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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

.... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell...

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If you were a regular dancer then you are probably self motivated so you don't need any help from the trainers, so just do your own thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course. They’re not just for building muscle. I do, for toning. Less weight more reps x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you were a regular dancer then you are probably self motivated so you don't need any help from the trainers, so just do your own thing. "

Nothing to do with motivation, just which equipment to use at the gym.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Staying strong is a very good thing. It helps keep weight under control too by causing you to burn more calories to feed your muscles even when you are not exercising.

They have no business telling you that you shouldn't do weights.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of course. They’re not just for building muscle. I do, for toning. Less weight more reps x"

Yes! This is what I needed to hear. So you’re doing just the weight machines?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Low weight high reps , works for me but everyone is different

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Staying strong is a very good thing. It helps keep weight under control too by causing you to burn more calories to feed your muscles even when you are not exercising.

They have no business telling you that you shouldn't do weights. "

They want to work out a programme for me?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd complain about them. Totally unprofessional and its cockwombles like them that put people off joining x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell..."

All depends on what your goals are. If you plan to do weight training, you may end up putting a bit more weight. This os because muscles are heavier than fat, and your muscle will retain a lot more water.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course. They’re not just for building muscle. I do, for toning. Less weight more reps x

Yes! This is what I needed to hear. So you’re doing just the weight machines?"

Yes and sometimes the free weights. I don’t have much weight on it though. I’m not looking to build muscle. I do cardio too but yes I do the weights and I’ve noticed a difference x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell...

All depends on what your goals are. If you plan to do weight training, you may end up putting a bit more weight. This os because muscles are heavier than fat, and your muscle will retain a lot more water. "

Not bothered by how much I weigh really...

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

Just use the machines and dumb bells. Watch YouTube for tips on it. And watch what other people are doing so you know how all the equipment in your gym works at it varies by brand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell...

All depends on what your goals are. If you plan to do weight training, you may end up putting a bit more weight. This os because muscles are heavier than fat, and your muscle will retain a lot more water.

Not bothered by how much I weigh really..."

I would advise getting a good PT if you are new to the gym. They cost a bit, but totally worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are benefits to both weights and body-weight exercises (TRX- ropes).

What I would say is if you don’t enjoying doing what they tell you to do then you won’t do it so it is pointless.

Toning up is best done by doing light to medium weights with higher repetitions, this will give you greater muscle endurance. Heavier weights with lower repetitions will give you greater muscle strength.

I hope that helps.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm an ex dancer and lift weights. The only thing I will say is to be careful around the extra flexibility you have. In the beginning you'll have a lot more mobility than your usual beginner but not always the strength to match it. It's good to maintain that mobility though so you might need to start with lighter weights than others as you'll be moving through a greater range of motion. I also stretch lots after to keep my flexibility as my muscles heal. I did find however that I had remarkably strong hamstrings. I'm guessing all the years of jumping maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are benefits to both weights and body-weight exercises (TRX- ropes).

What I would say is if you don’t enjoying doing what they tell you to do then you won’t do it so it is pointless.

Toning up is best done by doing light to medium weights with higher repetitions, this will give you greater muscle endurance. Heavier weights with lower repetitions will give you greater muscle strength.

I hope that helps.

"

Agree. She could even mix it up by starting with heavier weights lower reps and by decreasing the weight with higher reps subsequently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Large majority of PTs don't know their arse from their elbow and are completely useless.

There is nothing wrong with the ropes and the like but saying you should be doing that over weights is not very professional.

Do what you want and enjoy.

Free weights would always be my advice as you engage more muscles over machines but if you just want to keep in shape machines will do just fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell..."

As a woman, you need to learn to focus on the gym around your ovulation cycle. Certain times in the month you will lose weight and other times you'd need to do twice as much as a man to do so. Just the differences in hormones find information about that first.

Second, it's all about learning the basics. No fancy equipment needed, if you start just lifting weights without warming up properly you will pick up an injury.

Third meal prep is key

Fourth sleep is essential

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell..."

Sounds like you need to find a GOOD trainer. That one is clearly a blithering idiot Or possibly not comfortable doing weights themself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Large majority of PTs don't know their arse from their elbow and are completely useless.

There is nothing wrong with the ropes and the like but saying you should be doing that over weights is not very professional.

Do what you want and enjoy.

Free weights would always be my advice as you engage more muscles over machines but if you just want to keep in shape machines will do just fine.

"

I would disagree. There are good PTs and not so good ones too. You pay peanuts, you may get monkeys. I have been using a PT for over 12 yrs. He is bloody good. I wouldn't push myself so hard if he wasn't around. That's my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone! That’s all very helpful!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell...

As a woman, you need to learn to focus on the gym around your ovulation cycle. Certain times in the month you will lose weight and other times you'd need to do twice as much as a man to do so. Just the differences in hormones find information about that first.

Second, it's all about learning the basics. No fancy equipment needed, if you start just lifting weights without warming up properly you will pick up an injury.

Third meal prep is key

Fourth sleep is essential"

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Large majority of PTs don't know their arse from their elbow and are completely useless.

There is nothing wrong with the ropes and the like but saying you should be doing that over weights is not very professional.

Do what you want and enjoy.

Free weights would always be my advice as you engage more muscles over machines but if you just want to keep in shape machines will do just fine.

I would disagree. There are good PTs and not so good ones too. You pay peanuts, you may get monkeys. I have been using a PT for over 12 yrs. He is bloody good. I wouldn't push myself so hard if he wasn't around. That's my opinion. "

Not all PTs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Large majority of PTs don't know their arse from their elbow and are completely useless.

There is nothing wrong with the ropes and the like but saying you should be doing that over weights is not very professional.

Do what you want and enjoy.

Free weights would always be my advice as you engage more muscles over machines but if you just want to keep in shape machines will do just fine.

I would disagree. There are good PTs and not so good ones too. You pay peanuts, you may get monkeys. I have been using a PT for over 12 yrs. He is bloody good. I wouldn't push myself so hard if he wasn't around. That's my opinion. "

I didn't say there aren't good PTs, there are, I know a good few.

Cost of a PT does not reflect in their ability either.

I could wipe the floor with all of the PTs in a gym a use.

I still stand by my statement that the large majority are useless. Get people doing ridiculous exercises, squatting on balls and the like, half squats, teaching very poor form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that 4 out of 5 PT's don't really know much about training and nutrition.

So next time he tells you something keep that in mind and do your own research.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Large majority of PTs don't know their arse from their elbow and are completely useless.

There is nothing wrong with the ropes and the like but saying you should be doing that over weights is not very professional.

Do what you want and enjoy.

Free weights would always be my advice as you engage more muscles over machines but if you just want to keep in shape machines will do just fine.

I would disagree. There are good PTs and not so good ones too. You pay peanuts, you may get monkeys. I have been using a PT for over 12 yrs. He is bloody good. I wouldn't push myself so hard if he wasn't around. That's my opinion.

I didn't say there aren't good PTs, there are, I know a good few.

Cost of a PT does not reflect in their ability either.

I could wipe the floor with all of the PTs in a gym a use.

I still stand by my statement that the large majority are useless. Get people doing ridiculous exercises, squatting on balls and the like, half squats, teaching very poor form.

"

I agree. But good ones comes with experience and you pay for their experience! I hear you about inexperienced ones who doesnt know what they are doing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The problem is that I know absolutely nothing about gyms and gym equipment. Zilch, nada, nichts. For total newbies the YouTube videos are just overwhelming and what Lacey said about warmups, didn’t even think of it.

I wouldn’t recognise a good PT. If he had a buff body, that would be credentials enough and that’s just stupid...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The problem is that I know absolutely nothing about gyms and gym equipment. Zilch, nada, nichts. For total newbies the YouTube videos are just overwhelming and what Lacey said about warmups, didn’t even think of it.

I wouldn’t recognise a good PT. If he had a buff body, that would be credentials enough and that’s just stupid..."

Have a look at James Smith Academy, he's a very good PT. No nonsense, you should find all you need on there as a guide.

He's also on Facebook with loads of good info.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell...

As a woman, you need to learn to focus on the gym around your ovulation cycle. Certain times in the month you will lose weight and other times you'd need to do twice as much as a man to do so. Just the differences in hormones find information about that first.

Second, it's all about learning the basics. No fancy equipment needed, if you start just lifting weights without warming up properly you will pick up an injury.

Third meal prep is key

Fourth sleep is essential

"

Instead of looking perplexed how about you find out the scientific studies that discuss it. Always train smart and affective or wonder why sometimes it's harder to lose weight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The problem is that I know absolutely nothing about gyms and gym equipment. Zilch, nada, nichts. For total newbies the YouTube videos are just overwhelming and what Lacey said about warmups, didn’t even think of it.

I wouldn’t recognise a good PT. If he had a buff body, that would be credentials enough and that’s just stupid...

Have a look at James Smith Academy, he's a very good PT. No nonsense, you should find all you need on there as a guide.

He's also on Facebook with loads of good info."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The problem is that I know absolutely nothing about gyms and gym equipment. Zilch, nada, nichts. For total newbies the YouTube videos are just overwhelming and what Lacey said about warmups, didn’t even think of it.

I wouldn’t recognise a good PT. If he had a buff body, that would be credentials enough and that’s just stupid..."

I agree. Good PT's will help you maintain form and technique. You got to find the right one. Even after 15 yrs, I sometimes struggle to get the technique right which can lead to injuries. Good luck with your gym and please keep us posted!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell...

As a woman, you need to learn to focus on the gym around your ovulation cycle. Certain times in the month you will lose weight and other times you'd need to do twice as much as a man to do so. Just the differences in hormones find information about that first.

Second, it's all about learning the basics. No fancy equipment needed, if you start just lifting weights without warming up properly you will pick up an injury.

Third meal prep is key

Fourth sleep is essential

"

Wow. Never ever thought about this but makes sense...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm up for a few one to one cardio sessions if you need stunner

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"The problem is that I know absolutely nothing about gyms and gym equipment. Zilch, nada, nichts. For total newbies the YouTube videos are just overwhelming and what Lacey said about warmups, didn’t even think of it.

I wouldn’t recognise a good PT. If he had a buff body, that would be credentials enough and that’s just stupid..."

It can definitely be intimidating at first. Especially when you feel lost and clueless and are faced with a room full of big, scary he men (though you quickly learn they're mostly big softies behind all that muscle )

Yeah my PT doesn't have a buff body but he did used to be very overweight and has totally transformed himself and is now an absolute machine. He doesn't and never will look like the PTs in their 20s though who have mostly only ever been in good shape. People who train for strength also aren't always the biggest and buffest. A friend of mine's partner is a British champion powerlifter but is far from the beefiest guy I know. Different people train for different things though. Some PTs can adapt depending on your personal goals but some in my experience seem overly focused on aesthetics and it gets a bit old telling them constantly that just because you're a woman it doesn't mean you want to lose weight. Also doesn't feel so nice being always made to feel you need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined a gym to work on core strength and toning .. I'm also a dancer, so have good general fitness /physique and am not trying to lose weight

I am doing rowing machine, then free weights: bicept curl, sitting shoulder oress, bench press , flys and tricept things

I'm also doing an arm pull down machine and leggoress

The difference is already visible

There is also a website offering a free 15 mins a day plan, that is one of the best things i ever did.. Pm me if you want the website (against rules to post here? ?)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I joined a gym to work on core strength and toning .. I'm also a dancer, so have good general fitness /physique and am not trying to lose weight

I am doing rowing machine, then free weights: bicept curl, sitting shoulder oress, bench press , flys and tricept things

I'm also doing an arm pull down machine and leggoress

The difference is already visible

There is also a website offering a free 15 mins a day plan, that is one of the best things i ever did.. Pm me if you want the website (against rules to post here? ?)

"

Have done so. Thank you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Weights are for everyone. While I personally run screaming from the idea of low weight high reps, it is what some people want. I think (unless I'm showing off, lol) the overall effect of my weight training is a "toned" look, and I certainly ignore any advice aimed at women to that effect.

The TRX is a useful adjunct, but if you want a weights routine, then don't be discouraged from it.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

Don't be afraid of moving gyms. Honestly. I knew I wanted to incorporate weights into my routine. Went to one gym where I was scoffed at because I asked, in fact the guys words were "but you're an over weight woman, they aren't for you... You want these cardio machines here"

I found my PT through word of mouth. She's seen me through not being able to walk 500m (I broke my back many years ago, the doctor talking about going from me using my cane to using a wheelchair kicked me up the arse to doing something...)

Now I have done tough mudder, total warrior, do parkrun weekly, snowboard, climb...

I'm still overweight but my god I'm fitter than I've ever been... She has worked miracles, and she's the quietest woman, hard as nails but looks like she would snap in a strong breeze...

Also wears the baggiest 'hiding' clothes. I couldn't have found a better fit for me.

But that's the thing, I had to move gyms to find her. I went from a gorgeous gym/spa to a cheap chain... I pay more now I have my PT than I did before but oh so worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't be afraid of moving gyms. Honestly. I knew I wanted to incorporate weights into my routine. Went to one gym where I was scoffed at because I asked, in fact the guys words were "but you're an over weight woman, they aren't for you... You want these cardio machines here"

I found my PT through word of mouth. She's seen me through not being able to walk 500m (I broke my back many years ago, the doctor talking about going from me using my cane to using a wheelchair kicked me up the arse to doing something...)

Now I have done tough mudder, total warrior, do parkrun weekly, snowboard, climb...

I'm still overweight but my god I'm fitter than I've ever been... She has worked miracles, and she's the quietest woman, hard as nails but looks like she would snap in a strong breeze...

Also wears the baggiest 'hiding' clothes. I couldn't have found a better fit for me.

But that's the thing, I had to move gyms to find her. I went from a gorgeous gym/spa to a cheap chain... I pay more now I have my PT than I did before but oh so worth it. "

Thank you so much for sharing this and well done you. Yeah sounds like the 2 guys I had. Women don’t do weights....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a PT message me if u want any advise but u should do weights ..... not the machines but u should be lifting free weights....... if u want ideas let me know...... the ropes are more of a functional way of training as is body wieght exercises

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My first gym, I had a member of staff yell at me if he saw me touching anything over 4kg.

Motherfucker should see me now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My first gym, I had a member of staff yell at me if he saw me touching anything over 4kg.

Motherfucker should see me now "

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

What a couple of idiots - of course you should be doing weights. Even if your goal was purely cardio fitness, which I know it's not, some weight training would be helpful to improve running performance etc. I'm yet to meet a trainer who suggests weights have no part in a training programme!

I know it can be a bit daunting knowing where to start (I certainly feel/felt it), and idiots like that can make you feel self conscious, but keep going. There are a ton of good online programmes/training guides if you wanted something to follow (or get a PT if the purse strings will stretch to it)! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell..."

For what its worth,

Most of the gym staff/PT’s often try to tell new members they are doing something wrong in the hope you will ask their advice and pay for sessions.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"My first gym, I had a member of staff yell at me if he saw me touching anything over 4kg.

Motherfucker should see me now "

Urgh... Because women can't lift...

I've just been pre warned my session tonight will be barbell complex based which probably also means the airbike. After being ill for two weeks.

I'm going to die.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a pound of muscle and a pound of fat weight the same lol but a pound of muscle looks a lot better more dense compact actually smaller than fat in looks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Learning so much....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should definitely lift muscle helps burn fat helping to control your body fat you should be lifting to failure the muscle can only grow if you break it down and if you feed it muscle growth is in how much protein you eat

But you can only build tone by building muscle

I have to eat 3/4 times the normal gym goer to build my muscle

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"My first gym, I had a member of staff yell at me if he saw me touching anything over 4kg.

Motherfucker should see me now

Urgh... Because women can't lift...

I've just been pre warned my session tonight will be barbell complex based which probably also means the airbike. After being ill for two weeks.

I'm going to die. "

May God have mercy on your wretched soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Staying strong is a very good thing. It helps keep weight under control too by causing you to burn more calories to feed your muscles even when you are not exercising.

They have no business telling you that you shouldn't do weights.

They want to work out a programme for me?"

Tell them to get fucked.... Or politely decline, either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first gym, I had a member of staff yell at me if he saw me touching anything over 4kg.

Motherfucker should see me now

Urgh... Because women can't lift...

I've just been pre warned my session tonight will be barbell complex based which probably also means the airbike. After being ill for two weeks.

I'm going to die. "

At least you'll look good when you Cark it

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By *okemanGoMan
over a year ago

Willenhall

Low weights high reps

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I do a ladder system. It guarantees that I am always improving.

I will take one exercise for example, Bench press.

I go over, I put weights on the bench. For the first few days I figure out what weight I can do 12 reps at. Lets just say 10kg.

So I do 12 x 10kg. Then I add 1kg to each side and I do as many as I can, lets say I do 10 x 12kg. Then I add 1kg to each side and do as many as I can and I do 8 x 14kg, and then the last 4th set, might be 5 x 16kg.

Then the next time I add 1 rep to every set except the first one, 1st is only ever 12. When the second set reaches 12, that becomes my starting weight.

so...

12 x 10kg

11 x 12kg

9 x 14kg

6 x 16kg

next day

12 x 10kg

12 x 12kg

10 x 14kg

7 x 16kg

next day

12 x 12kg

11 x 14kg

8 x 16kg

6 x 18kg

You wont get huge, but it will add muscle and it will cut fat if youre eating right. It will also increase your metabolisim.

The best thing about this exercise routine is, I can nearly always squeze out one more rep, just one more. I can then use walking as my cardio. If you walk at a brisk pace for an hour, for example home from the gym, you will burn fat the whole way without interfering with the weight training.

People think you will get "Huge" or "Bodybuilder" like this, but I am not huge, I just have a "beach body" and i did it from weight training.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

ps, I am not a personal trainer and came up with the method I use myself.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

If you want to use free weights and are unsure what to do then I recommend going to a good pt to get your form dialed in.

Machines etc are good, but I’d always go with free weights and doing compound moves like squat, bench press, overhead press and deadlifts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you can do weights.

All the ropes and tyres etc. are remnants of the CrossFit fad that started I guess 10 years ago. I guess that such exercise regimes are all that some personal trainers will have experience in, so they just go to what then know.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I don’t lift weights at all. Try pilates for toning, core strength and balance. Or high reps low weight.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"My first gym, I had a member of staff yell at me if he saw me touching anything over 4kg.

Motherfucker should see me now

Urgh... Because women can't lift...

I've just been pre warned my session tonight will be barbell complex based which probably also means the airbike. After being ill for two weeks.

I'm going to die.

At least you'll look good when you Cark it "

My sweaty mess will try and remember that as I'm dying on the gym floor - thanks!

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"My first gym, I had a member of staff yell at me if he saw me touching anything over 4kg.

Motherfucker should see me now

Urgh... Because women can't lift...

I've just been pre warned my session tonight will be barbell complex based which probably also means the airbike. After being ill for two weeks.

I'm going to die.

May God have mercy on your wretched soul. "

I think God gave up on my soul years ago...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first gym, I had a member of staff yell at me if he saw me touching anything over 4kg.

Motherfucker should see me now

Urgh... Because women can't lift...

I've just been pre warned my session tonight will be barbell complex based which probably also means the airbike. After being ill for two weeks.

I'm going to die.

At least you'll look good when you Cark it

My sweaty mess will try and remember that as I'm dying on the gym floor - thanks! "

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By *hobos46Man
over a year ago

Royston

If your goal is to tone up (or remain toned in your case), you should vary what you do. The body will adjust and adapt so that if you do the same thing all the time it will do that thing very well with the minimum effort, which is exactly the opposite of what you want.

As others havd said, if you want to tone you should have high reps, 3 sets of 12 - 15, and the weight you should choose should get difficult at the end of each rep.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t lift weights at all. Try pilates for toning, core strength and balance. Or high reps low weight."

Hate Pilates and core strength & balance Is good. Just not for me...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of course you can do weights.

All the ropes and tyres etc. are remnants of the CrossFit fad that started I guess 10 years ago. I guess that such exercise regimes are all that some personal trainers will have experience in, so they just go to what then know."

Interesting...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If your goal is to tone up (or remain toned in your case), you should vary what you do. The body will adjust and adapt so that if you do the same thing all the time it will do that thing very well with the minimum effort, which is exactly the opposite of what you want.

As others havd said, if you want to tone you should have high reps, 3 sets of 12 - 15, and the weight you should choose should get difficult at the end of each rep.

"

Thank you!

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

When I see women working out alongside men at the gym lifting weights I find it hot. That toned athletic look on a woman... Mmm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think women who are confident with good technique doing weights is ridiculously hot

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes! Get the instructors to train you on the weights and give you a programme for your goals that includes them.

Building muscle tone will help your health, including your bone health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t do weights, I’m not sure it’s necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow the likes of Stef fit or Emily Skye on Instagram.

I was always a bouncer. Trampettes all the way. Lost 4 stone.

Started lifting weights last November and the difference is like no other! I would 100% encourage you to try lifting.

Some women are a bit worried but read up about it. And look at all the examples splashed over Instagram.

Was the best thing I ever did!

Scarlett.

P.s good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t do weights, I’m not sure it’s necessary."

WOWSERS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Staying strong is a very good thing. It helps keep weight under control too by causing you to burn more calories to feed your muscles even when you are not exercising.

They have no business telling you that you shouldn't do weights.

They want to work out a programme for me?"

Low weight, high reps and consistency. Hard Swimming ( not just a gentle float) is no impact ( good for joints) and immensely good for all muscle groups toning and CV obviously. Everyone can do weights no matter size shape or age and everyone has to start somewhere PM me if you’d like I’m more than happy to talk about any questions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your goal is to tone up (or remain toned in your case), you should vary what you do. The body will adjust and adapt so that if you do the same thing all the time it will do that thing very well with the minimum effort, which is exactly the opposite of what you want.

As others havd said, if you want to tone you should have high reps, 3 sets of 12 - 15, and the weight you should choose should get difficult at the end of each rep.

Thank you! "

If you do 4 sets you’ll see a difference in no time. Matter of weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should definitely lift muscle helps burn fat helping to control your body fat you should be lifting to failure the muscle can only grow if you break it down and if you feed it muscle growth is in how much protein you eat

But you can only build tone by building muscle

I have to eat 3/4 times the normal gym goer to build my muscle "

Your quads are my inspiration ( heart )

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Of course. They’re not just for building muscle. I do, for toning. Less weight more reps x"
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Same. I do classes with low weights and high reps. Great for toning but has the added advantage of slight muscle definition.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t do weights, I’m not sure it’s necessary."

Impressive! Neither does E - he does calisthenics

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone. I’m going to take notes and go and give them hell...

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By *oingMan
over a year ago

Co. Antrim

Come with me if you want to lift (said in an arnie accent)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t do weights, I’m not sure it’s necessary.

Impressive! Neither does E - he does calisthenics "

Yoga and swimming for me

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

Ow. Oh my god ow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Come with me if you want to lift (said in an arnie accent)"

Ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ow. Oh my god ow. "

What’s happened?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Ow. Oh my god ow.

What’s happened?"

As pre-warned my PT had me doing a barbell complex. I broke my shoulder in march so still in recovery officially.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ow. Oh my god ow.

What’s happened?

As pre-warned my PT had me doing a barbell complex. I broke my shoulder in march so still in recovery officially. "

You ok?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Low wieght high rep and if gym got punching bag use that as well. Bag and pad work is great cardio work out

Also try doing yoga at home help with flexible and core strength

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Ow. Oh my god ow.

What’s happened?

As pre-warned my PT had me doing a barbell complex. I broke my shoulder in march so still in recovery officially.

You ok? "

Yep. Hurt like hell and my session with my partner tomorrow is going to be tough going but I am determined to regain lost ground so I'm training hard.

I'm also sensible. I'll push myself so far but I know my limits. I'll stop or talk to my PT about dropping my weights slightly if I need to.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Ledbury


"If you were a regular dancer then you are probably self motivated so you don't need any help from the trainers, so just do your own thing.

Nothing to do with motivation, just which equipment to use at the gym."

Unless you have an injury, theres no reason you shouldn't lift weights.

For the most bang for your buck, build sessions around multi-joint exercises (Squat, Deadlift, Bench, Row, OHP). The machines are quite good for isolating a single muscle group you want to work on and may provide useful accessory work around your main lifts.

Dead good for helping to prevent osteoporosis too.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Ledbury

Not sure why people are specifically recommending low weight, high rep, in all honesty.

"Toning up" is the process of losing body fat to add definition.

High rep exercises are good for building muscle mass when eating in a surplus, and ok at preserving it in a defecit, but you might well progress further doing lower reps in a deficit which can help adherence because you feel you are progressing still.

If you are a beginner, good places to start are 5x5 programs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure why people are specifically recommending low weight, high rep, in all honesty.

"Toning up" is the process of losing body fat to add definition.

High rep exercises are good for building muscle mass when eating in a surplus, and ok at preserving it in a defecit, but you might well progress further doing lower reps in a deficit which can help adherence because you feel you are progressing still.

If you are a beginner, good places to start are 5x5 programs. "

Exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure why people are specifically recommending low weight, high rep, in all honesty.

It’s probably because she is a female

"Toning up" is the process of losing body fat to add definition.

High rep exercises are good for building muscle mass when eating in a surplus, and ok at preserving it in a defecit, but you might well progress further doing lower reps in a deficit which can help adherence because you feel you are progressing still.

If you are a beginner, good places to start are 5x5 programs.

Exactly this! "

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

5x5 is good but after seeing some interesting sights at the gym this morning...

Please spend a little bit of time with a PT. Just a session or two, get them to focus on your form or you can do more damage than good...

Also you won't look like the twonk next to us this morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you should do weights.

As a woman, doing load bearing weights is vitally important for maintaining bone density as we get older.

I had a mastectomy and reconstruction using muscle from my back, recently damaged my shoulder and yet somehow....I still manage to lift free weights and use the machines.

Get stuck in there girl...dont losten to those dopey trainers.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely do weights I would advise any woman that wants to be in shape to do free weights I hardly do cardio X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely do weights I would advise any woman that wants to be in shape to do free weights I hardly do cardio X "
one stunning lady do you do weights

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely do weights I would advise any woman that wants to be in shape to do free weights I hardly do cardio X one stunning lady do you do weights "
no lol

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell..."

Anyone can do weights.

And depending on how you use them with diet it's a good way to keep toned.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell..."

I just bought myself a set of dumbells from Argos and use them at home. I dont want muscles i just need toned up a bit at times.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Definitely do weights I would advise any woman that wants to be in shape to do free weights I hardly do cardio X "

I’d agree. Before weights I was a cardio only girl, definitely more toned since adding weights to the mix x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely do weights I would advise any woman that wants to be in shape to do free weights I hardly do cardio X

I’d agree. Before weights I was a cardio only girl, definitely more toned since adding weights to the mix x "
all I do is deadlifts and squats mainly I will do more cardio in the New Year still need to lose a stone

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By *ltFun91Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Lighter weights more reps.

Core workouts with natural body weight


".... who don’t listen.

I’ve just joined a gym for the first time in my life. I don’t need to lose weight, just want to keep toned up as I’ve stopped dancing. I really, really want to do weights but the idiot trainers just laughed at me and said I should do other stuff involving ropes to grab and leaning forwards and backwards. Not fun at all.

Gym bunnies. Can/should I be doing weights? I need advice so I can go and give them hell..."

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