FabSwingers.com forum: Positive or negative

By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'

I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.

Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I just post whatever I'm thinking, I lack filters

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I just post whatever I'm thinking, I lack filters

But do you deliberately try and cause a reaction when you do it? X

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive

Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas

Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words

Often without throwing poop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive

Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas

Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words

Often without throwing poop "

I post what I think but do attempt to wrap it up in flowery blah blah if it’s negative.

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive

Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas

Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words

Often without throwing poop "

It's the posts about certain kinks that I mean. The ones who will go on and say really negative comments about something they don't like or understand. Is this fair or should they just avoid them? I understand everyone can have an opinion about something x

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"I just post whatever I'm thinking, I lack filters

But do you deliberately try and cause a reaction when you do it? X"

No, but it might come across that way to others. I have a bit of a dry, sarcastic sense of humour that doesn't come across so well in text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe both... Mood allowing

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Errrrm. Now let me think.

I'm not sure if you know this, but I try to be positive.

I even try to turn negatives into a positive.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Depends on the thread I suppose. I try to be positive but sometimes if I get annoyed I'll obviously be seen as negative xx

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I prefer not to say or post anything as it may affect my evaluation in January

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive

Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas

Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words

Often without throwing poop

But opinion should be a level of informed opinion

I do sometimes think that it may be best if certain posts weren't sent .. especially if things have been completely misinterpreted ... but then ... in a textual format it is difficult to get the intonation across ... something said wittily or sarcastically can be read as something serious

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

It can be very easy for comments to be misconstrued on here, always more challenging with writing rather than talking. For that reason I think quite carefully about what I post, if I'm debating with someone or it's a contentious issue.

Generally I'm a positive poster I think

Mrs TMN x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive

Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas

Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words

Often without throwing poop

I personally wish they would just avoid them but sadly we can't always get what we want. Its frustrating when you start a thread looking for people with a shared interest and it just gets filled up with people who feel the need to tell you it's not for them. It's pretty boring to be honest and partly why I've mostly stopped starting threads unless they're silly ones or about totally non-fab related things like food

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

The lost in translation bit I get. Humour/sarcasm etc can sometimes be misinterpreted. It's the ones that, I think, deliberately try and cause offence x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive I think, if I don’t like it or understand it I don’t post x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive

Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas

Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words

Often without throwing poop

But opinion should be a level of informed opinion

People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive

Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas

Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words

Often without throwing poop

But opinion should be a level of informed opinion

People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so."

agreed

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Mainly I reply with what comes into my head and hopefully it’s mainly funny and brings a smile or raises an eyebrow to someone face

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

I mainly fire on tea and sarcasm- i never share my tea!

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so."

This is my thinking. If it doesn't interest you, if you have nothing constructive to add or if you don't have a question relating to it/wanting to understand.... then move on or start your own x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so.

This is my thinking. If it doesn't interest you, if you have nothing constructive to add or if you don't have a question relating to it/wanting to understand.... then move on or start your own x"

If only!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.

Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.

I think I've strayed away from the OP now!

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'

I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.

Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x"

I am a positive person and will always look on the bright side. Some people are wind up merchants and I rarely take notice of them

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.

Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.

I think I've strayed away from the OP now! "

I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care

. I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Very positive

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.

Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.

I think I've strayed away from the OP now!

I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care

. I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me."

Hell to the naysayers .. be the person you are

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.

Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.

I think I've strayed away from the OP now!

I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care

. I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me.

Hell to the naysayers .. be the person you are"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can name you every negative poster if you like because they're constantly on my threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m positively charged where’s the girls at ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.

Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.

I think I've strayed away from the OP now!

I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care

. I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me."

Amen sister

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so.

This is my thinking. If it doesn't interest you, if you have nothing constructive to add or if you don't have a question relating to it/wanting to understand.... then move on or start your own x"

Needs more people like you on here RR X

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Ooo, very negative. Too much positivity makes me sick so I like to balance it out with reality

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Are you a positive poster or a negative one?"

I'm an honest poster, I say it as I see it. If people think I'm being negative, that's their right, but public forums are for free speech

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

I’ve never really thought about this, but I’m a glass half full so I’m guessing most of what I post is positive. I do enjoy a good debate but rarely find one on the forums here, most of what I post never generates a response. Still fun reading though.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I will post if I have a contribution to make. I don't post to say I don't have anything to say. Most of my posts are positive or an attempt at humour. Luke

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Always positive me

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Balanced. Too much positivity is just as bad as too much negativity.

I love a discussion however more often than not it ends up as more just people stating what they believe/know and not willing to discuss, or willing to even listen to another side.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.

Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.

I think I've strayed away from the OP now!

I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care

. I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me."

It's not about people liking me, it's more about not having the energy to defend my actions or preferences from the close minded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always jolly positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think I'm positive on the forums. I'm a very positive person in real life, glass is half full kind of person. It definitely helps with my depression to try my best look on the bright side although some days the negative side does win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a positive poster

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.

Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.

I think I've strayed away from the OP now!

I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care

. I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me.

It's not about people liking me, it's more about not having the energy to defend my actions or preferences from the close minded. "

That's totally fair! I was just explaining my own reasoning

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.

Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.

I think I've strayed away from the OP now!

I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care

. I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me.

It's not about people liking me, it's more about not having the energy to defend my actions or preferences from the close minded.

That's totally fair! I was just explaining my own reasoning

Yes, I know you weren't having a pop at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The glass is always half full..

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Balanced. Too much positivity is just as bad as too much negativity.

I love a discussion however more often than not it ends up as more just people stating what they believe/know and not willing to discuss, or willing to even listen to another side. "

I like a good discussion. I like to see things from other peoples' perspective. It's when posters deliberately try and kink shame or just post negativity and nothing constructive I just think "why?" X

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m a positive poster. I do think some like to throw in the a negative comment deliberately to get a rise but they will only get one if people fall for it

I’ve joined in one of two debates when it’s something I feel strongly about I’m not really sure there’s a point because some just want a row not a debate. Resorting to name calling seems to be a favourite thing.

It’s not a crime to be positive and happy

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’m a positive poster. I do think some like to throw in the a negative comment deliberately to get a rise but they will only get one if people fall for it

It’s not a crime to be positive and happy

That's how I see it too. Some just want to argue for the sake of it. I like the threads when posters act mature and say their viewpoints. I like to understand different views on topics. An argument though, just for the sake of it, spoils some threads x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Positive I think, if I don’t like it or understand it I don’t post x "

This

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm a positive flirty poster, there is always room for compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a positive flirty poster, there is always room for compliments

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me to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think I’m quite positive. I may come across as negative sometimes because I tend to say if I disagree with something. Not sure really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m neither positive nor negative intentionally. I just post whatever comes to mind. I don’t think much about what I post. It just unload my stream of consciousness.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I'm largely a positive and supportive poster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually a positive minded person and poster.

Though sometimes...

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'

I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.

Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x"

I like throwing in the odd "thread grenade" or playing the devils advocate on certain threads.

But normally I see this place as fun and post as such.

If you do see a thread or post that is serious then it's normally due to the above.

Otherwise, I try not to take it serious and smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know I have never asked myself

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'

I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.

Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x

I like throwing in the odd "thread grenade" or playing the devils advocate on certain threads.

But normally I see this place as fun and post as such.

If you do see a thread or post that is serious then it's normally due to the above.

Otherwise, I try not to take it serious and smile

Devils advocate is good. It shows you are seeing from different viewpoints x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.

Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.

I think I've strayed away from the OP now!

I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care

. I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me.

It's not about people liking me, it's more about not having the energy to defend my actions or preferences from the close minded.

That's totally fair! I was just explaining my own reasoning

Yes, I know you weren't having a pop at me

It would take some doing for me to do that to you

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'

I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.

Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x

I like throwing in the odd "thread grenade" or playing the devils advocate on certain threads.

But normally I see this place as fun and post as such.

If you do see a thread or post that is serious then it's normally due to the above.

Otherwise, I try not to take it serious and smile

Devils advocate is good. It shows you are seeing from different viewpoints x"

Or I am a twat.

Depends on your point of view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just post whatever I'm thinking, I lack filters

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'

I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.

Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x

I like throwing in the odd "thread grenade" or playing the devils advocate on certain threads.

But normally I see this place as fun and post as such.

If you do see a thread or post that is serious then it's normally due to the above.

Otherwise, I try not to take it serious and smile

Devils advocate is good. It shows you are seeing from different viewpoints x

Or I am a twat.

Depends on your point of view

I'm putting a positive spin on it in keeping with the thread x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm both (I think) I'll give a balanced view with a slice of the good and the bad.

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm both (I think) I'll give a balanced view with a slice of the good and the bad.

I like your posts. You see both sides and always explain, very eloquently, your opinions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I’m positive I like to spread positivity but I also like to be honest and I speak my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm neither. I think the forum benefits from a mix of people. It would be dull if all were positive or all were negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will post positively even on a negative thread theres always an upside to something that's not quiet gone right

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm neither. I think the forum benefits from a mix of people. It would be dull if all were positive or all were negative. "

Balance is good. Real life is a mix of both. I'm talking about posters who deliberately antagonise. Not putting or saying anything constructive, just wanting to cause an argument for the sake of it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm a bit of both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'

I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.

Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x"

It's their perception of how they see the world. I believe people see others the way they see themselves. I accept it and move on. Sometimes we agree to disagree. But that is not the end of the world!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm neither. I think the forum benefits from a mix of people. It would be dull if all were positive or all were negative.

Balance is good. Real life is a mix of both. I'm talking about posters who deliberately antagonise. Not putting or saying anything constructive, just wanting to cause an argument for the sake of it x"

I think they have their place. As do those who want everyone to get along and only say nice stuff. Both extremes have their own issues though imo.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Positivity is sexy

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm a positive person so generally try to be positive.

I do occasionally feel the need to express disagreement, but I don't troll or feel the need to be negative about things just because I have a different perspective or opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m quite a positive person, in general. I mean we all have off days, right?

If a thread gnarls me though I’ll tend to just get sarcastic / defensive.

I generally find if you’re being negative you might as well as be shouting at a wall.

I think people post / try to post controversial comments just to get noticed / stand out.

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