FabSwingers.com forum: Radical appearance change

By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Does radically changing your appearance make you uncomfortable, or is it just me?

I'm experimenting at the moment, and... it's not me looking back at me in the mirror. It's freaky and I'm not a fan. But I know from experience that often these feelings go away with time. So I'm trying to ride it out.

Is it just me?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ve never done it but I’d like to. What have you gone for?

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By *eeshelleTV/TS
over a year ago

Marlow

What have you changed?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I did a few years ago. I dyed my hair blonde. Did a double take everytime I saw my reflection. I didnt feel like 'me' though so went back to red. Red hair feels more like me than my natural brunette colour x

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have contact lenses, after 20+ years of full time glasses.

I look like myself as a child but with the aging of someone of my age.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I have contact lenses, after 20+ years of full time glasses.

I look like myself as a child but with the aging of someone of my age. "

I did the same and really liked it

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have contact lenses, after 20+ years of full time glasses.

I look like myself as a child but with the aging of someone of my age.

I did the same and really liked it

Right now I'm trying not to hate it rather than toss the trial lenses and forget this ever happened.

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens

"I have contact lenses, after 20+ years of full time glasses.

I look like myself as a child but with the aging of someone of my age. "

Have to give me a nudge saturday so i know its you swing seeing as you had glasses last time i saw you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think overtime my appearance has ‘evolved’ to what it is now - I personally don’t like radical changes to my appearance. Like you, it makes me feel uncomfortable and not as relaxed.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I have contact lenses, after 20+ years of full time glasses.

I look like myself as a child but with the aging of someone of my age.

I did the same and really liked it

Right now I'm trying not to hate it rather than toss the trial lenses and forget this ever happened. "

It makes snogging easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to lose my glasses but can’t bear lenses. Have you had anyone walk by you that knows you yet?

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

It the vision u receive back and confidence .. to be out of yr comfort zone ...you’ll get use to that look and then change it again .. go for it girl

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have contact lenses, after 20+ years of full time glasses.

I look like myself as a child but with the aging of someone of my age.

I did the same and really liked it

Right now I'm trying not to hate it rather than toss the trial lenses and forget this ever happened.

It makes snogging easier

I can't say I've ever had a problem!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've experimented with my image A LOT... more in my teens and 20s but always went back to my beloved 'nobody owns you, cashless student' look. Which, I might add, I am still clinging to

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’d love to lose my glasses but can’t bear lenses. Have you had anyone walk by you that knows you yet? "

Not yet.

They are very comfortable (the ones I have) and I find the insertion and removal much less horrible than anticipated.

It's just... Where's the rest of my face ffs?!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I started this year wearing skirts and dresses in the daytime when I had a free morning or afternoon, I lived in my Jean's and t shirts and found it hard for a couple of months to settle down with it, I found alternating between the two helped, baby steps so to speak..

Could you alternate between the two?

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I started this year wearing skirts and dresses in the daytime when I had a free morning or afternoon, I lived in my Jean's and t shirts and found it hard for a couple of months to settle down with it, I found alternating between the two helped, baby steps so to speak..

Could you alternate between the two?"

I plan to be in glasses almost full time anyway, the cost of full time contacts given my needs is prohibitive. I'm having a getting used to them day today and it's just... aargh. Who is that person and why's she where I should be?

It's like an existential crisis...

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Could you alternate between the two?"

Are you suggesting a monocle?

Although it’s great for falling out when you shout “I say”

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I've changed mine several times over the years, different hair or a different style of clothes, and over the last 10 years my whole body shape from being a skinny fat man to muscular and defined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d love to lose my glasses but can’t bear lenses. Have you had anyone walk by you that knows you yet?

Not yet.

They are very comfortable (the ones I have) and I find the insertion and removal much less horrible than anticipated.

It's just... Where's the rest of my face ffs?! "

Must be good to not have them for a while though - I’d just love to lose the two dents on my nose!!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’d love to lose my glasses but can’t bear lenses. Have you had anyone walk by you that knows you yet?

Not yet.

They are very comfortable (the ones I have) and I find the insertion and removal much less horrible than anticipated.

It's just... Where's the rest of my face ffs?!

Must be good to not have them for a while though - I’d just love to lose the two dents on my nose!! "

I've taken up the Boots free trial. Apparently dailies have improved markedly in the last few years.

I don't mind the dents. I'm just trying to not be weirded out by the lack of glasses.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The day of the trial, it's the first time possibly this century I've been able to be in public and not entirely helpless without glasses. It was so unbelievably weird I can't even tell you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The day of the trial, it's the first time possibly this century I've been able to be in public and not entirely helpless without glasses. It was so unbelievably weird I can't even tell you. "

Strange how they can affect you - I’ve seen rare photos of me without them in public and have actually argued that it wasn’t me lol

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Could you alternate between the two?

It's like an existential crisis... "

Ahh I see where you are coming from, will you let us know how you get on as I'd like to know after the trial how your perception changed If at all x

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The day of the trial, it's the first time possibly this century I've been able to be in public and not entirely helpless without glasses. It was so unbelievably weird I can't even tell you.

Strange how they can affect you - I’ve seen rare photos of me without them in public and have actually argued that it wasn’t me lol"

I'm arguing with people that it isn't me. Because it's not

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Could you alternate between the two?

It's like an existential crisis...

Ahh I see where you are coming from, will you let us know how you get on as I'd like to know after the trial how your perception changed If at all x"

It may well do. It's early days and I can see it might be a cousin or something. But not me.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville

"Does radically changing your appearance make you uncomfortable, or is it just me?

Is it just me? "

Cross dressing is definitely a radical change for me but doesn't freak me out when I see myself in the mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah no matter how hard i try i cannot dress like a chav

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Yes I started to wear glasses this year now I wear them most of the time.

So I know what you mean. It just takes a little time to adjust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah no matter how hard i try i cannot dress like a chav"

Lordy, I keep thinking you're unloading some timber in that profile picture....

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Thinking of doing it if I decide to accept a new job I've been head hunted for but then I think they've approached me for who I am now.

Might redo my cloths as I'm due a change I think.

And tempted to change my driving glasses style but that's a nightmare as you grow used to those you've had for a couple of years.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I have had blonde hair for years and would love to be dark auburn. Also hate my brown eyes and wish they were blue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I radically changed how i look in the last year and feel so much more confident and stuff now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I change my appearance quite a lot I enjoy experimenting with my appearance. You do you

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Does radically changing your appearance make you uncomfortable, or is it just me?

Is it just me? "

I'm having my very long hair chopped off tomorrow into a long bob, I'm excited and terrified, I'm used to tying my hair up but I'm going to try wearing it down more often.

I understand why chasing makes you uncomfortable, it's scary.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Does radically changing your appearance make you uncomfortable, or is it just me?

Is it just me?

I'm having my very long hair chopped off tomorrow into a long bob, I'm excited and terrified, I'm used to tying my hair up but I'm going to try wearing it down more often.

I understand why chasing makes you uncomfortable, it's scary."

I'm currently growing my bob out, haha.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Does radically changing your appearance make you uncomfortable, or is it just me?

Is it just me?

I'm having my very long hair chopped off tomorrow into a long bob, I'm excited and terrified, I'm used to tying my hair up but I'm going to try wearing it down more often.

I understand why chasing makes you uncomfortable, it's scary.

I'm currently growing my bob out, haha. "

My hair is down to my bum at the moment

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

No glasses Miss Swing? How will I recognise you on Saturday?

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Does radically changing your appearance make you uncomfortable, or is it just me?

Is it just me?

I'm having my very long hair chopped off tomorrow into a long bob, I'm excited and terrified, I'm used to tying my hair up but I'm going to try wearing it down more often.

I understand why chasing makes you uncomfortable, it's scary.

I'm currently growing my bob out, haha.

My hair is down to my bum at the moment

I went from bum to spiked pixie, growing that out to a bob was painful, now growing out to shoulders.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Does radically changing your appearance make you uncomfortable, or is it just me?

Is it just me?

I'm having my very long hair chopped off tomorrow into a long bob, I'm excited and terrified, I'm used to tying my hair up but I'm going to try wearing it down more often.

I understand why chasing makes you uncomfortable, it's scary.

I'm currently growing my bob out, haha.

My hair is down to my bum at the moment

I went from bum to spiked pixie, growing that out to a bob was painful, now growing out to shoulders. "

Oh nice!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"I have contact lenses, after 20+ years of full time glasses.

I look like myself as a child but with the aging of someone of my age. "

I wouldn’t say that quite delightful actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few months in and i still need to be careful when I put them on. But it has given me different options of 'looks' and I stopped looking for my glasses everywhere so thats a bonus! Give it a good go.

I dyed my hair red before and cut them very short from long.. and loved it. Embrace the change. There was an internal need for that metamorphosis, so try and ride out temporary phase of getting used to new image.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no I love it.

I'm constantly changing my hair style/colour makes me feel like a new woman

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It can be off-putting a little at first. It is a bit of out of comfort zone, and just what is "normal" but the contrast can be quite a rush too, especially if you pull it off.

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By *omesticflightMan
over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

Mostly no, I've been the same for long time. But having said that, I did shave my head for the first time the end of Sept_mber, that was a bit of a shock when I looked in the mirror. Didn't really like it

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I've evolved a lot over the past 10 years but I think it's been gradual. But I'm hardly recognisable from the person I was.

That said when I had my hair changed dramatically, I was surprised every time I saw it for months!

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