FabSwingers.com forum: To my fellow fab single parents

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To my fellow fabbers waking up tomorrow morning without your children at home. Its fucking shit but we've got this!!!! Merry Christmas. Xx

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lucky enough to have my little christmas day and boxing day. But I'd be lost without him there

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

First Christmas without my kids, dreading it but thanks for the encouragement op x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

You have all got this! I feel for you, I really do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To my fellow fabbers waking up tomorrow morning without your children at home. Its fucking shit but we've got this!!!! Merry Christmas. Xx"

yes, you have fab swingers and your friends on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got my boy in the morning luckily but can imagine it without him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"First Christmas without my kids, dreading it but thanks for the encouragement op x"

My 1st Christmas too, not looking forward to waking up and them not running into see me. But I cant wait to have them back tomorrow evening.

I hugged mine a little bit harder and a little bit longer when I dropped them off.

Be strong, you'll have them back in your arms before you know it. Xx

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

Have strength. I feel for you.

Was in a single parent family myself.

Happy swinging in 2020.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about the poor ones who have theirs! Hahahah... merry Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you OP, you too. My first one but thankfully have them back tomorrow night.

Merry Christmas to you all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sons back home so I'm rather a lucky dad. And we have a bottle of single malt to share....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think about the poor ones who have theirs! Hahahah... merry Christmas "

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

My children have been taken to the other side of the world by their mother. This will be our first Christmas apart.

Luke

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By *ove3funCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

You've got this! Do nice things for yourselves

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I spent 16 yrs doing alternative christmas days. I know how you all feel

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have the opposite situation. My ex decided 3 years ago that he didn’t want to see the boys over Christmas, he’d rather just have them on his usual weekends.

Great for me, but not so great for our children.

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By *uilder506Man
over a year ago

bognor

Happy Xmas to all us single parents x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

The first time is really tough, but you can do it, just need to occupy yourselves some how.

This will be my third year without the lad, we’ll have Christmas on 28th.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t stop crying! My first Xmas since separating from my ex, so this is all very strange!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I can’t stop crying! My first Xmas since separating from my ex, so this is all very strange! "

Sending hugs, I remember that feeling xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First since splitting with my ex as well, so is abit strange i'll admit but done My best. Long as kids enjoy it and they happy all that matters.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"First since splitting with my ex as well, so is abit strange i'll admit but done My best. Long as kids enjoy it and they happy all that matters. "

That is true, but you need to look after yourself too

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I can’t stop crying! My first Xmas since separating from my ex, so this is all very strange!

Sending hugs, I remember that feeling xx "

So do I.

Find something that makes you happy and just get through the day, it really does get easier.

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By *igga_manMan
over a year ago

near Reading

Happy Christmas for the single parents. I’m on the other side where I’m the dad and glad to have my girls for Christmas.

For once fill your time for yourself.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"I can’t stop crying! My first Xmas since separating from my ex, so this is all very strange! "

I promise, promise, promise it gets easier in time. And it's a good opportunity for an outporing of pent up grief.

Sending so much love and mama single parent understanding xxx

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By *hyblueEyesMan
over a year ago

Daventry

Mine is away with her mum tomorrow. I’m not feeling very Christmassy tonight as I haven’t done the routine of mince pies and milk for Santa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t stop crying! My first Xmas since separating from my ex, so this is all very strange!

I promise, promise, promise it gets easier in time. And it's a good opportunity for an outporing of pent up grief.

Sending so much love and mama single parent understanding xxx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Merry Christmas xxx

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm lucky that although it's the first Christmas as a single parent mine has elected to spend tonight with me and stay until after dinner tomorrow. Not looking forward to tomorrow evening though, but you can't have it all. Really genuinely feel for those who won't. It's a tough one. Respects to you all.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Hugs.

The best bit is them coming home x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First since splitting with my ex as well, so is abit strange i'll admit but done My best. Long as kids enjoy it and they happy all that matters.

That is true, but you need to look after yourself too "

Made sure everyone's ok before me but aye everyone is a good

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"First since splitting with my ex as well, so is abit strange i'll admit but done My best. Long as kids enjoy it and they happy all that matters.

That is true, but you need to look after yourself too

Made sure everyone's ok before me but aye everyone is a good

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I feel for all the young children whose lost a parent this year and Thier first Christmas without mum or dad , I was 11 yrs old when my mum died suddenly a few weeks before Christmas , it would be her birthday Christmas Day too , peace be with you all at this very difficult time if year

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By *ister KinkyMan
over a year ago

Sussex

"I can’t stop crying! My first Xmas since separating from my ex, so this is all very strange! "

I definitely feel you on this one and I too am in the same position. First year I’ve not put a tree up and haven’t had someone to buy presents for and share it with.

Big hugs all round.

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By *ustylouWoman
over a year ago

Aylesbury

My first christmas single too. Thankfully I have the kids tomorrow but I'm dreading boxing day.

I've worn myself out trying to make everything perfect, trying to make up for ruining their christmas..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't live with my kids, this is my second Christmas without them in the five years since I split with their dad, the first two years we has Christmas altogether.

My boys are all teenagers but doesn't mean I haven't cried like a baby this evening.

The first year I thought I'd never stop, luckily I had work to go to etc.

Even worse this year as my eldest son decided to remove himself from his dad's house (he's at uni) and caused a bit of a rift within the family, thankfully I saw him on Sunday and I am glad I did, it's Christmas and time to forgive and forget.

It does get easier but there will always be a large teenager like gap in the day.

Danish x

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

its not easy but it gets easier, got 7 years of practice at this now.

but thanks

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

It's my first Christmas without my kids and without cooking dinner for the extended hoard.

I'll be on my own today - by choice. I'm treating it as just another day and will catch up on housework and get ready for the kids coming home in a few days.

It really doesn't feel like Christmas without them.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I've got the youngest one staying with me but he goes home this aft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Son is coming over about midday and staying overnight which is good, my daughter is st her boyfriends today so I won’t see her at all.

My first Christmas on my own for 3years, lying in bed with a cuppa, all a bit sad really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so very glad as a single mother to two (27 years - youngest now 18) I never was without them! And they still come home every year so far! Phew ... cross that bridge when it happens

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Haven't had my childern on christmas day, ever!! Written into court order... miss them everyday. But does not bother me as I personally hate christmas with a passion..

I give them love, life and experiences. Not throw away in 6 months plastic tat....

When they are older. They will remember the things they did. Not the things they had!!

Seasons greetings to all

Latex

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By *rK1973Man
over a year ago

ashington

Yep my first one ever being without kids... Don't know if I feel more sad or angry at ex!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I'm getting a bit of an old hand at Christmas on my own now, the first few years were tough and it's easy to get lost in the things that you don't have, especially when picture perfect Christmases are thrown at you from every magazine, TV and even other people.

I found that doing stuff for me was the key. Ignoring what others are doing, taking the day as it comes, one bit at a time. Finding pleasure in the little things for myself.

My heart goes out to everyone who is alone for the first time, I've been there and it really does get easier. The important thing is to just get through and find your own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My day hasn’t been so bad as I spent longer with my kids then I was expecting too. I have a fantastic relationship with my ex and he’s struggled with today too (we split the day). We’ve made the best out of our situation though I feel. The important thing is our kids have had a wonderful day and are so loved. I hope everyone else isn’t finding today too bad. Thanks for the kind words after my emotional post last night!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"My day hasn’t been so bad as I spent longer with my kids then I was expecting too. I have a fantastic relationship with my ex and he’s struggled with today too (we split the day). We’ve made the best out of our situation though I feel. The important thing is our kids have had a wonderful day and are so loved. I hope everyone else isn’t finding today too bad. Thanks for the kind words after my emotional post last night! "

This made me smile, I’m glad today wasn’t as bad as you thought it would be and the kids have had a great day

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm in the camp where it wasn't as bad as I expected. The first of everything is always the worst.

I got my arse in gear this morning and painted the boys bedroom, just moved and it was pink. And had some lovely time with the boys though I still hate bloody Lego!!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) got to speak to two of my three children today have have been taken to the other side of the world by their mother. We had a good chat over Skype with the older two who told me how they had been swimming today. They excitedly told me about their presents - the rollerblades, the Lego etc. It was fun. They had a good day.

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