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By *aitonel OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

More so aimed at the singles on fa, but certainly not limited to them.

Have you ever been getting to know, or chatting to somebody, or on a date with somebody that is "vanilla". They have no idea about fab, and sexual talk is slightly more taboo early on, then without realising it the filter shuts down and you are a bit more sexual with your flirting and conversation?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Only 'dates' I've been on are fab socials. I'm very flirty IRL anyway and have a filthy mind that can turn any conversation rude. If I ever went on a 'vanilla' date I'd probably be the same x

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I don't do 'vanilla dates'

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By *2and3quartersWoman
over a year ago

Bumbletown

My last vanilla date was so dull, I don't think I'll bother trying again

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

The tone of my conversation tends to end up in the gutter at some point anyway.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I haven't been on a date in about 15 years. But it would probably depend how comfortable I was with the person and whether I'd remembered to take my meds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not convinced I'd know what to do. It's been the best part of 23 years since I went on a first date so it would probably scare the living shit out me.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Yes so I dont bother now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is just describing work for me haha... So many raised eyebrows nobody needs a face lift with me about

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"This is just describing work for me haha... So many raised eyebrows nobody needs a face lift with me about "

My boss is for ever shaking his head and smirking.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Yes, I met someone last year and we didn't kiss until the end of the second date. Flirting was impossible without the fear of just going full 'fab' and melting her face off.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It can happen, all depends where the conversation naturally flows

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I only have fab dates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Havent been on a date in awhike tbh but its a bit of a myth about most non fab folk being very very vanilla. Most are as fucking bad as us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When texting my guy in the beginning stages it was unusual not to be asked for pictures of my tits, cunt or asshole and was unusual not to be sent cock pictures! Conversation was a little bit flirty and I said I could read his palm if he sent me a picture of his hand (I could tell how big his dick was from that!).

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By *aitonel OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"This is just describing work for me haha... So many raised eyebrows nobody needs a face lift with me about "

This is what I mean. Not just dates, but people who are not accustomed to our personalities.

When I'm talking to anyone on fab, sex and anything sex related is generally already on the cards. For the most part there are no boundaries.

When away from fab you are unsure of how they will take it if they are not used to your personality yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More so aimed at the singles on fa, but certainly not limited to them.

Have you ever been getting to know, or chatting to somebody, or on a date with somebody that is "vanilla". They have no idea about fab, and sexual talk is slightly more taboo early on, then without realising it the filter shuts down and you are a bit more sexual with your flirting and conversation? "

Nope

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By *aitonel OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Yes, I met someone last year and we didn't kiss until the end of the second date. Flirting was impossible without the fear of just going full 'fab' and melting her face off. "

Exactly! If you go too sexual too soon, even in a sense of joking that can often risk chasing away potentional future dates. Don't want it to seem like that's what it's all about.

As I said above, on fab it is usually all on the table, so any mention of sex is part of the convo anyway. Outside of fab (or nsa) sometimes it's a dangerous line to walk when you are so used to just being thst mindset with people.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I try to act shocked when I went on vanilla dates if the conversation turned blue. I never instigated it. I like it to be my little secret that really I am a naughty girl.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Nope, I'm more likely to be said vanilla person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah like it was hard not to turn the conversation smutty for fear of looking like a slag or making him think I was only good for a fuck cos he’s from the real world not fab.

I think I came across quite reserved and innocent for the first month of dating then when we started sleeping together it was all systems go. Sucking him off or fucking his nose when he was asleep, asking him if I could hold his dick whilst he had a pee and then building up to getting him to piss in my mouth.

Think he knows now that I’m a little bit kinky.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

The worst for me was going from a BDSM site to a mainstream dating site. Got asked what I was into and replied with "No blood, no scat, no kids, no animals, no extreme pain, otherwise it's all up for discussion".

Very long silence between messages, then "I meant do you have any hobbies, do you like the cinema?"

I'm pretty inappropriate at the best of times, so even a non-fab acquaintance will quickly figure out I'm a libidinous old bird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never had a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The worst for me was going from a BDSM site to a mainstream dating site. Got asked what I was into and replied with "No blood, no scat, no kids, no animals, no extreme pain, otherwise it's all up for discussion".

Very long silence between messages, then "I meant do you have any hobbies, do you like the cinema?"

I'm pretty inappropriate at the best of times, so even a non-fab acquaintance will quickly figure out I'm a libidinous old bird."
love this post so much!

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"The worst for me was going from a BDSM site to a mainstream dating site. Got asked what I was into and replied with "No blood, no scat, no kids, no animals, no extreme pain, otherwise it's all up for discussion".

Very long silence between messages, then "I meant do you have any hobbies, do you like the cinema?"

I'm pretty inappropriate at the best of times, so even a non-fab acquaintance will quickly figure out I'm a libidinous old bird."

So do you like the cinema?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More so aimed at the singles on fa, but certainly not limited to them.

Have you ever been getting to know, or chatting to somebody, or on a date with somebody that is "vanilla". They have no idea about fab, and sexual talk is slightly more taboo early on, then without realising it the filter shuts down and you are a bit more sexual with your flirting and conversation? "

"Vanilla" the most overused word on the site

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By *aitonel OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"More so aimed at the singles on fa, but certainly not limited to them.

Have you ever been getting to know, or chatting to somebody, or on a date with somebody that is "vanilla". They have no idea about fab, and sexual talk is slightly more taboo early on, then without realising it the filter shuts down and you are a bit more sexual with your flirting and conversation?

"Vanilla" the most overused word on the site"
good observation, buddy!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Actually its so refreshing to have a normal conversation with the opposite sex not focused around sex. Stimulate my mind!!! It really does get so boring (rolls eyes) the same old, same old and I lose interest very quietly now and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been with my wife since we were at school. Our first date was me carrying her bag to school

The only date I've ever been on was a social with someone on here who I've been involved with for three years now.

I'm not sure if that counts as a date.

Lol no dates but a happy marriage, girlfriend and more sexual partners than anyone I've ever met.

... Thinking dating might not be my thing...

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