FabSwingers.com forum: Would you meet a Swinger in a public place?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

have done numerous times pubs bars mcdonalds as long as your discreet your fine

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Yes

Won't necessarily shag them in a public place though

Wait .. that was my outside voice wasn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

First meet is always a public one for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, but they would have to behave until we got somewhere private. Cant be doing with getting thrown out of Starbucks again!

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By *kblokenorthMan
over a year ago

Any

Yes, have done quite a lot.

Played in public too, best being beach @ Cap in front of hundreds of fellow swingers.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always in a public place first..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met for a social in a public place before. To

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I mostly meet first in a public place. Even if it’s just my hotel bar. But not in the town where I live.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I have done. Not locally though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a public social meet first for me

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

for safety i always meet in public first

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We often meet in public, after all, no one else knows how we know each other/why we're meeting etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"have done numerous times pubs bars mcdonalds as long as your discreet your fine "

If everyone knows they are Swingers people might think you are too....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am tomorrow.

So looking forward to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. If it's what they want to feel safe and secure

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

For a social yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always meet in public but have also met privately, but also our friends and family know who we are and what we are all about.

So many are scared of opinions on others that they hide the fact we are all individuals.

Some of our best nights have been a meal followed by drinks then full blown play. Clinical meets are just weird and to us connection is what we both crave

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep, but they would have to behave until we got somewhere private. Cant be doing with getting thrown out of Starbucks again!"

Their loss!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We always meet in public but have also met privately, but also our friends and family know who we are and what we are all about.

So many are scared of opinions on others that they hide the fact we are all individuals.

Some of our best nights have been a meal followed by drinks then full blown play. Clinical meets are just weird and to us connection is what we both crave"

How would you feel if they asked to meet you in a different town from where they live?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many do they are called social meets and you are far safer making the first encounter with someone new a public one.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

A social meet in public is absolutely fine, nobody has to know where you actually met and you could just be friends having a drink and a catch up as far as anyone else is concerned! Might be different if they could overhear the conversation mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Many do they are called social meets and you are far safer making the first encounter with someone new a public one."

It was more the question of meeting someone who everyone knows is a Swinger. And everyone would think they are one too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many do they are called social meets and you are far safer making the first encounter with someone new a public one.

It was more the question of meeting someone who everyone knows is a Swinger. And everyone would think they are one too. "

How would you ever know what other people know/suspect or even think beforehand?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Many do they are called social meets and you are far safer making the first encounter with someone new a public one.

It was more the question of meeting someone who everyone knows is a Swinger. And everyone would think they are one too.

How would you ever know what other people know/suspect or even think beforehand? "

Depends on where you live I suppose. Small town gossip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I walk past a hotel in town and there are people sitting having a drink, I do wonder if they’ve met on here but in all probability, they’re probably just work colleagues

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"have done numerous times pubs bars mcdonalds as long as your discreet your fine

If everyone knows they are Swingers people might think you are too...."

Everyone might know they were Arsenal supporting Tory voters too but still wouldn't make me either of those things.....

...small minded people will always think small minded things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Huh? I did this week, it's really normal...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

No, we have met people in public who don't know the meaning of discretion. If we knew they were like that beforehand we wouldn't have.

The vast majority of people we've met in public places are extremely discreet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh course I would.

There is no way the first time I meet someone is going to be at my house or their's.

If the person was too full on, I would simply walk away but Iv never had any issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would yeah I don’t bother what others think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

No, we have met people in public who don't know the meaning of discretion. If we knew they were like that beforehand we wouldn't have.

The vast majority of people we've met in public places are extremely discreet"

What did they do/say?

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I think it all depends on how well you get along in messages. But you could always meet inside of a phone box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would meet in a public place. Most of the meets ive had have been in public places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Public places are safer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course. I don't meet strangers in my flat. Social meet first.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I’m singing the title of this thread to Rihanna’s We Found Love.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"I’m singing the title of this thread to Rihanna’s We Found Love."

Well that fits the occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet in a very public place first... restaurant or bar

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

"have done numerous times pubs bars mcdonalds as long as your discreet your fine

If everyone knows they are Swingers people might think you are too...."

What because we aren't allowed to associate with anyone who is not a swinger? The postman? The guy walking the dog?

Personally I don't advertise but I wouldn't have an issue meeting up with people anywhere. To me it is just the same as meeting up with anyone. You wouldn't not meet up with your badminton friends in case people thought you played badminton. Well that is a bad example, you may have your rackets and does anyone play anymore?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Yes, safety first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always suggest to a lady that we meet in a public place of her choice..safety first.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

No, we have met people in public who don't know the meaning of discretion. If we knew they were like that beforehand we wouldn't have.

The vast majority of people we've met in public places are extremely discreet

What did they do/say?"

one guy talked in a very loud voice about spanking in a quiet pub.

another guy talked in a very loud voice about sex with multiple partners in a quiet pub

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

has anybody read and understood the question apart from me?

Or is it me who's misunderstood?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"has anybody read and understood the question apart from me?

Or is it me who's misunderstood?"

You understood it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"has anybody read and understood the question apart from me?

Or is it me who's misunderstood?

You understood it.

and now I've killed it to death.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"has anybody read and understood the question apart from me?

Or is it me who's misunderstood?

You understood it.

and now I've killed it to death.

Typical Swingers

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"has anybody read and understood the question apart from me?

Or is it me who's misunderstood?

You understood it.

and now I've killed it to death.

Typical Swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

No, we have met people in public who don't know the meaning of discretion. If we knew they were like that beforehand we wouldn't have.

The vast majority of people we've met in public places are extremely discreet

What did they do/say?

one guy talked in a very loud voice about spanking in a quiet pub.

another guy talked in a very loud voice about sex with multiple partners in a quiet pub"

Did you notice other customers moving closer to where you were sitting to hear more?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

No, we have met people in public who don't know the meaning of discretion. If we knew they were like that beforehand we wouldn't have.

The vast majority of people we've met in public places are extremely discreet

What did they do/say?

one guy talked in a very loud voice about spanking in a quiet pub.

another guy talked in a very loud voice about sex with multiple partners in a quiet pub

Did you notice other customers moving closer to where you were sitting to hear more?

no but some were looking at us oddly.

I don't want our private business broadcast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the lift up to a hotel room count

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Yes, at a social. It wasn't anything that was said, rather actions. She ran around the table in the pub smearing lipstick on people, trying to snog the women and grinding on men's laps. At one point, she had my poor fwb cornered, bless him, he was literally trapped in the corner. Part of me found it really funny, but the other part was horrified. Luckily the pub was a big one and really busy. I don't think discretion was her strong point lol.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Of course. Provided that they had more than a body stocking on though.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

The first time I meet a fabber it’s always in a public place!

Most people I know do the same! I don’t think I know anyone - Male or female - who’d risk just turning up at someone’s house for an instashag! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

No, we have met people in public who don't know the meaning of discretion. If we knew they were like that beforehand we wouldn't have.

The vast majority of people we've met in public places are extremely discreet

What did they do/say?

one guy talked in a very loud voice about spanking in a quiet pub.

another guy talked in a very loud voice about sex with multiple partners in a quiet pub

Did you notice other customers moving closer to where you were sitting to hear more?

no but some were looking at us oddly.

I don't want our private business broadcast "

I would have stood up and left. and blocked them immediately.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Discretion is something I very much value.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always in a public place first.

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

We always meet in a pub...they know what we do...

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

OP I’m not sure how I would know someone’s reputation in their village / town, unless they told me before we meet that everyone knows they are a swinger.

For this reason the answer would be yes, I’d meet them in a public place just as o do every other person, swingers or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest not really sure what you mean! But, are you suggesting that you walk into a pub, let's say, and announce I'm here to meet swingers?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea it's safer incase the meet goes bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, at a social. It wasn't anything that was said, rather actions. She ran around the table in the pub smearing lipstick on people, trying to snog the women and grinding on men's laps. At one point, she had my poor fwb cornered, bless him, he was literally trapped in the corner. Part of me found it really funny, but the other part was horrified. Luckily the pub was a big one and really busy. I don't think discretion was her strong point lol. "

I wouldn't mind this in a town far far away from where I live. But no closer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course. Provided that they had more than a body stocking on though."

And an anklet.

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By *forfun500Couple
over a year ago

walsall

Is that not called a social meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I don't meet socially.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I had a similar experience at a group social I attended - was in a private room of a bar but you had to go to the public area to get drinks - some of the attendees were a bit liberal with what they told people in the public area, leading to interlopers.

Then at the post social meal in the public area of a restaurant - one of the female attendees was holding court about some of her experiences and conquests so loudly that I could hear almost every word despite being at the other end of the table (about 10 people away) from her

Some people just don't know how to be discreet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some people just don't know how to be discreet"

Interlopers! We were at a group social upstairs in a quiet pub. The downstairs was absolutely heaving and the poor landlord was confused as it was usually dead.

The local menfolk interlopers had found out the 'private social event' was for swingers and they were all out for a gawp.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I had this once with a couple at a country pub, he started to tell me in a really loud voice what he was doing to her earlier that day when she was chained to the wall

I asked him politely not to and he carried on, so I told him to stop and he still carried on - so I just got up and left.

Members of the public don't need to hear things like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First social meet - public place, always.

After that ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single male I would meet in a public place to ensure whoever I was meeting felt safe. That's always going to be my first concern. Everything else builds from there x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes. I'll make my own mind up about them once we've met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes

Won't necessarily shag them in a public place though

Wait .. that was my outside voice wasn't it?

Who said that ha ha xx

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester

"I always suggest to a lady that we meet in a public place of her choice..safety first."

Same here,As a single male, especially I would always give a single lady the choice of venue and time to meet where she felt the most comfortable and safe. Also formally as a couple we had the same policy. Obviously as my partner was previously here as a single girl that gave me a great insight into the best way to handle things.

We also met other couples in pubs etc for socials prior to play dates...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without a doubt, best place to meet up first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the first post, not just the title

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read the first post, not just the title

I wouldn't meet a big-mouthed swinger any where LOL. A definite no, no matter how hot they were

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Perhaps not quite what the op means but we regularly meet a couple in public who make no secret of being swingers, however, they have no idea that we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I know there was a meet & greet social a few months ago in a popular pub I frequent & one silly lady who was invited kept shouting `This Is A Swingers Party`

Idiotic behavior

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps not quite what the op means but we regularly meet a couple in public who make no secret of being swingers, however, they have no idea that we are.

That's brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also I know there was a meet & greet social a few months ago in a popular pub I frequent & one silly lady who was invited kept shouting `This Is A Swingers Party`

Idiotic behavior

That's why I'd never go to a social event within 3 hours of where I live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also I know there was a meet & greet social a few months ago in a popular pub I frequent & one silly lady who was invited kept shouting `This Is A Swingers Party`

Idiotic behavior

That's why I'd never go to a social event within 3 hours of where I live.

I agree with you 1000%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, and have done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people like to be discreet and keep their private lives private.

Some people tell everyone about their sex lives. Their whole village/ town knows that they are Swingers and fuck around.

Would you meet such a person/ couple in a public place?

I always meet in public, usually in a pub or cafe. Last chance to bail out!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Perhaps not quite what the op means but we regularly meet a couple in public who make no secret of being swingers, however, they have no idea that we are.

That's brilliant!

What is funny is that others in our circle of friends keep telling they are swingers like we should be shocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would the general public know I think it’s best too and I’ve never had anyone go fucking perverted I’d like it if they did tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps not quite what the op means but we regularly meet a couple in public who make no secret of being swingers, however, they have no idea that we are.

That's brilliant!

What is funny is that others in our circle of friends keep telling they are swingers like we should be shocked."

I hope you act shocked. I always do in that situation.

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