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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with? "

Single is a very miss used term, solo is far more accurate.

It is possible although think these days FAB unlikely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree with teaandtiffin. It is possible, nearly happened for me a while back! All depends on the connection, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think more than a few couples got together after meeting on here, in fairness though I wouldn't have thought it was a place to meet your significant other.

As for cheating OP, I'm sure there are more than a few liars pretending to be single but if I suspected everyone I wouldn't have a good time on here. I'll keep my wits about me but I'll also give people the good grace of taking them at their word unless I find out otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can meet someone down the pub or on a non sex dating site who turns out to be a cheating bastard. In my case (with one particular ex), you can meet them at work and date for months never knowing they neglected to tell you they are in fact married! I don’t think lying and cheating is unique to swingers, or any more likely. You’re either that type of dishonest person, or you’re not. Sexual practice doesn’t really determine level of honesty...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can meet someone down the pub or on a non sex dating site who turns out to be a cheating bastard. In my case (with one particular ex), you can meet them at work and date for months never knowing they neglected to tell you they are in fact married! I don’t think lying and cheating is unique to swingers, or any more likely. You’re either that type of dishonest person, or you’re not. Sexual practice doesn’t really determine level of honesty... "

this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site, "

The problem with dating sites is that alot of men on them are dull as shit

They've usually been married to mrs vanilla for donkies, and have little sexual experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site,

The problem with dating sites is that alot of men on them are dull as shit

They've usually been married to mrs vanilla for donkies, and have little sexual experience.

"

As opposed to the men on here......

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I think you take your chance here as you do anywhere else in life. If you say on your profile what you want then some people will mould themselves to that, some lie about relationships, some are fumbling around trying to work out what they want, some mislead for fun.

I wouldn’t ever look for a partner here. You can’t unknow things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can meet someone down the pub or on a non sex dating site who turns out to be a cheating bastard. In my case (with one particular ex), you can meet them at work and date for months never knowing they neglected to tell you they are in fact married! I don’t think lying and cheating is unique to swingers, or any more likely. You’re either that type of dishonest person, or you’re not. Sexual practice doesn’t really determine level of honesty... "

What she said!

I'd add you could meet someone in a swingers club, have fun with them, only to discover afterwards they're married. Not that I mind married/attached guys.

Up until last year I would have never dreamt of finding my soul mate on a swinging site, but it did happen. And I wasn't even looking, was at very low point in my life.

But I would certainly not recommended this site for people looking for long term relationship, or who fall in love too soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site,

The problem with dating sites is that alot of men on them are dull as shit

They've usually been married to mrs vanilla for donkies, and have little sexual experience.

As opposed to the men on here......"

Why am I strangely intrigued by likely responses to this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site,

The problem with dating sites is that alot of men on them are dull as shit

They've usually been married to mrs vanilla for donkies, and have little sexual experience.

As opposed to the men on here......"

Yeah. Who are all super experienced, studs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. "

They have no choice other than a single profile

Would you rather they had a couples profile,where the spouse had no idea their other half has set up a couples profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site,

The problem with dating sites is that alot of men on them are dull as shit

They've usually been married to mrs vanilla for donkies, and have little sexual experience.

"

I met my other half on a normal dating site. He was married to Mrs Vanilla (and Mrs Abusive Money Grabbing) for 10 years before I met him. He is absolutely definitely anything but dull as shit, and the best sex I’ve ever had, without a doubt.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Beast and I have a fully honest relationship. It's why we are able to do this.

Cheating is still unacceptable in our relationship.

You can swing and have morals, the majority of us do.

We also have a rule to not meet any cheats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You can swing and have morals, the majority of us do "

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"You can meet someone down the pub or on a non sex dating site who turns out to be a cheating bastard. In my case (with one particular ex), you can meet them at work and date for months never knowing they neglected to tell you they are in fact married! I don’t think lying and cheating is unique to swingers, or any more likely. You’re either that type of dishonest person, or you’re not. Sexual practice doesn’t really determine level of honesty... "

So much yes to this. I think if you're both honest with what you want then there's absolutely zero wrong with getting involved from someone on here. It can work - you can have open, honest communication with each other and both be on here, moreso than if you weren't (obviously some in relationships with other fabbers do cheat).

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site,

The problem with dating sites is that alot of men on them are dull as shit

They've usually been married to mrs vanilla for donkies, and have little sexual experience.

Ouch! Actually it’s a valid point and applies to many women as well. I dated for a couple of years and while I did meet some lovely women, most were just oh so dull.

"

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site,

The problem with dating sites is that alot of men on them are dull as shit

They've usually been married to mrs vanilla for donkies, and have little sexual experience.

Ouch! Actually it’s a valid point and applies to many women as well. I dated for a couple of years and while I did meet some lovely women, most were just oh so dull.

"

Most people are quite dull, deep down, with only a couple of quirks about them to make them interesting to some others who generally have similar interests

Half my problem is that I'm acutely aware that I am a complete dullard.

But having said that, I don't expect anyone else to be interested in the save things ad me and so I'll largely keep it all to myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You can swing and have morals, the majority of us do.

"

Experience of many years, morals on these sites, forums on the scene are like the sands of the desert...always shifting.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Honesty is a product of respect and trust. If someone respects and trusts you then they will be honest.

Who you trust on here and how they treat you and you them, could lead to a relationship if that is what you both desire

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with? "

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we decided that being in a relationship or even married isn’t a problem for as because we are and what the chap does or who he lies too is of no concern to us because we are here on a fun hunt not a witch hunt and besides 95%of fabbers are fibbers more than fabbers.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honesty is a product of respect and trust. If someone respects and trusts you then they will be honest.

Who you trust on here and how they treat you and you them, could lead to a relationship if that is what you both desire "

Yes. In exactly the same way that how 2 people treat one another in the non swinging world will determine the success of a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with? "

Don’t judge the rest of us by your own standards. I’m 100% single and I wouldn’t be on here if I was in a relationship. I’m by no means a swinger either but I can use the site as I see fit, as can anybody else. Rather than judge the whole of the site just use it for you and let everybody else do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmmm

Have a look at my thread from last night

.... Do you tell his wife?

Lots of interesting opinions on cheating and lying.

I agree with Lucie Jo it’s nothing to do with this site. People cheat in all walks of life.

I have updates on my own situation, if anyone is interested.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with?

Don’t judge the rest of us by your own standards. I’m 100% single and I wouldn’t be on here if I was in a relationship. I’m by no means a swinger either but I can use the site as I see fit, as can anybody else. Rather than judge the whole of the site just use it for you and let everybody else do the same. "

No

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm

Have a look at my thread from last night

.... Do you tell his wife?

Lots of interesting opinions on cheating and lying.

I agree with Lucie Jo it’s nothing to do with this site. People cheat in all walks of life.

I have updates on my own situation, if anyone is interested....."

I'm interested. Hope you are ok. X

It was your thread that made me wonder about this question. The general consensus re: cheating people on a swinger's site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm

Have a look at my thread from last night

.... Do you tell his wife?

Lots of interesting opinions on cheating and lying.

I agree with Lucie Jo it’s nothing to do with this site. People cheat in all walks of life.

I have updates on my own situation, if anyone is interested....."

They do it for many different reasons, it's not black and white and has been said - not exclusive to swinging.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Sorry to burst your bubble but people lie on most sites its not just restricted to swingers ones.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't believe it's the unknowing persons fault for getting into a relationship with someone who has a partner.

I do believe that we should all take responsibility for our own well being though. I also believe that meeting someone on a site like this carries certain risks which we all do well to evaluate.

If you're the kind of person who trusts first and asks questions way down the line just be aware that people can and will lie.

If you genuinely want a relationship and are honest about that he aware that some will tell you anything if there's a chance of regular sex.

Is naivety and vulnerability a bad thing? No, not if that's your personality. However those traits will be exploited by people without scruples.

Fab a good place to look for a relationship? As good a place as any I think but keep your wits about you and your guard up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm

Have a look at my thread from last night

.... Do you tell his wife?

Lots of interesting opinions on cheating and lying.

I agree with Lucie Jo it’s nothing to do with this site. People cheat in all walks of life.

I have updates on my own situation, if anyone is interested.....

I'm interested. Hope you are ok. X

It was your thread that made me wonder about this question. The general consensus re: cheating people on a swinger's site. "

I’m ok

Thank you Mavis

I’m not making this up.... he’s offered me money to go away !!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sorry to burst your bubble but people lie on most sites its not just restricted to swingers ones. "

People have always deceived each other. The net just made it easier

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm

Have a look at my thread from last night

.... Do you tell his wife?

Lots of interesting opinions on cheating and lying.

I agree with Lucie Jo it’s nothing to do with this site. People cheat in all walks of life.

I have updates on my own situation, if anyone is interested.....

I'm interested. Hope you are ok. X

It was your thread that made me wonder about this question. The general consensus re: cheating people on a swinger's site.

I’m ok

Thank you Mavis

I’m not making this up.... he’s offered me money to go away !!!

"

What a lovely guy. Was it via written message? I'd save it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone loves to grab their pitchforks. But:

If you (generic real world and not just swinging)

You were attracted to someone and them you, they were in a relationship but there was something there?

Would you honestly say sorry you have to end your existing relationship/marriage before we take this any further, remember this is someone that you have only recently met or fallen for.

Would you persue it to see where it may go with a view to a happy ending or the risk it wouldn't be

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site, "

Says who? It's fabswingers not fabshaggingonly.

Loads of people have met here and got together, even got married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm

Have a look at my thread from last night

.... Do you tell his wife?

Lots of interesting opinions on cheating and lying.

I agree with Lucie Jo it’s nothing to do with this site. People cheat in all walks of life.

I have updates on my own situation, if anyone is interested.....

I'm interested. Hope you are ok. X

It was your thread that made me wonder about this question. The general consensus re: cheating people on a swinger's site.

I’m ok

Thank you Mavis

I’m not making this up.... he’s offered me money to go away !!!

What a lovely guy. Was it via written message? I'd save it."

Oh yes

Saved

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't believe it's the unknowing persons fault for getting into a relationship with someone who has a partner.

I do believe that we should all take responsibility for our own well being though. I also believe that meeting someone on a site like this carries certain risks which we all do well to evaluate.

If you're the kind of person who trusts first and asks questions way down the line just be aware that people can and will lie.

*** If you genuinely want a relationship and are honest about that he aware that some will tell you anything if there's a chance of regular sex. ***

Is naivety and vulnerability a bad thing? No, not if that's your personality. However those traits will be exploited by people without scruples.

Fab a good place to look for a relationship? As good a place as any I think but keep your wits about you and your guard up."

I agree with all you've said.

And this *** ... but if they blatantly bare faced lie... it's just shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i think its the best site for honesty if you can intimately talk about your desires without shaming from people without the same mindset that by far outweighs the married folks thing imo

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Everyone loves to grab their pitchforks. But:

If you (generic real world and not just swinging)

You were attracted to someone and them you, they were in a relationship but there was something there?

Would you honestly say sorry you have to end your existing relationship/marriage before we take this any further, remember this is someone that you have only recently met or fallen for.

Would you persue it to see where it may go with a view to a happy ending or the risk it wouldn't be

"

I wouldn't knowingly get into a relationship with someone who was already in one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Is naivety and vulnerability a bad thing? No, not if that's your personality. However those traits will be exploited by people without scruples."

Absolutely true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relationship and this site,,,,,,,

Those 2 words don't belong together on here

That's want Date sites are for,

This is not a date site,

Says who? It's fabswingers not fabshaggingonly.

Loads of people have met here and got together, even got married. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Everyone loves to grab their pitchforks. But:

If you (generic real world and not just swinging)

You were attracted to someone and them you, they were in a relationship but there was something there?

Would you honestly say sorry you have to end your existing relationship/marriage before we take this any further, remember this is someone that you have only recently met or fallen for.

Would you persue it to see where it may go with a view to a happy ending or the risk it wouldn't be

"

That's a different question.

In your scenario the person has been honest about being attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone loves to grab their pitchforks. But:

If you (generic real world and not just swinging)

You were attracted to someone and them you, they were in a relationship but there was something there?

Would you honestly say sorry you have to end your existing relationship/marriage before we take this any further, remember this is someone that you have only recently met or fallen for.

Would you persue it to see where it may go with a view to a happy ending or the risk it wouldn't be

I wouldn't knowingly get into a relationship with someone who was already in one. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone loves to grab their pitchforks. But:

If you (generic real world and not just swinging)

You were attracted to someone and them you, they were in a relationship but there was something there?

Would you honestly say sorry you have to end your existing relationship/marriage before we take this any further, remember this is someone that you have only recently met or fallen for.

Would you persue it to see where it may go with a view to a happy ending or the risk it wouldn't be

I wouldn't knowingly get into a relationship with someone who was already in one. "

Me neither.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess depends on the sort of relationship you want. I'm not currently looking for a relationship but I remember when I did ascertaining exactly how non-vanilla a lady was used to be pretty much impossible.

Before you meet, she'll claim to be everything you want to hear, during the first few dates you might as well dress the part.

She might be able to fake the first night together but subsequently no so easy.

This sight assures you at least that the sexual deviancy box is ticked. The main challenge is getting someone with the right combination of sexual deviancy and physical attributes you're looking for to message you back

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By *rallyFixated1Man
over a year ago

tipton

Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put it this way since joining here its the first time in my life iv shared every secret thought and fantasy iv had with anyone ex wife would have freaked out ant thought me broken if i mentioned half the stuff to her i have here with a certain someone i used to be embarrassed to talk about sex stuff with the ex still am to a point

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I guess depends on the sort of relationship you want. I'm not currently looking for a relationship but I remember when I did ascertaining exactly how non-vanilla a lady was used to be pretty much impossible.

Before you meet, she'll claim to be everything you want to hear, during the first few dates you might as well dress the part.

She might be able to fake the first night together but subsequently no so easy.

This sight assures you at least that the sexual deviancy box is ticked. The main challenge is getting someone with the right combination of sexual deviancy and physical attributes you're looking for to message you back "

I think that you will find quite a few women in here who will claim to be the right combination of sexual deviance until you're hooked.

I'm often called cynical but I observe much and take not of actions rather than words.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"I guess depends on the sort of relationship you want. I'm not currently looking for a relationship but I remember when I did ascertaining exactly how non-vanilla a lady was used to be pretty much impossible.

Before you meet, she'll claim to be everything you want to hear, during the first few dates you might as well dress the part.

She might be able to fake the first night together but subsequently no so easy.

This sight assures you at least that the sexual deviancy box is ticked. The main challenge is getting someone with the right combination of sexual deviancy and physical attributes you're looking for to message you back

I think that you will find quite a few women in here who will claim to be the right combination of sexual deviance until you're hooked.

I'm often called cynical but I observe much and take not of actions rather than words."

Amen

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for. "

A lot of people join for a relationship.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for. "

Yet another one that doesn't understand swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put it this way since joining here its the first time in my life iv shared every secret thought and fantasy iv had with anyone ex wife would have freaked out ant thought me broken if i mentioned half the stuff to her i have here with a certain someone i used to be embarrassed to talk about sex stuff with the ex still am to a point"

That's really cool, it's good to find someone you trust and can share things with.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

Well I am genuinely single but still don't get anywhere...

I must obviously be a minger then.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for.

Yet another one that doesn't understand swinging. "

How do you mean? We aren't here for a relationship either

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well I am genuinely single but still don't get anywhere...

I must obviously be a minger then....."
I

I don't know how you draw that conclusion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess depends on the sort of relationship you want. I'm not currently looking for a relationship but I remember when I did ascertaining exactly how non-vanilla a lady was used to be pretty much impossible.

Before you meet, she'll claim to be everything you want to hear, during the first few dates you might as well dress the part.

She might be able to fake the first night together but subsequently no so easy.

This sight assures you at least that the sexual deviancy box is ticked. The main challenge is getting someone with the right combination of sexual deviancy and physical attributes you're looking for to message you back "

I fuck them on the first date. Lights on and everything.

No need to shag after that, I'm a sexy carrot dangling in front of his cock.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with? "

I dont think it matters where you meet someone.

If they are a cheater then theyll cheat.

If they are honest theyll be honest.

Fab or a dating site, the local pub or out shopping. If you meet someone and fall for them then you just have to hope theyll treat you with respect and dignity and be honest.

If I know someone is attached and the oh doesnt know I'll end it.

I'm NOBODY'S dirty secret

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By *rallyFixated1Man
over a year ago

tipton


"Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for.

Yet another one that doesn't understand swinging. "

How so?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with? "

I don't think it's a good site to look for someone to have a relationship with really, not to enter with that exact purpose anyway!

Though sometimes relationships just...happen, really? Neither myself nor P were looking for one!

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you should expect it at all, however you do need to accept that it does happen and as shit as it is, protect yourself as much as you can.

I do feel that those who are cheating should give others the truth to make an informed decision, earlier rather than later.

If I agree to meet a single bloke I expect to meet a single bloke and not be brought into someone else's web of deceit.

Ask questions. Whether you get the truth or not who knows, but at least then you can know in your heart and head that you did what you could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think you should expect it at all, however you do need to accept that it does happen and as shit as it is, protect yourself as much as you can.

I do feel that those who are cheating should give others the truth to make an informed decision, earlier rather than later.

If I agree to meet a single bloke I expect to meet a single bloke and not be brought into someone else's web of deceit.

Ask questions. Whether you get the truth or not who knows, but at least then you can know in your heart and head that you did what you could."

This

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with? "

IF, I was looking for a relationship, then it would be the ideal place.

I don't ever want or see myself settling a conventional, monogamous relationship again.

I've made some amazing friends here, have a brilliant social life too. I wouldn't want to give any of that up.

Finding someone I could share that with would be great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hoping to find a gf on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is fun, cheating is deplorable done by psychopaths who get off to seeing people suffer. Swinging can be easily done with honesty with ones partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expect, yes. Accept, that's up to you.

As a sex meeting site it's no worse than any other..

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

The site is not a problem, it's just some of the people. I found an honest (very honest) relationship on here. There are good honest people on here as much as there are dishonest people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess depends on the sort of relationship you want. I'm not currently looking for a relationship but I remember when I did ascertaining exactly how non-vanilla a lady was used to be pretty much impossible.

Before you meet, she'll claim to be everything you want to hear, during the first few dates you might as well dress the part.

She might be able to fake the first night together but subsequently no so easy.

This sight assures you at least that the sexual deviancy box is ticked. The main challenge is getting someone with the right combination of sexual deviancy and physical attributes you're looking for to message you back

I fuck them on the first date. Lights on and everything.

No need to shag after that, I'm a sexy carrot dangling in front of his cock. "

I just knew there was something about you

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for.

Yet another one that doesn't understand swinging.

How do you mean? We aren't here for a relationship either"

He's saying that this site isn't for finding a relationship, I'm saying swinging is more than just shagging, some people come to find a relationship too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile says it all therefore no one on here gets an unexpected shock lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for.

Yet another one that doesn't understand swinging.

How do you mean? We aren't here for a relationship either

He's saying that this site isn't for finding a relationship, I'm saying swinging is more than just shagging, some people come to find a relationship too."

A lot of people do and (head above the parapet) it tends to be more females blokes just quick shag. Some people find it ... we did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a good site if you're into swinging and looking for a partner who is into it too. I think Fab makes that easier to bring up rather than just going on a standard dating app and bringing swinging up in conversation etc.

It's just finding the right person and then getting to know them. I see quite a few profiles where people are looking for a relationship and I wish them luck. It's worked out for so many people on here and they seem happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think you should expect it at all, however you do need to accept that it does happen and as shit as it is, protect yourself as much as you can.

I do feel that those who are cheating should give others the truth to make an informed decision, earlier rather than later.

If I agree to meet a single bloke I expect to meet a single bloke and not be brought into someone else's web of deceit.

Ask questions. Whether you get the truth or not who knows, but at least then you can know in your heart and head that you did what you could.

This "

A conman/woman tricks your money and people take notice. They trick you of your time, emotion, self belief, judgement, hopes and dreams and faith in others and it's to be expected. I know which is more valuable and it isn't money.

What a sad sad world we live in at times.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To all the couples who have found relationships in the swinging community......

You’re truly lucky because You have found a diamond after stepping in a pile of dog poop....

I’m starting to believe we are all shiny new toys in the swinging world....

People will enjoy you until the next shiny toy comes around.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for.

Yet another one that doesn't understand swinging.

How do you mean? We aren't here for a relationship either

He's saying that this site isn't for finding a relationship, I'm saying swinging is more than just shagging, some people come to find a relationship too."

For us it is mostly about sex though. We aren't looking to have a relationship with the single men we meet beyond being friendly.

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By *illybare partyMan
over a year ago

hotel in teeside once a month

I have a singles profile and a couple's. I'm only on the singles when my Mrs in her words. Can't be arsed with all the time wasters. I'm attached. She's always informed. Am I a cheat? No because she's always informed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can meet someone down the pub or on a non sex dating site who turns out to be a cheating bastard. In my case (with one particular ex), you can meet them at work and date for months never knowing they neglected to tell you they are in fact married! I don’t think lying and cheating is unique to swingers, or any more likely. You’re either that type of dishonest person, or you’re not. Sexual practice doesn’t really determine level of honesty... "

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with? "

As a single chap, I'd like to meet somebody for an honest relationship.

If we meet through this site, it saves an awkward third date conversation about my sexual past and hopefully sexual future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To all the couples who have found relationships in the swinging community......

You’re truly lucky because You have found a diamond after stepping in a pile of dog poop....

I’m starting to believe we are all shiny new toys in the swinging world....

People will enjoy you until the next shiny toy comes around....."

Surely not.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for.

Yet another one that doesn't understand swinging.

How do you mean? We aren't here for a relationship either

He's saying that this site isn't for finding a relationship, I'm saying swinging is more than just shagging, some people come to find a relationship too.

For us it is mostly about sex though. We aren't looking to have a relationship with the single men we meet beyond being friendly. "

Yep, and that's fine, but he's saying people shouldn't try and find relationships here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Who joins fab for a relationship? That’s what Tinder is for.

Yet another one that doesn't understand swinging.

How do you mean? We aren't here for a relationship either

He's saying that this site isn't for finding a relationship, I'm saying swinging is more than just shagging, some people come to find a relationship too.

For us it is mostly about sex though. We aren't looking to have a relationship with the single men we meet beyond being friendly.

Yep, and that's fine, but he's saying people shouldn't try and find relationships here. "

Ok but you're saying he doesn't understand swinging. For us swinging isn't about looking for a relationship so we don't understand swinging either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm

Have a look at my thread from last night

.... Do you tell his wife?

Lots of interesting opinions on cheating and lying.

I agree with Lucie Jo it’s nothing to do with this site. People cheat in all walks of life.

I have updates on my own situation, if anyone is interested....."

I read your thread and tried to message you....I hope you are ok - I've been in the wife's situation so maybe I can help. I won't go into detail as it's not really relevant to the OP though.... (sorry OP)

With regards to this thread, I personally don't think that I would be looking for a relationship on this site - but saying that, I've heard of several couples that met here.

I have joined this site with my OH - we have a fantastic relationship built on mutual respect and honesty, which I think is essential in the scene. We do have rules and boundaries which are clear cut so to us swinging is not cheating and swingers aren't cheaters. End of.

But as with every segment of society, there will be exceptions. Some swinging couples will cheat, but I think the majority do not.

x Niki

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People on here are often married/ attached, even if they have a Single profile. The general consensus is that if you meet them on here you should expect them to be lying about being single. If they turn out to be married it's your own fault for believing they were single. It's a swingers site.

Is this a good site to look for someone to have an honest relationship with? "
yes loads met and got married here

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

From our experience this is not the place to look for a honest relationship.

I say this because we met ‘single’ men and women every week for almost nine years, and out of the thousand+ we met, well over 90% whether male, female, tv, cd, or ts were certainly not single.

Sure, some had permission to play alone, but most of them were cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"From our experience this is not the place to look for a honest relationship.

I say this because we met ‘single’ men and women every week for almost nine years, and out of the thousand+ we met, well over 90% whether male, female, tv, cd, or ts were certainly not single.

Sure, some had permission to play alone, but most of them were cheating. "

It does seem common.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmmmmm

Have a look at my thread from last night

.... Do you tell his wife?

Lots of interesting opinions on cheating and lying.

I agree with Lucie Jo it’s nothing to do with this site. People cheat in all walks of life.

I have updates on my own situation, if anyone is interested.....

I read your thread and tried to message you....I hope you are ok - I've been in the wife's situation so maybe I can help. I won't go into detail as it's not really relevant to the OP though.... (sorry OP)

With regards to this thread, I personally don't think that I would be looking for a relationship on this site - but saying that, I've heard of several couples that met here.

I have joined this site with my OH - we have a fantastic relationship built on mutual respect and honesty, which I think is essential in the scene. We do have rules and boundaries which are clear cut so to us swinging is not cheating and swingers aren't cheaters. End of.

But as with every segment of society, there will be exceptions. Some swinging couples will cheat, but I think the majority do not.

x Niki "

I think mutual respect and honesty is the core of swinging. My version anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My most honest friendships have blossomed from Fab, I don't see why an honest and loving relationship is an impossibility.

All depends on the people and whether they're ready yet.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've had very honest interactions with my meets, it's the cornerstone of good sex for me.

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