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"Honestly if he likes you a lot it's going to hurt him no matter what boundaries you put out there. We are humans after all so I'd more understanding than pissed with him." I wouldn't say I am pissed with him but I've seen other people during the time we were hooking up and it didn't seem to bother him. It just came out of the blue. | |||
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"Time for a discussion though. If the dynamics have shifted for him and he’s gonna start getting funny about it then it’s either time to get together or call it quits. I’ve been the him in this situation more than once and now I get messages saying that they found someone but she’s boring in bed. I’d like to say ‘their loss’ but deep down I admit I was gutted that i aren’t ‘enough’ for the streets. Just for the sheets. " Totally feel you here xx | |||
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"If I've done something to upset someone then yes I do feel bad regardless of being right or wrong not even including the blame thing. You have done something which has upset him. Why not ask him what's going on rather than strangers in here? Only way it'll ever be sorted tbh " Strangers on an internet site only getting your side of the story couldn't possibly say... yet so many are so quick to judge his reaction. | |||
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"If I've done something to upset someone then yes I do feel bad regardless of being right or wrong not even including the blame thing. You have done something which has upset him. Why not ask him what's going on rather than strangers in here? Only way it'll ever be sorted tbh Strangers on an internet site only getting your side of the story couldn't possibly say... yet so many are so quick to judge his reaction. " very | |||
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"Time for a discussion though. If the dynamics have shifted for him and he’s gonna start getting funny about it then it’s either time to get together or call it quits. " | |||
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"I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now. We both agreed that it was just sexual and we were both free to see other people. I've always been open and honest with him. He knew I was on here and other sites. Never a problem between us. Then the other night I went on a date with a guy who lives near me. I hadn't mentioned the date as it was a last minute decision. Obviously someone saw us out and by the time I got home I had several massages on my phone from him. He wanted to know why i was out with someone else. He went on about how he felt cheated on." Reading between the lines it was purely because you did not tell him and it had to come from someone else regarding his reaction but his reaction to me sounds jealous and possessive. Instead he could have just asked how it went if you have an open relationship with him. You though do not belong to him nor you him unless you are bf and gf but even then you could still have that open relationship going on. I would ask him where he sees you and him. He might not have told his friends that you have an open relationship and have that relationship where you can meet and fuck anyone. | |||
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"Sounds like he’s falling for u or he’s getting possessive ? " Is there a difference? | |||
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"Time for a discussion though. If the dynamics have shifted for him and he’s gonna start getting funny about it then it’s either time to get together or call it quits. I’ve been the him in this situation more than once and now I get messages saying that they found someone but she’s boring in bed. I’d like to say ‘their loss’ but deep down I admit I was gutted that i aren’t ‘enough’ for the streets. Just for the sheets. Totally feel you here xx" So do I but I didn't realise it until now | |||
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"do you feel bad? if no then you've stuck by your feelings on the matter. If yes, then you feel you've upset him unnecessarily " I've felt bad when people have got hurt just because I dont commit. Even though I've been honest. As in my mind i should have walked away at the first sign of issues x | |||
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"Did you meet him on a site? Maybe it was the fact that someone told him about it that is at issue. You obviously know the same people so could be seen as a couple. That would look like cheating to those more aligned with him. If you have been open and honest with him then remind him of that and perhaps back off a bit to reinforce that you are not exclusive. " I never thought if it this way. We are from the same town but would rarely be out together. When we meet it's usually at mine. We have sex and then he usually disappears. | |||
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"Sounds like he’s falling for u or he’s getting possessive ? Is there a difference?" Yes!!! | |||
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" We are from the same town but would rarely be out together. When we meet it's usually at mine. We have sex and then he usually disappears." So why did the person who "reported" you assume you are a couple ? | |||
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" We are from the same town but would rarely be out together. When we meet it's usually at mine. We have sex and then he usually disappears. So why did the person who "reported" you assume you are a couple ?" I have no idea. He didn't say who it was. | |||
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"There's a difference between going on a date with someone and meeting someone... Maybe that's what he has an issue with. A date tends to imply that you're looking for something more to develop, whereas a meet is generally just that, even if it's a regular arrangement. He may simply be concerned that if you're looking to date someone and pursue a relationship, you might decide to become exclusive with that person somewhere down the line, and you won't be his booty buddy anymore. " Think you've hit the nail on the head. He is probably just a touch worried maybe you are going to go away from him if you are meeting someone you haven't mentioned about. A bit of reassurance thst you still are interested in no strings sex might ease his worry. | |||
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" We are from the same town but would rarely be out together. When we meet it's usually at mine. We have sex and then he usually disappears. So why did the person who "reported" you assume you are a couple ? I have no idea. He didn't say who it was." maybe he saw you (not a friend) maybe that caused the sting | |||
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"Maybe his feelings have developed or it’s the fact you didn’t tell him before " | |||
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"I thought you were married. Am I confusing you with someone else? " It's all very, very confusing. | |||
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"I thought you were married. Am I confusing you with someone else? It's all very, very confusing." No I'm separated. | |||
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"I've chatted to him and he said that his feelings haven't changed and he still wants just sex but if I'm meeting someone else he wants to know." Glad it's sorted | |||
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"I've chatted to him and he said that his feelings haven't changed and he still wants just sex but if I'm meeting someone else he wants to know." That's cool if you are happy to do so, Personally we wouldn't as he's pointed out it's just sex but everyone is different & has differing rules & boundaries. It's what makes life so interesting sometimes Best wishes S S | |||
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"I've chatted to him and he said that his feelings haven't changed and he still wants just sex but if I'm meeting someone else he wants to know. That's cool if you are happy to do so, Personally we wouldn't as he's pointed out it's just sex but everyone is different & has differing rules & boundaries. It's what makes life so interesting sometimes Best wishes S S" I'm not sure what to make of it. I wouldn't want to know if he met someone. | |||
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"I've chatted to him and he said that his feelings haven't changed and he still wants just sex but if I'm meeting someone else he wants to know. That's cool if you are happy to do so, Personally we wouldn't as he's pointed out it's just sex but everyone is different & has differing rules & boundaries. It's what makes life so interesting sometimes Best wishes S S I'm not sure what to make of it. I wouldn't want to know if he met someone." Exactly, He says it’s just sex then that it what it is, as you say, you don’t want to know if he meets someone so why should you tell him? “It’s just sex”. His words! Now maybe he was hoping you would say “Well are you going to tell me when you see someone else?” If you did then the questions about whether “This is more” might start, maybe he just doesn’t want to start them..... Or he’s just a bit controlling, or at least trying to be? Our gf has a poly gf & bf, We don’t ask her what she is doing unless it’s to discuss a meet. None of our business, although we know of their existence. S | |||
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"I've chatted to him and he said that his feelings haven't changed and he still wants just sex but if I'm meeting someone else he wants to know. That's cool if you are happy to do so, Personally we wouldn't as he's pointed out it's just sex but everyone is different & has differing rules & boundaries. It's what makes life so interesting sometimes Best wishes S S I'm not sure what to make of it. I wouldn't want to know if he met someone. Exactly, He says it’s just sex then that it what it is, as you say, you don’t want to know if he meets someone so why should you tell him? “It’s just sex”. His words! Now maybe he was hoping you would say “Well are you going to tell me when you see someone else?” If you did then the questions about whether “This is more” might start, maybe he just doesn’t want to start them..... Or he’s just a bit controlling, or at least trying to be? Our gf has a poly gf & bf, We don’t ask her what she is doing unless it’s to discuss a meet. None of our business, although we know of their existence. S " Thanks | |||
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"I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now. We both agreed that it was just sexual and we were both free to see other people. I've always been open and honest with him. He knew I was on here and other sites. Never a problem between us. Then the other night I went on a date with a guy who lives near me. I hadn't mentioned the date as it was a last minute decision. Obviously someone saw us out and by the time I got home I had several massages on my phone from him. He wanted to know why i was out with someone else. He went on about how he felt cheated on." yes feel very very bad buy him flowers and seduce him infront of an open fire | |||
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"I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now. We both agreed that it was just sexual and we were both free to see other people. I've always been open and honest with him. He knew I was on here and other sites. Never a problem between us. Then the other night I went on a date with a guy who lives near me. I hadn't mentioned the date as it was a last minute decision. Obviously someone saw us out and by the time I got home I had several massages on my phone from him. He wanted to know why i was out with someone else. He went on about how he felt cheated on.yes feel very very bad buy him flowers and seduce him infront of an open fire " Might try that | |||
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"I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now. We both agreed that it was just sexual and we were both free to see other people. I've always been open and honest with him. He knew I was on here and other sites. Never a problem between us. Then the other night I went on a date with a guy who lives near me. I hadn't mentioned the date as it was a last minute decision. Obviously someone saw us out and by the time I got home I had several massages on my phone from him. He wanted to know why i was out with someone else. He went on about how he felt cheated on.yes feel very very bad buy him flowers and seduce him infront of an open fire Might try that " its the only way | |||
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"I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now. We both agreed that it was just sexual and we were both free to see other people. I've always been open and honest with him. He knew I was on here and other sites. Never a problem between us. Then the other night I went on a date with a guy who lives near me. I hadn't mentioned the date as it was a last minute decision. Obviously someone saw us out and by the time I got home I had several massages on my phone from him. He wanted to know why i was out with someone else. He went on about how he felt cheated on.yes feel very very bad buy him flowers and seduce him infront of an open fire Might try that its the only way " I'll get back to you and let you know if it works | |||
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"I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now. We both agreed that it was just sexual and we were both free to see other people. I've always been open and honest with him. He knew I was on here and other sites. Never a problem between us. Then the other night I went on a date with a guy who lives near me. I hadn't mentioned the date as it was a last minute decision. Obviously someone saw us out and by the time I got home I had several massages on my phone from him. He wanted to know why i was out with someone else. He went on about how he felt cheated on.yes feel very very bad buy him flowers and seduce him infront of an open fire Might try that its the only way I'll get back to you and let you know if it works " if you like him it will but I'll let you into one of my lil secrets keep everything you do close to your amazing chest, the lil green eyed monster is in many of us | |||
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"I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now. We both agreed that it was just sexual and we were both free to see other people. I've always been open and honest with him. He knew I was on here and other sites. Never a problem between us. Then the other night I went on a date with a guy who lives near me. I hadn't mentioned the date as it was a last minute decision. Obviously someone saw us out and by the time I got home I had several massages on my phone from him. He wanted to know why i was out with someone else. He went on about how he felt cheated on." no he don’t own you | |||
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"I've chatted to him and he said that his feelings haven't changed and he still wants just sex but if I'm meeting someone else he wants to know." He has no right to no unless that's agreed btw the two of u if it's just sex why does he want to know I say there more in it feelings often do come into it I'm afraid unless the two involved are robots lol | |||
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"I've chatted to him and he said that his feelings haven't changed and he still wants just sex but if I'm meeting someone else he wants to know. He has no right to no unless that's agreed btw the two of u if it's just sex why does he want to know I say there more in it feelings often do come into it I'm afraid unless the two involved are robots lol " exactly we're human beings we have emotions and when you meet regularly you form bonds, we have no rights over another person, we are honour bound to treat them as we ourselves would like to be treated and i think keeping your conquests to yourself is a sensible option | |||
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"I've chatted to him and he said that his feelings haven't changed and he still wants just sex but if I'm meeting someone else he wants to know. He has no right to no unless that's agreed btw the two of u if it's just sex why does he want to know I say there more in it feelings often do come into it I'm afraid unless the two involved are robots lol exactly we're human beings we have emotions and when you meet regularly you form bonds, we have no rights over another person, we are honour bound to treat them as we ourselves would like to be treated and i think keeping your conquests to yourself is a sensible option " Yes but chances are if they are on here they find out thro veris catch 22 I'm afraid | |||
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"I've chatted to him and he said that his feelings haven't changed and he still wants just sex but if I'm meeting someone else he wants to know. He has no right to no unless that's agreed btw the two of u if it's just sex why does he want to know I say there more in it feelings often do come into it I'm afraid unless the two involved are robots lol exactly we're human beings we have emotions and when you meet regularly you form bonds, we have no rights over another person, we are honour bound to treat them as we ourselves would like to be treated and i think keeping your conquests to yourself is a sensible option Yes but chances are if they are on here they find out thro veris catch 22 I'm afraid " oh yes veris or as i refer to them ' bragging' | |||
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"I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now. We both agreed that it was just sexual and we were both free to see other people. I've always been open and honest with him. He knew I was on here and other sites. Never a problem between us. Then the other night I went on a date with a guy who lives near me. I hadn't mentioned the date as it was a last minute decision. Obviously someone saw us out and by the time I got home I had several massages on my phone from him. He wanted to know why i was out with someone else. He went on about how he felt cheated on.yes feel very very bad buy him flowers and seduce him infront of an open fire Might try that its the only way I'll get back to you and let you know if it works if you like him it will but I'll let you into one of my lil secrets keep everything you do close to your amazing chest, the lil green eyed monster is in many of us " Thanks for that | |||
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"I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now. We both agreed that it was just sexual and we were both free to see other people. I've always been open and honest with him. He knew I was on here and other sites. Never a problem between us. Then the other night I went on a date with a guy who lives near me. I hadn't mentioned the date as it was a last minute decision. Obviously someone saw us out and by the time I got home I had several massages on my phone from him. He wanted to know why i was out with someone else. He went on about how he felt cheated on.yes feel very very bad buy him flowers and seduce him infront of an open fire Might try that its the only way I'll get back to you and let you know if it works if you like him it will but I'll let you into one of my lil secrets keep everything you do close to your amazing chest, the lil green eyed monster is in many of us Thanks for that " well it is unfortunately as youve now found out | |||
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"He has definitely developed feelings for you. The question is, if its mutual? But if you have both pre-agreed that you will meet when you both free, then he cant really call you out on it. Just my opinion though. " I as a man want just what your offering, It's hard to meet a lady that can be considered openly to enjoying ourselves and still have the guy involved in the background, Your completely in the right OP he should be thankful | |||
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"He has definitely developed feelings for you. The question is, if its mutual? But if you have both pre-agreed that you will meet when you both free, then he cant really call you out on it. Just my opinion though. I as a man want just what your offering, It's hard to meet a lady that can be considered openly to enjoying ourselves and still have the guy involved in the background, Your completely in the right OP he should be thankful " Thanks | |||
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"He has definitely developed feelings for you. The question is, if its mutual? But if you have both pre-agreed that you will meet when you both free, then he cant really call you out on it. Just my opinion though. I as a man want just what your offering, It's hard to meet a lady that can be considered openly to enjoying ourselves and still have the guy involved in the background, Your completely in the right OP he should be thankful Thanks " Your very welcome, You always talk to a older guy about anything x | |||
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"He has definitely developed feelings for you. The question is, if its mutual? But if you have both pre-agreed that you will meet when you both free, then he cant really call you out on it. Just my opinion though. I as a man want just what your offering, It's hard to meet a lady that can be considered openly to enjoying ourselves and still have the guy involved in the background, Your completely in the right OP he should be thankful Thanks Your very welcome, You always talk to a older guy about anything x " I don't know if I'd go that far | |||
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"He has definitely developed feelings for you. The question is, if its mutual? But if you have both pre-agreed that you will meet when you both free, then he cant really call you out on it. Just my opinion though. I as a man want just what your offering, It's hard to meet a lady that can be considered openly to enjoying ourselves and still have the guy involved in the background, Your completely in the right OP he should be thankful Thanks Your very welcome, You always talk to a older guy about anything x I don't know if I'd go that far " Ha ha smiling happy new year to you sexy | |||
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"He has definitely developed feelings for you. The question is, if its mutual? But if you have both pre-agreed that you will meet when you both free, then he cant really call you out on it. Just my opinion though. I as a man want just what your offering, It's hard to meet a lady that can be considered openly to enjoying ourselves and still have the guy involved in the background, Your completely in the right OP he should be thankful Thanks Your very welcome, You always talk to a older guy about anything x I don't know if I'd go that far Ha ha smiling happy new year to you sexy " Happy New Year | |||
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"He has definitely developed feelings for you. The question is, if its mutual? But if you have both pre-agreed that you will meet when you both free, then he cant really call you out on it. Just my opinion though. " Not mutual. I don't do feelings. | |||
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"Men lie...and tell women what they want to hear to get what they want.....he told he was fine with NSA to get you in the sack....and he clearly wasn’t...." Thanks | |||
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