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By *uciferLingerie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

Sometimes. Can be frustrating

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Always, been told it’s the curse of Fab

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Yes. I've travelled to meet some, in the past, but it's not helpful when you suddenly have a Thursday free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t bother chatting to anyone far away.

Seems pointless as we’re never going to meet.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

Yes always

bloody typical !!!

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By *uciferLingerie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?

Sometimes. Can be frustrating"

I know...I don't mind a bit of travel but 100+ miles is maybe a bit too much! Especially if there's some mutual attraction and chemistry...it's just a big tease!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on how much I get on with the person.

I would travel but within reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t bother chatting to anyone far away.

Seems pointless as we’re never going to meet."

Same here. I only chat to people from afar if it's forum related.

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By *uciferLingerie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Always, been told it’s the curse of Fab

Yes it seems that way...or maybe if my own particular kink was maybe more other peoples cup of tea lol x

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Always absolutely bloody always..

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By *uciferLingerie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don’t bother chatting to anyone far away.

Seems pointless as we’re never going to meet.

Same here. I only chat to people from afar if it's forum related. "

I guess setting yourself a distance boundary would help prevent the frustration!

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By *uciferLingerie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Always absolutely bloody always.."

I'd happily chat to you spider, though I know I would end up disappointed so i'll just stick to admiring your pics lol!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The journey isnt always measured in miles, yet when it's where we are meant to be .....

Then the miles dont matter, just the destination

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

All the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love chatting and honestly distance doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'd happily chat for ages, get to know someone and meet with them hundreds of miles away, or not at all.

Similarly I also meet people locally. It's all good.

I'm on the south coast and am chatting regularly with lovely fabbers in North Wales, mid Wales and Scotland.

Whatever works, I say x

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Always absolutely bloody always..

I'd happily chat to you spider, though I know I would end up disappointed so i'll just stick to admiring your pics lol!x"

Great thanks

have you looked at my verfications hah. I'm feeling like a disappointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

All the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The journey isnt always measured in miles, yet when it's where we are meant to be .....

Then the miles dont matter, just the destination "

That's beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

Yup it’s called Sod’s law or fuck my life !

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

I'm happy to travel to where ever they are but they come back and that I'm to far away from them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll chat to anyone as long as their nice !

It costs nothing to be polite. !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only chat to those within my acceptable distance. So, no. That never happens.

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By *uciferLingerie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Always absolutely bloody always..

I'd happily chat to you spider, though I know I would end up disappointed so i'll just stick to admiring your pics lol!x

Great thanks

have you looked at my verfications hah. I'm feeling like a disappointment

Hmm i'm pretty sure the distance would mean the disappointment would be all mine ha

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes. But some of my best meets have been with people from hundreds of miles away - they travel, I'll travel, or we meet in the middle. It's all part of the adventure in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely think it would be easier if i moved to the south of the UK!

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens

"Sometimes. But some of my best meets have been with people from hundreds of miles away - they travel, I'll travel, or we meet in the middle. It's all part of the adventure in my eyes "

Your someone i wouldnt mind travelling for lily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely!! But, I am miles from almost everyone to be fair!!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Absoloutely. But then we are happy to travel. That's why cars and trains were invented

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like to chat to people from all over esp those in places we'd like to visit..day London or a nice rural destination etc.local is good tho too... it's only a small country really

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Love to chat with anyone really

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

Particularly identify with this having loads of body hair and so mainly women from usa being attracted to me. Find it hugely frustrating! Think I need to move lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t bother chatting to anyone far away.

Seems pointless as we’re never going to meet."
You never know you might fancy a road trip or both attend a club together that’s nearby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes beast lives 2 and a half hours North from me but we make the effort to see each other most weeks. December has been the hardest as we are only getting to see each other every other week due to me having plans and other commitments. This had been the longest we gave been apart since we met and it's so hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

Oh most definitely but I love the travelling as it adds to the build up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the ruddy time and the hotter they are the further

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By *arko BMan
over a year ago

Dartford

This happenes to me a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to be pretty common; I’d chat to anyone from anywhere, even if anything more was unrealistic. A good conversation or bit of fun banter is distance-agnostic.

It would be nice to talk to people I could potentially meet that are within a reasonable distance, but I’m told the secret is getting out to the clubs; it can be a hard slog just trying it via chat rooms and the forums.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I do chat to some local people but much of the time we seem to be looking for different things and I get the feeling I'm being approached because I'm a convenient hole.

Some of my most interesting conversations are with people at some distance away. A few of them I'm very keen to meet, one of them we've made definite plans to meet soon.

Engaging conversation that makes me smile trumps geographical proximity when it comes to making me wet.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Yes, there are a few people who we want to meet and who want to meet us who are too far away to meet easily. We'll get there though. We met up with a lovely person over the weekend and had a really nice day with her. That involved travelling for us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexual preferences seem to be regional, maybe it's to do with origins lol. But those with the same preferences and tick boxes always seem to be in a different region to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Travelling is part of the fun. And to be fair if they are not worth travelling for, then it’s probably a good idea not to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats cos its a nationwide forum

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Yup, I just kind of accept it now.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If you really hit it off, just arrange to meet halfway.

I do find this a bit frustrating as a single but when meeting as a couple we will just arrange a club meet and make a weekend of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no ties and would travel to meet a good match, but we'd do it as a weekend foray rather than a specific meet

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Some are some are not there is nothing wrong with travelling for the right person though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time but to quote Marvin and Tammi, there ain't no mountain high enough

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"
exactly removes agenda

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I meanexactly removes agenda"

yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

all the flipping time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"

Packs my trunk and says goodbye to the circus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the time but to quote Marvin and Tammi, there ain't no mountain high enough

Marvin was lying he just wanted to get it on

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

No I set my filter to local

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'm currently designing a teleportation machine.

So watch this space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I genuinely think it would be easier if i moved to the south of the UK! "

Im glad you are considering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is rare but I dont see it as a serious obstacle. Collecting moments of wondrous conversations online and stimulating minds can result in something beautiful too..

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

Fab geography curse it's called. Never stopped me. If i'm interested, I will travel

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean

Packs my trunk and says goodbye to the circus

Nellie the elephant is swimming around my head

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

We never consider distance to be an issue to us it's all part of the adventure

We have friends who live all over the country so we're use to travelling to see people xxx

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Yes it's a big problem for us currently, unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the right people we don't care about distance, if we all click together then we will find a way to make it work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. It happens far too often

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"

I feel the opposite to this. I prefer to meet people sooner not endless messaging etc. If local you can just meet for a casual drink/ coffee no expectations very easy to arrange. When someone travels a long way it's a whole different ball game. I dint feel comfortable at all.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Some of my friends are hundreds of miles away, planning a lovely weekend away with them is part of the fun, yes I may only meet them a few times, but they are worth it

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Its frustrating at times, but doesn’t bother me and doesn’t stop me talking to people.

The conversation builds up the anticipation, you get a sense quite early on or whether your both up for travelling. If you both want it, you’ll make it happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live a long way from everyone

so just used to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it puts a lot of pressure on me if someone is travelling a distance to meet.

I try and stick to local people.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"

This is very true. The dynamic changes as soon as the idea of meeting is on the table!

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By *oungcoup69Couple
over a year ago

hidden garden

We travel a fair bit. We always have saved searches for places we are going to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

This is just the way it always seems to go, yes.

I struggle to find anyone local who could hold the same level of interest, from both sides.

I guess there’s a factor of wanting what you can’t have?

Also, both of you know it’s never going to go anywhere if you live a large distance apart so more happy to chat. If you’re closer there’s always a case of ‘ it could so I might keep my guard up.’

But maybe I’m over analysing

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I actually don’t mind having a chat and sharing views. And as for distances they can always be conquered one way or the other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"

I think this pretty much hits the nail on the head!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But maybe I’m over analysing "

Totally agree ... I do exactly this which is how i end up in so many sticky situations and driving so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"

Yes...constantly

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