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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Has anyone on here had a gambling problem and now doesn't. I am really struggling and want to know what if any help is out there. No one knows the situation I'm embarrassed by it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You and a lot other's in the same boat...and is a modern day infliction. Sadly I have no solution for you but I do hope you find the strength to resist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that a lot of gambling sites, and now banks, will voluntarily ban you if you ask them to. That may help, as well as seeking help from a support group.*

*I have no personal experience in the matter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As lorenzo said about groups out there. The hardest part is telling someone that you have an addiction

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't have a problem but was married to a man who did when there was no help at all.

Google "help with gambling addiction" , look at the posters in the bookies window somewhere in small print there's sometimes a link to help or have a chat with your doctor if you feel able to. As far as I know there's an NHS helpline too.

I hope you can take that first step.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have a problem but was married to a man who did when there was no help at all.

I hope you can take that first step."

He's already taken first step by admitting.. And the guy gets massive respect for stepping up..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks people of fab most appreciated b

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Samaritans will probably be a really good place for you to chat and get some practical advice and talk through how you are feeling - they are Angels

Hope you find some help OP to get you through this difficult situation x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Samaritans will probably be a really good place for you to chat and get some practical advice and talk through how you are feeling - they are Angels

Hope you find some help OP to get you through this difficult situation x

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thank you x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My dad had a gambling problem before I was born but got past it. I know it sounds cliche but it's true that the first step is admitting you have a problem so well done. Also being open with others in your life that you do. For my dad his was triggered by feeling he wasn't capable of being a financial provider and then ended up caught in the trap of chasing wins to try to cover up money he had lost gambling. He was so secretive about it that he attempted to leave my mum instead of admit his problem. Funnily enough the exact same thing has happened with a friends husband. I think a lot of men feel that providing financially is part of their role as a husband/partner and struggling to do so can make them feel like less of a man. Some turn to gambling in secret rather than admit to struggling with money. I'm not trying to suggest this is the reasons behind it for you, I'm just saying that there's often more behind it than simply enjoying gambling and it helps to try to unpick that within yourself.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

He's already taken first step by admitting.. And the guy gets massive respect for stepping up.."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My dad had a gambling problem before I was born but got past it. I know it sounds cliche but it's true that the first step is admitting you have a problem so well done. Also being open with others in your life that you do. For my dad his was triggered by feeling he wasn't capable of being a financial provider and then ended up caught in the trap of chasing wins to try to cover up money he had lost gambling. He was so secretive about it that he attempted to leave my mum instead of admit his problem. Funnily enough the exact same thing has happened with a friends husband. I think a lot of men feel that providing financially is part of their role as a husband/partner and struggling to do so can make them feel like less of a man. Some turn to gambling in secret rather than admit to struggling with money. I'm not trying to suggest this is the reasons behind it for you, I'm just saying that there's often more behind it than simply enjoying gambling and it helps to try to unpick that within yourself."
I'm single and no kids so only need to support myself which I can but I can't save anything I just think I will put it on a football bet or gambler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone on here had a gambling problem and now doesn't. I am really struggling and want to know what if any help is out there. No one knows the situation I'm embarrassed by it "

Contact gamcare, easily found on google. It’s a support line specifically for gambling. You’ll get all the help and advice you need there. Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the messages I have a few number to ring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that, you must be miserable. Google gamblers anonymous if you want to - they can help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah very down at the minute but I will plod on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be gamble aware is a website I think

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By *trl_Alt_Delicious!Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Gamcare and GameStop buddy. The best places for advice and help.

You can self exclude from every site, and signing up to these will help you. Having close friends who have gone through it, I know what it’s like from the outside.

Be strong and resist any urges. Some banks can automatically decline gambling transactions if you ask them.

Good luck, and chin up. You can get through it. Take each day one at a time.

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Respect

Not easy but it will get harder need to want to stop you will never win it back

Get addicted to sex

Where's your local singers club I'm sure a few ladies will helpnu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of help available. Start by self excluding in bookmakers and online sites. See if you have any local addiction places you can visit. The person I know who went to GA didn't rate it as it was very religious. But found a excellent support 1-1 therapy with a local addiction group.

Remember addiction is a form of mental health you have done the first step admitting you have a problem

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Respect

Not easy but it will get harder need to want to stop you will never win it back

Get addicted to sex

Where's your local singers club I'm sure a few ladies will helpnu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah very down at the minute but I will plod on "

You're one of many, hun. There'll be communicaties online where you can talk to other people who have the same problem. You haven't mentioned debt but if that has happened because of it there's loads of help for that. Please start now. I knew a guy from here who had the same problem, he chose to tackle it by replacing it with gear as an addiction. He died last September of a giant heart attack, he was only 44. People go under cos they don't ask for help but you have. You'll be OK.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Horrible industry. Listening to a sport radio station at the moment and the amount of advertising and pushing it down people’s throats it awful. Should go the way of the tobacco industry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Horrible industry. Listening to a sport radio station at the moment and the amount of advertising and pushing it down people’s throats it awful. Should go the way of the tobacco industry. "

It makes me fucking furious, love. It's every other advert on TV. I know people have to control their own behaviour but it does need regulating, it's massively unhelpful.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

oooooooooo thanks for reminding me to do the lottery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" People go under cos they don't ask for help but you have. You'll be OK. "

This is lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awesome Post lady ...thank you for sharing that story...never easy to face financial circumstances and then think gambling will sort it ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone on here had a gambling problem and now doesn't. I am really struggling and want to know what if any help is out there. No one knows the situation I'm embarrassed by it "

There are helplines that nearly all bookies have printed in their shops or online ,fair play to you for seeking help ..huge salute l hope you can find peace and contentment on your road , l can't lie ,l started gambling a few years ago ,but only all in cents ..my main horse bet is a 20c lucky 15..€3....if anything back ..great ...if not ..only €3....and my soccer bet is a €2 accumulator...l just simply couldn't afford to be punting big money ...the horses and soccer teams l pick win some times ...the other times not so much but certainly couldn't afford to be punting big...wages are too hard earned to give them to the bookies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well that's 1 week I've not gambled so hopefully it will last

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Well that's 1 week I've not gambled so hopefully it will last "

That's a great start

If you are not already getting support, I think you need to, as it is easy to fall back into old ways.

Hope you can beat the habit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well that's 1 week I've not gambled so hopefully it will last

That's a great start

If you are not already getting support, I think you need to, as it is easy to fall back into old ways.

Hope you can beat the habit. "
very true thanks for support

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well that's 1 week I've not gambled so hopefully it will last "

Brilliant op, keep positive

I had a gambling problem myself and ended up signing up to gamblock to keep me away from online sites and told the managers of my local betting shops to bar me. I buy the odd scratch card now but that's about it. Those steps I took helped me no end

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I had a marriage ruined by this ... he would not seek help destroyed everything .... well done in facing it I applaud you .... that is the biggest step facing up to it and admitting it ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a marriage ruined by this ... he would not seek help destroyed everything .... well done in facing it I applaud you .... that is the biggest step facing up to it and admitting it ...

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thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well that's 1 week I've not gambled so hopefully it will last "

It will last! Be positive. It is almost 2020. And you can start the New Year with a clean slate.

And think about it. If you get tempted to gamble, immediately go and do something else and distract yourself. The battle is all in the mind.

If the urge is still there, come back here and ask for forumites to encourage and support you! I have read all the comments on this thread and we are a very caring community! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well that's 1 week I've not gambled so hopefully it will last

It will last! Be positive. It is almost 2020. And you can start the New Year with a clean slate.

And think about it. If you get tempted to gamble, immediately go and do something else and distract yourself. The battle is all in the mind.

If the urge is still there, come back here and ask for forumites to encourage and support you! I have read all the comments on this thread and we are a very caring community! x"
very true I come on here and the support is great

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

3 weeks now still not. But can't sleep now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone on here had a gambling problem and now doesn't. I am really struggling and want to know what if any help is out there. No one knows the situation I'm embarrassed by it "
I did for years. Once you realise you play till you lose you understand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Has anyone on here had a gambling problem and now doesn't. I am really struggling and want to know what if any help is out there. No one knows the situation I'm embarrassed by it I did for years. Once you realise you play till you lose you understand"
I'm having no urges to gamble yet so far so good. Occupying my mind elsewhere like on here has helped but now think I have a porn addiction if that's possible literally 5 wanks a day now never used to be anywhere near that

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By *arksxMan
over a year ago

Leicester / London

"Has anyone on here had a gambling problem and now doesn't. I am really struggling and want to know what if any help is out there. No one knows the situation I'm embarrassed by it I did for years. Once you realise you play till you lose you understandI'm having no urges to gamble yet so far so good. Occupying my mind elsewhere like on here has helped but now think I have a porn addiction if that's possible literally 5 wanks a day now never used to be anywhere near that "

It sound like you have compulsive personality I'd focus first on that.

Otherwise you might just move from one addiction to another.

Thats not uncommon

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Has anyone on here had a gambling problem and now doesn't. I am really struggling and want to know what if any help is out there. No one knows the situation I'm embarrassed by it I did for years. Once you realise you play till you lose you understandI'm having no urges to gamble yet so far so good. Occupying my mind elsewhere like on here has helped but now think I have a porn addiction if that's possible literally 5 wanks a day now never used to be anywhere near that

It sound like you have compulsive personality I'd focus first on that.

Otherwise you might just move from one addiction to another.

Thats not uncommon "
true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s quite common for people to have addictive personality disorder , it’s recognising the signs and seeking help if it’s disruptive to your everyday life.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I was quite disgusted to see the Bet 365 news about them almost monopolising the recent Round of the FA cup. Allowing access to watching the Football if you signed up to their App.

Shitty industry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I heard that in the radio if you out a £5 deposit you could watch the game it's scandalous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 weeks now still not. But can't sleep now"

Dude, that's excellent. Made me happy to read that. Five times a day... Your nutsack must look like a bat's wing

talk to your doctor about the sleeping. Again, well done

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"3 weeks now still not. But can't sleep now

Dude, that's excellent. Made me happy to read that. Five times a day... Your nutsack must look like a bat's wing

talk to your doctor about the sleeping. Again, well done

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bats wing hahaha and I only edge so no cumming for two weeks now x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"3 weeks now still not. But can't sleep now"

Addiction is so cruel..when it's working for you it's like the vice is your best friend. When it's not it's your worst nightmare.

3 weeks is a great start but the hard work is yet to follow. Stick to your decision. Diversion tactics work Don't act on that need, it will pass after a short time. And thought processes will begin to change. In time those thoughts become less.

It will get easier and things will fall into place.Good luck ...I'm rooting for you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"3 weeks now still not. But can't sleep now

Addiction is so cruel..when it's working for you it's like the vice is your best friend. When it's not it's your worst nightmare.

It will get easier and things will fall into place.Good luck ...I'm rooting for you x"
thanks I've had no temptations so far

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"3 weeks now still not. But can't sleep now

Addiction is so cruel..when it's working for you it's like the vice is your best friend. When it's not it's your worst nightmare.

It will get easier and things will fall into place.Good luck ...I'm rooting for you x thanks I've had no temptations so far "

That's just great..you can/will do this x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"3 weeks now still not. But can't sleep now

Addiction is so cruel..when it's working for you it's like the vice is your best friend. When it's not it's your worst nightmare.

It will get easier and things will fall into place.Good luck ...I'm rooting for you x thanks I've had no temptations so far

That's just great..you can/will do this x"
I will thanks x

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