FabSwingers.com forum: Define vanilla for me

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Following on from another thread. What’s YOUR personal definition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from another thread. What’s YOUR personal definition. "

Standard, delicious but unadventurous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Following on from another thread. What’s YOUR personal definition.

Standard, delicious but unadventurous."

What’s adventurous though? Willing to try anything?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

A term used oft to sneer/look down upon someone whose sexual proclivities don't match their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lights off during sex..

it flops me sometime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from another thread. What’s YOUR personal definition.

Standard, delicious but unadventurous.

What’s adventurous though? Willing to try anything? "

This is the hard and soft limits rule I think. Willing to try anything, yes, but within personal boundaries...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lights off during sex..

it flops me sometime"

That could be body confidence though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

A substance obtained from vanilla pods!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Following on from another thread. What’s YOUR personal definition.

Standard, delicious but unadventurous.

What’s adventurous though? Willing to try anything?

This is the hard and soft limits rule I think. Willing to try anything, yes, but within personal boundaries..."

Yes. I would think everyone has limits. Not sure about the “you don’t know till you’ve tried it” attitude. There’s definitely things I wouldn’t even contemplate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Won’t keep the light on passed first base and keep their socks on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from another thread. What’s YOUR personal definition.

Standard, delicious but unadventurous.

What’s adventurous though? Willing to try anything?

This is the hard and soft limits rule I think. Willing to try anything, yes, but within personal boundaries...

Yes. I would think everyone has limits. Not sure about the “you don’t know till you’ve tried it” attitude. There’s definitely things I wouldn’t even contemplate. "

I completely agree.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A term used oft to sneer/look down upon someone whose sexual proclivities don't match their own. "

Do you think people do that? You mean if someone’s not willing to try certain things?

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"A term used oft to sneer/look down upon someone whose sexual proclivities don't match their own. "

you totally beat me to it...hate the term

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Won’t keep the light on passed first base and keep their socks on"

. They might have cold feet!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I see vanilla as people who haven't yet tried anything out of their comfort zone sexually, if more people discussed sex then that would change.

I've given some of the mums a few ideas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s the plain ice cream Nora but you can put sprinkles on top if you like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s the plain ice cream Nora but you can put sprinkles on top if you like

I like a few sprinkles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s the plain ice cream Nora but you can put sprinkles on top if you like

I like a few sprinkles

I like marmite on mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s the plain ice cream Nora but you can put sprinkles on top if you like

I like a few sprinkles

I like marmite on mine

marmite!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I like vanilla. I also like other flavours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s the plain ice cream Nora but you can put sprinkles on top if you like

I like a few sprinkles

I like marmite on mine

marmite!"

Just kidding, I like salted caramel flavour(marmite)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was chatting to someone about this earlier and found myself a little perplexed, as I find the term vanilla a little undermining.

So if your not into bdsm or kink your deemed vanilla, which in term can be boring for some. Myself I’m very open an with the right person I am very masochistic and submissive, yet with another person I can switch, yet I had can be very vanilla and have great fun.

I think vanilla has very umbrella tendencies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like vanilla. I also like other flavours. "

Vineilla flavour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One position, not fussed and won’t suck my big cock !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A term used oft to sneer/look down upon someone whose sexual proclivities don't match their own. "

This .

Others may also see it as not particularly kink driven.

Personally I describe myself as vanilla and I love it. Those who say it's boring are perhaps doing it wrong!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

It’s a term used mainly with a whiff of the derogatory for anyone that isn’t deemed to be as sexually “creative” or “exploratory” or “adventurous” as the person saying it.

When used as a non derogatory descriptor it typically means sex that’s pretty tame and typical, missionary with long term partner, no spanking or dirty talk let alone anything more avant garde. Nothing wrong with this type of sex, it can be bloody awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s no right or wrong answer one persons vanilla is not the same as another’s....

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By *uiet LightMan
over a year ago

Hove

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was chatting to someone about this earlier and found myself a little perplexed, as I find the term vanilla a little undermining.

I think vanilla has very umbrella tendencies "

Yes I think it does. That’s why I was interested in people’s interpretation of the word x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"A term used oft to sneer/look down upon someone whose sexual proclivities don't match their own.

Do you think people do that? You mean if someone’s not willing to try certain things?"

Do I, Meli, who has been on the forum for far more years than I'd like to admit, think that people look down/act better than/sneer at people who do sexual things they don't do? Hmmm...

Yes, they do. It's like "Oh, I'm so openminded and amazingly accepting because I take a hotdog up my arse while singing the national anthem. Anyone who doesn't is dull and boring but I'll phrase it nicely and say vanilla."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One position, not fussed and won’t suck my big cock !!"

Do you think oral is non vanilla?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A term used oft to sneer/look down upon someone whose sexual proclivities don't match their own.

Do you think people do that? You mean if someone’s not willing to try certain things?

Do I, Meli, who has been on the forum for far more years than I'd like to admit, think that people look down/act better than/sneer at people who do sexual things they don't do? Hmmm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s no right or wrong answer one persons vanilla is not the same as another’s...."

That’s about the essence of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting to someone about this earlier and found myself a little perplexed, as I find the term vanilla a little undermining.

I think vanilla has very umbrella tendencies

Yes I think it does. That’s why I was interested in people’s interpretation of the word x"

Sorry I was just giving my input x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There’s no right or wrong answer one persons vanilla is not the same as another’s...."

Yes I know. Interested in different peoples thoughts on it.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"A term used oft to sneer/look down upon someone whose sexual proclivities don't match their own.

Do you think people do that? You mean if someone’s not willing to try certain things?

Do I, Meli, who has been on the forum for far more years than I'd like to admit, think that people look down/act better than/sneer at people who do sexual things they don't do? Hmmm...

Surely the wiener is too soft and bendy-wendy? I have horrible visions of fragmenting sausage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was chatting to someone about this earlier and found myself a little perplexed, as I find the term vanilla a little undermining.

I think vanilla has very umbrella tendencies

Yes I think it does. That’s why I was interested in people’s interpretation of the word x

Sorry I was just giving my input x"

No I was agreeing with you. Don’t be sorry. I wasn’t being funny x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting to someone about this earlier and found myself a little perplexed, as I find the term vanilla a little undermining.

I think vanilla has very umbrella tendencies

Yes I think it does. That’s why I was interested in people’s interpretation of the word x

Sorry I was just giving my input x

No I was agreeing with you. Don’t be sorry. I wasn’t being funny x"

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Won’t keep the light on passed first base and keep their socks on"

I keep my socks on. That’s it. I’m outed!!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Surely the wiener is too soft and bendy-wendy? I have horrible visions of fragmenting sausage. "

Horrible? Delicious. Rimming and giving a reach around and oh what's that I can taste? Hot dog? Yummy.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Surely the wiener is too soft and bendy-wendy? I have horrible visions of fragmenting sausage.

Horrible? Delicious. Rimming and giving a reach around and oh what's that I can taste? Hot dog? Yummy.

But could you handle internalising the mustard?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Surely the wiener is too soft and bendy-wendy? I have horrible visions of fragmenting sausage.

Horrible? Delicious. Rimming and giving a reach around and oh what's that I can taste? Hot dog? Yummy.

But could you handle internalising the mustard?

Can always rely on you two to lower the tone

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"There’s no right or wrong answer one persons vanilla is not the same as another’s...."

This ^ just as someone’s kink could be someone’s vanilla.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Surely the wiener is too soft and bendy-wendy? I have horrible visions of fragmenting sausage.

Horrible? Delicious. Rimming and giving a reach around and oh what's that I can taste? Hot dog? Yummy.

But could you handle internalising the mustard?

Can always rely on you two to lower the tone

You’re so vanilla, Nora!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There’s no right or wrong answer one persons vanilla is not the same as another’s....

This ^ just as someone’s kink could be someone’s vanilla. "

Yes I agree. Was just interested to know what people thought was and wasn’t x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Surely the wiener is too soft and bendy-wendy? I have horrible visions of fragmenting sausage.

Horrible? Delicious. Rimming and giving a reach around and oh what's that I can taste? Hot dog? Yummy.

But could you handle internalising the mustard?

Can always rely on you two to lower the tone

You’re so vanilla, Nora!

I think I actually could be compared to you two!

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

I like what I like....if the guy I meet isn't into it I would'nt say he was vanilla....I wouldn't even use the word it used like an insult.....

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

I prefer rum and raisin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like what I like....if the guy I meet isn't into it I would'nt say he was vanilla....I wouldn't even use the word it used like an insult....."

Yes I kinda agree, kinda like saying your boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neapolitan for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We thought it just means non swingers who have standard monogamous relationships?

KJ x

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I like what I like....if the guy I meet isn't into it I would'nt say he was vanilla....I wouldn't even use the word it used like an insult.....

Yes I kinda agree, kinda like saying your boring "

Exactly,

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

We thought it just means non swingers who have standard monogamous relationships?

KJ x"

That’s what I thought. Nothing to do with how adventurous or not their sexual activity was.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"There’s no right or wrong answer one persons vanilla is not the same as another’s....

This ^ just as someone’s kink could be someone’s vanilla.

Yes I agree. Was just interested to know what people thought was and wasn’t x"

Always an interesting debate x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We thought it just means non swingers who have standard monogamous relationships?

KJ x"

Do you think a monogamous relationship is vanilla then? I understand how swingers could think that. Another interesting view x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Not universally but commonly enjoyed by most people. Good on it's own or can be the basis of an icecream sundae if you want to throw on some sauces and sprinkles.

I've also seen it used to generally refer to things outside of swinging/kink when people feel they live two distinct lives. I.e. "vanilla life" or "vanilla friends" for friends they know in "normal life" rather than through the swinging or kink scene (not in any way related to the sexual tastes of those friends just a differentiation of how they know said friends).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see vanilla as people who haven't yet tried anything out of their comfort zone sexually, if more people discussed sex then that would change.

I've given some of the mums a few ideas

What if you've tried one thing, five things, 10 things and none of them are for you? Do you carry on or at some point do you say 'I know what I like and like what I know'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We thought it just means non swingers who have standard monogamous relationships?

KJ x

That’s what I thought. Nothing to do with how adventurous or not their sexual activity was. "

To me it’s used derogatory as boring

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not universally but commonly enjoyed by most people. Good on it's own or can be the basis of an icecream sundae if you want to throw on some sauces and sprinkles.

Yes! That’s true. People do do that. Refer to vanilla life meaning life away from fab x

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Yes! That’s true. People do do that. Refer to vanilla life meaning life away from fab x"

That would be my definition of ‘vanilla’

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Surely the wiener is too soft and bendy-wendy? I have horrible visions of fragmenting sausage.

Horrible? Delicious. Rimming and giving a reach around and oh what's that I can taste? Hot dog? Yummy.

But could you handle internalising the mustard?

Can always rely on you two to lower the tone

You’re so vanilla, Nora!

I think I actually could be compared to you two!

Thanks Nora hun x

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