FabSwingers.com forum: The day has finally come :(

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My youngest came home today and said Callum said that Father Christmas isn’t real. Is he not real mum?

I just said. Well I believe and I get presents.

What do/did you say?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

My little girl called me out on it when she was about 8/9. I was busy going on about Santa coming etc ... and she just looked at me deadpan and said “mum, I know he’s not real.”. My heart broke.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell him the truth. How can he trust me if I lie to him about a guy with a belly

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My little girl called me out on it when she was about 8/9. I was busy going on about Santa coming etc ... and she just looked at me deadpan and said “mum, I know he’s not real.”. My heart broke.

It is isn’t it! Having quite a bit age gap with mine I’ve always had one who believed! I need a grandchild now!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nooo, he is definitely real. I work with him!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd tell him the truth. How can he trust me if I lie to him about a guy with a belly "

That’s why I said what I did. I didn’t say yes he’s real or no he’s not lol. I think I may have got away with it!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no

that's so sad. I don't know how I'll react when my daughter finds out but it won't be for a long time hopefully. I hope your little one isn't too upset. It's a tough situation if they take it bad.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh no

that's so sad. I don't know how I'll react when my daughter finds out but it won't be for a long time hopefully. I hope your little one isn't too upset. It's a tough situation if they take it bad. "

She seems to have accepted my answer for now!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd tell him the truth. How can he trust me if I lie to him about a guy with a belly "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I tell mine that santa, tooth fairy etc are magic and sometimes as people grow older they forget to believe in magic, it doesn't mean it doesn't exist it's just that a person's thoughts get busy with life

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Santa is always real. But he gives all the childern of the world just a little present.

Mum and dad like add a few extra presents to the pile.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hisCharManMan
over a year ago

South Manchester

Welcome to real world kids, now get back to sweeping that chimney

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My youngest came home today and said Callum said that Father Christmas isn’t real. Is he not real mum?

I just said. Well I believe and I get presents.

What do/did you say?"

not sure when I lost my belief in my family

I just could not work out how reindeer fly in the sky and no one eat the mince pies I made for the reindeer ...I loved the fantasy, reality hit hard!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tell mine that santa, tooth fairy etc are magic and sometimes as people grow older they forget to believe in magic, it doesn't mean it doesn't exist it's just that a person's thoughts get busy with life

Oh that's lovely! I like that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to real world kids, now get back to sweeping that chimney

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Santa is always real. But he gives all the childern of the world just a little present.

Mum and dad like add a few extra presents to the pile."

Santa just does the stockings here and he always leaves a family game, other than that everyone “sends” their presents to Lapland and he delivers them if they’re good

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How old are they? X

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, had the same from both my girl's...Sadly my heart didn't break, I was damned glad to see back of Santa outfit

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How old are they? X"

She’s 10 so it’s about time I suppose. Other one was younger, I think I got away with a bit longer as she goes to a special school.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

Yep, had the same from both my girl's...Sadly my heart didn't break, I was damned glad to see back of Santa outfit

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep, had the same from both my girl's...Sadly my heart didn't break, I was damned glad to see back of Santa outfit

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How old are they? X

She’s 10 so it’s about time I suppose. Other one was younger, I think I got away with a bit longer as she goes to a special school. "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told mine just before he went to senior school as I was worried he’d get teased. He said he knew

Hugs to you. X

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

My oldest (10) he's beginning to suspect however I'm afraid he will innocently tell his brother (6) soon. I'd really like my youngest to have the opportunity to believe as long as his brother

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one of my kids stopped believing in santa but still belived in the Tooth Fairy for a few more years

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"My youngest came home today and said Callum said that Father Christmas isn’t real. Is he not real mum?

I just said. Well I believe and I get presents.

What do/did you say?"
I still tell my kids hes real. The older ones all deny it.. yet last year I went to bed and my son asked haven't I put put the food and drink for father Christmas.... I looked at him.. he replied... " well just in case your right and hes real "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"one of my kids stopped believing in santa but still belived in the Tooth Fairy for a few more years

Tooth fairy always forgets here and has to do a letter of apology! Think it’s coz we live in the sticks and she can’t find the house

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My youngest came home today and said Callum said that Father Christmas isn’t real. Is he not real mum?

I just said. Well I believe and I get presents.

What do/did you say? I still tell my kids hes real. The older ones all deny it.. yet last year I went to bed and my son asked haven't I put put the food and drink for father Christmas.... I looked at him.. he replied... " well just in case your right and hes real "

Awwwww I love this! How old? x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My oldest (10) he's beginning to suspect however I'm afraid he will innocently tell his brother (6) soon. I'd really like my youngest to have the opportunity to believe as long as his brother

Yes! It’s horrible when the older siblings spoil it!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

There is a problem with perusing the Santa story for too long that it then can perpetuate the lie, turning your children into liers by getting them to lie to you that they still believe. So that they don't upset you and so that they still get presents.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"My oldest (10) he's beginning to suspect however I'm afraid he will innocently tell his brother (6) soon. I'd really like my youngest to have the opportunity to believe as long as his brother

Yes! It’s horrible when the older siblings spoil it! "

That is horrible!

My older two have played along for years now but I think that this is the last year that my youngest will buy into it. It's sad when the realisation dawns on them as its the end of something magical.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My oldest (10) he's beginning to suspect however I'm afraid he will innocently tell his brother (6) soon. I'd really like my youngest to have the opportunity to believe as long as his brother

Yes! It’s horrible when the older siblings spoil it!

That is horrible!

My older two have played along for years now but I think that this is the last year that my youngest will buy into it. It's sad when the realisation dawns on them as its the end of something magical. "

It really is

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing mine don't believe anymore (youngest is 12) but to their credit they are smart cookies. They've never questioned it. I never did either and I still get a stocking from Santa.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘You believe what you want to believe, I still believe’ is what I tell the kids at work.

If they’re a younger child, I say ‘well of course he’s real, do you think your mum and dad are buying all those presents?!’

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm guessing mine don't believe anymore (youngest is 12) but to their credit they are smart cookies. They've never questioned it. I never did either and I still get a stocking from Santa.

Haha. Wise kids

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My little brother is autistic and when he got to high school people were already bullying him, and he still believed in Santa so the bullying got worse. My mum had to sit him down and explain Santa wasn’t real.

He thought Santa has died

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

My son told me last week that he knows it's me. My daughter's older and only admitted last year that she knew the truth years ago, but kept quiet because she didn't want to spoil the fun for the adults.

I always felt guilty about the yarn, but now it's game over in our house, I feel a little sad.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"My oldest (10) he's beginning to suspect however I'm afraid he will innocently tell his brother (6) soon. I'd really like my youngest to have the opportunity to believe as long as his brother

Yes! It’s horrible when the older siblings spoil it!

That is horrible!

My older two have played along for years now but I think that this is the last year that my youngest will buy into it. It's sad when the realisation dawns on them as its the end of something magical.

It really is

He’s autistic so it would be done innocently enough, also probably the reason he still believes a bit.

I just hope the youngest gets a couple more Christmas days believing

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

If he's not real then who's knee have I been sitting on

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My youngest came home today and said Callum said that Father Christmas isn’t real. Is he not real mum?

I just said. Well I believe and I get presents.

What do/did you say?"

Talking about the spirit of Santa - Generosity, Kindnesses and happiness, can help keep the magic alive. No matter our age!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"My youngest came home today and said Callum said that Father Christmas isn’t real. Is he not real mum?

I just said. Well I believe and I get presents.

Awwwww I love this! How old? x "
he was 17 lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is he really not real

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My youngest asked me a couple of years ago, I told him the truth

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never want this day to come. My kids are very little and I’m taking them to see Santa tomorrow. I’m really looking forward to seeing my three year olds face. The day he tells me he’s not real, I think will break my heart.

Christmas is magic for believing kids.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he's not real then who's knee have I been sitting on

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have neither confirmed nor denied the rumour. If they want gifts they have to at least pretend to believe

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our tooth fairy got pissed and forgot to leave the money

. Slack bitch

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my son at 11 before he started senior school as I was worried about the reaction of others he was like mum I already know! It's a shame as I miss the magic but he's not far off 17 now

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My youngest came home today and said Callum said that Father Christmas isn’t real. Is he not real mum?

I just said. Well I believe and I get presents.

What do/did you say?"

In all honesty. I call him the fat man and cannot wait until my daughter tells me she knows its all a scam. I find it insulting and pointless.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’ve never had the conversation. There’s never been a need. I know they don’t believe and they know I know so what is there to say?

I still hide presents until Christmas Eve night after they’ve gone to bed. I wouldn’t ever wrap anything in front of them and we still write to Father Christmas (might be emails these days

)

You have to believe in the magic for the magic to happen. It’s about keeping it special.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never had the conversation. There’s never been a need. I know they don’t believe and they know I know so what is there to say?

I still hide presents until Christmas Eve night after they’ve gone to bed. I wouldn’t ever wrap anything in front of them and we still write to Father Christmas (might be emails these days

)

You have to believe in the magic for the magic to happen. It’s about keeping it special. "

Exactly

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My little brother is autistic and when he got to high school people were already bullying him, and he still believed in Santa so the bullying got worse. My mum had to sit him down and explain Santa wasn’t real.

He thought Santa has died

That is such a sad story.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dread this day! My 2 still believe and the excitement and awe in their eyes whenever they see or talk about santa is adorable.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried to get my niece to have a picture taken with santa and the closer I got to santa the more she cried, then she got out of the pram and ran away.. she's always been afraid of santa.

Still wants him to bring her "big toys" though lol.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *horley ChickWoman
over a year ago

Chorley

"My oldest (10) he's beginning to suspect however I'm afraid he will innocently tell his brother (6) soon. I'd really like my youngest to have the opportunity to believe as long as his brother

Yes! It’s horrible when the older siblings spoil it!

That is horrible!

My older two have played along for years now but I think that this is the last year that my youngest will buy into it. It's sad when the realisation dawns on them as its the end of something magical.

It really is

Yeah - unfortunately when they become older it’s just about getting stuff! It’s only when they’re ‘proper grownups’ that it means anything again - but then it’s love, family etc - and the pleasure of giving to loved ones rather than receiving!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

The tooth fairy comes in the night with a pair of pliers for children that don't clean their teeth. Santa comes for bad children and takes them away in his bag to feed to the reindeer...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant..a great way...love it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

He thought Santa has died

That is so heart breaking

Poor little fella - I bet he was absolutely broken

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"I'd tell him the truth. How can he trust me if I lie to him about a guy with a belly "

Agreed

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

I used to tell my kids that when you become a parent, you get told a secret about Father Christmas.

Now that they are grown up, I have passed on the secret- that YOU are Father Christmas...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

And Log onto the NORAD Track Santa website. Show them.live updates from a nuclear air defence early warning system!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"And Log onto the NORAD Track Santa website. Show them.live updates from a nuclear air defence early warning system!"

Ooooo, they also have a stargate

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

I told mine... the day you don’t believe is when the magic (and stocking presents) stop... suddenly they believe in the magic once again.

Now all I need is someone in some magic stockings... any offers?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd tell him the truth. How can he trust me if I lie to him about a guy with a belly

I'm lucky, I'm already a jolly fat bloke who gets the kids presents.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to tell mine. I figured I couldn’t let her go to high school still believing, that place is tough enough without something like that. I expected tears but she turned around and said “I’ve known for years, I was just pretending so I didn’t upset you”

Beast

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Santa is like sex. They already know by the time you tell them

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"How old are they? X"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Man up, yr 26

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread