. That doesn't make the shyness any less crippling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don’t have a problem confessing interest. But I do have a problem turning potential into actual. I have found sometimes I confess sexual interest too early and it seems to do me no favours. Others In probably not forward enough with or proactive enough and any spark there might have been dies. The other thing I’m very successful at is turning sexual friendship into a platonic friendship.

I might get it right someday "

Sexual potential into platonic friendship

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"No I don’t have a problem confessing interest. But I do have a problem turning potential into actual. I have found sometimes I confess sexual interest too early and it seems to do me no favours. Others In probably not forward enough with or proactive enough and any spark there might have been dies. The other thing I’m very successful at is turning sexual friendship into a platonic friendship.

I might get it right someday

Sexual potential into platonic friendship "

I'm the champion of this.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"No. I don't see how the internet works for meeting people if you're shy about it."

It obviously does, because here I am, meeting people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don’t have a problem confessing interest. But I do have a problem turning potential into actual. I have found sometimes I confess sexual interest too early and it seems to do me no favours. Others In probably not forward enough with or proactive enough and any spark there might have been dies. The other thing I’m very successful at is turning sexual friendship into a platonic friendship.

I might get it right someday

Sexual potential into platonic friendship

I'm the champion of this. "

I dunno about Champion but I’m really shit at turning potential to actual.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"No. I don't see how the internet works for meeting people if you're shy about it.

It obviously does, because here I am, meeting people. "

Likewise. I’m just not proactive about it. My profile (when visible) is my party invite and the people who message me are those RSVP’ing - and i take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I don't see how the internet works for meeting people if you're shy about it.

It obviously does, because here I am, meeting people. "

Great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I don't see how the internet works for meeting people if you're shy about it.

It obviously does, because here I am, meeting people.

Great. "
so what's the issue then?

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

I’m not shy about messaging people who grab my attention, but I am shy about expressing sexual interest in those people. I often find myself enjoying a conversation with someone about a completely unrelated topic and then struggle to say, ‘I fancy you’.

Ailsa, on the rare occasion she messages, has no such qualms. But in real life she is louder and more forthright than I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. Sometimes I'll see a profile that I like and I'll just come up blank. There's things in the profile for me to use in my message, but the words don't come and if I'm the wrong frame of mind I just think ''they're not gonna message back anyway, I'm just wasting my time''.

I'd honestly prefer someone to just message me first, even if it's just a simple question. I'll always put the effort in regardless of who sends the first message, it's just that if I have to send the first message and I'm struggling to think of what to say, I just won't bother.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step "

Good idea

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea "

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from this

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Yes, most definitely. I only confess if the other person has expressed interest first

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step "

But when a shy guy sees a lady that looks as amazing as you he'll become even more shy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step "

Yes I’m gonna be a big boy and make the step

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

If I could find someone that I felt was a great match with me. I'd not have a problem in staying so. What's the worst that can happen..

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Yes, most definitely. I only confess if the other person has expressed interest first "

But they could be as shy as you... take the plunge. You’ve nothing to lose

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step

Yes I’m gonna be a big boy and make the step "

Look forward to seeing your name on the thread tomorrow and hope it works out for you

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"If I could find someone that I felt was a great match with me. I'd not have a problem in staying so. What's the worst that can happen.."

Invite me around to yours and I'll help you find him.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step

But when a shy guy sees a lady that looks as amazing as you he'll become even more shy. "

I’m not amazing, just a normal lass with a squidgy body and definitely nothing to be scared of

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step

But when a shy guy sees a lady that looks as amazing as you he'll become even more shy.

I’m not amazing, just a normal lass with a squidgy body and definitely nothing to be scared of "

My kind of lady

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Yes, most definitely. I only confess if the other person has expressed interest first

But they could be as shy as you... take the plunge. You’ve nothing to lose "

Self-esteem issues!!! Easier said than done taking the plunge

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Yes, most definitely. I only confess if the other person has expressed interest first

But they could be as shy as you... take the plunge. You’ve nothing to lose

Self-esteem issues!!! Easier said than done taking the plunge "

I can understand this, been there. However, you are a gorgeous lady. I know it’s easier said than done, takes a lot of courage Deep breath, and take that plunge xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, most definitely. I only confess if the other person has expressed interest first

But they could be as shy as you... take the plunge. You’ve nothing to lose

Self-esteem issues!!! Easier said than done taking the plunge

I can understand this, been there. However, you are a gorgeous lady. I know it’s easier said than done, takes a lot of courage Deep breath, and take that plunge xx "

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If just one of you lovely ladies sent a message to any guy you liked I'm sure he'd soon get over his shyness

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"If just one of you lovely ladies sent a message to any guy you liked I'm sure he'd soon get over his shyness "

Stop white knighting

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Yes, most definitely. I only confess if the other person has expressed interest first

But they could be as shy as you... take the plunge. You’ve nothing to lose

Self-esteem issues!!! Easier said than done taking the plunge

I can understand this, been there. However, you are a gorgeous lady. I know it’s easier said than done, takes a lot of courage Deep breath, and take that plunge xx "

thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, most definitely. I only confess if the other person has expressed interest first

But they could be as shy as you... take the plunge. You’ve nothing to lose

Self-esteem issues!!! Easier said than done taking the plunge "

Something many people refuse to understand.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"If just one of you lovely ladies sent a message to any guy you liked I'm sure he'd soon get over his shyness

Stop white knighting "

I can't help it.

I'm a hopeless romantic

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By *homo027Man
over a year ago

North Shields

Most the time I don't know where to start so just send a wink in the hope that person sees it and decides to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message away ladies I can take it

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Message away ladies I can take it "

This thread is for shy people only.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I find it fairly difficult to walk up and say hello to people I don't know at all, though getting better at it in the context of social parties and clubs where there is at least a reasonable chance that others are there in order to meet people.

From there i seem to be good at making friends, but poor at getting the situation around to sex. Though it's not easy trying to explain the concept that I'm a trans lesbian who likes women, and my default is to assume that 99.9% of women just are not going to want sex with me.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"If just one of you lovely ladies sent a message to any guy you liked I'm sure he'd soon get over his shyness "

Not me I’d just giggle and run away

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"If just one of you lovely ladies sent a message to any guy you liked I'm sure he'd soon get over his shyness

Not me I’d just giggle and run away "

Man up.

I'm trying here. Pffffft

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By *homo027Man
over a year ago

North Shields


"If just one of you lovely ladies sent a message to any guy you liked I'm sure he'd soon get over his shyness

Stop white knighting

I can't help it.

I'm a hopeless romantic "

You're not wrong though, I know if a girl approached me first that would give me all the confidence in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard when you message someone and you wait to get a reply that dont help your confidence when you here nothing. but you just keep going

Cheers

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By *ake0208Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Shame you block males. Inbox me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks but not interested

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By *ake0208Man
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step "

For those that said they would feel brave, nows your chance

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/962943#message_21965972

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By *oodguyeddieMan
over a year ago

l36


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step

For those that said they would feel brave, nows your chance

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/962943#message_21965972

"

Hi

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step

For those that said they would feel brave, nows your chance

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/962943#message_21965972

"

I can't take part, it's not the new year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Occasionally. However, I’ve learnt to bite the bullet and tell them. What have you got to lose.... nothing. Take the bull by the horns.

Example I did this recently and found out we’d mutually been admiring from afar for three months, but neither thought the other was on each other’s radar.

If you don’t say you’ll never know and you could be pleasantly surprised "

This sums it up perfectly for me.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"For all you shy ones, I’m starting a thread for you all tomorrow, take your chance and take that first step

Good idea

I can only do so much, people still need to take that step

For those that said they would feel brave, nows your chance

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/962943#message_21965972

I can't take part, it's not the new year."

Im sure someone will run something similar come January

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border


"Anyone else have trouble confessing their interest in people here?

Might be asking for a friend... "
. I like to tell folk I fancy them lol

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I find it fairly difficult to walk up and say hello to people I don't know at all, though getting better at it in the context of social parties and clubs where there is at least a reasonable chance that others are there in order to meet people.

From there i seem to be good at making friends, but poor at getting the situation around to sex. Though it's not easy trying to explain the concept that I'm a trans lesbian who likes women, and my default is to assume that 99.9% of women just are not going to want sex with me."

Apart from the fact I'm a cis bi woman... Yup. I could have written that.

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