FabSwingers.com forum: Getting pretty bored of fab...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yup, as the title says. Been using the site for a while, ive come and gone over the years. Seem to be getting completely unnoticed by the women here these days. I know i aint ugly, i dont act like a cocky jerk, try to be as respectful as i can, no lack of confidence, can hold a conversation especially an intellectual one, and humour isnt something i struggle with either... whats gives?

Seems all i get now is a spammed inbox by men which ive taken to blocking now cos ive been getting tired of it.

I also recently got back with my ex after she came to me asking to give things another go, i aint too sure about it but ill see where it goes. Shes fine about me wanting to go swinging, came out to me she was polyamorous recently, but at this rate im just thinking "screw fab theres pussy right here for me i dont have to waste my energy messaging women on a whim"

Idk... i like to have fun and fool around with ppl, and theres no guarantee id be up for the old shit i put up with from the ex, but why try tending to a plant if it wont bare any fruit? And if things dont work out with the ex, perhaps im just better off just putting my spare energy into one person and see if it grows into something...

What do i do ppl?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x"

I just straight up delete my profile when i go cos idk if and when ill come back. But problem im thinking is if i come back, will it just be the same shit? I hate wasting my time and energy for futile ventures when i can put into something more rewarding or worthwhile

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going"

If you do decide to come back, ull have a harder time getting a meet, cause ull be unverified, better off hiding you're account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re thinking the same just getting rid of our account

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going

If you do decide to come back, ull have a harder time getting a meet, cause ull be unverified, better off hiding you're account "

LMFAO... what verifications? Thats the thing, cant get verified if you go unnoticed and cant even get a meet going in the first place...

Like the job paradox, need verifications to get a meet, needs meets to get a verification... totally idiotic

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

I'm so bored on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going

If you do decide to come back, ull have a harder time getting a meet, cause ull be unverified, better off hiding you're account

LMFAO... what verifications? Thats the thing, cant get verified if you go unnoticed and cant even get a meet going in the first place...

Like the job paradox, need verifications to get a meet, needs meets to get a verification... totally idiotic "

Ohhhhhh you make a compelling strong point. I didn't. Bother looking..... Guilty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm so bored on here "

Dude the single mans world is totally shit wherever you are. Women do the selecting and the men just gotta do their thing and fucking pray they get chosen.

The fact there are so many arbitrary rules and criteria you have to meet before you even get considered by a woman is bullshit but thats the reality of it

Ofc it doesnt exactly help when there are so many men out there who are complete twats and ruin it for the rest of us genuine respectable guys. Makes it all that much harder when women start getting more selective and picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And go

Be with your ex and give that 100% and try to be happy.

This place can eat at your sexual soul and rot you in a bad way.

But you will come back sometime because you enjoy the chase(no not the itv chase!!!) and the hope that goes with it

Tony

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go

And go

Be with your ex and give that 100% and try to be happy.

This place can eat at your sexual soul and rot you in a bad way.

But you will come back sometime because you enjoy the chase(no not the itv chase!!!) and the hope that goes with it

Tony"

Eh i always give 110%, up to her if she wants to make the same effort, a relationship cant work if both ppl aint on the same page.

I know what you mean though, i seen somebguys on here chatting and they seem almost broken, its so sad, women can be so cruel and not even realise it. As for me, it wont get me down in the way you put, maybe a bit annoyed and bored but thats all. I know im a mother fucking tiger and i stand tall and proud, its just annoying sifting through all ppl here to find a lioness on a whim

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Actually thinking about it... id get more success finding casual sex on dating sites where women want relationships and not interested in casual sex. Aint that a dumb twist

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Me to so that is where I'm going

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Me to so that is where I'm going "

Dont do it unless you enjoy being an asshole... i dont do it cos its disrespectful to the ppl who are looking for something with meaning and you just fuck em and leave, especially as youd have to work for the sex a lot more, it aint just gonna be offered on a plate on the first date

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

"Makes it all that much harder when women start getting more selective and picky"

Damn us for being 'selective and picky' about who we let stick their dick in us, eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are 2 types of people here.

The single guys who put no effort into their profile and going to events socials etc and expect woman to fall at their feet.

Then the other type who put the effort in, chat on the forum's, have a good profile, put themselves out there meeting people.

Beast had no problems getting meets when we met. I have a lot of male friends that don't struggle too.....

Belle

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Me to so that is where I'm going

And there lies your problem it wont get offered to you on a plate her either I'm fed up of reading these whining threads on how ignored you are when in fact its us wemon who are ignored ... men on here very rarely read the profile of a woman and we dont demand anything as you put it ... we have our preferences again most of the men who msg us fo not fill that preference so why the hell would we reply ?? Its just as hard for us to rifle through all your crap messages to find our diamond... shut the door on way out

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Makes it all that much harder when women start getting more selective and picky

Damn us for being 'selective and picky' about who we let stick their dick in us, eh?

Yeah, damn you!

But if it’s only blokes who have it hard here, how about women who aren’t selective and picky? Because they get a harsh treatment too.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Yup, as the title says. Been using the site for a while, ive come and gone over the years. Seem to be getting completely unnoticed by the women here these days. I know i aint ugly, i dont act like a cocky jerk, try to be as respectful as i can, no lack of confidence, can hold a conversation especially an intellectual one, and humour isnt something i struggle with either... whats gives?

Seems all i get now is a spammed inbox by men which ive taken to blocking now cos ive been getting tired of it.

What do i do ppl?"

So if a 1/3 say go a 1/3 say hide a 1/3 say stay and a 1/3 aren't sure what ya gonna do?

Only you can decide what ya gonna do.

Me I'm in the 1/3 that don't really care, I spend my time and energy on positive things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just leave

There's more to life than fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maths isn't quite right here

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

So if a 1/3 say go a 1/3 say hide a 1/3 say stay and a 1/3 aren't sure what ya gonna do?

Only you can decide what ya gonna do.

Me I'm in the 1/3 that don't really care, I spend my time and energy on positive things.

That's 5/3...you must have multiple profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP but you’re profile really isn’t great so maybe that was the reason for your lack of engagement. This site is easy providing you put the effort in at the right places. But then again. Some people aren’t going to be cut out for the life style. They is a massive difference between a swinging Male and a man just looking for sex. Learn to be a swinger and success floods in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems all i get now is a spammed inbox by men which ive taken to blocking now cos ive been getting tired of it.

What do i do ppl?

So if a 1/3 say go a 1/3 say hide a 1/3 say stay and a 1/3 aren't sure what ya gonna do?

Only you can decide what ya gonna do.

Me I'm in the 1/3 that don't really care, I spend my time and energy on positive things.

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that'd be 4/3rds

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I'm taking a sabbatical, not leaving but just need time away from the site, starting on new years day. It's not because of a new relationship or anything just need to concentrate on something else for awhile.

I think it's not a bad idea to hide for awhile, and it'll also take away from my most searched website on my Google home page

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By *bob1202Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

"There are 2 types of people here.

The single guys who put no effort into their profile and going to events socials etc and expect woman to fall at their feet.

Then the other type who put the effort in, chat on the forum's, have a good profile, put themselves out there meeting people.

Beast had no problems getting meets when we met. I have a lot of male friends that don't struggle too.....

Belle "

This is the post that i think answers it for all us unsuccesful males. We dont go to socials or meets. We may not really be part of the swinging set, primarily because were single males and not part of a couple. Are socials accepting of singke males ive not been to one. What i was hoping to do is find a single lady who is in a similar position and we could tentavily explore the scene together.

Im approaching this a bit differently now. Now i woukd like just to chat and learn and make friends..there is no doubt i have more luck outside of fab, but my curiosity still keeps me here.

I think that helps manage my expextations.

Jbob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm giving a long arm to fab in the New Year after my birthday! Got bigger better things on the horizon ... but I'm not leaving, more longterm hiding my profile and being a lurker in the forums (I've kind of got a little jaded with the whole thing and life will be going through an awesome change so giving that my time n energy instead!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think deleting your profile and taking a clean break from here is a good idea. Focus on seeing if things could work with your ex. As she has declared she is polyamorous perhaps explore the club scene. You’ve got Chams in Newport you could visit and see if you can find some people in there that tickle your pickle together. However before you do that spend time with your ex talking and listening and even more tie seeing if you can really enjoy being together again. Good luck whatever you decide.

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By *attyduk76Man
over a year ago

nearby

"Maths isn't quite right here

Glad I’m not the only one who noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm giving a long arm to fab in the New Year after my birthday! Got bigger better things on the horizon ... but I'm not leaving, more longterm hiding my profile and being a lurker in the forums (I've kind of got a little jaded with the whole thing and life will be going through an awesome change so giving that my time n energy instead!) "

Sounds exciting Trudy. I hope it’s even more awesome than you imagined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maths isn't quite right here

Glad I’m not the only one who noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have also been contemplating my Fab future. I have some wonderful online friends on Fab and I have a small number of them I’d like to be more than online friends with. This coming year will determine whether I can make a reality of this or not. Endeavouring to make it a reality is my intent for the New Year, so I go into the New Year with hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maths isn't quite right here

Glad I’m not the only one who noticed

I have a feeling the bad maths was a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have also been contemplating my Fab future. I have some wonderful online friends on Fab and I have a small number of them I’d like to be more than online friends with. This coming year will determine whether I can make a reality of this or not. Endeavouring to make it a reality is my intent for the New Year, so I go into the New Year with hope."
good luck whatever you decide you are one of the good guys

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

OP..please just go.

You clearly do not understand what swinging is about, and your expectations will never be met.

I wish you well in 2020.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Oi! You cannot go

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Sorry Op, but you've put very little effort into your profile. Even if you're good with messaging, women will often check the profile first before answering. If they feel it's a lazy effort, they're more likely to concentrate their attention on someone else.

To use an analogy - It's clearly a buyer's market heavily skewered in women's favour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure you will! You know w.hat they say ... "where there's a will there's a way!" I'm lucky in as much as I'm in touch with everyone I meet/want to meet off fab so can keep in contact

And thanks, I have no choice regarding the change in my life bit believe very much in "it's what you choose it to be & make it!"

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Go with "real life". You have a promising opportunity to work on.

Not to sound harsh but if you feel like leaving then leave.

The threads are filled with posts from guys looking for that last minute glimmer of hope and reassurance.

So many factors come into play that are never taken into consideration when joining.

Good luck to you and your ex. I'm all for second chances and if you both put the effort in then it could be exactly what you need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are 2 types of people here.

The single guys who put no effort into their profile and going to events socials etc and expect woman to fall at their feet.

Then the other type who put the effort in, chat on the forum's, have a good profile, put themselves out there meeting people.

Beast had no problems getting meets when we met. I have a lot of male friends that don't struggle too.....

Belle

Im approaching this a bit differently now. Now i woukd like just to chat and learn and make friends..there is no doubt i have more luck outside of fab, but my curiosity still keeps me here.

I think that helps manage my expextations.

Jbob"

Yes the organised socials do accept single males in many cases, depends which ones you choose though. Making friends, getting to know others as people is a very good approach. Too much focus on the sex aspect is counterproductive usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a departure terminal,arrival or leaving doesn't have to be broadcast,do sound to have rather an entitled attitude though?

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Maths isn't quite right here

Glad I’m not the only one who noticed

I figured that there was a Venn diagram going on. 1/3 stay, 1/3 go, 1/3 the other thing I can't rem_mber and a few of each section don't care.

Did I over think it?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Well i’m not going anywhere.

I have a busy year ahead of me accademically thanks to the course i’ve started and i’m going to need someone to de-stress me. Hard. And often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure you will! You know w.hat they say ... "where there's a will there's a way!" I'm lucky in as much as I'm in touch with everyone I meet/want to meet off fab so can keep in contact

And thanks, I have no choice regarding the change in my life bit believe very much in "it's what you choose it to be & make it!" "

I am pretty sure you’ll make it what you want it to be. I’ve enjoyed our few conversations in the past and your presence around here. I will miss it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well i’m not going anywhere.

I have a busy year ahead of me accademically thanks to the course i’ve started and i’m going to need someone to de-stress me. Hard. And often.

Ooh all the best for the new educational opportunity and the de-stressing programme

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maths isn't quite right here

Glad I’m not the only one who noticed

I figured that there was a Venn diagram going on. 1/3 stay, 1/3 go, 1/3 the other thing I can't rem_mber and a few of each section don't care.

Did I over think it?"

I love a Venn diagram

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Have to say your first pic contradicts part of your post about not being a cocky jerk. It puts me off for sure.

Sounds like you won't ever be happy no matter what to be honest. Not happy with the ex, not happy without her. Not happy on here, not happy off here. Maybe just spend some time learning to be you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi! You cannot go

Did that sound like a leaving speech? It was meant to be the opposite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi! You cannot go

Did that sound like a leaving speech? It was meant to be the opposite

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good man

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Well i’m not going anywhere.

I have a busy year ahead of me accademically thanks to the course i’ve started and i’m going to need someone to de-stress me. Hard. And often.

Ooh all the best for the new educational opportunity and the de-stressing programme

Thanks Doc

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Oi! You cannot go

Did that sound like a leaving speech? It was meant to be the opposite

Phew..thank goodness.

Now all you have to do is message those you fancy, and ask them if they want a shag. Simples

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Have to say your first pic contradicts part of your post about not being a cocky jerk. It puts me off for sure.

Sounds like you won't ever be happy no matter what to be honest. Not happy with the ex, not happy without her. Not happy on here, not happy off here. Maybe just spend some time learning to be you. "

Exactly this, plus the bit about having pussy on demand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi! You cannot go

Did that sound like a leaving speech? It was meant to be the opposite

Phew..thank goodness.

Now all you have to do is message those you fancy, and ask them if they want a shag. Simples

All in good time, all in good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP..please just go.

You clearly do not understand what swinging is about, and your expectations will never be met.

I wish you well in 2020."

This exactly FAB is a swingers site. That’s what many single males don’t respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP..please just go.

You clearly do not understand what swinging is about, and your expectations will never be met.

I wish you well in 2020.

This exactly FAB is a swingers site. That’s what many single males don’t respect."

We agree totally as well. We just dismiss men on here and instead only deal with ones at clubs, who understand how to swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP..please just go.

You clearly do not understand what swinging is about, and your expectations will never be met.

I wish you well in 2020.

This exactly FAB is a swingers site. That’s what many single males don’t respect."

I think fab can be used however you wish to use it. I’m not a swinger and I use it for occasional sex

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Seems all i get now is a spammed inbox by men which ive taken to blocking now cos ive been getting tired of it.

What do i do ppl?"

Hide your profile see it goes but why would u go back to something your unsure of just fir the sake of pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your messages seems to indicate that you are expecting people to make the effort to meet you

It may come as a surprise, but it is you that is required to make the effort.

That said, we might all be wasting our time. We have specific requirements on our profile and it is 97% impossible to find anyone that fits it.

Worse still, lots of liars try their luck but are found out

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Me to so that is where I'm going

This makes zero sense. You're complaining that it's easier to get laid on dating sites than on here but saying you have to put a lot more work in on dating sites. Maybe if you put that work in on here you'd do better on here. It's clearly not being "offered to you on a plate" here either

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By *upernudeMan
over a year ago

plymouth

I’ve been on here, with mixed results, yes at first it’s hard to meet people when your not varified , and yes single women have it easier, but you just have to get over it, I know some good looking couples, who find it difficult, I think if your a gorgeous couple into the scene for a few years, and do lots of parties and clubs, I’m sure you can be having loads of sex, I would say, take your time, read profiles properly before messaging them, don’t be pushy, make sure your profile has some pictures and a decent write up.

Also don’t send mixed messages on your profile, , if your saying your quiet and respectful, don’t have lots of cock pictures, and action shots, if your a couple that sell yourselves as being very out going you can do that, if chatting to a bi couple, be bi on your profile, people on here aren’t stupid, and don’t treat them as so .

Finally don’t use text speak, it really annoys a lot of people.

Happy Fabbiing

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By *bob1202Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

On these forums i see a lot of comnents on what single males do wrong on these sites. And sometimes i despair at what some of them do. However lets be constructive. What can single men do right. If you are interested in meeting a single man on this website what do you want from them. Perhaps we will complain less once we know....dont bet on it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On these forums i see a lot of comnents on what single males do wrong on these sites. And sometimes i despair at what some of them do. However lets be constructive. What can single men do right. If you are interested in meeting a single man on this website what do you want from them. Perhaps we will complain less once we know....dont bet on it though

Thing is, there is loads of advice on here. Loads of people that try to help single guys

Very few have enough self awareness to even understand WHY they get nowhere.

OP describing women as "pussy" pretty much says it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems all i get now is a spammed inbox by men which ive taken to blocking now cos ive been getting tired of it.

What do i do ppl?"

I’ve been back a month or so and finding it to be very similar.

Are there proportionally a lot more men to women/couples when I was last on??

Like you op i’m considered an attractive guy,look after myself,professional.intelligent,eloquent,and if I do message someone,it’s not a crappy one liner,copy & paste,or dick pics.

Hide your profile and see what’s what away from here.If things work out,then either just leave it or come back on and delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems all i get now is a spammed inbox by men which ive taken to blocking now cos ive been getting tired of it.

What do i do ppl?"

Why dont you ask her if shed be interested in a couples profile

Might be more succesful than a singles

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By *T_LEECouple (MM)
over a year ago

near you

Seems all i get now is a spammed inbox by men which ive taken to blocking now cos ive been getting tired of it.

What do i do ppl?"

Just leave if that’s what you want

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By *bob1202Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Thing is, there is loads of advice on here. Loads of people that try to help single guys

Very few have enough self awareness to even understand WHY they get nowhere.

OP describing women as "pussy" pretty much says it all"

Yeah the pussy thing kinda lost a bit of sympathy there. Okay i will scan the forums for advice. However i get the ops frustrations. When i reach out i look for peoople who are active on fab, ie been online in the last month. I match what they are looking for and i try to be original. However often they dont open the letter and dont view my profile. So you wonder what to do. I think the best way is to make the effort put yourself out there and join a swinger club. Meet people in real life and carry it on here.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Thing is, there is loads of advice on here. Loads of people that try to help single guys

Very few have enough self awareness to even understand WHY they get nowhere.

OP describing women as "pussy" pretty much says it all"

Yep

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Seems all i get now is a spammed inbox by men which ive taken to blocking now cos ive been getting tired of it.

What do i do ppl?"

Lower your expectations and limit the time you spend on here.

Life's short and I think a huge % of guys miss what's going on around them for the slim chance of a bit of fun.

Stay on by all means but make sure you control fab not the other way around

Good luck with whatever you decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grow a pair of tits and you would soon get noticed

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Oh, it's this thread again....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm so bored on here

Dude the single mans world is totally shit wherever you are. Women do the selecting and the men just gotta do their thing and fucking pray they get chosen.

The fact there are so many arbitrary rules and criteria you have to meet before you even get considered by a woman is bullshit but thats the reality of it

Yep this. Women need to be less selective and picky and just fuck anyone

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going

If you do decide to come back, ull have a harder time getting a meet, cause ull be unverified, better off hiding you're account

LMFAO... what verifications? Thats the thing, cant get verified if you go unnoticed and cant even get a meet going in the first place...

Like the job paradox, need verifications to get a meet, needs meets to get a verification... totally idiotic "

It's easy to get verified. The system works well. It is there to out the the people who aren't so genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh, it's this thread again....

Yeah, its the Christmas version though. So it's got bells on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going

If you do decide to come back, ull have a harder time getting a meet, cause ull be unverified, better off hiding you're account

LMFAO... what verifications? Thats the thing, cant get verified if you go unnoticed and cant even get a meet going in the first place...

Like the job paradox, need verifications to get a meet, needs meets to get a verification... totally idiotic

It's easy to get verified. The system works well. It is there to out the the people who aren't so genuine."

For single females and couples that have a female as part of it..yes.

Best way for a guy too is clubs or socials if they allow single guys

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Oh, it's this thread again....

Yeah, its the Christmas version though. So it's got bells on"

Don't let the bells end....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go with "real life". You have a promising opportunity to work on.

Not to sound harsh but if you feel like leaving then leave.

The threads are filled with posts from guys looking for that last minute glimmer of hope and reassurance.

So many factors come into play that are never taken into consideration when joining.

Good luck to you and your ex. I'm all for second chances and if you both put the effort in then it could be exactly what you need.

This. I may be wrong, but a lot of threads perceived to be attention seeking, very often run far deeper.

The forums very often claim to be sympathetic to depression and welfare, and quite often people who write such posts are struggling with happiness, and confuse Fabs thrills with the solution to deeper happiness.

Not being happy in vanilla life, will simply magnify how you feel here, and short term attention fixes and sexual highs will only numb feelings for awhile.

Be truthful to yourself and act upon that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life lived on the internet is a bit shit really. All you marvellous men being ignored and all. Go out and be marvellous in your world instead. You wont have to tell people how great you are in messages we can see for ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try finding true love and a wife, they're even pickier

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By *bob1202Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

"Life lived on the internet is a bit shit really. All you marvellous men being ignored and all. Go out and be marvellous in your world instead. You wont have to tell people how great you are in messages we can see for ourselves.

Well said Autumn...so whereabouts do you hang out again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going"

Merry Christmas

Go with your gut instinct

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over a year ago

"Go with "real life". You have a promising opportunity to work on.

Not to sound harsh but if you feel like leaving then leave.

The threads are filled with posts from guys looking for that last minute glimmer of hope and reassurance.

So many factors come into play that are never taken into consideration when joining.

Good luck to you and your ex. I'm all for second chances and if you both put the effort in then it could be exactly what you need.

This. I may be wrong, but a lot of threads perceived to be attention seeking, very often run far deeper.

Not being happy in vanilla life, will simply magnify how you feel here, and short term attention fixes and sexual highs will only numb feelings for awhile.

Be truthful to yourself and act upon that."

Very wise words here OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems all i get now is a spammed inbox by men which ive taken to blocking now cos ive been getting tired of it.

What do i do ppl?"

And OP

guys will look at you

Views are not filtered

We all get spam

Not just here

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

It's not just the single men who struggle!! We're finding it very difficult on here of late. In the just over a year weve been here weve had ONE meet from fab!! The rest have been socials, clubs or repeats from clubs.

Though I will say this... when we let our filters down back alone in 3 weeks and 50 plus messages for single guys... 3 were worth persuing!! 3!! 1 turned out to be married and the other 2 we are still chatting to!! The rest were fuck now, shes hot type messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont do it unless you enjoy being an asshole... i dont do it cos its disrespectful to the ppl who are looking for something with meaning and you just fuck em and leave"

I agree with this comment it is super annoying joining a dating site to get messed around and find out the guy only wanted a leg over. Better off on Fab if you just want a shag.

That being said with Fab ‘when the fun stops, stop!’ This can be a frustrating place for many people, for many reasons. Not receiving the attention you feel you deserve is one of them. I had a better time getting out to clubs and events more. Time permitting i hope to get back to that. Hide your profile OP see what your ex has to offer....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Makes it all that much harder when women start getting more selective and picky

Damn us for being 'selective and picky' about who we let stick their dick in us, eh?

Totally agree with you there, however I’m also on the fence as seems like I’m not wanted 100% by the guy I’m meeting - maybes I just feel it’s time to invest in someone who does actually want to be with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going"

Its like having thoughts about getting married if you have doubts then the message is don't.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going

If you do decide to come back, ull have a harder time getting a meet, cause ull be unverified, better off hiding you're account

LMFAO... what verifications? Thats the thing, cant get verified if you go unnoticed and cant even get a meet going in the first place...

Like the job paradox, need verifications to get a meet, needs meets to get a verification... totally idiotic

It's easy to get verified. The system works well. It is there to out the the people who aren't so genuine.

For single females and couples that have a female as part of it..yes.

Best way for a guy too is clubs or socials if they allow single guys "

Exactly. A club or a social. Easy as 123. Problem is some single guys sign up to here expecting to get sex instantly. It is a swinging site, not a sex site. The 2 are very different.

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over a year ago

"Stay hide your profile xx and see how it goes x

The ex situation i aint sure about hence why im on the fence about staying or going

If you do decide to come back, ull have a harder time getting a meet, cause ull be unverified, better off hiding you're account

LMFAO... what verifications? Thats the thing, cant get verified if you go unnoticed and cant even get a meet going in the first place...

Like the job paradox, need verifications to get a meet, needs meets to get a verification... totally idiotic

It's easy to get verified. The system works well. It is there to out the the people who aren't so genuine.

For single females and couples that have a female as part of it..yes.

Best way for a guy too is clubs or socials if they allow single guys

Exactly. A club or a social. Easy as 123. Problem is some single guys sign up to here expecting to get sex instantly. It is a swinging site, not a sex site. The 2 are very different."

Unless you are a women then the sex part don’t happen overnight. Many a single female are just looking for sex aswell. Many a couple are after a unicorn and many a guy are looking to empty he’s sack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm so bored on here

Dude the single mans world is totally shit wherever you are. Women do the selecting and the men just gotta do their thing and fucking pray they get chosen.

The fact there are so many arbitrary rules and criteria you have to meet before you even get considered by a woman is bullshit but thats the reality of it

Yep this. Women need to be less selective and picky and just fuck anyone

Its not picky

Its having standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm so bored on here "

Why

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over a year ago

"I'm so bored on here

Dude the single mans world is totally shit wherever you are. Women do the selecting and the men just gotta do their thing and fucking pray they get chosen.

The fact there are so many arbitrary rules and criteria you have to meet before you even get considered by a woman is bullshit but thats the reality of it

Yep this. Women need to be less selective and picky and just fuck anyone

Its not picky

Its having standards

Standards

Some guys will fuck any hole. That’s standards you know. Not looking at the face takes a special kind of talent

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I may be wrong, but a lot of threads perceived to be attention seeking, very often run far deeper.

Not being happy in vanilla life, will simply magnify how you feel here, and short term attention fixes and sexual highs will only numb feelings for awhile.

Be truthful to yourself and act upon that."

Yes and no. I'm not suggesting for a second that women should go around dispensing "sympathy sex", or lowering their standards for every guy who claims to be a bit down, but there is a marked contrast between the tone of threads discussing the current hot topic of depression and those relating to the success, or lack of it, amongst men on Fab. Yet the connection is obvious - loneliness and repeated rejection can have a huge adverse impact on mental wellbeing.

It's probably at about this point that someone will say that Fab isn't the place for someone in that frame of mind, but I disagree wholeheartedly with the distinction between "Fab thrills" and "the solution to deeper happiness". Where does that leave the person who has no desire to share a home, to run their life around another person, but who wants to build something meaningful and ongoing with regular intimacy and physical contact?

Personally I find FWB type arrangements suit me down to the ground, but by their very nature are unlikely ever to be "permanent".

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"I'm so bored on here

Makes it all that much harder when women start getting more selective and picky"

And that is why you will struggle here.

You fall below the standards expected of you.

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over a year ago

"I'm so bored on here

Makes it all that much harder when women start getting more selective and picky

And that is why you will struggle here.

You fall below the standards expected of you."

That applies to both men and women on here, rem_mber it’s not just the women who set standards.

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over a year ago

"I'm so bored on here

Makes it all that much harder when women start getting more selective and picky

And that is why you will struggle here.

You fall below the standards expected of you.

That applies to both men and women on here, rem_mber it’s not just the women who set standards."

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over a year ago

"I'm so bored on here

Makes it all that much harder when women start getting more selective and picky

And that is why you will struggle here.

You fall below the standards expected of you.

That applies to both men and women on here, rem_mber it’s not just the women who set standards."

I get lots of guys asking me to meet now

I reply " but you dont even know what i look like"

Very often, they come back with " I dont care"

Or nonsense like " your tits look nice, so i figure the rest of you will be too"

Bless 'em