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"Gosh, very heavy for this time of the day!" Sara, it is a good exercise for your brain!  | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? " Because we’re human and can’t read minds | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Because we’re human and can’t read minds "That is not an excuse! We all have heard of EQ! | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Because we’re human and can’t read minds
That is not an excuse! We all have heard of EQ! "EQ? The majority of people think they have this but actually possess SQ... | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Because we’re human and can’t read minds
That is not an excuse! We all have heard of EQ!
EQ? The majority of people think they have this but actually possess SQ..."Possibly. But EQ needs to be developed and can be developed till you die. So why dont we do that? | |||
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"Your statement isn't fact. In fact your statement isn't true. In truth your statement is made of straw sir. " Please elaborate?  | |||
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"Your statement isn't fact. In fact your statement isn't true. In truth your statement is made of straw sir. Please elaborate? "No. The meaning is crystal. | |||
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"Your statement isn't fact. In fact your statement isn't true. In truth your statement is made of straw sir. Please elaborate?
No. The meaning is crystal. "Maybe to you. Not to us!  | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? " That’s humans for you | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? " the internet makes judgement easy....... no accountability  | |||
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"Judge Incodescennt you promised a social never happened should I judge you or let the forum " Incandescent shall I judge u tgeb | |||
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"Your statement isn't fact. In fact your statement isn't true. In truth your statement is made of straw sir. Please elaborate?
No. The meaning is crystal.
Maybe to you. Not to us! "Who is 'us' ? | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? That’s humans for you " Is it really? Isn't that a skill that we could develop if we chose to? Wouldn't the world be a better place if we did develop that skill? | |||
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If 'us' can't understand the words 'not true' then 'us' would have shit load of problems with an explanation
I'm just a girl whose intentions are good. Oh lord please don't let me be 'subjected to rolly eye balls' ...... amen. | |||
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"Your statement isn't fact. In fact your statement isn't true. In truth your statement is made of straw sir. Please elaborate?
No. The meaning is crystal.
Maybe to you. Not to us!
Who is 'us' ?"the Aliens | |||
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"Your statement isn't fact. In fact your statement isn't true. In truth your statement is made of straw sir. Please elaborate?
No. The meaning is crystal.
Maybe to you. Not to us!
Who is 'us' ?"or the 'clique' | |||
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"Your statement isn't fact. In fact your statement isn't true. In truth your statement is made of straw sir. Please elaborate?
No. The meaning is crystal.
Maybe to you. Not to us!
Who is 'us' ?the Aliens "If we weren't on Earth we'd all be aliens...... da da dahhhhhhhhhhh | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? the internet makes judgement easy....... no accountability "Agree. If ppl used their limbic part of the brain lesser and neocortex a bit more, then there would be lesser judgement! | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? the internet makes judgement easy....... no accountability
Agree. If ppl used their limbic part of the brain lesser and neocortex a bit more, then there would be lesser judgement! "really tmi  | |||
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"Usually because someone's words or actions portray their intentions? Personally I judge someone on a combination of; A. How annoying they are. B. How much they try to belittle others. C. How they treat me." Do you judge or tolerate? | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? the internet makes judgement easy....... no accountability
Agree. If ppl used their limbic part of the brain lesser and neocortex a bit more, then there would be lesser judgement! really tmi "You can never have tmi ..... i'd have said if they were more empathetic ... but fuckity fuck what do I know ? eh ? | |||
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"Usually because someone's words or actions portray their intentions? Personally I judge someone on a combination of; A. How annoying they are. B. How much they try to belittle others. C. How they treat me. Do you judge or tolerate?" Those two are not mutually exclusive. It's possible to tolerate yet judge. | |||
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"Never mind If 'us' can't understand the words 'not true' then 'us' would have shit load of problems with an explanation
I'm just a girl whose intentions are good. Oh lord please don't let me be 'subjected to rolly eye balls' ...... amen." | |||
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"How do you suggest we judge people?" Try to understand before being understood?  | |||
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"Usually because someone's words or actions portray their intentions? Personally I judge someone on a combination of; A. How annoying they are. B. How much they try to belittle others. C. How they treat me. Do you judge or tolerate?" Judge then tolerate. It's just how I have been brought up. I can judge them to be a complete bellend, and then be capable of tolerating them to allow me to work with them. | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? the internet makes judgement easy....... no accountability
Agree. If ppl used their limbic part of the brain lesser and neocortex a bit more, then there would be lesser judgement! really tmi
You can never have tmi ..... i'd have said if they were more empathetic ... but fuckity fuck what do I know ? eh ?"Agree. You are smart! People smart. May be not book smart. Who cares if you are not! | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? the internet makes judgement easy....... no accountability
Agree. If ppl used their limbic part of the brain lesser and neocortex a bit more, then there would be lesser judgement! really tmi
You can never have tmi ..... i'd have said if they were more empathetic ... but fuckity fuck what do I know ? eh ?"we can judge each other on words here but in person we judge on look and reactions but a judgement made here could be totally over turned in person  | |||
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"How do you suggest we judge people? Try to understand before being understood? "So should we use people's words and actions to understand then form a judgement? | |||
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"Usually because someone's words or actions portray their intentions? Personally I judge someone on a combination of; A. How annoying they are. B. How much they try to belittle others. C. How they treat me. Do you judge or tolerate? Judge then tolerate. It's just how I have been brought up. I can judge them to be a complete bellend, and then be capable of tolerating them to allow me to work with them." So by judging you have made an inconcious bias against them. How are you going to work with them fairly? | |||
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"How do you suggest we judge people? Try to understand before being understood?
So should we use people's words and actions to understand then form a judgement?"Possibly. Or you could just leave the judgment part completely! Who are we to judge others? | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? the internet makes judgement easy....... no accountability
Agree. If ppl used their limbic part of the brain lesser and neocortex a bit more, then there would be lesser judgement! really tmi
You can never have tmi ..... i'd have said if they were more empathetic ... but fuckity fuck what do I know ? eh ?
Agree. You are smart! People smart. May be not book smart. Who cares if you are not! "How judgemental of you. | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? " Morning So many perfect god fearing people on here it’s in true | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? the internet makes judgement easy....... no accountability
Agree. If ppl used their limbic part of the brain lesser and neocortex a bit more, then there would be lesser judgement! really tmi
You can never have tmi ..... i'd have said if they were more empathetic ... but fuckity fuck what do I know ? eh ?we can judge each other on words here but in person we judge on look and reactions but a judgement made here could be totally over turned in person "So true! | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Morning So many perfect god fearing people on here it’s in true " Morning. I'm one of those things and it's not God fearing. | |||
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"How do you suggest we judge people? Try to understand before being understood?
So should we use people's words and actions to understand then form a judgement?
Possibly. Or you could just leave the judgment part completely! Who are we to judge others?"I'll continue to use people's words and actions to form a judgement about what kind of person I perceive them to be | |||
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"You can only begin to try and understand people through their actions and words, that way you can then assess the motive. Judgement determines your perception of those actions and words. People naturally judge first, understand second. People's judgement is invariably influenced by their own standards and morals. It's easy to judge, it's far more difficult to understand. Neither are guaranteed to be accurate. " Why dont we take the time to understand their intentions? Then we could understand the reason for their actions and words! | |||
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"How do you suggest we judge people? Try to understand before being understood?
So should we use people's words and actions to understand then form a judgement?
Possibly. Or you could just leave the judgment part completely! Who are we to judge others?
I'll continue to use people's words and actions to form a judgement about what kind of person I perceive them to be "Why don't you try to understand their intention? You would do that to yourself. Why not others? | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? " Other than by words and actions how should I judge some one? | |||
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"Usually because someone's words or actions portray their intentions? Personally I judge someone on a combination of; A. How annoying they are. B. How much they try to belittle others. C. How they treat me. Do you judge or tolerate? Judge then tolerate. It's just how I have been brought up. I can judge them to be a complete bellend, and then be capable of tolerating them to allow me to work with them. So by judging you have made an inconcious bias against them. How are you going to work with them fairly?" No I have made a conscious judgement based on the 3 criteria I mentioned earlier. I am able work with them fairly because I am an intelligent person who appreciates that the world is full of all sorts of bellends, and we all have to get on. | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Morning So many perfect god fearing people on here it’s in true " Or they may be values driven! | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Other than by words and actions how should I judge some one?" Like you judge yourself. By your intentions. Try to understand, then be understood! | |||
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"How do you suggest we judge people? Try to understand before being understood?
So should we use people's words and actions to understand then form a judgement?
Possibly. Or you could just leave the judgment part completely! Who are we to judge others?
I'll continue to use people's words and actions to form a judgement about what kind of person I perceive them to be "actions here? words only here and words can be read ambiguously | |||
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"Usually because someone's words or actions portray their intentions? Personally I judge someone on a combination of; A. How annoying they are. B. How much they try to belittle others. C. How they treat me. Do you judge or tolerate? Judge then tolerate. It's just how I have been brought up. I can judge them to be a complete bellend, and then be capable of tolerating them to allow me to work with them. So by judging you have made an inconcious bias against them. How are you going to work with them fairly? No I have made a conscious judgement based on the 3 criteria I mentioned earlier. I am able work with them fairly because I am an intelligent person who appreciates that the world is full of all sorts of bellends, and we all have to get on." I am not disputing. But is that how you judge yourself? | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Other than by words and actions how should I judge some one? Like you judge yourself. By your intentions. Try to understand, then be understood!" But I rarely no other people's intentions unless they display them. Which is usually through actions or words | |||
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"How do you suggest we judge people? Try to understand before being understood?
So should we use people's words and actions to understand then form a judgement?
Possibly. Or you could just leave the judgment part completely! Who are we to judge others?
I'll continue to use people's words and actions to form a judgement about what kind of person I perceive them to be
Why don't you try to understand their intention? You would do that to yourself. Why not others?"I'll use their words and actions to infer their intention. If they don't match, I'll judge them for being unaware of what their words and actions convey | |||
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"I'm passing judgement on this thread. What a load of bollocks. There I said it intellectual bullshit or at least trying to be "That's your opinion and I respect your opinion. But I would agree to disagree with you on that! | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Other than by words and actions how should I judge some one? Like you judge yourself. By your intentions. Try to understand, then be understood! But I rarely no other people's intentions unless they display them. Which is usually through actions or words" That is where power of questioning comes handy. Try to understand their intentions and it may paint a better picture of the 'why' they said or did what they did. | |||
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"Usually because someone's words or actions portray their intentions? Personally I judge someone on a combination of; A. How annoying they are. B. How much they try to belittle others. C. How they treat me. Do you judge or tolerate? Judge then tolerate. It's just how I have been brought up. I can judge them to be a complete bellend, and then be capable of tolerating them to allow me to work with them. So by judging you have made an inconcious bias against them. How are you going to work with them fairly? No I have made a conscious judgement based on the 3 criteria I mentioned earlier. I am able work with them fairly because I am an intelligent person who appreciates that the world is full of all sorts of bellends, and we all have to get on. I am not disputing. But is that how you judge yourself?" Yes it is. | |||
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"How do you suggest we judge people? Try to understand before being understood?
So should we use people's words and actions to understand then form a judgement?
Possibly. Or you could just leave the judgment part completely! Who are we to judge others?
I'll continue to use people's words and actions to form a judgement about what kind of person I perceive them to be
Why don't you try to understand their intention? You would do that to yourself. Why not others?
I'll use their words and actions to infer their intention.
If they don't match, I'll judge them for being unaware of what their words and actions convey "but that reaction on your part is harsh, some people write before they think and your rection surely is based on your ability as a woman here to just move onto the next person because you have the advantage choice, created by the numbers of men to women | |||
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"How do you suggest we judge people? Try to understand before being understood?
So should we use people's words and actions to understand then form a judgement?
Possibly. Or you could just leave the judgment part completely! Who are we to judge others?
I'll continue to use people's words and actions to form a judgement about what kind of person I perceive them to be
Why don't you try to understand their intention? You would do that to yourself. Why not others?
I'll use their words and actions to infer their intention.
If they don't match, I'll judge them for being unaware of what their words and actions convey "Would you do the same with yourself? | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Other than by words and actions how should I judge some one? Like you judge yourself. By your intentions. Try to understand, then be understood! But I rarely no other people's intentions unless they display them. Which is usually through actions or words That is where power of questioning comes handy. Try to understand their intentions and it may paint a better picture of the 'why' they said or did what they did." For every interaction? Fuck me, life is way too short. We have evolved to judge a situation or action quickly, hence the oft used explanation that first impressions are made in the first 20 seconds or so It's all part of the instinct of fight or flight | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. " We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME! | |||
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"I’m so hungover..I’ll pass "Cheeky, Cheeky, Cheeky! I missed you! | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME! "You’ve been eating those dictionaries again haven’t you | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Other than by words and actions how should I judge some one? Like you judge yourself. By your intentions. Try to understand, then be understood! But I rarely no other people's intentions unless they display them. Which is usually through actions or words That is where power of questioning comes handy. Try to understand their intentions and it may paint a better picture of the 'why' they said or did what they did. For every interaction? Fuck me, life is way too short. We have evolved to judge a situation or action quickly, hence the oft used explanation that first impressions are made in the first 20 seconds or so It's all part of the instinct of fight or flight" Well, do we need to judge if it doesn't matter to us? If it does matter to us, then shouldnt we take the time to understand? | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
You’ve been eating those dictionaries again haven’t you "You did a no show last night! I came looking for you. It was a challenge logging into this site from Dubai! Can I please have a valid explanation?  | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Other than by words and actions how should I judge some one? Like you judge yourself. By your intentions. Try to understand, then be understood! But I rarely no other people's intentions unless they display them. Which is usually through actions or words That is where power of questioning comes handy. Try to understand their intentions and it may paint a better picture of the 'why' they said or did what they did. For every interaction? Fuck me, life is way too short. We have evolved to judge a situation or action quickly, hence the oft used explanation that first impressions are made in the first 20 seconds or so It's all part of the instinct of fight or flight" Exactly! My judgements keep me safe and healthy. So now I am expected to investigate people's intentions behind their behaviour. Nope - life is too short. I make my decisions on what is put before me. If that makes others unhappy tough. It's served me well so far. | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
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You did a no show last night! I came looking for you. It was a challenge logging into this site from Dubai! Can I please have a valid explanation? "she was at works Christmas party | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Other than by words and actions how should I judge some one? Like you judge yourself. By your intentions. Try to understand, then be understood! But I rarely no other people's intentions unless they display them. Which is usually through actions or words That is where power of questioning comes handy. Try to understand their intentions and it may paint a better picture of the 'why' they said or did what they did. For every interaction? Fuck me, life is way too short. We have evolved to judge a situation or action quickly, hence the oft used explanation that first impressions are made in the first 20 seconds or so It's all part of the instinct of fight or flight Well, do we need to judge if it doesn't matter to us? If it does matter to us, then shouldnt we take the time to understand?" We are faced with a situation, we worked out if it matters or not If it matters we find out more If not we walk away Me, walking away, poop to be thrown somewhere, that matters more | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME! "But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices. | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Other than by words and actions how should I judge some one? Like you judge yourself. By your intentions. Try to understand, then be understood! But I rarely no other people's intentions unless they display them. Which is usually through actions or words That is where power of questioning comes handy. Try to understand their intentions and it may paint a better picture of the 'why' they said or did what they did. For every interaction? Fuck me, life is way too short. We have evolved to judge a situation or action quickly, hence the oft used explanation that first impressions are made in the first 20 seconds or so It's all part of the instinct of fight or flight" What if we did not judge in 20 sec and we used more of our neocortex part of the brain? Wont the world be a better place? | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices. "I didnt judge you at all. I asked you questions. And I gave examples! | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices.
I didnt judge you at all. I asked you questions. And I gave examples! "I was speaking hypothetically. | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices. "men don't have the facility here to judge a woman accurately, their reactions are based on your desirability...... turn them down then you get the negative reaction that is so often talked about here | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices.
I didnt judge you at all. I asked you questions. And I gave examples!
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" What if we did not judge in 20 sec and we used more of our neocortex part of the brain? Wont the world be a better place?" No...we would die off quicker as a species | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
You’ve been eating those dictionaries again haven’t you
You did a no show last night! I came looking for you. It was a challenge logging into this site from Dubai! Can I please have a valid explanation? "No | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices. men don't have the facility here to judge a woman accurately, their reactions are based on your desirability...... turn them down then you get the negative reaction that is so often talked about here "Its economics. Supply and demand. We have less women than men on here. Most women are bi or bi curious. The demand for women is higher than men. | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices. men don't have the facility here to judge a woman accurately, their reactions are based on your desirability...... turn them down then you get the negative reaction that is so often talked about here
Its economics. Supply and demand. We have less women than men on here. Most women are bi or bi curious. The demand for women is higher than men. "exactly my point | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices. men don't have the facility here to judge a woman accurately, their reactions are based on your desirability...... turn them down then you get the negative reaction that is so often talked about here
Its economics. Supply and demand. We have less women than men on here. Most women are bi or bi curious. The demand for women is higher than men. exactly my point "Economy of scale! Let us all men come together and deny our bodies to the ladies till they agree to our rules!  | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? " No | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices. men don't have the facility here to judge a woman accurately, their reactions are based on your desirability...... turn them down then you get the negative reaction that is so often talked about here
Its economics. Supply and demand. We have less women than men on here. Most women are bi or bi curious. The demand for women is higher than men. exactly my point
Economy of scale! Let us all men come together and deny our bodies to the ladies till they agree to our rules! "yes my body is my temple out of bounds to all but the sublimely superb | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? No" K fine! | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices. men don't have the facility here to judge a woman accurately, their reactions are based on your desirability...... turn them down then you get the negative reaction that is so often talked about here
Its economics. Supply and demand. We have less women than men on here. Most women are bi or bi curious. The demand for women is higher than men. exactly my point
Economy of scale! Let us all men come together and deny our bodies to the ladies till they agree to our rules! yes my body is my temple out of bounds to all but the sublimely superb " | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? " we...I am not a judge nor am I judgemental thanks I take people for who they regardless and I did not join fab with intensions either because that is expectations and if you expect then you will be sourly disappointed | |||
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"Seems that 'judging others' and making 'decisions about situations' have been confused somewhat while I have been in Aldi being charged for cauliflower when it was a cabbage. " Oops! That is not good! | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? " Flaw number 1 - people aren't always truthful about their intentions. That right there is a fact and that right there is the main issue. P | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Flaw number 1 - people aren't always truthful about their intentions. That right there is a fact and that right there is the main issue. P" Well, are they not truthful to themselves or someone else? | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Flaw number 1 - people aren't always truthful about their intentions. That right there is a fact and that right there is the main issue. P" so because a few are untruthful we are all judged by them? | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME! "Not at all, I see others as people, not reflections of me. I don't place my own values and morals on them anymore because 9 times put of 10 they don't have the same as me. I have done and it's got me badly burnt. So now I "evidence gather" to see if their actions, patterns and words match up over time. P | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
Not at all, I see others as people, not reflections of me. I don't place my own values and morals on them anymore because 9 times put of 10 they don't have the same as me. I have done and it's got me badly burnt. So now I "evidence gather" to see if their actions, patterns and words match up over time.
P"That is great to hear. Everyone needs an opportunity to be understood! | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Flaw number 1 - people aren't always truthful about their intentions. That right there is a fact and that right there is the main issue. P Well, are they not truthful to themselves or someone else?" Definitely someone else. Truthful to their friends about their intentions, but not to the "object of their affection" or the underlying driving force which made a huge difference. P | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? " Because we know our intentions but not anyone else's? | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Because we know our intentions but not anyone else's? " Why dont we try to understand other's intentions? Are we too busy? Or is it too much work and making a judgment is easier? | |||
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"Every action has a purpose and an interpretation. How the action is interpreted is down to a myriad of past experiences that have developed a schema. How many times have people said "That is not what I meant" the meaning of the words or actions have Been interpreted by the other person in their way. Its a tough job. EQ does come into it but so does clarification. If you're not sure ask or think is there a pattern developing. Or just stick your tongue out. " | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Because we know our intentions but not anyone else's? Why dont we try to understand other's intentions? Are we too busy? Or is it too much work and making a judgment is easier? " You can try but people lie. Simply as that P | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Flaw number 1 - people aren't always truthful about their intentions. That right there is a fact and that right there is the main issue. Pso because a few are untruthful we are all judged by them? "I am not a judge nor judgemental I take people for what they are and that is to accept them for who they are too! | |||
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"Why do we judge others by their words or actions, but judge ourselves by our intentions? Should we seek to understand before trying to be understood? Because we know our intentions but not anyone else's? Why dont we try to understand other's intentions? Are we too busy? Or is it too much work and making a judgment is easier? You can try but people lie. Simply as that P" Why do you think they lie? | |||
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"How often do we actually know another person's intentions though? Or our own? Often the reason we convince ourselves we're doing things isn't actually completely true, there are underlying driving forces we are not aware of. We see others as we see ourselves. My perception of you may be different to your perception of yourself. So to validate my thoughts about you, I need to try to understand your intentions. If not, I am ASSUMING. When I ASSUME I make an ASS of U and ME!
But that's my point, you are basically judging me on your own perception still. Whether it be by my actions or by what I've told you or what you have perceived to be my intentions the outcome is the same, you don't understand me any better, you are still basing your opinion of me on your own prejudices. men don't have the facility here to judge a woman accurately, their reactions are based on your desirability...... turn them down then you get the negative reaction that is so often talked about here "no one should judge anyone based on a few words on a screen nor should we judge people when we meet them in real life either | |||
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"Never mind If 'us' can't understand the words 'not true' then 'us' would have shit load of problems with an explanation
I'm just a girl whose intentions are good. Oh lord please don't let me be 'subjected to rolly eye balls' ...... amen."Crumpet is right | |||
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"OP I am guessing you didn't mean to open can of worms here. My understanding of cognitive bias is that it is a brains trigger possibly left over from from our caveman days of fight or flight. We make these snap judgements within seconds to ensure safety. What we need to do is is nurture our brains into understanding what is a threat and what is good. This is best done from birth and difficult to to in later life. This is why no matter how much you want to change and know things are right that bias says there under the surface " You can train you brain to think differently. Neocortex (rational part of the brain) is also called the thinking brain. It sits above limbic brain (emotional part of the brain) and control higher level processes like reasoning, creative thinking, logic etc. It is like us training to walk, run, swim etc. EQ can be developed till the day you are alive, unlike IQ. | |||
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"OP I am guessing you didn't mean to open can of worms here. My understanding of cognitive bias is that it is a brains trigger possibly left over from from our caveman days of fight or flight. We make these snap judgements within seconds to ensure safety. What we need to do is is nurture our brains into understanding what is a threat and what is good. This is best done from birth and difficult to to in later life. This is why no matter how much you want to change and know things are right that bias says there under the surface You can train you brain to think differently. Neocortex (rational part of the brain) is also called the thinking brain. It sits above limbic brain (emotional part of the brain) and control higher level processes like reasoning, creative thinking, logic etc. It is like us training to walk, run, swim etc. EQ can be developed till the day you are alive, unlike IQ." I agree that you can train your brain in adult hood but how we develop as a child is difficult to overcome and change. Not impossible though and should not be used as an excuse that is not what I am saying. What I am saying is that if we are brought up believing one thing as a child it is difficult to upcome and change these core beliefs on a subconscious level. No matter what training you put your brain through | |||
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"OP I am guessing you didn't mean to open can of worms here. My understanding of cognitive bias is that it is a brains trigger possibly left over from from our caveman days of fight or flight. We make these snap judgements within seconds to ensure safety. What we need to do is is nurture our brains into understanding what is a threat and what is good. This is best done from birth and difficult to to in later life. This is why no matter how much you want to change and know things are right that bias says there under the surface You can train you brain to think differently. Neocortex (rational part of the brain) is also called the thinking brain. It sits above limbic brain (emotional part of the brain) and control higher level processes like reasoning, creative thinking, logic etc. It is like us training to walk, run, swim etc. EQ can be developed till the day you are alive, unlike IQ. I agree that you can train your brain in adult hood but how we develop as a child is difficult to overcome and change. Not impossible though and should not be used as an excuse that is not what I am saying. What I am saying is that if we are brought up believing one thing as a child it is difficult to upcome and change these core beliefs on a subconscious level. No matter what training you put your brain through " It may be difficult. But not impossible. It is like learning a any other new skill! | |||
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Did you miss me? "No but I’m crying now you’re back | |||
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No but I’m crying now you’re back "Awww! Thank hun! It is called the tears of joy!  | |||
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"And where have you been
Did you miss me?
No but I’m crying now you’re back
Awww! Thank hun! It is called the tears of joy! "its not she took her bra off and busted her best bedside lamp, you dont get nothing without a pair not in this game | |||
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