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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey all, I was wondering is it polite and acceptable to send a message to someone you have seen looking at your profile but not messaged you..

"simply saying something along the lines of thank for looking at my profile, what made you want to have a peek and what out you off messaging me out of curiosity."

I may do this so I can learn and perfect my profile more and to learn what different people like and don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't send a message to someone who has looked at my profile. For me If someone has looked and then upon that has not messaged you or sent a wink etc then I obviously was not what they was looking for. But would love to be proven wrong lol

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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Perving is ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally don't send a message to someone who has looked at my profile. For me If someone has looked and then upon that has not messaged you or sent a wink etc then I obviously was not what they was looking for. But would love to be proven wrong lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yeah, I understand that sometimes I wonder though why what was it. It's not that i'm bothered more that i'm curious.

I have messaged thanks for looking before and sometimes get a message back saying they are very interested and wasn't going to meet.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

i have messaged some one who used to look at my profile every day they stopped soon after lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i have messaged some one who used to look at my profile every day they stopped soon after lol

haha, not sure if that was a good or bad thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey all, I was wondering is it polite and acceptable to send a message to someone you have seen looking at your profile but not messaged you..

"simply saying something along the lines of thank for looking at my profile, what made you want to have a peek and what out you off messaging me out of curiosity."

I may do this so I can learn and perfect my profile more and to learn what different people like and don't like.

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Your grammer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah, I understand that sometimes I wonder though why what was it. It's not that i'm bothered more that i'm curious.

I have messaged thanks for looking before and sometimes get a message back saying they are very interested and wasn't going to meet. "

Maybe a forum asking men and women what they look for in profiles the most to give you a few tips on tweeking your profile. I think some of just like a perv now and then or even checking other profiles out to see how we can tweek our own lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok they have looked at your profile a few times with no message this is where a cheeky wink comes into play send them a wink to say your curious then wait for a response if you get one then bingo if not the it was not ment to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey all, I was wondering is it polite and acceptable to send a message to someone you have seen looking at your profile but not messaged you..

"simply saying something along the lines of thank for looking at my profile, what made you want to have a peek and what out you off messaging me out of curiosity."

I may do this so I can learn and perfect my profile more and to learn what different people like and don't like.

Your grammer

How dare you, I would never make a gremmer.. grammar... or spelling mistake.. ahem

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Why not? Read their profile see what they are looking for, whether you meet their requirements, be polite and maybe not too inquisitive.

Faint heart never won fair lady, don't ask don't get and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey all, I was wondering is it polite and acceptable to send a message to someone you have seen looking at your profile but not messaged you..

"simply saying something along the lines of thank for looking at my profile, what made you want to have a peek and what out you off messaging me out of curiosity."

I may do this so I can learn and perfect my profile more and to learn what different people like and don't like.

Your grammer

How dare you, I would never make a gremmer.. grammar... or spelling mistake.. ahem

Couldn't help myself, sorry pal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey all, I was wondering is it polite and acceptable to send a message to someone you have seen looking at your profile but not messaged you..

"simply saying something along the lines of thank for looking at my profile, what made you want to have a peek and what out you off messaging me out of curiosity."

I may do this so I can learn and perfect my profile more and to learn what different people like and don't like.

Your grammer

How dare you, I would never make a gremmer.. grammar... or spelling mistake.. ahem

Couldn't help myself, sorry pal

:p well if your not careful you may need tying down and taught a good lesson :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that's fine so long as you fit what they are looking for so good luck

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over a year ago

I don't think theres anything wrong in sending a message if you like the look of some one thats been looking at you

What I would'nt do is mention that you'd seen them looking or ask what put them off messaging you,for a start you may not like the replies,I would be put off by a message like that as I would'nt want to do a profile critique on the basis that id looked at someone a couple of times and not messaged them

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I have a goldfish memory. If someone posts on the forum I look at their profile, I may do that several times and it's men, women, TVs etc. Does not mean I'm interested sexually.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Hey all, I was wondering is it polite and acceptable to send a message to someone you have seen looking at your profile but not messaged you..

"simply saying something along the lines of thank for looking at my profile, what made you want to have a peek and what out you off messaging me out of curiosity."

I may do this so I can learn and perfect my profile more and to learn what different people like and don't like.

That would really put me off and is one of the reasons I read profiles in stealth mode

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I have to some and not to others.... sometime fortune favours the brave and have had some good conversations with people who have had a nosey.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey all, I was wondering is it polite and acceptable to send a message to someone you have seen looking at your profile but not messaged you..

"simply saying something along the lines of thank for looking at my profile, what made you want to have a peek and what out you off messaging me out of curiosity."

I may do this so I can learn and perfect my profile more and to learn what different people like and don't like.

Just message them normally and don't mention them looking that way it doesn't look as though its the only reason you are messaging them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I wrote to everyone who looked at me and hadn't messaged, it would be a continuous job.

I know that people look at my profile mainly for the pictures. I cannot deal with the ones that haven't messaged after looking as I only respond to those who have messaged me.

I would be slightly irritated if someone messaged asking me why I'd looked. Chances are I wouldn't remember anyway.

Why would you want to risk a negative. Isn't it enough that they didn't message rather than being told bluntly what they don't like about your profile. What would change, if you changed your profile they probably still wouldn't meet you.

I agree men probably don't have the same volume as women, but if you like the look of someone just message them without the need of asking why. People want fun not interrogation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do try to reply to all messages -- but its a bit needy to reply to looked at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey all, I was wondering is it polite and acceptable to send a message to someone you have seen looking at your profile but not messaged you..

"simply saying something along the lines of thank for looking at my profile, what made you want to have a peek and what out you off messaging me out of curiosity."

I may do this so I can learn and perfect my profile more and to learn what different people like and don't like.

You seriously want to know that ?

Dan, you have been here long enough to realise that none of us can be attractive to everyone.

Just accept that they saw or read something that didn't fit what they were looking for.

That is, of course, assuming they were actually looking for something in the first place.

You use the forums quite a bit - that will heighten your visibility on the site.

I often click on a posters profile just to see the person behind the comment or remark as opposed to thinking 'hmmm nice avatar, let's see what lurks inside'

I don't look at everyone as them potentially being part of a quest to find new sexual partners.

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