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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I rarely drink and last week i was out with work and had a few and a few more in a d*unken stupor made a decision to do something that has cost me what could have been good or has it? After 9mths of talking and meeting the last 2half mths of that 9 i was ghosted for 5weeks i accepted a lift home last week and left a colourful veri as you do, and after 5weeks he pops back to say nice to see i have moved on and not waiting for him, have i lost something or better out now from it????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the good thing you fucked up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, he’s ghosted you for five weeks and now he’s upset you’ve moved on?

Sounds like a lucky escape

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

o o OO o o

You haven’t missed out on anything.

Why would someone thing you should wait for them for 5 weeks until they could be arsed to get back in touch?

He’s a bit full of himself.

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By *ottielayWoman
over a year ago

by the bay

He didn’t respect you

Move on to better things

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I think it depends on what relationship you had and what you fucked up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the face of it it doesn't sound like you lost too much, but it depends on how you felt about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s fucked up , not you !!

What a knob and typical narcissistic thing to do.

Lucky escape methinks

Don’t even bother

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

You were ghosted for 5 weeks and you think that is something good? Be kind to yourself and move on. No decent person ghosts you for 5 weeks and then calls you out for moving on. Let them deal with their issue and totally cut them out of your life. They don't care about you, they are playing with you. That is not something good. Good luck.

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bingley

Defo lucky escape .... did he meet someone else is that why he ghosted you for 5 weeks. And then gets jealous seeing you moved up ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Defo lucky escape .... did he meet someone else is that why he ghosted you for 5 weeks. And then gets jealous seeing you moved up .. "

This happens soooo much

Normal behaviour on here

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By *ewforestguyMan
over a year ago

England

Sounds like you dodged a bullet to me.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

Move forwards and waste no time looking backwards. They had their chance and as they say you snooze you lose!

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

So was the “ghoster” a fabber who saw that you’d given a different fabber a veri? And has reacted badly to that?

If that’s the case I wouldn’t say it sounds like you’ve lost out on a good thing. It sounds like possessive behaviour which is definitely an odd way to act on a swingers site.

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By *anther81Man
over a year ago

Drogheda

Yeah don’t think anybody on a website like this should be offended if somebody meets somebody else.

Is kind of the point of the whole thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone your all saying what my head has been telling me all week that it is his loss and no coincidence that i post a veri and he suddenly messages again out the blue so he must be seeing it somehow from another profile maybe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone your all saying what my head has been telling me all week that it is his loss and no coincidence that i post a veri and he suddenly messages again out the blue so he must be seeing it somehow from another profile maybe xx"

Sounds like a ghosting stalker, which is not a good combination. Instincts are seldom wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chalk it down and move on...

L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Five weeks can easily go by in the blink of an eye, but he can hardly complain about you meeting someone else in the meantime. This is Fab, not [serious dating/relationship site].com.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"You haven’t missed out on anything.

Why would someone thing you should wait for them for 5 weeks until they could be arsed to get back in touch?

He’s a bit full of himself."

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

He ghosted you so why would you have missed out on something good?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Not being aware of the entire story I'm hesitant to criticise either of you. All I'll say is that if it was right for you both you'd be talking to each other.

Good luck to the two of you

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

So, he's ghosted you for 5wks, then sends a message saying, glad you've moved on?!

Really?

Did he think you'd spent 5wks, pinning for him, waiting day in day out for him to contact you?

Sounds like his ego is bigger than his personality.

You're better off without twunts like that in your life

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Don't even give him a 2nd thought.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

No matter what site you are on or met from.

Until you sit down together and agree to stay monogamous then no harm or foul.

You say he's seen it from another profile? Implying the profile you know him from is either blocked or not showing as logged in

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

he ghosts you and then pops back up. I wouldn't feel like I owed him anything. Show the resoect3he shows to you!

sounds like he is playing games

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"So, he's ghosted you for 5wks, then sends a message saying, glad you've moved on?!

Really?

Did he think you'd spent 5wks, pinning for him, waiting day in day out for him to contact you?

Sounds like his ego is bigger than his personality.

You're better off without twunts like that in your life

"

Amen sister

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Thanks everyone your all saying what my head has been telling me all week that it is his loss and no coincidence that i post a veri and he suddenly messages again out the blue so he must be seeing it somehow from another profile maybe xx"

Your definitely thinking the right way stick with your gut. The fact he hasn’t spoken in 5 weeks and then pops up because you get a veri is not a good sign.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I rarely drink and last week i was out with work and had a few and a few more in a d*unken stupor made a decision to do something that has cost me what could have been good or has it? After 9mths of talking and meeting the last 2half mths of that 9 i was ghosted for 5weeks i accepted a lift home last week and left a colourful veri as you do, and after 5weeks he pops back to say nice to see i have moved on and not waiting for him, have i lost something or better out now from it????"

Shrugs shoulders "No entiendo"

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By *angtidy42Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

His loss, your not property so enjoy life.

Next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree, what did he expect, you to hang around on the off chance he popped back into your fab life. Well rid, no respect, childish too. He can't have it all on his terms xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again thank you for all your comments and all taken on board i had actually not done anything for those 5weeks as i knew of a situation with him at home so just got on with work and life but the fact he had ghosted all my texts and then the very next morning after a veri was given to me seemed a bit of a wtf moment so thanks for all your feedback and yeah new year coming so onwards and upwards (no pun intended ) thanks guys and girls xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he was playing you, you don't ghost someone for that long to then say something like that.

Forget about him and have fun

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