FabSwingers.com forum: Confused! Questions! Fantasy!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for taking the time to look so I’ll explain in the quickest way possible.

CONFUSED!

For 20 years Iv fantasied about a few different things but never done anything due to my confidence and anxiety and uncontrollable adrenaline release BUT! I’m trying to now.

I feel I’m late putting myself out here so should know what I like but I DONT! so I was wondering what you thoughts are of my idea to fast track my kicks ?

QUESTION 1.

So I was thinking would a party/venue let me be a ....... (not sure if this is the right term) to be a sex toy for guests.

Let me have my face covered so you can’t see me but I can see you, (I’d feel more at ease )

Then just put me somewhere for people to use me for their pleasure and once it’s been done it’s marked on a sheet for others to know it’s been done & what’s left to try.

ME!

A few things I know I’m not into;

pain, humiliation, aggressiveness, rudeness and un hygienic people.

A few things I fantasise about;

Latex, submissive, feminine shemales, women, passion, kinky

There are more but they are the first things that come to my mind.

QUESTION!

Would this be a good thing to do OR after all these years when writing this i thought.... is this my actual fantasy ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reads more like a thesis

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Suppose this explains why I’m so confused and in need of help

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Keep wanking and don't worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to want a 3some but now im not that bothered i want other things

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You can but ask. I don't know if settings your full fantasy up will be easy and even if it's a good idea because sometimes reality can be very different. Is there any smaller element of this you could start off with?

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

My initial thoughts were approach a greedy girl night organiser but covering your face could be an issue.

It's not many people who want sex with someone they are not attracted to so not being able to see you or chat to you before hand. I think that reduces your chances.

Also not being into humiliation...how do you know ahead of time that you won't find it humiliating?

What ideas or plans have you got for self aftercare?

That's before considering protecting yourself ie checking clean condoms are used etc

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You're not sure what you want. My tip is to get clear and sure here. Others will be and will prefer the same.

Are you aiming to complete your ultimate goal in one step, when you could progressively lead up to that, learning as you go?

Hiring a venue is certainly possible but it still requires people to be there for you all to participate.

Tip - single men on fab struggle to get to meet women until established, so if you want to fill your venue yourself, it could be a lot of work.

Consider baby steps. Get established here. Visit clubs, get to know others and management there. Their events may also

get you closer to finding what you want.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Bdsm gimp mask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well these are all things that make perfect sense now you mention them. Maybe I’m too trusting for people to be clean and safe but I can see now how that would of been a silly thing to do. So thank you as I know my post wasn’t silly.

Yes the hungry lady night sounds something I could look into.

As far as seeing or meeting me maybe exchange of photos, video call or meets prior could be done.

Anymore ideas or thoughts are all welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can totally appreciate that but I thought maybe you only go to clubs when you know what you want and if I didn’t that would be silly and people wouldn’t take me seriously

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"I can totally appreciate that but I thought maybe you only go to clubs when you know what you want and if I didn’t that would be silly and people wouldn’t take me seriously "

You can visit for social reasons or sexual. They may help you to learn or get clearer. There's no expectation of sex at a club and it would still require funding compatibility amongst the others.

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