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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One thing that grinds me is men who say I’m dominant and on their update are using their “job” as a way of look at me.

I’ve just had a message from a Male who was obviously in the forces as he was in full uniform on many pics. Including the borough he works for. I find it myself so disrespectful for him to use these pics as him in a dominant role and message woman saying do you like men in control

From another thread which was about dominant men , i find it sad how a man in uniform can think he has confidence and control over someone he messages.. this isn’t role play he is in full uniform In different situations.

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Well would most men in uniform take orders, so by default they are not Dominant at all,

Merely playing up to what they think Woman want to hear or in his case see, ??

I can't see now a guy in uniform pics translates to thinking he is Dominant in any shape or form,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well would most men in uniform take orders, so by default they are not Dominant at all,

Merely playing up to what they think Woman want to hear or in his case see, ??

I can't see now a guy in uniform pics translates to thinking he is Dominant in any shape or form,

"
so by default boris johnsons the ultimate british dom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my most recent meets was with someone who had a very decent rank during his service. One that you can use as a civilian if you choose to. But he didn't tell me that until after the first time and he only told me because I asked (I'm a nosey mare). The same thing happened a couple of years ago with someone else who had a similar job. It wouldn't have made any difference if I'd known but it's nice that they didn't use it to try and impress me. It takes more than a uniform to make a man dominant or alpha. My beloved dominant of seven years is a lorry driver.

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By *etamourMan
over a year ago

York

i am also part of the kink scene, I identify as a a Dom on that lifestyle. I also wear a uniform in work. However, the two are not linked. the kink scene needs Dom's exactly the same as it needs sub's. I would never dream of 'Domming' anyone unless we had agreed to it beforehand. Even on the kink scene, I would only be the Dom of my sub and nobody else's. Some people are just dick's who thing bullying is being a Dom......They couldn't be more wrong. a Dom is a Gentleman, who treats his sub with respect and care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am also part of the kink scene, I identify as a a Dom on that lifestyle. I also wear a uniform in work. However, the two are not linked. the kink scene needs Dom's exactly the same as it needs sub's. I would never dream of 'Domming' anyone unless we had agreed to it beforehand. Even on the kink scene, I would only be the Dom of my sub and nobody else's. Some people are just dick's who thing bullying is being a Dom......They couldn't be more wrong. a Dom is a Gentleman, who treats his sub with respect and care."

There are dominants. And there are men who simply want their cock sucked without having to grovel or pay. The latter group get found out unbelievably quickly.

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By *etamourMan
over a year ago

York


"i am also part of the kink scene, I identify as a a Dom on that lifestyle. I also wear a uniform in work. However, the two are not linked. the kink scene needs Dom's exactly the same as it needs sub's. I would never dream of 'Domming' anyone unless we had agreed to it beforehand. Even on the kink scene, I would only be the Dom of my sub and nobody else's. Some people are just dick's who thing bullying is being a Dom......They couldn't be more wrong. a Dom is a Gentleman, who treats his sub with respect and care.

There are dominants. And there are men who simply want their cock sucked without having to grovel or pay. The latter group get found out unbelievably quickly. "

Oh don't get me wrong, I also want my cock sucked without having to grovel or pay, I just enjoy tying her up before she does it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing that grinds me is men who say I’m dominant and on their update are using their “job” as a way of look at me.

I’ve just had a message from a Male who was obviously in the forces as he was in full uniform on many pics. Including the borough he works for. I find it myself so disrespectful for him to use these pics as him in a dominant role and message woman saying do you like men in control

From another thread which was about dominant men , i find it sad how a man in uniform can think he has confidence and control over someone he messages.. this isn’t role play he is in full uniform In different situations. "

This is so interesting. I get a lot of messages from guys in high power jobs and they certainly do not want to be in control

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Totally agreed OP. It's cringey. One of the reasons we don't engage with couples or singles with this vibe.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

You get it all the time in here. One guy literally drops it in to nearly every post he does about being in the Army.

I think if that’s the only angle you can come up with then they are lacking elsewhere.

Subtle and letting it shine from your personality is better.

I went out with a lady who had a very powerful job and I just knew before she even told me because of the way they held them self. I found it very sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my most recent meets was with someone who had a very decent rank during his service. One that you can use as a civilian if you choose to. But he didn't tell me that until after the first time and he only told me because I asked (I'm a nosey mare). The same thing happened a couple of years ago with someone else who had a similar job. It wouldn't have made any difference if I'd known but it's nice that they didn't use it to try and impress me. It takes more than a uniform to make a man dominant or alpha. My beloved dominant of seven years is a lorry driver. "

Are some ranks more decent than others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my most recent meets was with someone who had a very decent rank during his service. One that you can use as a civilian if you choose to. But he didn't tell me that until after the first time and he only told me because I asked (I'm a nosey mare). The same thing happened a couple of years ago with someone else who had a similar job. It wouldn't have made any difference if I'd known but it's nice that they didn't use it to try and impress me. It takes more than a uniform to make a man dominant or alpha. My beloved dominant of seven years is a lorry driver. "
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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I get messages from guys in high powered jobs who just want to be treated as an equal.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I prefer the quietly assertive types (not that i’m submissive anyway). But i think if someone has to tell you how powerful they are then they are doing it wrong.

As Twisted mentioned, it’s about the quiet confidence. They should have an aura about them. That’s much more sexy. Self assured but not cocky.

I think men (or women) in uniform (whatever uniform it may be) who use their uniform as a means to get shags are often used to being fan girled without trying and so just expect it to work on everyone.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

There are a considerable number of men here who claim to, but I’d question if they are, dominant. I’ve only ever seen one profile that portrays true dominance - master / slave. I have to say the scenario depicted would scare the life out of me!

A man in uniform may well ‘think’ he is dominant but as stated earlier, by default they ‘take’ orders - probably assertive but not dominant.

I quite like and enjoy a suited and booted, authoritarian aura. An equal sparing partner, if you will... those who are likely to seek permission for control rather than just take it.

Just because you sport a paddle in your gloved hand does not afford you dominance....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing that grinds me is men who say I’m dominant and on their update are using their “job” as a way of look at me.

I’ve just had a message from a Male who was obviously in the forces as he was in full uniform on many pics. Including the borough he works for. I find it myself so disrespectful for him to use these pics as him in a dominant role and message woman saying do you like men in control

From another thread which was about dominant men , i find it sad how a man in uniform can think he has confidence and control over someone he messages.. this isn’t role play he is in full uniform In different situations. "

Full uniform and details of current assignment? That's not a security risk at all.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I’m glad these soldiers are wearing ‘full’ uniform; part uniform is never a good look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing that grinds me is men who say I’m dominant and on their update are using their “job” as a way of look at me.

I’ve just had a message from a Male who was obviously in the forces as he was in full uniform on many pics. Including the borough he works for. I find it myself so disrespectful for him to use these pics as him in a dominant role and message woman saying do you like men in control

From another thread which was about dominant men , i find it sad how a man in uniform can think he has confidence and control over someone he messages.. this isn’t role play he is in full uniform In different situations. "

Don't forget guys will try all sorts of angles, to get into your pants. These pictures and lots of them suggest they have never been any further than the Army & Navy stores.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"One thing that grinds me is men who say I’m dominant and on their update are using their “job” as a way of look at me.

I’ve just had a message from a Male who was obviously in the forces as he was in full uniform on many pics. Including the borough he works for. I find it myself so disrespectful for him to use these pics as him in a dominant role and message woman saying do you like men in control

From another thread which was about dominant men , i find it sad how a man in uniform can think he has confidence and control over someone he messages.. this isn’t role play he is in full uniform In different situations. "

I can see your point it is disrespectful. Also a good filter for you...

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Not a problem if people feel the need to push their uniform it just tells you the guy has issues with himself and feels he is worth less than the clothes he wears and is best avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't shoot me down its only viewpoint.

Wearing a uniform you are a representative of that body fo which the uniform belongs, sure many of those would not really be to enthralled with being represented on sites like these. Those who have genuine respect for the body and the uniform would not do it, one would hope.

What you do in your private life is up to you but don a uniform comes with a certain amount of responsibility to that uniform ceases becoming your private life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my most recent meets was with someone who had a very decent rank during his service. One that you can use as a civilian if you choose to. But he didn't tell me that until after the first time and he only told me because I asked (I'm a nosey mare). The same thing happened a couple of years ago with someone else who had a similar job. It wouldn't have made any difference if I'd known but it's nice that they didn't use it to try and impress me. It takes more than a uniform to make a man dominant or alpha. My beloved dominant of seven years is a lorry driver.

Are some ranks more decent than others?"

Not in my experience. But I've yet to meet a servicemen or ex serviceman I wouldn't want to see again. It's been highlighted here, there are those that go on and on about it and those that don't. Pick the ones that don't

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks


"One of my most recent meets was with someone who had a very decent rank during his service. One that you can use as a civilian if you choose to. But he didn't tell me that until after the first time and he only told me because I asked (I'm a nosey mare). The same thing happened a couple of years ago with someone else who had a similar job. It wouldn't have made any difference if I'd known but it's nice that they didn't use it to try and impress me. It takes more than a uniform to make a man dominant or alpha. My beloved dominant of seven years is a lorry driver.

Are some ranks more decent than others?

Not in my experience. But I've yet to meet a servicemen or ex serviceman I wouldn't want to see again. It's been highlighted here, there are those that go on and on about it and those that don't. Pick the ones that don't "

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Well would most men in uniform take orders, so by default they are not Dominant at all,

Merely playing up to what they think Woman want to hear or in his case see, ??

I can't see now a guy in uniform pics translates to thinking he is Dominant in any shape or form,

so by default boris johnsons the ultimate british dom "

More like Alan B'stard

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By *eedsbiguyMan
over a year ago

ls4

I've had a few men in powerful jobs who want to be a sissy slut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well would most men in uniform take orders, so by default they are not Dominant at all,

Merely playing up to what they think Woman want to hear or in his case see, ??

I can't see now a guy in uniform pics translates to thinking he is Dominant in any shape or form,

so by default boris johnsons the ultimate british dom

More like Alan B'stard "

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who remembers the member for Haltemprice and his impressively large majority I'm also amazed I've not made that comparison myself

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