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Confidence boost.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What would boost your confidence?

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By *rallyFixated1Man
over a year ago

tipton

An extra couple of inches

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

Someone other than my mum telling me I’m handsome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone replying to one of my many, many messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If mine gets boosted anymore I would become unbearable .... oh wait .... I am to a lot of people lol

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

(Ray)

Nothing

Possibly need to turn my confidence down a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was a few dress sizes smaller and a few inches taller.

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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

Six shots should just about do it...

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Quite happy with my level of confidence now although it was never always that way.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I am happy with my confidence levels. I believe confidence is something you have to work on yourself. You need to believe in yourself and accept yourself for who you are.

Age, also I find is a factor. I wish I had more confidence in my younger days. I would of done more with my life, but having said that I am very happy snd am luvky that I have a great life.

Also getting older and caring less about what other people think. I don't give a toss whether people like me or they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a couple of dress sizes smaller. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good ravishing from someone who just has to have me there and then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am happy with my confidence levels. I believe confidence is something you have to work on yourself. You need to believe in yourself and accept yourself for who you are.

Age, also I find is a factor. I wish I had more confidence in my younger days. I would of done more with my life, but having said that I am very happy snd am luvky that I have a great life.

Also getting older and caring less about what other people think. I don't give a toss whether people like me or they don't."

ahh, I think I do care if people like me. Maybe that's a good indicator of my behaviour? But I've learnt to accept not everyone will and you cant change that.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not much, i’m probably overly confident all things considered. The only thing i lack confidence in is my parenting and relationships. Not much can help that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plastic surgery

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By *juk72Man
over a year ago

Reading


"A good ravishing from someone who just has to have me there and then. "

I'm guessing there is a very high chance of that happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An honest guy that wants to keep me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man bun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone other than my mum telling me I’m handsome "

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Just being that little bit skinnier. Maybe like 2/3 dress sizes. And just better skin in general

Too much to ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Liposuction

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By *lipperyWhenWet1986Couple
over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

More sex lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Not much, i’m probably overly confident all things considered. The only thing i lack confidence in is my parenting and relationships. Not much can help that."

I think lots of us are slightly under confident when it comes to parenting. I would sometimes wonder if our approach was wrong but we were vindicated when one of our kids on seeing some children behaving quite badly, turned to us and said "I'm so glad you didn't let us behave like that".

Are your children good people, decent humans? I bet they are. You did right

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) don't really want to boost my confidence. I want to boost the things that improve me regardless of whether I recognise them or not.

For example, I can appear to be very confident when I go to a job interview. What's much more important is that I can deliver the goods in that job. Having confidence without actually having the things I could be confident about is a hiding to nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being at least 2 dress sizes smaller night help x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes just a change of clothes / trainers / shoes. Or even, a shave.

I’m quite a confident person although I get awkward when people say ‘well done’ or compliment things which I’ve done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I (Luke) don't really want to boost my confidence. I want to boost the things that improve me regardless of whether I recognise them or not.

For example, I can appear to be very confident when I go to a job interview. What's much more important is that I can deliver the goods in that job. Having confidence without actually having the things I could be confident about is a hiding to nothing. "

Good point...some peoples confidence outweighs their ability.

But I've also found in life, that peoples confidence gets knocked and they stop applying themselves? A confidence boost can bring out amazing traits in people?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Being believed in. It already happens, fortunately, but the more of it I get the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think confidence is quite easy to boost whereas self esteem is much harder. Confidence just requires practice & change (a bit of dedication thrown in never goes amiss) until something works then doing over ie practicing

Never been sure how you improve self esteem ... that's an incredibly personal journey I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without sounding like a cock, nothing, I'm confident in most areas of life.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

For me it depends on circumstances. Mostly what boosts my confidence of I'm meeting people of being interviewed is clothes and grooming.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think confidence is quite easy to boost whereas self esteem is much harder. Confidence just requires practice & change (a bit of dedication thrown in never goes amiss) until something works then doing over ie practicing

Never been sure how you improve self esteem ... that's an incredibly personal journey I think "

For me self esteem (or self acceptance, self compassion) came first, and confidence comes out of that.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Nothing as at a comfortable level for myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without sounding like a cock, nothing, I'm confident in most areas of life."

Prove it

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


" What would boost your confidence? "

Getting back to where I was, physically, this time last year.

Restart training in the new year, targets & goals are set

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Just a decision. Go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one area of my life where I’d like to feel more confident I have serious doubts that I’ll find what I’m looking for. So maybe accepting that is all I really need.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Someone other than my mum telling me I’m handsome "

*cough*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Losing weight, I have put on a lot since my bereavements and recognise I have been comfort eating/drinking. New year, new regime and diet and back to the gym.

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Being able to quieten or mute the inner monologue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve lost weight and if anything, it’s made me less confident.

I think on here you get the quick confidence boost, but I’ll be honest, I don’t believe half the crap I’m told on here. Confidence in myself will come when I start to look and like what I see. Not the bullshit that’s given so freely on here

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I’ve lost weight and if anything, it’s made me less confident.

I think on here you get the quick confidence boost, but I’ll be honest, I don’t believe half the crap I’m told on here. Confidence in myself will come when I start to look and like what I see. Not the bullshit that’s given so freely on here"

Definitely.

For me, I stopped giving a shit about my weight as a measure of my worth. I started losing weight. My worth is the same even as my weight and body composition changes.

But it's been a lot of hard work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve lost weight and if anything, it’s made me less confident.

I think on here you get the quick confidence boost, but I’ll be honest, I don’t believe half the crap I’m told on here. Confidence in myself will come when I start to look and like what I see. Not the bullshit that’s given so freely on here

Definitely.

For me, I stopped giving a shit about my weight as a measure of my worth. I started losing weight. My worth is the same even as my weight and body composition changes.

But it's been a lot of hard work. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 thing

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


" What would boost your confidence? "

(Lou) Ray has given my confidence such a boost and it still grows everyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my hair grew a bit quicker. I could have a long mane to hide behind, which perversely would make me more confident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my hair grew a bit quicker. I could have a long mane to hide behind, which perversely would make me more confident. "

Neigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe if I was ever a something to someone who told me I was a nothing

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Being a couple of dress sizes smaller. X "

Snap!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Being able to run and train, I hate feeling broken

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Being a couple of dress sizes smaller and not in pain all the time x

H x

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