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To scared to mail.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I the only person on here that finds themselves looking at someone a few times.

But don't mail because you are scared or embarrassed about getting a bad mail back.

Sometimes I feel that it's is better i don't get a response.

Because I have had a few to many bad ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just mail them without thinking about it the worst they can say is no after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best advice, be the siren on the rock and let your song draw in those that are captivated by it. That way you cant go wrong, may take a while, but patience is a virtue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only person on here that finds themselves looking at someone a few times.

But don't mail because you are scared or embarrassed about getting a bad mail back.

Sometimes I feel that it's is better i don't get a response.

Because I have had a few to many bad ones."
males are in this boat, we probably get rejected 95% of the time but you have to keep on trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone sending a bad mail is the one with the problem not you, as long as you're friendly and polite you've nothing to lose really.

Sure, it might not go anywhere but at the end of the day they're just a stranger on an Internet site, it's not like you're ever going to have to face them and be embarrassed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone sending a bad mail is the one with the problem not you, as long as you're friendly and polite you've nothing to lose really.

Sure, it might not go anywhere but at the end of the day they're just a stranger on an Internet site, it's not like you're ever going to have to face them and be embarrassed. "
this is some good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just mail them without thinking about it the worst they can say is no after all."

oh go on then i dont mind x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love sending the first message. Because it'll be to someone behind a profile that's piqued my interest.

Always exciting to see how it'll pan out.

The positive outcomes outweigh the others. And really favour the honesty when there's nothing to pursue. Even though it did sting the first time haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love sending the first message. Because it'll be to someone behind a profile that's piqued my interest.

Always exciting to see how it'll pan out.

The positive outcomes outweigh the others. And really favour the honesty when there's nothing to pursue. Even though it did sting the first time haha"
females have it a touch easier because they will always get a message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"females have it a touch easier because they will always get a message back "

Because most male profiles may not be bombarded with 300+ messages when they log in and so can manage their incoming messages easier ?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Just go for it, you have nothing to lose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would just love one message from over here lol I get a few from the UK mainland but can't remember last time I got a message from here in Belfast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"females have it a touch easier because they will always get a message back

Because most male profiles may not be bombarded with 300+ messages when they log in and so can manage their incoming messages easier ?

It's because guys are terrible at speaking. It's normally a cock pic and a I'm horny message and we get excited when a lady messages us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because guys are terrible at speaking. It's normally a cock pic and a I'm horny message and we get excited when a lady messages us

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Time to go and excite ! Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because guys are terrible at speaking. It's normally a cock pic and a I'm horny message and we get excited when a lady messages us

Time to go and excite ! Ha "
yes it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"females have it a touch easier because they will always get a message back

Because most male profiles may not be bombarded with 300+ messages when they log in and so can manage their incoming messages easier ?

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Well its kinda crazy among the gay/bi community, or if youre listed as TS and passable, you get bombarded just as much as women. Its an exclusively male thing to spam messages regardless of the sex/identity of the receiver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I get scared so don't bother lol

However, you could mail then delete and block if they reply badly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I get scared so don't bother lol

However, you could mail then delete and block if they reply badly"

Really? Only thing i can think of thatll result in a horrible response to your message is the guy getting scared of the alternative look you got going, and thats them getting scared. You approach me in a bar and id buy you a drink with a chat

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Yeah I get scared so don't bother lol

However, you could mail then delete and block if they reply badly

Really? Only thing i can think of thatll result in a horrible response to your message is the guy getting scared of the alternative look you got going, and thats them getting scared. You approach me in a bar and id buy you a drink with a chat"

Awww thanks I look forward to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting a round in ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not brave enough to send the 1st message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I get scared so don't bother lol

However, you could mail then delete and block if they reply badly

Really? Only thing i can think of thatll result in a horrible response to your message is the guy getting scared of the alternative look you got going, and thats them getting scared. You approach me in a bar and id buy you a drink with a chat

Awww thanks I look forward to it."

Umm that wasnt towards you but yeah sure you too... shit i hope this thread dont start getting too expensive for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet tease and dotty ... what is there to be scared of?

Don't let fear of anything stop you from messaging someone you wish make contact with. Go on, extend the first hand!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Yeah I get scared so don't bother lol

However, you could mail then delete and block if they reply badly

Really? Only thing i can think of thatll result in a horrible response to your message is the guy getting scared of the alternative look you got going, and thats them getting scared. You approach me in a bar and id buy you a drink with a chat

Awww thanks I look forward to it.

Umm that wasnt towards you but yeah sure you too... shit i hope this thread dont start getting too expensive for me lol "

I gathered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I get scared so don't bother lol

However, you could mail then delete and block if they reply badly

Really? Only thing i can think of thatll result in a horrible response to your message is the guy getting scared of the alternative look you got going, and thats them getting scared. You approach me in a bar and id buy you a drink with a chat"

Aww thank you, I'll hold you too that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sweet tease and dotty ... what is there to be scared of?

Don't let fear of anything stop you from messaging someone you wish make contact with. Go on, extend the first hand!"

I know it's silly really. I should gingerly extend one's hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I get scared so don't bother lol

However, you could mail then delete and block if they reply badly

Really? Only thing i can think of thatll result in a horrible response to your message is the guy getting scared of the alternative look you got going, and thats them getting scared. You approach me in a bar and id buy you a drink with a chat

Aww thank you, I'll hold you too that "

Well if im near derby anytime feel free to hop in the car for a spin

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I hope nobody is too scared to contact us. All respectful messages will get a respectful reply. The only reasons not to contact us are that you don'thhave anything interesting to say and/or is that there's no reason to think we would get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sweet tease and dotty ... what is there to be scared of?

Don't let fear of anything stop you from messaging someone you wish make contact with. Go on, extend the first hand!"

Im not the most confident person, even though ive been on n off here since 2008. And if i messaged a guy I liked and never got a reply..it was make me feel poop lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only person on here that finds themselves looking at someone a few times.

But don't mail because you are scared or embarrassed about getting a bad mail back.

Sometimes I feel that it's is better i don't get a response.

Because I have had a few to many bad ones."

You're most definitely not. Me personally I mainly get it when Im thinking of messaging a Girl. Probably a fear of rejection and atleast a fear of getting a message back saying I'm a freak or something. But talking to women as chloe and going to clubs and out to places like pinks has helped with that. Probably is due to a lack of confidence overall.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I mailed and got a no thanks so back to being disappointed again

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I just assume that they wouldnt be interested. I can save face that way

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

You get use to being told, no thanks, fuck off or totally ignored

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley


"I just mail them without thinking about it the worst they can say is no after all."

Who on earth would say no to you???

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I try never msg, first i look the profile and i read , if are interested they can wink or msg because they will know i saw their profile if doesn't hapen is because there's no conection probably . I'm never the one taking the first step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes often.

But if you don’t ask...

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't worry they won't reply, I worry they'll just be a dick, or a one word replier, you know the type, you're giving them gold and they reply "lol". But if you don't message you'll never find out I suppose.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Yes often.

But if you don’t ask..."

Well if i don't ask we never know what could be the answer but same works to the other side if they don't ask they will never know the answer . I just prefere not disturb and let people decide for themselves

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