FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling old

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences?

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Certainly is, I get this at Christmas time in particular and my birthday. I have to keep my mind off it as best I can otherwise the depression clouds gather and come for me.

I think once you reach a certain point it's natural to reflect and there is certainly melancholy involved from time to time.

Sending some positive thoughts your way

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

You're a year younger than me and I don't feel old often! But then again I don't have kids to measure my age against. I can only go by your pics but you don't look old either!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

Yes, at some point. Your life experience of creating an adult can be put aside now. Go back to your actual age and enjoy yourself. The years go by quicker.

There are people on here and elsewhere just starting out at your age. You are just a bit younger than my oldest would have been. That makes me old and you not old.

What can you do to help with the loneliness? Do you have time and ability to join a club or a choir? Lots of things start in January and you might meet new people, make new friends and find your energy and enjoyment again.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think it's something that most of us experience at some time or another after passing our mid-thirties but the reality is there is still a whole lot of life ahead of us - even at 54 I can see there is still a lot to experience and enjoy - yes I have my moments of uncertainty and reflection where I look at my life with a wistful eye and wish it had turned out differently but for the most part I am happy and take a positive outlook.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

It will pass and come again this feeling, do not hide from it, greet it as you would an old friend, pour a glass and welcome it in, and in this time of reflection let yourself know that life has never been measured in years, but by the deeds of those we have nurtured

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

You’re a beautiful, smart, sexy woman. And you’re not old. You’ve got your best years ahead of you. Don’t worry about the future. Live each day as is comes. Who knows what’s around the corner! Or who!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

You're doing fantastic, don't let the dark clouds descend, go find your sparkle you are still young. I constantly fight these dark clouds but refuse to let them engulf me. I'm a single parent of four, ages 22,20,17 & 16 and am so proud. xxx

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

Yes i very often feel old and i think its worse this time of year .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

Firstly big hugs to you!

And yep, I have two sons one 26 the other 24, both doing well.

Eldest owns a house round the corner from me. Youngest lives in Edinburgh, yeah feel kind of de- funct now they are adulting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be feeling old in just over a week as I reach the dreaded cut off point for lots of people on here- I’ll be 41, so past it to many, haha.

Viv xx

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Crikey OP, you're only 36! I'll be 58 in less than 3 months and am gonna have to force maself through a midlife crisis soon, just so that I can say that I've had one

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Don’t worry about your age, feel confident in yourself, go out and explore you will see there’s still doors to open and enjoy, trust me I know

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Don’t worry about your age, feel confident in yourself, go out and explore you will see there’s still doors to open and enjoy, trust me I know

Well said

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Wait until you get to my age.... then it does start to hit you! Reflection becomes a whole bigger cloud ...

In the meantime - sending you positive thoughts x

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens

"Wait until you get to my age.... then it does start to hit you! Reflection becomes a whole bigger cloud ...

In the meantime - sending you positive thoughts x

Still shocks me seeing your age DC but you look amazing

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'm not getting old - just more experienced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

I just recently turned thirty and started freaking out a bit tbh so I get ya

I will probably freak out again in 10 years but the upside is I will be an older bear type guy by that point.

I will be swimming in younger vajayjay and and meat sabres.

and you are certainly not past it my dear ;p you are also in the prime of milf age which is probably the most popular demograph of male fantasy

enjoy it xD

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

You may feel old, OP, but you look amazing.

Age is just a number. When you are 80 you'll be amazed you ever had these thoughts at your current age.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Wait until you get to my age.... then it does start to hit you! Reflection becomes a whole bigger cloud ...

In the meantime - sending you positive thoughts x

You're only as old as the man you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

You aren't alone. I kinda felt it tonight being at a 21st birthday party. Don't get me wrong, I can still enjoy myself, even without drink (had the car) but missed having a partner but realising me being the love of someone's life is very slim also...

Huge hugs xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

You've reached a milestone in your life, you're bound to reassess things. You're feeling that the best is behind you and that's probably a natural reaction to seeing your son with it all before him. It's natural to feel this way.

It's not over until it's odd and as my dad who's in his mid nineties says "you've got to love until you die".

You probably do feel old today, you might still feel old next week but you aren't, you have a lot of life left to love

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

*it's not over until it's over

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

My eldest son was 27 last week, my baby girl 24 yesterday.

I'm 50 next year.

I've done a lot of reflecting over the past few days.

It's quite scary!

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

My eldest is 30 next week and my youngest 28 a fortnight ago. I'll be 56 in a couple of weeks. I don't feel old at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for everyone's kind words xx

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

My daughter is coming 31 and im a grand mother too,but rather than feel old i feel proud ive made a decent human being who is a credit to me ,and we never argue and get on etc so be PROUD of a job well done ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

Old mine are as old as you your a younger I felt like that once. But my life really did start in my 40s you have a lot to look forward to

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

I felt old and quite unnerved for a month or 2 after I turned 40 this year.

But it didn't last long and I realised that ages we considered old 15 or 20 years ago are really not old.

Loads of parents and even grandparents nowadays living the same life as a 20 year old!

Plough on and you'll feel like 20 again in no time! Its a whole new world

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

OP...you are 36.....certainly nowhere near middle aged!! That would make us OAP's.....yikes....what a thought.

But yes, it is strange when your children grow up. When our eldest left home aged 18, to chase his dreams, I was very emotional.

But be proud that your child has turned into such a great young adult.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Wait until you get to my age.... then it does start to hit you! Reflection becomes a whole bigger cloud ...

In the meantime - sending you positive thoughts x

You're only as old as the man you feel.

Well yes, I guess so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always strange when time marches on. My son is getting stressed about being 30 next year. And my ex husband about turning 65 I'm just happy to be alive still. Nice house, friends,kids, foster grandchild on the way, car, motorbike ok, not my BMW 650cc lowered for my tiny dwarf legs, or my dream Honda Rebel 500cc - but 2 wheels and an engine). We've got lots to look forward to and lots of stories to tell. All will be Fab

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

Yes, I’m feeling dusty up on this shelf

I think it’s the time of year.

Focus on the positives OP, a new year with exciting possibilities is just around the corner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

I am 56 and in the last 3yrs my life has changed dramatically and at times I have felt a bit lost but it gets better. You obviously have strength in what you have achieved with your family and are appreciated on here.

As for the love bit, never say never. This year I met a man who I fell for totally. It wasn't to be but just to have experienced that instant intoxicated feeling again was worth it and at your young age I'm sure you will.

Count your blessings as it sounds like you have them a plenty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tomorrow my first born turns 19.

He's 6"3 and doing really well for himself. I'm incredibly proud of him , his brothers and actually myself since I've raised him singlehandedly most of his life.

However I'm sat here feeling old. I know in years I'm not but it's a feeling.

Looking at my life and reflecting.

Lonely , single , quickly approaching middle age and in the eyes of some probably past it to be the love of their life.

Is this something that everyone experiences? "

You are in your prime, women blossom in 30s and 40s I think, plenty ahead of you yet. Well done on doing such a good job bringing your sons up too

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

"I felt old and quite unnerved for a month or 2 after I turned 40 this year.

But it didn't last long and I realised that ages we considered old 15 or 20 years ago are really not old.

Loads of parents and even grandparents nowadays living the same life as a 20 year old!

Plough on and you'll feel like 20 again in no time! Its a whole new world

You have a good imagination, I would be happy to feel 50 again never mind 20.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

"I felt old and quite unnerved for a month or 2 after I turned 40 this year.

But it didn't last long and I realised that ages we considered old 15 or 20 years ago are really not old.

Loads of parents and even grandparents nowadays living the same life as a 20 year old!

Plough on and you'll feel like 20 again in no time! Its a whole new world

You have a good imagination, I would be happy to feel 50 again never mind 20."

You go get em mate

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