FabSwingers.com forum: Do people just chat now?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know this sounds like a moan and it kinda is. But more and more frequently it seems like there’s more chatters than go getters on here?

I’ve been messaging and chatting (or trying to chat to) lots of different people on here to meet, it’s been fruitless.

I get that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but even a blind squirrel finds a bit occasionally!

Anyway, there we go. Are you finding that this is the state of things at the minute?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There are more willing to talk the talk than walk the walk, certainly. But the latter do exist.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I find it's easier to meet in clubs than off here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not been on for ages, but when I was more regular in 2017, it was like that then. There are always a bunch of people who will chat forever and never get there, but there are also some lovely genuine and amazing people out there too. Genuinely amazing experiences to be had

As a second-time-around newbie, I just came in and looked at who was going to a club, and just went along and chatted there face to face for a bit. When people meet you in person, it’s much easier. Get your handsome wee self down to a swing club, and the ladies will be falling over themselves to speak to a fit guy like you

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

I can only speak from a short time on here we've found the majority like to talk to get to know you abit.

I'll only meet with another woman if we hit it off chatting/social meet, I'll still say hi to them in a club and have a chat xxx

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Don’t even get that haha

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes, there's also a difference between chatting to get to know someone, and all mouth no trousers.

I always talk for awhile first. It's a safety thing.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

"Yes, there's also a difference between chatting to get to know someone, and all mouth no trousers.

I always talk for awhile first. It's a safety thing. "

Exactly what I think xxx

But if we hit it off then I'm all trouser lol xxx

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We usually arrange a social within a week or two of first contact. If someone's not able to do that, then we feel they aren't really up for it or are way too busy for any additional commitments in their life.

We have relaxed this rule on a couple of occasions, which seems to support the fact that we shouldn't have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve not been on for ages, but when I was more regular in 2017, it was like that then. There are always a bunch of people who will chat forever and never get there, but there are also some lovely genuine and amazing people out there too. Genuinely amazing experiences to be had

You’ll make me blush! A club doesn’t appeal to me, I guess there’s a number of things which put me off; cost, distance, expectation, nerves!

I’ve found there’s a lot of people who will talk but not do much as exchange a face photo (fake in my eyes) and then a lot of people who just give one line responses even though you have to ‘stimulate their mind’ well that door swings both ways!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"I know this sounds like a moan and it kinda is. But more and more frequently it seems like there’s more chatters than go getters on here?

I’ve been messaging and chatting (or trying to chat to) lots of different people on here to meet, it’s been fruitless.

I get that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but even a blind squirrel finds a bit occasionally!

Anyway, there we go. Are you finding that this is the state of things at the minute? "

Well the thing is, people seem to join this site with the assumption they'll send a message or 2, and they're going to get laid.

It really doesn't work like that, not for the majority of us.

There's more to swinging than just getting your dick wet.

I want to chat to someone, get to know them, find out what makes them tick, if we'd actually be compatible.

I have a busy life, it could take me a week or more to even have time to arrange a social.

If someone is not willing to chat, pushing 2 messages in to meet me, then they're not the sort of person I want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can only speak from a short time on here we've found the majority like to talk to get to know you abit.

I'll only meet with another woman if we hit it off chatting/social meet, I'll still say hi to them in a club and have a chat xxx"

I’ve no issue chatting for a bit! None at all, in fact a chat can stimulate the mind.

However, there’s chatting and then there’s avoiding meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know this sounds like a moan and it kinda is. But more and more frequently it seems like there’s more chatters than go getters on here?

I’ve been messaging and chatting (or trying to chat to) lots of different people on here to meet, it’s been fruitless.

I get that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but even a blind squirrel finds a bit occasionally!

Anyway, there we go. Are you finding that this is the state of things at the minute?

Well the thing is, people seem to join this site with the assumption they'll send a message or 2, and they're going to get laid.

It really doesn't work like that, not for the majority of us.

There's more to swinging than just getting your dick wet.

I want to chat to someone, get to know them, find out what makes them tick, if we'd actually be compatible.

I have a busy life, it could take me a week or more to even have time to arrange a social.

If someone is not willing to chat, pushing 2 messages in to meet me, then they're not the sort of person I want to meet. "

I agree with all of this and I’ve been here long enough to know people have very busy lives - mine included!

I think you can tell from about five messages in if someone is genuine or just in it for the thrill of chatting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you, this is my second time on here and a lot of people who verified me in the past seem to have either left or changed their Ids.

I'm mostly here just for the chat, if I want to play ill just go to a club. Fakes, time wasters and brexit have made it harder for we single guys on here

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I like to chat, whilst I'm not looking for a relationship it's still a good indicator as to whether I like someone and that we'd have a good time in each others company if we did meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree with you, this is my second time on here and a lot of people who verified me in the past seem to have either left or changed their Ids.

I'm mostly here just for the chat, if I want to play ill just go to a club. Fakes, time wasters and brexit have made it harder for we single guys on here

Brexit?! Is this now just a thing people say when they want to blame something? “Urgh blame if it wasn’t for Brexit, we’d all be getting laid.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We usually arrange a social within a week or two of first contact. If someone's not able to do that, then we feel they aren't really up for it or are way too busy for any additional commitments in their life.

We have relaxed this rule on a couple of occasions, which seems to support the fact that we shouldn't have. "

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t even get that haha

you have been lucky so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you get conversation lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Whats up Phoenix?

Haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know this sounds like a moan and it kinda is. But more and more frequently it seems like there’s more chatters than go getters on here?

I’ve been messaging and chatting (or trying to chat to) lots of different people on here to meet, it’s been fruitless.

I get that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but even a blind squirrel finds a bit occasionally!

Anyway, there we go. Are you finding that this is the state of things at the minute? "

Yes and no?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums! "

That's a very broad generalization x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

That's a very broad generalization x"

Only my opinion. Based on stats, analysis and facts.

Did my research.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums! "

Men do that too. They just want wank chat but have no intention of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums! "

Wow. Naive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want some nuts op like the squirrel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Men do that too. They just want wank chat but have no intention of meeting. "

I agree. But they are not part of my research so i could not say that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Wow. Naive... "

Are you sure you are using Naive in the correct context here? Please elaborate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are here just to chat, I think it would be easier if they mentioned this on their profile rather than do what feels like string us along. Although I’m here to meet I won’t meet someone instantly, I like to chat a bit and find out more about them BUT that doesn’t mean sending me 2 messages about your likes and dislikes is enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some are here just to chat, I think it would be easier if they mentioned this on their profile rather than do what feels like string us along. Although I’m here to meet I won’t meet someone instantly, I like to chat a bit and find out more about them BUT that doesn’t mean sending me 2 messages about your likes and dislikes is enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Men do that too. They just want wank chat but have no intention of meeting.

I agree. But they are not part of my research so i could not say that.

Just adding to your research results. I'm not disagreeing with what you've said.

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over a year ago

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

"I can only speak from a short time on here we've found the majority like to talk to get to know you abit.

I'll only meet with another woman if we hit it off chatting/social meet, I'll still say hi to them in a club and have a chat xxx

I’ve no issue chatting for a bit! None at all, in fact a chat can stimulate the mind.

However, there’s chatting and then there’s avoiding meeting."

True, we've not experienced it but I can imagine it's very frustrating if you also arrange a meet and they don't turn up and give a hollow reason !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Men do that too. They just want wank chat but have no intention of meeting.

I agree. But they are not part of my research so i could not say that.

Just adding to your research results. I'm not disagreeing with what you've said.

I know. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you, this is my second time on here and a lot of people who verified me in the past seem to have either left or changed their Ids.

I'm mostly here just for the chat, if I want to play ill just go to a club. Fakes, time wasters and brexit have made it harder for we single guys on here

Brexit?! Is this now just a thing people say when they want to blame something? “Urgh blame if it wasn’t for Brexit, we’d all be getting laid.” "

Yes, Brexit! There's been extensive research on Brexit and its effects on the plight of the single man

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

To be honest, I'd be happy to chat whether it was going to lead to a meet or not.

You may find this hard to believe, but I don't have many friends in the real world and it would be nice to have a few in this online world.

However, I can't even seem to find people who want to chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Wow. Naive...

Are you sure you are using Naive in the correct context here? Please elaborate?

Well, yeah, I think.

I think you’re being Naive as to what mums / dads go through. I’m a single dad of two boys, things happen with kids that stop if you from doing things. Also, after having them all day sometimes you do just want to chat and can forget what this site is about!

To that extent I can sympathise but to the extent of having picture collectors and people who have no intention of meeting, that’s frustrating.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Whats up Phoenix?

Haha x"

What's up?

I found your generalised sweeping comments, well to be honest. Insulting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a couple of comments above a bit much tbh.

Pics and a but of blurb in a profile isn't enough to go on for some, me included. Can take a bit of chatter to get a feel for what someone is like. Connection can be key for some of us and its also a risky thing to just straight off meet a guy from an online site that could be lying, cheating and nothing like how they portray themselves.

Considering there are a high number of fakes etc I think woman can't be too careful. And mums are probably more careful and like to chat more as they are responsible for small people and can't risk something happening to them.

I would imagine that a lot of woman are nervous too about meeting someone for the first time and how a guy would take it if the decided upon meeting that they didn't actually fancy or click with the guy enough.

I was nervous as hell on my first ever meet which wasn't off here. But he was lovely thankfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mainly chat on here. To myself. On the forums. Because majority have blocked me. I also never get replies. But yeah I mainly just chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Whats up Phoenix?

Haha x

What's up?

I found your generalised sweeping comments, well to be honest. Insulting "

And you not agreeing with my comments is insulting to me.

Thats the world we live in. You cant please everyone. But i am pleasing my boys on here so i am happy. I am saying what they are thinking!

You are welcome boys!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You want some nuts op like the squirrel "

Maybe that was the incorrect analogy in here!

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"Don’t even get that haha

you have been lucky so...

I haven’t, I haven’t met u, yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Whats up Phoenix?

Haha x

What's up?

I found your generalised sweeping comments, well to be honest. Insulting

And you not agreeing with my comments is insulting to me.

Thats the world we live in. You cant please everyone. But i am pleasing my boys on here so i am happy. I am saying what they are thinking!

You are welcome boys!

Can I just say, I don’t share your thoughts and your comments aren’t pleasing me, neither did I thank you.

Just for the interest of balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am i annoying people?

Only expressing my opinion people. Based on what i have experienced in the last year on fab.

Lots of love people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

Whats up Phoenix?

Haha x

What's up?

I found your generalised sweeping comments, well to be honest. Insulting

And you not agreeing with my comments is insulting to me.

Thats the world we live in. You cant please everyone. But i am pleasing my boys on here so i am happy. I am saying what they are thinking!

You are welcome boys!

Can I just say, I don’t share your thoughts and your comments aren’t pleasing me, neither did I thank you.

Just for the interest of balance. "

Thats fine.

I respect your opinion.

I am not going against anyone.

Just expressing what i have experienced on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find a couple of comments above a bit much tbh.

I was nervous as hell on my first ever meet which wasn't off here. But he was lovely thankfully. "

Good point about mums being responsible for little people. Could be why they tend to chat and not end up meeting.

A good tip from a lady on here was to change plans slightly and see how the man reacts. If he gets mad, don't meet him. Life can get in the way sometimes... But if he gets annoyed over a small change, he's likely to take rejection badly. (E.g. If you meet and there's no attraction.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am i annoying people?

Only expressing my opinion people. Based on what i have experienced in the last year on fab.

Lots of love people.

Maybe a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can I raise the flag for us single dads, too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I raise the flag for us single dads, too? "

You are on the map my friend.

I think petite woman is checking you out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am i annoying people?

Only expressing my opinion people. Based on what i have experienced in the last year on fab.

Lots of love people.

If you think you’re annoying people or the comments back to you aren’t what you were after, you’re probably either, annoying people, or fishing to wind people up for attention which will still annoy people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find a couple of comments above a bit much tbh.

I was nervous as hell on my first ever meet which wasn't off here. But he was lovely thankfully.

Good point about mums being responsible for little people. Could be why they tend to chat and not end up meeting.

Good tip.

I'm a mum and it was a big thing for me. What if something happened to me.

I can tell a friend where I'm going and send details and location etc and then check in with them to let them know I'm OK.

If I'm like that I'm sure many women are.

I won't be meeting anyone on my own now anyway. But a safety person is a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am i annoying people?

Only expressing my opinion people. Based on what i have experienced in the last year on fab.

Lots of love people.

Not at all. Neither of your comments are correct.

I merely expressed my opinion and rant because i have come across too many mums who string men along for chats.

Just because i am a cool handsome guy... doesnt mean you can string me along to get entertainment and compliments out of me. We handsome men also have feelings!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Find a couple of comments above a bit much tbh.

I was nervous as hell on my first ever meet which wasn't off here. But he was lovely thankfully.

Good point about mums being responsible for little people. Could be why they tend to chat and not end up meeting.

That’s a good tip - very interesting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I raise the flag for us single dads, too?

You are on the map my friend.

I think petite woman is checking you out!

I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find a couple of comments above a bit much tbh.

I was nervous as hell on my first ever meet which wasn't off here. But he was lovely thankfully.

Good point about mums being responsible for little people. Could be why they tend to chat and not end up meeting.

Good tip.

I'm a mum and it was a big thing for me. What if something happened to me.

I can tell a friend where I'm going and send details and location etc and then check in with them to let them know I'm OK.

If I'm like that I'm sure many women are.

I won't be meeting anyone on my own now anyway. But a safety person is a good thing. "

Did you tell the person you were meeting that you had a safety person who knew where you were and who with?

I think it's a good idea but only if they know. Might warn them off dodgy ideas.

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By *milingeyesWoman
over a year ago

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Maybe if sum stopped complaining as soon as they join the site they would get on with ppl and sum would meet for a social or anything else.... iv never had a problem always met in a public place, had my phone, also car for my safety.... any man iv met have been exactly as I thought they would be, while chatting to them... 1 or 2 dont speak now as they have left the site....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find a couple of comments above a bit much tbh.

I was nervous as hell on my first ever meet which wasn't off here. But he was lovely thankfully.

Good point about mums being responsible for little people. Could be why they tend to chat and not end up meeting.

The minor problem with that logic of course is that if he doesn't get mad he maybe never intended to meet. I'd imagine a guy that booked train tickets in advance, re-arranged work commitments and mentally prepared for a meeting might be a wee bit put off by a last minute change in plans

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can I raise the flag for us single dads, too?

You are on the map my friend.

I think petite woman is checking you out!

I'm not "

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Are you wanting to just have a moan OP or try and understand?

I'll meet as and when I want. I'm a mum and have a rich life .. I follow my energy and will chat as friends, with an intention of meeting for as short a time or as long a time as I decide. If it changes, so be it.

Walking the walk is exactly this .. As long as its served with plenty honesty.

I'm not that comfortable with a judgement on how I choose to do things. AND i understand its frustrating you are not getting what you desire or what you thought you were signing up for.

Personally, my capacity for sex, adventure, meets, socials, connections etc fluctuates .. and flows around lots of things.

By being here I haven't signed a contract to follow rulesor expectations .. nor do I owe anyone anything.

Really, there's no right or wrong way to do things here and there are people looking for all sorts of different things. There will be plenty who fit the bill for you I'm sure.

I understand it must be frustrating if some one says they're up for meeting and then back out. Who knows what their reasons are for that.

Such is life.

It's fine to have a wee moan OP maybe have a think what you can do differently to remedy your situation..

that could more helpful than externalising your frustrations ??

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My meeting record suggests I’m just here to chat, even if that isn’t the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find a couple of comments above a bit much tbh.

I was nervous as hell on my first ever meet which wasn't off here. But he was lovely thankfully.

Good point about mums being responsible for little people. Could be why they tend to chat and not end up meeting.

Good point.

In that case (booked hotels, trains etc) the change would have to be minor. Like meeting 2 hours later maybe.

Also true about him possibly never intending to meet. Bah you found holes in the plan.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Relying solely on this site makes it seem like hard work, but being on here alongside going to Fab social events and attending clubs seems to work for us.

We are proactive in sending out messages. It would be good to receive more messages though from people who are interested in us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relying solely on this site makes it seem like hard work, but being on here alongside going to Fab social events and attending clubs seems to work for us.

We are proactive in sending out messages. It would be good to receive more messages though from people who are interested in us."

Hint hint. FINE... i will message you! No need to go public. You could have messaged me first. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you wanting to just have a moan OP or try and understand?

Walking the walk is exactly this .. As long as its served with plenty honesty.

I'm not that comfortable with a judgement on how I choose to do things. AND i understand its frustrating you are not getting what you desire or what you thought you were signing up for.

Personally, my capacity for sex, adventure, meets, socials, connections etc fluctuates .. and flows around lots of things.

By being here I haven't signed a contract to follow rulesor expectations .. nor do I owe anyone anything.

Really, there's no right or wrong way to do things here and there are people looking for all sorts of different things. There will be plenty who fit the bill for you I'm sure.

I understand it must be frustrating if some one says they're up for meeting and then back out. Who knows what their reasons are for that.

Such is life.

It's fine to have a wee moan OP maybe have a think what you can do differently to remedy your situation..

that could more helpful than externalising your frustrations ??

xxx

I think I’m more just having a moan, to be honest! I get what you are saying though, you make sense. No matter how many rainbows you shoot out of yourself!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums! "

What a knobbish thing to say!

Most of my friends are mums and we all fuck people. Maybe people are saying they want online relationships because they don't want to meet you and are trying to let you down gently?

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over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

What a knobbish thing to say!

Most of my friends are mums and we all fuck people. Maybe people are saying they want online relationships because they don't want to meet you and are trying to let you down gently? "

Nope.

Way too handsome.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

What a knobbish thing to say!

Most of my friends are mums and we all fuck people. Maybe people are saying they want online relationships because they don't want to meet you and are trying to let you down gently?

Nope.

Way too handsome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find a couple of comments above a bit much tbh.

I was nervous as hell on my first ever meet which wasn't off here. But he was lovely thankfully.

Good point about mums being responsible for little people. Could be why they tend to chat and not end up meeting.

Good point.

In that case (booked hotels, trains etc) the change would have to be minor. Like meeting 2 hours later maybe.

Also true about him possibly never intending to meet. Bah you found holes in the plan.

I'm sure no one normal will be put off having to wait a couple more hours, plans still intact

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Too many women just want online relationships because their real lives are boring. Thats cool... as long they do not miss lead other people.

But not for me thank you very much. I want physical action! Dont mind chatting for a month then meeting.

But ... i understand... after a couple of weeks you might do or say something to turn the other person off. Fair enough.

But online relationship seekers are not for me thank you. Prime suspects are mums!

What a knobbish thing to say!

Most of my friends are mums and we all fuck people. Maybe people are saying they want online relationships because they don't want to meet you and are trying to let you down gently? "

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Nothing here can't be solved with honesty and good communication.

Make your intentions and requirements clear from the start, if they match all's good, if not just move on. Everyone happy

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