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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Just get on with it.

In my book, I wont care when I am gone.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Not really, none of us are getting out alive so live the shit out of it while the going is good

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No, it doesn't, I just get on with it. I don't think about death much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Partially yes. But it's a good drive.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Just get on with it but try to be careful.

I've almost died 3 times now and live with a heart condition. I could spend life freaking out and worrying myself sick, or I can be careful while still enjoying life.

Brat

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Going soon

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

Death is just a natural inevitable state of life so, just get on with life. Be kind, be nice and enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get waves of panic every so often about death even though it is inevitable. It's also hard for me to accept that someone you love just isnt there anymore. A few recent close deaths have made me see life very differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Death completes the circle.

I just try to live my life as best as I can, look to improve myself a little each day.

I don't fear death, I fear dying alone

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I try and get on with it, I’m fearful of leaving my children behind so I am more cautious. In terms of what comes after, I don’t know but I don’t want to live in fear that something bad might happen if I did something wrong. I’m a good person and aim for a positive speech at my funeral

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Not scared of death, only scared of not living first

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?"

Death is a part of life .. huge teacher. So yes

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?"

I guess not. I live every day like it's my last. No one lives forever. Grab life whilst u can enjoy things

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It does somewhat as I don't believe in any after life, so I appreciate what I have now and make the most of this life

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

We can’t live our lives around ‘what if’

Death is inevitable - we just don’t know when! Use your time on this mortal coil wisely ...

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By *V-AliceTV/TS
over a year ago

Ayr

Life's become such a massive pain in the arse, lately, that death doesn't bother me as much as it used to.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Yes it always has.

I do believe that there is more after this life, I have no idea what, but something.

That something is determined by how I’ve lived this life, so I never do anything intentional to hurt or harm anyone or anything else.

I also try and help anyone and anything I can where possible.

Just in case I’m right, this philosophy seems right to me.

It’s a shame some of the rotten scumbags out there that take pleasure from hurting others don’t take a similar approach. Especially when you see people like the scrote that threw the kid off the Tate building and the shit that committed 37 atrocious crimes against children and elderly when he should have been locked up. On a daily basis we see such people who have no moral code doing these things, and I can’t help thinking that some belief may be better than none.

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By *uicylucy19Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

‘The time is gone, the song is over, thought I’d something more to say...’

Don’t want to look back and feel like that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Death becomes us all. You can't avoid it and there is a date in time with your name on it.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I just don't want to leave myself in a mess and be a pain when i'm gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm conflicted. On the one hand I'm all "well we only live once, let's eat drink fuck and be merry". On the other hand I am painfully aware that eating drinking and being merry too much may drastically reduce my lifespan... Not fucking though. I'm not conflicted about fucking

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?"

Yes it does. I believe that when you die, that's it. Therefore I try to make the best of the time I have here. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot die

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

Can't really believe all I've done in half a century. The people I've been lucky enough to call friends, the countries and cultures I've managed to get to, the personal achievements that I've surprised myself with.

So, I've had an amazing life, in my opinion, though, as I now have young children, they are the reason why I want at least 10 more years, to be able to guide and advise them on life's journey, so they become better people than I ever was.

The way I lived my life means that's probably not likely and the missed opportunity with my kids would be the only thing that scares me about death.

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By *0 Shades of RedCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least I can say with some certainty that should I die tomorrow then I will die knowing I lived. I laughed, I cried, I travelled, I danced, I ate, I saw many things and I did many many things.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Some times I wonder what if we suddenly wake up and all our current life (our job, our belongings, partners, loved ones, kids, parents, achievements etc) are actually a dream.

Is that what death is? - the end of our current "dream/life?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I think of death to being the same as before I was born.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I was convinced in 2018 when I knew I had throat cancer that I was going to die .

This was prior to confirmed diagnosis, as everyone I knew who had this type of cancer died or were terminal, a very good friend and brave man included..

So I was convinced my life was at an end, we had a family holiday (kids didn’t know I was ill) which the girls already said would be the last one as a family, but to me it was very likely to be my last holiday. You sit and cry thinking about your life, all the things you should have done, all the things you know you won’t get time to do. I didn’t tell anyone about this as I just thought that was that..

Then when I got my diagnosis and they said 99% treatable, it was such a weight and burden taken off my shoulders.

Recently though I had a mini stroke, perhaps this is a sign that I shouldn’t be here, that in one way or another a greater power is trying to take me..

so now I’m considering not working anymore, I have some money and am looking to use it as a way to give me an income instead, still not told my employer that due to health issues I want to give up work.

My contract states if I leave before May 1st he will look to take bake £5000 costs incurred by the search and select company he employed to obtain me..

So being ill again has made me think about what’s important in life for me now, yet there are still pressures from outside to force me to work, even though the pressures of working may bring on another stroke.

So when I see your post about death, I have faced this fear and continue to do so. I don’t certainly want a massive stroke leaving me drooling or paralysed down one side, the mini stroke was bad enough..

Anyway just my thoughts on this subject

X

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By *ady PaulaWoman
over a year ago

bradford

It happens, nothing I can do about it so why worry

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

I think it would be better for all if we were given an end date from day 1

No reason to stress then, simple.

65 seems about right.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

I have lost a lot of loved ones so I don’t waste time.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"I think it would be better for all if we were given an end date from day 1

No reason to stress then, simple.

65 seems about right. "

65???

You ducking kidding??

Pension age is 67, you want to work then die??

I’m 58 and I’ll fight to stay alive as long as I’m no burden to anyone else

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"I think it would be better for all if we were given an end date from day 1

No reason to stress then, simple.

65 seems about right.

65???

You ducking kidding??

Pension age is 67, you want to work then die??

I’m 58 and I’ll fight to stay alive as long as I’m no

burden to anyone else

"

No, we should all be able to retire earlier, have a few good years then hit the “Off” switch

No need for care homes, geriatric care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just get on with it, there's no point worrying about something that's inevitable..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think about death and what's in store for us when we die, but it doesn't effect the way I live my life other than it can sometimes make me do things that are outside of my comfort zone in a "Fuck it, you only live once" kinda way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view has been changed after doing my training into medical stuff when I changed career 7 yrs ago. Now I wana love my life and not regret anything

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...


"I was convinced in 2018 when I knew I had throat cancer that I was going to die .

This was prior to confirmed diagnosis, as everyone I knew who had this type of cancer died or were terminal, a very good friend and brave man included..

So I was convinced my life was at an end, we had a family holiday (kids didn’t know I was ill) which the girls already said would be the last one as a family, but to me it was very likely to be my last holiday. You sit and cry thinking about your life, all the things you should have done, all the things you know you won’t get time to do. I didn’t tell anyone about this as I just thought that was that..

Then when I got my diagnosis and they said 99% treatable, it was such a weight and burden taken off my shoulders.

Recently though I had a mini stroke, perhaps this is a sign that I shouldn’t be here, that in one way or another a greater power is trying to take me..

so now I’m considering not working anymore, I have some money and am looking to use it as a way to give me an income instead, still not told my employer that due to health issues I want to give up work.

My contract states if I leave before May 1st he will look to take bake £5000 costs incurred by the search and select company he employed to obtain me..

So being ill again has made me think about what’s important in life for me now, yet there are still pressures from outside to force me to work, even though the pressures of working may bring on another stroke.

So when I see your post about death, I have faced this fear and continue to do so. I don’t certainly want a massive stroke leaving me drooling or paralysed down one side, the mini stroke was bad enough..

Anyway just my thoughts on this subject

X"

Sorry to hear of your troubles.

Most decent employers would wave clawing back the finders fee given your health issues.

Why don't you let them know what you are thinking now and they can search for your replacement and you can stay until they arrive as a compromise?

By doing this your employer won't be left in the lurch when you do go and probably even more likely to wave the finders fee.

Whatever you choose good luck for the future!

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham


"I think it would be better for all if we were given an end date from day 1

No reason to stress then, simple.

65 seems about right.

65???

You ducking kidding??

Pension age is 67, you want to work then die??

I’m 58 and I’ll fight to stay alive as long as I’m no

burden to anyone else

No, we should all be able to retire earlier, have a few good years then hit the “Off” switch

No need for care homes, geriatric care."
I'll make certain my "off" switch is broken then. Life only gets better if you embrace it. Make it count and enjoy it like I do

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?"

My views on death and the beyond are this......

Death is an inevitable part of the human life cycle. No one lives for ever. I accept death will come. I no longer fear death. Knowing death will come does affect the way I live. I stop to talk. I stop to view. I stop to smell and to share. Those are the things that the stressed out rushers in our societies fail to enjoy. Then BUMP they are dead no matter how wealthy , famous or infamous.

Make friends. Love yourself.

Live for the now cos there isn't a beyond.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I think it would be better for all if we were given an end date from day 1

No reason to stress then, simple.

65 seems about right. "

Right for what ?

If you are still fucking, drinking and laughing it's too early to die.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"I think it would be better for all if we were given an end date from day 1

No reason to stress then, simple.

65 seems about right.

65???

You ducking kidding??

Pension age is 67, you want to work then die??

I’m 58 and I’ll fight to stay alive as long as I’m no

burden to anyone else

No, we should all be able to retire earlier, have a few good years then hit the “Off” switch

No need for care homes, geriatric care."

So what about people like me who would have died if it wasn’t for advances in medical sciences, do you think that we shouldn’t save people like me, perhaps we should die and therefore not be a burden on the purse strings of society

Ok look at this another way euthanasia at 65

Rod Stewart dead

Mick jagger dead

Elton John dead

The Queen dead

Jeremy Corbin dead ( ok I’ll give you that one)

Btw

Ian Botham you would be switching him off next November

John travolta

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

When those around you start to die, it is thought provoking.

My thoughts are life is for living and stop to smell the roses.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Having sat by the bedsides of both my parents as they passed away in the last two years, it has certainly made me contemplate my own mortality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?"

Enjoy life longtime dead

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Having sat by the bedsides of both my parents as they passed away in the last two years, it has certainly made me contemplate my own mortality.

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Jeez that is a lot to deal with x

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"I think it would be better for all if we were given an end date from day 1

No reason to stress then, simple.

65 seems about right.

65???

You ducking kidding??

Pension age is 67, you want to work then die??

I’m 58 and I’ll fight to stay alive as long as I’m no

burden to anyone else

No, we should all be able to retire earlier, have a few good years then hit the “Off” switch

No need for care homes, geriatric care.

So what about people like me who would have died if it wasn’t for advances in medical sciences, do you think that we shouldn’t save people like me, perhaps we should die and therefore not be a burden on the purse strings of society

Ok look at this another way euthanasia at 65

Rod Stewart dead

Mick jagger dead

Elton John dead

The Queen dead

Jeremy Corbin dead ( ok I’ll give you that one)

Btw

Ian Botham you would be switching him off next November

John travolta

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They are all just people the same as you and I.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

There’s only 2 things you’ll definitely do in this life .. 1, pay tax (in one way or another) and die.. so u may as well fiddle as much tax as u can and live life to the full .. cuz they both stop in the end

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"There’s only 2 things you’ll definitely do in this life .. 1, pay tax (in one way or another) and die.. so u may as well fiddle as much tax as u can and live life to the full .. cuz they both stop in the end "

Ah but they don't.

Your tax burden may be left for your loved ones to sort once you are gone

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"There’s only 2 things you’ll definitely do in this life .. 1, pay tax (in one way or another) and die.. so u may as well fiddle as much tax as u can and live life to the full .. cuz they both stop in the end

Ah but they don't.

Your tax burden may be left for your loved ones to sort once you are gone"

And what does the corpse care .. he/she knows nothing about the bailiffs knocking on the door

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"There’s only 2 things you’ll definitely do in this life .. 1, pay tax (in one way or another) and die.. so u may as well fiddle as much tax as u can and live life to the full .. cuz they both stop in the end

Ah but they don't.

Your tax burden may be left for your loved ones to sort once you are gone

And what does the corpse care .. he/she knows nothing about the bailiffs knocking on the door "

I'd care about my nearest and dearest hiding behind the sofa

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"There’s only 2 things you’ll definitely do in this life .. 1, pay tax (in one way or another) and die.. so u may as well fiddle as much tax as u can and live life to the full .. cuz they both stop in the end

Ah but they don't.

Your tax burden may be left for your loved ones to sort once you are gone

And what does the corpse care .. he/she knows nothing about the bailiffs knocking on the door

I'd care about my nearest and dearest hiding behind the sofa "

The curtains will be drawn as the house is still in mourning

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I think my death will be nothing more than a minor inconvenience in my life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it does and no worries here

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By *edonisthenryMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

I am dealing with the death of my beloved 95 year old Swedish mum who passed away on Wednesday due to heart failure. We should all live life to the full as she did and die, if we can, well. She died at home with her family, so no hospitals or care homes. Wishing you all a sexy Christmas. Henry x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I am dealing with the death of my beloved 95 year old Swedish mum who passed away on Wednesday due to heart failure. We should all live life to the full as she did and die, if we can, well. She died at home with her family, so no hospitals or care homes. Wishing you all a sexy Christmas. Henry x"

Hug of support to you Henry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im too old to worry about it

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By *edonisthenryMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

It pains me greatly that I am not able to share my grief with my dad and two siblings. I feel I have to do it in a secluded place. Why am I doing this with strangers who I do not know? What is wrong with the British? Keeping calm and carrying on as we did in the Second World War was understandable for then but not still in 2019.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I am dealing with the death of my beloved 95 year old Swedish mum who passed away on Wednesday due to heart failure. We should all live life to the full as she did and die, if we can, well. She died at home with her family, so no hospitals or care homes. Wishing you all a sexy Christmas. Henry x"

Sorry for your loss Henry x

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By *edonisthenryMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Thank you for your support.

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple
over a year ago

Lust

Death itself is not something I worry about or fear. However, the thought of the grief it would cause to the one I love most is truly heart wrenching to think about......

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I came close to death once and I'm not afraid to die.

I believe when we die that's not the end. I believe we live on thru our children, grandchildren, friends, lovers. They carry memories of us, both good and bad and they celebrate our life and how we've touched them thru tears and laughter.

I refuse to live the rest of my life with "what ifs".

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Death itself doesn’t scare me, more how i die.

I am scared of dying a horrific death. I want to die peacefully. But more than that i’m scared of leaving my children. I don’t want to leave them before they are old enough to be able to go it alone in the world. They are my reason for being. Having to say goodbye to them would be intolerable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Death itself doesn’t scare me, more how i die.

I am scared of dying a horrific death. I want to die peacefully. But more than that i’m scared of leaving my children. I don’t want to leave them before they are old enough to be able to go it alone in the world. They are my reason for being. Having to say goodbye to them would be intolerable."

This is what I'm afraid of. I had my last 2 children late in life. I'm 62 now, and my youngest (13) dotes on me, we have a lovely relationship. I really really dread going.

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By *edonisthenryMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

I agree, La Luna, and appreciate your empathy. I have two sons who are now adults and the thought of leaving them to cope alone before they were ready would have been very hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a biker so death is a very real possibility every time I go for a ride, it’s something everyone with a dangerous interest has to accept.

However I do find when I’m riding regularly and therefore more at risk I find I’m more inclined to treat myself.

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By *edonisthenryMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

As one who lives alone, I don't look forward to what happened to a dear friend in London. He died in his flat and nobody knew until later.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

(Lou) Had a few deaths this year, it's made me realise life is for living and to try and not stress about the smaller stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It pains me greatly that I am not able to share my grief with my dad and two siblings. I feel I have to do it in a secluded place. Why am I doing this with strangers who I do not know? What is wrong with the British? Keeping calm and carrying on as we did in the Second World War was understandable for then but not still in 2019."

No doubt they feel the same. I don't think I would be able to fully share my grief with close family either.. But I'd have my moments alone.

I don't know why. Wishing you all the best.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Don't leave any fun in the bank. You're a long time dead.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

Death is something I think about lots at Christmas as my brother died on Christmas Day 2014

In the previous few years beforehand I also lost my mum and dad and another brother. I haven’t managed to even take it all in really. But it’s definitely changed my view on life. Be kind and nice and live every day as fully as you can x

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

Sorry I didn’t mean to bring this thread to an abrupt end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry I didn’t mean to bring this thread to an abrupt end "

I don't think you did. Its just slow today.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Sorry I didn’t mean to bring this thread to an abrupt end

I don't think you did. Its just slow today. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?"

How I live no, that I live yes.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?

How I live no, that I live yes. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would anyone think about dying, i live my life

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"why would anyone think about dying, i live my life "

Well when you lose pretty much all your family in a few years it’s hard not to

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I’m a fatalist, it is what it is, I’ll go when it’s my time & that could be tomorrow or when I’m 100+yrs old.

So just get on with it & see what happens

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned very early on that life is short and have lived a full rich life. Seeing adults around me that were unhappy, unfulfilled and repressed had a greater effect. I've been incredibly lucky to have had my freedom, which has come at a cost but I'd barely change anything....except meeting my lover earlier and ending my last relationship with honour and care.

I don't feel many people understand that they can live different lives from what the mainstream presents us. It makes me sad. It takes strength but it's absolutely worth every minute.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

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By *ornyandwellhungMan
over a year ago

belfast

I think it’s important to live a good life, I mean by helping others if you can, being honest, treating others with respect. These are just basic principles which I try to adhere to. O, and enjoy life too. Just my views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?"

I do not fear death, it is only the end of this particular body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It pains me greatly that I am not able to share my grief with my dad and two siblings. I feel I have to do it in a secluded place. Why am I doing this with strangers who I do not know? What is wrong with the British? Keeping calm and carrying on as we did in the Second World War was understandable for then but not still in 2019."

Grieving is individual, you are mourning YOUR loss. Your family will mourn THEIR loss.

Hugs.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?

I do not fear death, it is only the end of this particular body "

I like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Death is a part of life and I don't think we are finished once we die.

It doesn't really bother me.. However the thought of leaving others behind does.

As long as I'm not a burden to anyone, I hope to stay around for a long time.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Death is a part of life and I don't think we are finished once we die.

It doesn't really bother me.. However the thought of leaving others behind does.

As long as I'm not a burden to anyone, I hope to stay around for a long time. "

Death itself doesn’t upset me, never seeing my kids and grandchildren again does

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I am dealing with the death of my beloved 95 year old Swedish mum who passed away on Wednesday due to heart failure. We should all live life to the full as she did and die, if we can, well. She died at home with her family, so no hospitals or care homes. Wishing you all a sexy Christmas. Henry x"

Hey Henry..sorry to hear that. 95 eh, that is a great age and to be surrounded by those that love you at such a time is special.

That's how my nan went..bless her.

Take care Henry and thanks for your Christmas wishes x

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Having both lost members of close family at a young age we try to make sure we enjoy our lives as much as we can

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Having both lost members of close family at a young age we try to make sure we enjoy our lives as much as we can "

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By *edonisthenryMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Thanks, Annabelle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs to those who have lost close family, I have been through it too. It is a powerful and devastating experience but time does heal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not scared of it. It'll happen when it happens.

At my very lowest I had everything all lined up ready to kill myself, don't know why I didn't, can't remember.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

No, it comes to us all, so grab life

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I hope it come sooner rather than later. Life is shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's those that are left beside who suffer when there loved one dies,I'm not afraid of dying I am afraid that I won't see my Dad,partner or other loved ones again when I die,I believe in God and heaven I doubt I would ever come to terms with my loss if I didn't think that I'd see them all again one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Behind

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"I hope it come sooner rather than later. Life is shit."

Hope you wake up one day soon and feel differently

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I hope it come sooner rather than later. Life is shit."

This is the second thread you’ve left a really negative comment. I hope you soon find something positive in your life....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?"

Yes. I was told at 40 that I had cancer. Huge wake up call. My whole life attitude has changed as a result.

MsD

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"I hope it come sooner rather than later. Life is shit.

Hope you wake up one day soon and feel differently "

I doubt it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Everyone dies. It's the manner of your life you should be concerned about.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"I hope it come sooner rather than later. Life is shit.

Hope you wake up one day soon and feel differently

I doubt it"

Don’t give up, seek support and help. Wake up and right a list of objectives. Get yourself out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope it come sooner rather than later. Life is shit.

Hope you wake up one day soon and feel differently

I doubt it"

Well only you can make your life better

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"I hope it come sooner rather than later. Life is shit.

Hope you wake up one day soon and feel differently

I doubt it

Don’t give up, seek support and help. Wake up and right a list of objectives. Get yourself out there"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take me now. I’m ready for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our kids are adults now so they can stand on their own feet but having just discovered we are going to be grandparents for the first time next summer we want a good few years seeing them grow up.

My death doesn’t scare me as much as the thought of my wife going before me we have been together forty years so I know if she goes first it will break my heart

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe


"I hope it come sooner rather than later. Life is shit.

Hope you wake up one day soon and feel differently

I doubt it"

Dude, earlier this year I was at an all-time low and seriously thought about ending it all. I've never felt like that before.

Although I'm not afraid of death, it's going to happen sometime, I didn't want to be selfish and hurt those I would have left behind.

Things have improved massively in my life, and I am glad I didn't go through with it, as I wouldn't have experienced the good times since I hit that low spot.

Hang on in there.

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

I have died and got brought back had a cardiac arrest on the operating table ,live life to the full because you never know when will be your last ..

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Our kids are adults now so they can stand on their own feet but having just discovered we are going to be grandparents for the first time next summer we want a good few years seeing them grow up.

My death doesn’t scare me as much as the thought of my wife going before me we have been together forty years so I know if she goes first it will break my heart "

Congratulations, I was a grandad at the age of 48. I love it, still young enough to run around after them haha

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"I have died and got brought back had a cardiac arrest on the operating table ,live life to the full because you never know when will be your last .."

I died age 5 when I stuck something in a mains socket and was brought back. I still have a scar on my hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our kids are adults now so they can stand on their own feet but having just discovered we are going to be grandparents for the first time next summer we want a good few years seeing them grow up.

My death doesn’t scare me as much as the thought of my wife going before me we have been together forty years so I know if she goes first it will break my heart

Congratulations, I was a grandad at the age of 48. I love it, still young enough to run around after them haha "

We are both young at heart enjoy life so grandkid will be icing on the cake we recently bought a puppy he is def keeping us active little sod lol

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Our kids are adults now so they can stand on their own feet but having just discovered we are going to be grandparents for the first time next summer we want a good few years seeing them grow up.

My death doesn’t scare me as much as the thought of my wife going before me we have been together forty years so I know if she goes first it will break my heart

Congratulations, I was a grandad at the age of 48. I love it, still young enough to run around after them haha

We are both young at heart enjoy life so grandkid will be icing on the cake we recently bought a puppy he is def keeping us active little sod lol"

I have two now, they are my world, along with my two daughters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our kids are adults now so they can stand on their own feet but having just discovered we are going to be grandparents for the first time next summer we want a good few years seeing them grow up.

My death doesn’t scare me as much as the thought of my wife going before me we have been together forty years so I know if she goes first it will break my heart

Congratulations, I was a grandad at the age of 48. I love it, still young enough to run around after them haha

We are both young at heart enjoy life so grandkid will be icing on the cake we recently bought a puppy he is def keeping us active little sod lol

I have two now, they are my world, along with my two daughters"

Our girls have been major part of our lives for last 26 years and we are looking forward to fun with the grandkid too

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Our kids are adults now so they can stand on their own feet but having just discovered we are going to be grandparents for the first time next summer we want a good few years seeing them grow up.

My death doesn’t scare me as much as the thought of my wife going before me we have been together forty years so I know if she goes first it will break my heart

Congratulations, I was a grandad at the age of 48. I love it, still young enough to run around after them haha

We are both young at heart enjoy life so grandkid will be icing on the cake we recently bought a puppy he is def keeping us active little sod lol

I have two now, they are my world, along with my two daughters

Our girls have been major part of our lives for last 26 years and we are looking forward to fun with the grandkid too "

You will love it!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Our kids are adults now so they can stand on their own feet but having just discovered we are going to be grandparents for the first time next summer we want a good few years seeing them grow up.

My death doesn’t scare me as much as the thought of my wife going before me we have been together forty years so I know if she goes first it will break my heart

Congratulations, I was a grandad at the age of 48. I love it, still young enough to run around after them haha

We are both young at heart enjoy life so grandkid will be icing on the cake we recently bought a puppy he is def keeping us active little sod lol"

I'm a nan to 2 and I love it..Congratulations to you x

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Our kids are adults now so they can stand on their own feet but having just discovered we are going to be grandparents for the first time next summer we want a good few years seeing them grow up.

My death doesn’t scare me as much as the thought of my wife going before me we have been together forty years so I know if she goes first it will break my heart

Congratulations, I was a grandad at the age of 48. I love it, still young enough to run around after them haha

We are both young at heart enjoy life so grandkid will be icing on the cake we recently bought a puppy he is def keeping us active little sod lol

I'm a nan to 2 and I love it..Congratulations to you x"

Me too...well grandad not nan lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is for living....

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Life is for living....

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Yep

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its coming closer

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that."

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger, became very ill suffering from a rare form of cancer. When I was going through chemotherapy, which turned into side affects that turned into a condition that affected my mobility/balance for years. After this experience I try and help others, be kind to everyone I meet, be open minded about everything. Looking to travel, see the world, experience different cultures, have new experience, experience life on my terms. I’m not an adrenaline junky or a tree hugger, I’m just a casual participant and temporary observer. When death comes, I won’t be afraid, I will have lived live in my terms, shown compassion and kindness and I won’t have anything to reproach myself about anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx"

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is chaos death is certainty

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By *artinsureMan
over a year ago

acton

The more I research the less I believe in death, I myself am more towards the belief that we just transend to a next state of living and the energy you live by in one stage depicts the next stage you in counter throughout the journey,

the meaning of any life would in-fact be meaningless if it was as simple as a start and a finish, there has to be more to it !!!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose. "

No it cant.

10 years ago my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and 3 months before I lost him my sister unexpectedly died in her sleep.

For a very long time I couldn't breathe, I couldn't swallow. I have never known such trauma. Somehow I got through it. I hope that I never feel that way again.

I hope that you are now in a better place, heath wise x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose. "

Life's lessons are a bitch x

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By *artinsureMan
over a year ago

acton

As humans we relate living with a perception of what we believe is living but really all we know about living is what we experience in that time frame of our time spent in what we perceive as living, we As humans believe living is measured by what we see and can feel and touch but is it possible that living is nothing more that something of being conscious and present in a period of time

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose.

No it cant.

10 years ago my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and 3 months before I lost him my sister unexpectedly died in her sleep.

For a very long time I couldn't breathe, I couldn't swallow. I have never known such trauma. Somehow I got through it. I hope that I never feel that way again.

I hope that you are now in a better place, heath wise x

"

Prostate cancer is what killed my brother who died on Christmas Day, it spread to he’s bones and was untreatable. I struggle greatly around thus time of the year

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By *artinsureMan
over a year ago

acton

I lost my mother to cancer and it was hard yes, when the family found out she had cancer it was to late to act and she was gone within a month of us finding out, it’s was hard, there was no warning or system in place to help us understand it, however in her passing I discovered a strength in me I never knew was there, and without her passing I would have never discovered it, it was the best gift my mother ever gave me, it was a strength I never knew I had in me, and it keeps me persevereing to this very day, I don’t morn the death of my mother instead I choose to appreciate the impact she had on me and the power she gave me in the time we had together

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"I lost my mother to cancer and it was hard yes, when the family found out she had cancer it was to late to act and she was gone within a month of us finding out, it’s was hard, there was no warning or system in place to help us understand it, however in her passing I discovered a strength in me I never knew was there, and without her passing I would have never discovered it, it was the best gift my mother ever gave me, it was a strength I never knew I had in me, and it keeps me persevereing to this very day, I don’t morn the death of my mother instead I choose to appreciate the impact she had on me and the power she gave me in the time we had together "

That’s a lovely way to see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lifes lessons came thick & fast for me...in the space of 9months...i was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer, lost my mam 1month after my mastectomy to terminal pancreatic cancer. She was diagnosed 2weeks after my surgery.

Then I found out my rat of a husband was having a long standing affair. They say bad things happen in 3's....they werent wrong.

Lessons kinda learnt. Plodding on through life with a 10 & 11 year old in tow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get trapped in moments too often to live life properly tbh

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose.

No it cant.

10 years ago my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and 3 months before I lost him my sister unexpectedly died in her sleep.

For a very long time I couldn't breathe, I couldn't swallow. I have never known such trauma. Somehow I got through it. I hope that I never feel that way again.

I hope that you are now in a better place, heath wise x

Prostate cancer is what killed my brother who died on Christmas Day, it spread to he’s bones and was untreatable. I struggle greatly around thus time of the year"

I am sorry for your loss, which is itself bad enough and is now compounded by this time of year.xx

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Lifes lessons came thick & fast for me...in the space of 9months...i was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer, lost my mam 1month after my mastectomy to terminal pancreatic cancer. She was diagnosed 2weeks after my surgery.

Then I found out my rat of a husband was having a long standing affair. They say bad things happen in 3's....they werent wrong.

Lessons kinda learnt. Plodding on through life with a 10 & 11 year old in tow. "

Xx

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose.

No it cant.

10 years ago my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and 3 months before I lost him my sister unexpectedly died in her sleep.

For a very long time I couldn't breathe, I couldn't swallow. I have never known such trauma. Somehow I got through it. I hope that I never feel that way again.

I hope that you are now in a better place, heath wise x

Prostate cancer is what killed my brother who died on Christmas Day, it spread to he’s bones and was untreatable. I struggle greatly around thus time of the year

I am sorry for your loss, which is itself bad enough and is now compounded by this time of year.xx"

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose.

No it cant.

10 years ago my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and 3 months before I lost him my sister unexpectedly died in her sleep.

For a very long time I couldn't breathe, I couldn't swallow. I have never known such trauma. Somehow I got through it. I hope that I never feel that way again.

I hope that you are now in a better place, heath wise x

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It's devastating but you have to put 1 foot in front of the other & breath. Sorry to hear about your losses xx

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Lifes lessons came thick & fast for me...in the space of 9months...i was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer, lost my mam 1month after my mastectomy to terminal pancreatic cancer. She was diagnosed 2weeks after my surgery.

Then I found out my rat of a husband was having a long standing affair. They say bad things happen in 3's....they werent wrong.

Lessons kinda learnt. Plodding on through life with a 10 & 11 year old in tow. "

That really is tough and with little ones as well..sometimes you just think wtf is next x

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over a year ago


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose.

No it cant.

10 years ago my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and 3 months before I lost him my sister unexpectedly died in her sleep.

For a very long time I couldn't breathe, I couldn't swallow. I have never known such trauma. Somehow I got through it. I hope that I never feel that way again.

I hope that you are now in a better place, heath wise x

Prostate cancer is what killed my brother who died on Christmas Day, it spread to he’s bones and was untreatable. I struggle greatly around thus time of the year"

Its a difficult time of year, I hear ye. My mams bday is NYE & she was dying at Christmas 2017.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose.

No it cant.

10 years ago my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and 3 months before I lost him my sister unexpectedly died in her sleep.

For a very long time I couldn't breathe, I couldn't swallow. I have never known such trauma. Somehow I got through it. I hope that I never feel that way again.

I hope that you are now in a better place, heath wise x

Prostate cancer is what killed my brother who died on Christmas Day, it spread to he’s bones and was untreatable. I struggle greatly around thus time of the year

Its a difficult time of year, I hear ye. My mams bday is NYE & she was dying at Christmas 2017. "

Xx

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By *artinsureMan
over a year ago

acton

To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I watched my mam die and I have to say, it is something that changes you forever...watching someone you love so much take their last breath and pass away. Puts your own mortality into perspective.

She died 1 month after my mastectomy, feel like she gave up her life for me. I felt incredibly guilty for that.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Guilt is part of the grieving process, I know that saying that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope that changes for for you.

The death of a loved one has profound effects in so many ways xx

Thanks. Nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Same as being told you have cancer. Life's lessons I suppose.

No it cant.

10 years ago my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and 3 months before I lost him my sister unexpectedly died in her sleep.

For a very long time I couldn't breathe, I couldn't swallow. I have never known such trauma. Somehow I got through it. I hope that I never feel that way again.

I hope that you are now in a better place, heath wise x

It's devastating but you have to put 1 foot in front of the other & breath. Sorry to hear about your losses xx"

Than you x

And you really do have to do just that. Thankfully, I am now in a better place but you never forget x

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

It’s just hit me today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance "
do not pray for me i dont believe in fairy tales

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance "

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Having come close on a couple of occasions in the past and having lost some friends way too early in the journey it certainly makes me live every day in the best way I can. All we can ask for is to have left some kind of legacy and something to be proud of when we go.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance do not pray for me i dont believe in fairy tales"

Strength is something we all need at times..during those really tough tough times.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance do not pray for me i dont believe in fairy tales

Strength is something we all need at times..during those really tough tough times. "

Strength and a good friend xx

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance do not pray for me i dont believe in fairy tales

Strength is something we all need at times..during those really tough tough times.

Strength and a good friend xx"

Amen to that!

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance do not pray for me i dont believe in fairy tales

Strength is something we all need at times..during those really tough tough times.

Strength and a good friend xx

Amen to that! "

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance do not pray for me i dont believe in fairy tales

Strength is something we all need at times..during those really tough tough times. "

100%. Good friends - real friends - will have your back, right or wrong. Sadly it's not as common as it might be.

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By *r Rubba LoverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I've shaken hands with the reaper at least twice now.

It holds no terror for me.

Just hope my parents are gone first. No one should outlive their children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance do not pray for me i dont believe in fairy tales"

If you are scientific can you at least agree you are energy and when you die that energy does not simply end? It is recycled, even transformed into another form of energy, it cannot be destroyed.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance do not pray for me i dont believe in fairy tales

If you are scientific can you at least agree you are energy and when you die that energy does not simply end? It is recycled, even transformed into another form of energy, it cannot be destroyed....."
fucking recycling again ffs

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border

My view on death is

I don’t remember my birth or anything before it and death will be the same

We all had a start date we all have an end date I doubt there is anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My view on death is

I don’t remember my birth or anything before it and death will be the same

We all had a start date we all have an end date I doubt there is anything else "
good call death is the end of memory

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By *r Rubba LoverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Well. If Death heads my way anytime soon, I'm going out the way I came in....

Kicking and screaming.

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

There are only two certainties in life - death and taxes, as far as we know you can only avoid one of them.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"I've shaken hands with the reaper at least twice now.

It holds no terror for me.

Just hope my parents are gone first. No one should outlive their children."

Very much this.

As to what it’s really all about? Nobody knows.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I do believe part of the spirit lives on to guide loved ones. For example since my Gran passed away I've become obsessed with ensuring the garden birds have enough food/drink before I leave for work. Even if the weather is bad. She was a great lover of garden birds and always did the same according to my mother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To anyone going through the loss of a loved one I pray you receive strength and guidance do not pray for me i dont believe in fairy tales

If you are scientific can you at least agree you are energy and when you die that energy does not simply end? It is recycled, even transformed into another form of energy, it cannot be destroyed.....fucking recycling again ffs"

Don’t worry this is not Greta behind this profile, genuine question. Have you got the courage to answer it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but will find out one day

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Our death is merely to continue the existence of our Planet .

When we decompose our nutrients ( if buried ) are sucked up by plants , which then release our oxygen so we can live , until we die , and so the cycle continues

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By *edonisthenryMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Happy Xmas to you whether you are with loved ones or alone. Let's now get into the festive spirit, forget any seasonal affective disorder caused by the long nights and park this topic of death. H

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Our death is merely to continue the existence of our Planet .

When we decompose our nutrients ( if buried ) are sucked up by plants , which then release our oxygen so we can live , until we die , and so the cycle continues "

Nice sentiments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to die, if I could sacrifice people so I can live forever, I'd do it.

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe


"My view on death is

I don’t remember my birth or anything before it and death will be the same

We all had a start date we all have an end date I doubt there is anything else "

I've also got a Best Before date and a Use By date

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

Don’t we all

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I live for the only time that I believe I will have any existence, which is now until I die.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I cheated death 4 years ago....

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By *iamond coupleCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I, mr diamond, would welcome the reaper at this low point of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is sad

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By *oppolocosTV/TS
over a year ago

inverurie


"Does your view on death and the beyond effect the way you live your life?

Or do you just get on with it?"

It's something we can't control so better just to get on with living. That said I have had the odd thought reafrding what happens, but I very much doubt there is any "beyond" which is a bit sad, but like I say if you can't control it there's no point in worrying.

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