FabSwingers.com forum: Jim! It's a cling-on!

By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

How do you deal with repeat meets who get a bit too clingy and emotional?

Do you stop all contact and run like Forrest Gump?

Do you carry on, hey it's their problem if they read too much into the banter, you said at the start it was nsa?

Do you try to back out slowly?

Do you feed their need for a while because it is flattering....... but eventually get bored and move on?

Do you play along until you can get a less clingy replacement?

Do you never have the problem because you never meet twice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polo

Have you been reading my PM's ?

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Polo

Have you been reading my PM's ?

No... that's how I deal with it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Dont get clingy ones, some im a lot closer to than others but i wouldnt class them as clingy and i hope they wouldnt class me as that.

But if i felt pressurized by anyone id just stop contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty always best policy with this ... you'll only end up not enjoying your playtimes cos you'll be worrying that they will be gettin emotionally dependant on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in this scenario atm

The approach I seem to have adopted is one of a tactical withdrawal.

It 'seems' to be working, but of course the other party could just be lulling me into a false sense of security whilst my cell is prepared !

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I think we'd just remind them of the original terms on which we met them,that's all it's going to be and that the option is with them to enjoy what they have.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We once had a very clingy girl, she came for a night and stayed for a month, she was so lovely I found it so difficult to be blunt and tell her to bugger off home, kept dropping massive hints, none of which she picked up on. I eventually had to get very blunt. That was just one example of girls getting clingy and after a few of them we stopped doing ffm's altogether. Lads don't get that clingy, or seem to get the hint when you back off a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Not really had too much of a problem with clingy people

Maybe its different being part of a couple or maybe its because I don't see the same people often enough for it to happen,or maybe I just ignore it and carry on as I always do,just having fun and not taking the constant declarations of undying love seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with repeat meets who get a bit too clingy and emotional?

Do you stop all contact and run like Forrest Gump?

Do you carry on, hey it's their problem if they read too much into the banter, you said at the start it was nsa?

Do you try to back out slowly?

Do you feed their need for a while because it is flattering....... but eventually get bored and move on?

Do you play along until you can get a less clingy replacement?

Do you never have the problem because you never meet twice?"

You mean some don't take thanks and bye for an answer? OOer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with repeat meets who get a bit too clingy and emotional?

Do you stop all contact and run like Forrest Gump?

Do you carry on, hey it's their problem if they read too much into the banter, you said at the start it was nsa?

Do you try to back out slowly?

Do you feed their need for a while because it is flattering....... but eventually get bored and move on?

Do you play along until you can get a less clingy replacement?

Do you never have the problem because you never meet twice?"

You should make sure they know the score before meeting and if in doubt dont do it. If you do have a cling-on you have to be honest but keep it civil and just tell them you are not after anything with strings and say goodbye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had this a few times, not sure if its me as a person they clingy to or just tha fact im female and they know its easier to keep me on side than find another meet they clingy too

But i never feed them, i dont want a relationship, nor do i want a swinging partner, im not rude, unless they force that side of me out but i do tell they straight away when they are making me feel uncomfy

Soon as you feel someone is getting clingy i think its best to just stop seeing them as even if you say something, carring on seeing them may send out the wrong signals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends to what extent they get clingy..

I get rid when they start to try and stir between master and myself.. has happened a few times..

I like to have 2-3 regular guys.. but do make it clear that they will never have me exclusively.

If they over step the mark.. then I cut contact.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to us a few times - we have changed our profile detailing that we rarely meet the same people more than once or twice etc.... To no avail so now we just meet and play in clubs and make it clear from the start we are not into friendship etc....

So many people think that because we have played with them we will automatically wanna play with them again on a regular basis and this is so far from the truth so we are honest and upfront now by making it clear that's not gonna happen !

Harsh you may think , but when you have had the cling on scenario a few times it's gotta be that way for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started playing with 2 guys last year (separately) they know each other, and both started getting really clingy and annoying and they would be having digs at each other all the time... so one night at the club I invited them both for DP, when we had finished they were like best buddies and saying what great guys they were

it was really funny, I stoped playing with both of them after that but they are still great mates lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeat meets, what's that?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We once had a very clingy girl, she came for a night and stayed for a month, she was so lovely I found it so difficult to be blunt and tell her to bugger off home, kept dropping massive hints, none of which she picked up on. I eventually had to get very blunt. That was just one example of girls getting clingy and after a few of them we stopped doing ffm's altogether. Lads don't get that clingy, or seem to get the hint when you back off a bit."

A bloody month??? Jesus Harold Christ!!! I'd have shoved her out and changed the locks pronto!!!

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