FabSwingers.com forum: Personal end of year review

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How are you compared to yourself at the beginning of the year?

Personally, it's been a turbulent year but I'm ending 2019 physically, mentally and spiritually stronger then I started the year.

Heres to 2020

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2019 seems to have whizzed by for me.

It was a better year for me than 2018 and hopefully 2020 will be better than 2019

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Fab wise it's been amazing. I've met and befriended some remarkable people, have accumulated many a horny memory i'll long treasure, and loved the experience of co hosting a club event. Through fab I rediscovered a talent thought long vanished

Professionally it's been a remarkable year as well as i've continued my development and have reached the pinnacle of my occupation

May 2020 bring more of the same!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We are in a much happier place. Moving 300 miles from the Essex coast to mid Wales was something we’d wanted to do for years although winding down my business @ then starting from scratch in March was a bit daunting but work has been on the up every month so far so all good there.

The move also allowed us to become mortgage free which was a pretty big noose around our necks with just me working as a sole trader, so stress levels are down in general.

Kids are doing better at school here, the younger one being pretty fluent in Welsh already!!

Oh & we are two months into having a g/f.

Possibly the best year of our lives so far (Outside of kids being born).

S&H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been best year of my life despite the real dangers iv faced and iv come out stronger than before altho the small things still frustrate me but a bit more patience and self control and a little but of vinigar and brown paper and i truly believe il have all my dreams

the future is bright the futures not orange tho im no sell out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been a bit of a shitty year which I'm glad to see the back of in many ways.

Thankfully I'm running away for the end of it to make it a good year and a fresh start for 2020.

Hopefully I will return refreshed and ready to transform

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"How are you compared to yourself at the beginning of the year?

Personally, it's been a turbulent year but I'm ending 2019 physically, mentally and spiritually stronger then I started the year.

Heres to 2020

I'm quite a lot less married than I was at the beginning of the year. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are in a much happier place. Moving 300 miles from the Essex coast to mid Wales was something we’d wanted to do for years although winding down my business @ then starting from scratch in March was a bit daunting but work has been on the up every month so far so all good there.

The move also allowed us to become mortgage free which was a pretty big noose around our necks with just me working as a sole trader, so stress levels are down in general.

Kids are doing better at school here, the younger one being pretty fluent in Welsh already!!

Oh & we are two months into having a g/f.

Possibly the best year of our lives so far (Outside of kids being born).

S&H

What’s a g/f?

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

It's been better than 2018.

I've made some amazing new friends some of who hold a special place in my heart.

I'm mentally stronger than I started the year and professionally I'm hoping my application means 2020 will be the best yet

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Financially shit

Emotionally shit

Basically not a good year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year has been one of my better ones.

My hard work paid off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I meant to take the road less travelled but somehow took a wrong turn in it.

Fucking women drivers right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a much better year than 2018.

Fab wise 2019 has been fairly awful but real life has been not too bad

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

It’s been a good year for us overall, not had any where near as much play as last year but what we did have were very memorable

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

It has been a good year on every level and 2020 is looking to be even better

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Been a great year met some wonderful people and had lots of fun hope next year is even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first year of swinging has been amazing. We’ve had 3somes, 4somes, 8somes, mfff, made some friends. It’s been an experience.

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

We have had a very mixed year some tears but much more happiness so looking forward to the next adventures and see where they take us!!

Am not sure I could love Mrs Sofa any more but with each day I think I do

Regarding fab we set a target for the end of the year and we are so on course to make it happen!

If you really want something then make it happen

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

This year started awfully with a lot of heartache and uncertainty - I really struggled to get through certain patches. Thanks to some wonderful supportive people in my life (including from here!), I've moved from strength to strength personally, professionally, emotionally and financially. I've met some amazing people who I hope I remain friends with for a long time. So it's ending on a high really.

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

I have really learned (and seen) a lot this year. Horizon expanding. Next year might be more of a 'consolidation' year.

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By *rallyFixated1Man
over a year ago

tipton

2019 started awfully for me. Relationship break up, walked away with a bag of clothes to my name. I slept on a mates sofa for a month, i was literally rock bottom. I’m now in my own little flat, happy, comfortable, and ready for 2020 to bring me some luck (and some sex please!)

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

In a nutshell:

Romantically. Meh.

Sexually. Wasn’t bad.

Family. Great.

Financially. Don’t ask!

Health. Ok (touch wood)

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

2019 has been a bit of a mixed year for me. Started with the sudden loss of my dog, work looked to be greatly improving but turned very turbulent, and my domestic situation isn't ideal. But, i've had some fantastically fun times (both on and off of here), met some amazing people, and created many happy memories.

I can't wait to see what adventures 2020 brings

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I started this year better mentally than 2018, however with money concerns and not knowing where my next employment was coming from.

A trip abroad in May helped even more with the headspace, then since June things have been going really good professionally.

I started some self employed work which led to employed work and I've taken a couple of other opportunities that have led to success - all contributing to me feeling in a very different place.

My parents health has improved too which has been a weight lifted.

I'm happy and its a good while since I've really been able to say that, other than trying to perk others up here with nice messages and lots of smileys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year -meh

Next year let’s see what happens after the 12th lol we may all be doomed lol

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By *ove3funCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

2020 will be better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh this year has been mixed.

I gained around four stone this year and I really don't feel happy within myself anymore and my mental health has taken a huge hit just as I was finally starting to overcome my depression and anxiety. I think this is down to stress, new changes, appearance and lack of sleep.

But in a different way, I am now a mother to one wonderful little girl and she has given me so much confidence and I learn something new each day. She has made me realise I am one strong kick ass mama. I can't wait to see what the future holds.

I'm looking forward to 2020.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

"Oh this year has been mixed.

I'm looking forward to 2020. "

My 2019 has just got better having seen your avatar picture LBC

*cock twitch*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started this year better mentally than 2018, however with money concerns and not knowing where my next employment was coming from.

A trip abroad in May helped even more with the headspace, then since June things have been going really good professionally.

I started some self employed work which led to employed work and I've taken a couple of other opportunities that have led to success - all contributing to me feeling in a very different place.

My parents health has improved too which has been a weight lifted.

I'm happy and its a good while since I've really been able to say that, other than trying to perk others up here with nice messages and lots of smileys.

Awe this genuinely made me smile. I'm happy that you are happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh this year has been mixed.

I'm looking forward to 2020.

My 2019 has just got better having seen your avatar picture LBC

*cock twitch*"

Ah I just changed it back to the Christmas booty

but I'm glad you like my lip bite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve lost weight

I’m feeling better

I’m looking forward to actually meeting people off here without any drama attached to it - sadly would mean vetting my female friendships a little better.

So I’m ending it , looking fitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year has probably been the worst year ever for me personally, mostly due to problems of loved ones that have affected me a lot. It’s hard to tell yourself to stop caring and worrying about others so much but I really need to and maybe concentrate on me a bit more as I was in danger of losing me I think!

There has been a few ups though and some happiness along the way. I can’t wait to start the new year positively and determined to make it better than this one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This year has probably been the worst year ever for me personally, mostly due to problems of loved ones that have affected me a lot. It’s hard to tell yourself to stop caring and worrying about others so much but I really need to and maybe concentrate on me a bit more as I was in danger of losing me I think!

There has been a few ups though and some happiness along the way. I can’t wait to start the new year positively and determined to make it better than this one x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Made more friends than I've lost.

Lost more weight than I've gained.

Spent more money than I've made.

Had lots of hugs in 2019 but only 1 proper snog and exactly zero shags.

Emotional wellbeing is on a downward trend but by agreeing to participate in fun stuff - even when I can't be arsed - I can hopefully slow the decline.

Sometimes it works. Meh

I predict 2020 will see me doing a lot less Fab-related stuff.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

"I started this year better mentally than 2018, however with money concerns and not knowing where my next employment was coming from.

A trip abroad in May helped even more with the headspace, then since June things have been going really good professionally.

I started some self employed work which led to employed work and I've taken a couple of other opportunities that have led to success - all contributing to me feeling in a very different place.

My parents health has improved too which has been a weight lifted.

I'm happy and its a good while since I've really been able to say that, other than trying to perk others up here with nice messages and lots of smileys.

Awe this genuinely made me smile. I'm happy that you are happy.

Thank you. Here is to a much better year ahead for you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have more hairs on my chest but less in my head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an honest assessment I’ve lost progress with gym work but I’m not beating myself up about it.

This years been about being more kind to myself mentally and it’s brought the reward of me feeling ready to give 2020 my best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2020 will be better

Yes definitely!

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Started amazing. Went downhill very fast with the loss of my mother.

Hopefully now crawling back up the hill and will be on top again shortly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My year has been tough one. The first half was upsetting to say the least. And the follow on isn't over yet but the end may be in sight. I'm much more happy and content though now.

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By *lue_dogMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Well while it started pretty poorly, it got and has kept getting better to be one of my ‘best’ (feels that way at least) years ever.

I feel more positive emotionally, I’m happy, have great things happen in gin my life and some even better things to look forward to.

In fact, writing this down has helped made me realise just how good I feel so thank you! And if you are going through a rough patch now, although it might not seem so, nothing lasts forever and it will get better - keep moving forward

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By *lue_dogMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

"Well while it started pretty poorly, it got and has kept getting better to be one of my ‘best’ (feels that way at least) years ever.

I feel more positive emotionally, I’m happy, have great things happen in gin my life and some even better things to look forward to.

*happening not happen in gin

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

All good here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical I will weigh less at the end off this year Tick

Family all good Tick

Work ah pays the mortgage Tick

Fab world .. having a ball Tick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah a poignant thread. Love readinf everyone's personal thoughts on themselves and teir life thabks for sharing.

I can echo your sentiments OP, (and a few of the rest of you) awful awful year and up until a week or two ago I was really struggling, but I'm tough again and full of fire and hope.

Come on 2020 show us what you got...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year has been difficult. The universe sending kicks and punches that have been gathering in strength and momentum so that i have no choice but to change. 2020 will bring that change and hopefully be the start of a new phase of my life

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

This year has been tough in many ways but it's taught me a lot about my own resilience so for that I'm thankful. 2019 was a year of consolidation for me - no tangible growth in many areas but setting the important groundwork for the next couple of years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah a poignant thread. Love readinf everyone's personal thoughts on themselves and teir life thabks for sharing.

I can echo your sentiments OP, (and a few of the rest of you) awful awful year and up until a week or two ago I was really struggling, but I'm tough again and full of fire and hope.

Come on 2020 show us what you got...

2019 has been a turbulent year for me. Been in my job a year now and I feel like I am finally secured in my role, it has been tough and demandng but finally getting things how I want them.

My health has been up and down, I have a heart condition which flared up and knocked me for six, but I finally got to see a Cardiologist after two years of being told I couldn't possibly have it because I'm too young, the Cardiologist now admits I have the condition, so glad that is getting sorted.

My love life has taken a tumble, my fwb drifted away, left a huge hole but he needed to follow his dreams, still friends and it hurts. But another one on the horizon, so here is hoping it all works out.

Personally I am going through a transition of my role as Mum, both my boys are independant of me now and it has been difficult assimilating that, especially when the youngest moved away to work. It has been hard and still trying to figure out where I fit into their lives.

My mental health has taken a bit of a bashing, don't necessarily suffer depression or anxiety but I have flashes of low moments which I have to drag myself up from. Sometimes it is tiresome being strong and I wish someone could be strong for me.

Forward thinkig into 2020 I just abide by the rule of moving forward, taking each day as it comes, not sweating the small stuff, continuing to be kind to people and knowing whatever the new year brings I know I will do my best and work through it as best as I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year has been more upset, heartbreak and worry than I care to remember. I've had health problems associated with my brain tumour, I fell off my scooter (pothole) and damaged my shoulder, my mum has been very ill, both cars have cost me a fortune in fixing, the bathroom flooded, the sewer pipe backed up and I had shit and sweetcorn all over my drive, the hot tub broke twice, let down big time by a decorator, then my special Aunt died, my dog died 2 weeks later and yesterday my uncle died after a long illness. If anything else happens this year, I think I'll need a padded cell. I'm so sad at the moment

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"This year has been more upset, heartbreak and worry than I care to remember. I've had health problems associated with my brain tumour, I fell off my scooter (pothole) and damaged my shoulder, my mum has been very ill, both cars have cost me a fortune in fixing, the bathroom flooded, the sewer pipe backed up and I had shit and sweetcorn all over my drive, the hot tub broke twice, let down big time by a decorator, then my special Aunt died, my dog died 2 weeks later and yesterday my uncle died after a long illness. If anything else happens this year, I think I'll need a padded cell. I'm so sad at the moment

Sending you love, Dana. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are strong and still standing.

Sending you much love and wishes that 2020 will be full of things you deserve

Don't be sad, move forward. Never back, it is all you can do xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh sweetheart!!! Here’s hoping that’s all the bad luck over with for the next 20 years....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been shitty I've really struggled this year. The one good thing is I met beast but that came with challenges too. I'm hoping 2020 can be an improvement

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

The move also allowed us to become mortgage free which was a pretty big noose around our necks with just me working as a sole trader, so stress levels are down in general.

Kids are doing better at school here, the younger one being pretty fluent in Welsh already!!

Oh & we are two months into having a g/f.

Possibly the best year of our lives so far (Outside of kids being born).

S&H

What’s a g/f? "

Sorry, GirlFriend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you ^^^ ladies. I try so hard to be positive but even my closest girlfriends think I'm a very unlucky person in life. Doomed!

But I'm still here and on Christmas day I'll be rocking a new outfit, hair and nails done and having a wonderful dinner with those who matter the most. Cheers everybody, roll on the New Year x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This time last year, and for the first 4 mths of 2019, I was in a really bad place. I'm pleased to say I have a new job I love, my health has stabilised and I'm back to my normal, optimistic self.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This time last year, and for the first 4 mths of 2019, I was in a really bad place. I'm pleased to say I have a new job I love, my health has stabilised and I'm back to my normal, optimistic self.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been to some great places,almost killed at work,again,early in year,made redundant,email on holiday,started back working for myself,still time left to make or break the year money wise day trading,only done one 'real ' week work since July,met some crazy beautiful people on fab,quality not quantity,seen some brilliant bands,stand out being Rival Son's in usher halls,good health all year,yeah been ok

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

"Ah a poignant thread. Love readinf everyone's personal thoughts on themselves and teir life thabks for sharing.

I can echo your sentiments OP, (and a few of the rest of you) awful awful year and up until a week or two ago I was really struggling, but I'm tough again and full of fire and hope.

Come on 2020 show us what you got...

2019 has been a turbulent year for me. Been in my job a year now and I feel like I am finally secured in my role, it has been tough and demandng but finally getting things how I want them.

I can relate to a lot of that!!

This is a nice reflection exercise which I wasn’t expecting to do today!

The hard stuff: I’ve carried on being a single mum, renting a room to make ends meet, dealt single handedly with bullying and so moved both kids’ school, I’ve progressed my divorce do the end is in sight, and got my house on the market.

The fun stuff: I’ve been to festivals, found local ecstatic dances, met a few lovely people from fab...and made a couple of mistakes!

The emotional stuff: I’ve tried to ask for help when I need it, I’ve accepted the ups and downs of my hormones, ive worked through some big stuff and come through it standing.

2020: I’m pretty daunted by it. Divorce being finalised, got to move house, likely to have to go through the appeals process for secondary school places. But I know how to keep myself sane and what I need to do when it all gets a bit overwhelm-y...and hopefully more festivals, dancing, friendly faces and growth!

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By *ueen of sleezeWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Its been a horrible year work wise and at home.

But on the plus side met an amazing guy on here who has been an amazing distraction enabling me to cope with life.

Well at least helping me to put it in perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate to a lot of that!!

This is a nice reflection exercise which I wasn’t expecting to do today!

The fun stuff: I’ve been to festivals, found local ecstatic dances, met a few lovely people from fab...and made a couple of mistakes!

The emotional stuff: I’ve tried to ask for help when I need it, I’ve accepted the ups and downs of my hormones, ive worked through some big stuff and come through it standing.

You sound like a very strong lady, but you must take some time for you.

Hope 2020 is everything you wish for xx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

My year has been so, so. Nothing special. I don't know why but this year I've been appreciating what I have a bit more than usual. Great family life, great friends, a job I quite like.

I see my kids growing up and becoming beautiful, thoughtful young people and realising that we've done a good job parenting. My eldest is independent and flourishing. They all fill my heart with pride.

Fab hasn't really worked for me lately, in fact I feel like I'm coming to the end of my time here.

Next year I'll spend a little more time on me because I think I deserve it.

Love to all x

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By *lue_dogMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

"My year has been so, so. Nothing special. I don't know why but this year I've been appreciating what I have a bit more than usual. Great family life, great friends, a job I quite like.

Fab hasn't really worked for me lately, in fact I feel like I'm coming to the end of my time here.

Next year I'll spend a little more time on me because I think I deserve it.

Love to all x"

Everyone deserves this

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It has been a wonderful year. I have met some amazing people, I’ve talked and listened and oh my goodness have I laughed!

great times.

I have become rather more cynical than I once was with fab. I suppose I’ve had my eyes opened to some behaviours that I’ve never experienced before. It has left me cynical and not as trusting unfortunately. Having said that, I do enjoy it here, particularly the mls, fantastic chats and special people.

My job is brilliant. I love it!

My family

. Blimey I could burst with pride. We’ve had some changes this year and I couldn’t be happier for those in my life. I am very much blessed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno can't remember Jan 2019

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By *inxy300Woman
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

There has been a few ups though and some happiness along the way. I can’t wait to start the new year positively and determined to make it better than this one x"

I so get ya 2020 has got to be about me as always put others first emotionally im drained.

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By *az211Man
over a year ago

Bse

Eye opening year for me bad in the middle but better for the overall outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t imagine what next year has in store. It’s because I don’t have 2020 vision.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

It's been a rollercoaster year for me, started off OK, got better, got much worse for awhile and now it's good again

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"How are you compared to yourself at the beginning of the year?

Personally, it's been a turbulent year but I'm ending 2019 physically, mentally and spiritually stronger then I started the year.

Heres to 2020

Great to hear. I started it shy but it's been a roller coaster year. I'm stronger now and empowered. No more crap and fight my corner now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, one of the worst years I’ve put down.

Roll on 2020.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"It's been a rollercoaster year for me, started off OK, got better, got much worse for awhile and now it's good again

I also got my mojo back after gynaecological issues for many years. Hurrah for hysterectomys

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Work, and therefore finances, has been the best in ten years. It has come at a cost as I have only had time for my usual week off in March and a long weekend in June. I'm tired and a little stressed.

On the plus side, I have been able to be generous to family, friends, strangers and to my self.

My mental health has held up reasonably well. I have managed to avoid falling into the pit of depression and survived the riptide of my SAD, stress and low self-esteem. I am a little less tolerant than I would be fully well but I think I have managed to keep it under control in public.

My family is in a good place after some health scares. My time with them feels ever more precious as the years go on and the teens move away from us. I am blessed that they love and care for me.

My sex life has been frustrating. I get more views on LinkedIn than on here. I have been horribly horny all year but I'm old enough and ugly enough to know that an unsatisfactory FAF is not the answer. I have met people I should not have. I have been the 'if there isn't a better offer' option and have been left thinking I was getting a meet and then finding out I'm not considered worth that effort. I've been the one shag good but not good enough for a repeat. I am the common denominator in this and I accept that the responsibility, and response, lies with me.

On the plus side, I have attended more socials than ever before and have enjoyed the company and meeting new people.

Also, my two oldest Fab friends continue to be my friends, even when they refuse to have sex with me.

I have tried to be a good friend, counsellor and confidential ear here and out there.

I have accepted that I am highly unlikely to find love and made peace with that.

Healthwise I am managing my pain levels and have adapted to accommodate adding osteoporosis to my various health issues.

I have had a blessed year. It's not over yet but I am confident that I will survive and start 2020 well.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Reading many of these messages and reviews... Never forget we are all individual and that individuality is what sets us apart. Some good people here and don't forget it, as much as life throws at us, there are better times ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2019 has been good to me:

*A new awesome job

*Friends and family in abundance

*My health

*And I found Fab which suits me perfectly.

2020 will hold plenty of challenges however:

*New house

*learn to drive

*Healthier eating intentions

*secondary school choices to make

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those that have had great or even good year I hope that 2020 will be kind to you again.

For those who have found this year hard it's almost over we cant go back and change it and just like the wheel of fortune I wish good things for you in the future as that's the only direction we can all go in.

I'm not going to reflect on 2019, I'll be glad when it's gone. Yet without a little rain how do we ever learn to enjoy the sunshine....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"For those that have had great or even good year I hope that 2020 will be kind to you again.

I'm not going to reflect on 2019, I'll be glad when it's gone. Yet without a little rain how do we ever learn to enjoy the sunshine....

And you only get the glory of a rainbow with both.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

2019 has been a year of release for me, no longer do I feel oppression from someone who should have loved me unconditionally and this has reflected in my own parenting skills.

I also now view every day as a brand new day and embrace it, ive lost all negativity from my life and have been included in some wonderful memories and am looking forward to making some new ones with some very special friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been a year that started off tremendously shit, but in October-December, it's been amazing and I don't want it to end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2019 has been pretty "meh" for me personally. Not great and not bad either.

2018 was an epic year, where I achieved everything I wanted. As a result, much of 2019 (apart from the last couple of months when I've started scheming and challenging myself) has been just plodding along - no challenges, no excitement, just meh.

So I'm making 2020 a year where I'm challenging myself, with a whole new set of physical, emotional and mental goals. Personally and at work. It will be hard, and it will be fun! Here's to setting the bar high!

xx Niki

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