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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was with a lady a few weeks ago who said she had had some meets were the male was so far away from the hot spots of her body that a human satnave was needed. But they probably wouldnt follow it anyway. I laughed and was shocked. Have you had this and was it males or femails as well

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Having sex with someone you’ve never clapped hands on before is exciting but also intimidating. None of us come with a “how to turn me on” instruction manual - instead we have to rely on good communication.

Let us not forget, it takes two people to have shit hot sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having sex with someone you’ve never clapped hands on before is exciting but also intimidating. None of us come with a “how to turn me on” instruction manual - instead we have to rely on good communication.

Let us not forget, it takes two people to have shit hot sex."

That is true and we had good sex. But supprised someone didnt know the basic spots. If you know what i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone’s body and turn-one are different. You’ve got to pay attention to the sounds, expressions and reactions as to what is right for each person.

I’ve got to say I’ve had amazing sex with women like this but equally shit sex with women who have a couple of moves they do with every guy. I’m sure it’s the same for women too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago a friend of mine said she was planning to get her clit pierced, so her hubby knew where to find it !

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Having sex with someone you’ve never clapped hands on before is exciting but also intimidating. None of us come with a “how to turn me on” instruction manual - instead we have to rely on good communication.

Let us not forget, it takes two people to have shit hot sex.

That is true and we had good sex. But supprised someone didnt know the basic spots. If you know what i mean"

Of course you have your basic spots but then there's no such thing as universal basic technique. Take the clit. Some women love oral stimulation - out of those some prefer prolonged, others prefer short. Some enjoy an almost sucking motion, others like a gentle tongue. Some women hate it. There's nothing universal about sex. Maybe the absolute basic penis goes in a vagina if we're discussing heteronormative but that's about it.

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By *callycatMan
over a year ago

Mid Wales

Sat navs can lead you up all sorts of unexpected and hazardous back alleyways and passages....apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having sex with someone you’ve never clapped hands on before is exciting but also intimidating. None of us come with a “how to turn me on” instruction manual - instead we have to rely on good communication.

Let us not forget, it takes two people to have shit hot sex.

That is true and we had good sex. But supprised someone didnt know the basic spots. If you know what i mean

Of course you have your basic spots but then there's no such thing as universal basic technique. Take the clit. Some women love oral stimulation - out of those some prefer prolonged, others prefer short. Some enjoy an almost sucking motion, others like a gentle tongue. Some women hate it. There's nothing universal about sex. Maybe the absolute basic penis goes in a vagina if we're discussing heteronormative but that's about it."

Well thats a lie. All women love being finger bashed until they squirt

I know this because I have seen LOTS of videos where this happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then she should have communicated with him

Nope, not had this happen. I’m able to communicate with those I fuck

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

This is always a nagging doubt at the back of my mind, and why I prefer regular meets to one offs. Yes, you take your clues where you can but it still takes time to learn all the subtle nuances and likes and dislikes

But having said that, exploring a new body for the first time is also a thrill, with new sights and smells

Hmmm, forget what I just said.

As you were....

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

(Ray)

My ex even with directions couldn't hit the spot!

Some days I even considered explaining it with a PowerPoint and a flip chart !!!!!

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Interesting topic.....!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting topic.....!!"

and Interesting humble-brag from the OP :D

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I had a guy visit me who was so selfish and bloody awful at everything that I asked him to leave. I told him I didn’t feel we had enough chemistry, as I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. But he kept messaging asking for a veri and to know what my issue was. So I told him the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I agree that everyone is different I do think there are people who are just not so good at reading signs or being able to imagine what would feel nice to others.

I was seeing a guy for a while and no amount of guidance would get him in the right places for me, I even resorted to my hand over his and showing him exactly what I liked but then the next time we'd have sex it was back to square one. He just wasn't able to read and react to me and whilst it takes 2 to tango I know that I'm quite expressive and give pretty big hints if you're doing it right.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I was with a lady a few weeks ago who said she had had some meets were the male was so far away from the hot spots of her body that a human satnave was needed. But they probably wouldnt follow it anyway. I laughed and was shocked. Have you had this and was it males or femails as well"
many times with both sexes x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Then she should have communicated with him

Nope, not had this happen. I’m able to communicate with those I fuck "

This is the issue more than anything.

So many people just expect others to know everything they enjoy, like a mind reader. If something is not doing it for you, point the other person in the right direction.

Sure reading off a list of things that must happen for you to enjoy it is not sexy at all. But a little hint and encouragement in the direction you want/need should always be happening at the very least.

If he/she get offended thst is their own problem. You don't have to say "your are doing it wrong" just a little "can you do it like this, I prefer that".

You don't have to teach them, but communication goes a long way.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Whilst I agree that everyone is different I do think there are people who are just not so good at reading signs or being able to imagine what would feel nice to others.

I was seeing a guy for a while and no amount of guidance would get him in the right places for me, I even resorted to my hand over his and showing him exactly what I liked but then the next time we'd have sex it was back to square one. He just wasn't able to read and react to me and whilst it takes 2 to tango I know that I'm quite expressive and give pretty big hints if you're doing it right. "

Indeed, despite what I said above. There are just some people that refuse to accept what they are doing is not doing it for you. You tried to guide him, he failed and that is on him. The important thing though is that you tried, and not just expected him to know, then accuse him of being bad at it.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

All men who want to have sex should learn their way around a woman's body generally. Two (or more) people having sex shouldn't be afraid to communicate with each other about how to turn the general information into something that really works for the particular individuals involved.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

There are a few ways around this: you can either ask for a PowerPoint in advance with diagrams and animation, or my particular favourite is to wire you both up like a massive game of Operation so when you hit a certain spot a buzzer goes off

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Then she should have communicated with him

Nope, not had this happen. I’m able to communicate with those I fuck

This is the issue more than anything.

So many people just expect others to know everything they enjoy, like a mind reader. If something is not doing it for you, point the other person in the right direction.

Sure reading off a list of things that must happen for you to enjoy it is not sexy at all. But a little hint and encouragement in the direction you want/need should always be happening at the very least.

If he/she get offended thst is their own problem. You don't have to say "your are doing it wrong" just a little "can you do it like this, I prefer that".

You don't have to teach them, but communication goes a long way. "
if only it were this simple. I will guide... lead.. hint.. then eventually say that I prefer it .

I mean people that touch no where near the right places x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Then she should have communicated with him

Nope, not had this happen. I’m able to communicate with those I fuck

This is the issue more than anything.

So many people just expect others to know everything they enjoy, like a mind reader. If something is not doing it for you, point the other person in the right direction.

Sure reading off a list of things that must happen for you to enjoy it is not sexy at all. But a little hint and encouragement in the direction you want/need should always be happening at the very least.

If he/she get offended thst is their own problem. You don't have to say "your are doing it wrong" just a little "can you do it like this, I prefer that".

You don't have to teach them, but communication goes a long way. if only it were this simple. I will guide... lead.. hint.. then eventually say that I prefer it .

I mean people that touch no where near the right places x"

I honestly can't see how that is possible. I'm far from earth shattering, world rocking sexual expertise, but just a quick look at a single bit of porn gives you the basics of where to touch even if it's the furthest thing from reality. Hell, a woman's body itself essentially gives landmarks of where to focus (for the basics).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was with a lady once that thought it was pleasurable to rake her teeth along my whilst giving a bj... Not good.. I've personally never missed the spot though I hope

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


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I mean people that touch no where near the right places x

I honestly can't see how that is possible. I'm far from earth shattering, world rocking sexual expertise, but just a quick look at a single bit of porn gives you the basics of where to touch even if it's the furthest thing from reality. Hell, a woman's body itself essentially gives landmarks of where to focus (for the basics). "
you would think that wouldn't you... but sadly its often not the case

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I mean people that touch no where near the right places x

I honestly can't see how that is possible. I'm far from earth shattering, world rocking sexual expertise, but just a quick look at a single bit of porn gives you the basics of where to touch even if it's the furthest thing from reality. Hell, a woman's body itself essentially gives landmarks of where to focus (for the basics). you would think that wouldn't you... but sadly its often not the case"

Not all are the same thow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No two people are the same and everyone has different tastes and triggers that turn them on.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"I was with a lady a few weeks ago who said she had had some meets were the male was so far away from the hot spots of her body that a human satnave was needed. But they probably wouldnt follow it anyway. I laughed and was shocked. Have you had this and was it males or femails as well"

Everybody is different what turns on Mrs T does not necessarily work on others it takes communication and time to get it right. That is often why if you have repeat meets with somebody it gets better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having good communication, not just knowing where to touch, but expressing how you like to be touched in that area.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I think it’s down to the connection and reading body language and of course being very comfortable feeling relaxed. And a little knowledge with some trial and error. With laughter

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

The high % of men that bump into my perineum, or go further south, my butt clearly have no clue where the fuck hole is. Even less know where my clit is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The high % of men that bump into my perineum, or go further south, my butt clearly have no clue where the fuck hole is. Even less know where my clit is.

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that's hard to believe. I always think of men on here as if they are all porn stars and know every inch of the female body especially the clit x it's embarrassing hearing that x i blame that because they haven't watched enough porn lol

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"There are a few ways around this: you can either ask for a PowerPoint in advance with diagrams and animation, or my particular favourite is to wire you both up like a massive game of Operation so when you hit a certain spot a buzzer goes off "

Too cute! I'd play. As long as my nose lights up too like the original

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having sex with someone you’ve never clapped hands on before is exciting but also intimidating. None of us come with a “how to turn me on” instruction manual - instead we have to rely on good communication.

Let us not forget, it takes two people to have shit hot sex."

Well said

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Sometimes you are just not compatible. I am sure I will have missed the mark with some men I have met and they have certainly missed it with me. It’s easy to misread signals if you are not familiar with them.

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