FabSwingers.com forum: Would you be single rather than settling down with the wrong one?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

With this I mean would you rather be single all your life if you couldnt find your perfect partner or would you rather find not your type just to be with someone? I would choose to be single all my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely rather be single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been very lucky met my best friend and soul mate at the age of 15 been together since then so don’t know what being single is like and the thought of it in old age scares me shitless be devastated to not have her with me.

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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago

Oo err Devon

Yes, from experience sticking with a relationship that was not right for either... It makes no one happy... And once you find your confidence when single it can be a great feeling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can i settle for the wrong one 365 times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spent most of my 20's just being with someone. Now I'd much rather be single!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single definitely.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes. Most definately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely single

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Single all the way. Being with someone just because it’s someone around, is not healthy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just become single through choice, the relief is overwhelming

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Single.

That's why I'm divorced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've settled down with the wrong person before.

Never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single.

That's why I'm divorced. "

His loss my gain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think so less chance of hurting others if it fails

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Single.

That's why I'm divorced.

His loss my gain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without a doubt single

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Yeah single with the wrong one it wouldn't work anyway.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Having been in a long-term relationship with with the wrong person, I know I'd rather be single. Luke

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Theres a reason I've been single for 13 years... just cant find him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Id just be single full stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Newly single (about five months) and totally loving it. So much so that I don't envisage being in a relationship again. The peace, not having to compromise, worry about someone etc all I have to think about is myself and my children. If I need sex there is fab, parties or my sex toys. It's a win win. Your happiness over an unhappy relationship always.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Having already spent half my life with the wrong person, then single all the way.

It's taken alot to rebuild my life. I'm finally me, free & very happy.

I wouldn't sacrifice what I've built, to share it with anyone now unless they were 100% right for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single, rather that, than be miserable for 11 years again.

Been single almost 11 years - can't imagine being in another long term relationship again...

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

If it's someone who's wrong for you, then single all the way

If you're single because you can't be with the person who's right for you (because you had a bit of a breakdown and screwed things up totally) then that's a lot harder to take....

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Yes definitely single

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I think Id just be single full stop.

This. I love being single!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo single

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Please stop saying single all the way! I keep reading it as Jingle all the way

On a serious note. Single, 100%, everytime. It may end up lonely but the wrong person can make it lonely and all other parts of hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you want when you want happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh single every day.

Was with my husband 19yrs....I shouldnt have stayed with him. Should have stayed single and played the field until I found myself. Was too young. Trying desperately to seperate from him now.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But there are no 'perfect partners' surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought I had found the right one. Ended up sleeping on the sofa for 5 years because of the kids. Had to get out in the end and was such a huge relief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But there are no 'perfect partners' surely?

Have to disagree with that sorry

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By *rallyFixated1Man
over a year ago

tipton

Wasted a lot of years with the wrong one. No I’m single and refuse to settle for anything less than amazing.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Wasted a lot of years with the wrong one. No I’m single and refuse to settle for anything less than amazing. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather be single.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Single for last 45 years, nothing will change that now, too set in my ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spent 29 years with the wrong one so unless i find someone who loves me for being me and is my best friend too i will be staying single. I cant do fab forever and sex means more with someone special.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Being with the wrong person would be horrible. Better to be in your own.

No relationship is perfect although they can be perfect for the people in them, which is different

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Please stop saying single all the way! I keep reading it as Jingle all the way

On a serious note. Single, 100%, everytime. It may end up lonely but the wrong person can make it lonely and all other parts of hell. "

I was lonelier married, than I ever have been single!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather be single for the rest of my life after being married for a long time to the wrong person, for the last ten years been happier for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please stop saying single all the way! I keep reading it as Jingle all the way

On a serious note. Single, 100%, everytime. It may end up lonely but the wrong person can make it lonely and all other parts of hell.

I was lonelier married, than I ever have been single! "

If we were married, I would never be out of you

EVER!

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

Been in 3 separate long term relationships from my early 20s until 2 years ago. Quite happy to stay single and enjoying my "freedom" now.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Please stop saying single all the way! I keep reading it as Jingle all the way

On a serious note. Single, 100%, everytime. It may end up lonely but the wrong person can make it lonely and all other parts of hell.

I was lonelier married, than I ever have been single! "

Exactly. I'm fortunate enough to have never been in a relationship that I regret being with that person, I know others who have and they said the exact same thing.

Its not just about a body being there, it is how that body physically and mentally makes you feel. Often isolated and trapped.

And that's not even abusive relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after escaping an abusive marriage I've been single 9 years

fear of being with the wrong one again keeps me single

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over a year ago

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I was with the wrong one for 24 years. Sure, I miss the little things sometimes. Company, cuddles and stuff but I'm happy being single now. Would rather be single than with a wrong un again x

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I'd rather be single, even if it meant no sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely stay single, been there got the t shirt if anyone wants one as there going cheap for Xmas

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Stay single.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather be single than be with someone who isn't right and live in doubt. I'm learning to love myself and if it isn't right then it isn't happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having had an almost 6 years LTR with the wrong person, I'd much prefer to be single if I couldn't find my equal.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I'd rather be single then be with the wrong person, that's why I'm happily divorced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather be single then be with the wrong person, that's why I'm happily divorced."
but it took you years to find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single. Surely that’s the only self respecting way? Opposed to settling down with someone who you’re not happy with?

Am I being bigoted here?

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

My (ex) wife was and still is wonderful but we grew apart and separated 7 years ago. We were both upset at the time and we still stay in touch, no kids involved.

We were together for almost 20 years and if it didn't work for me with her then it won't work for anyone else with me. I'm much happier single and even more content. I don't have to think about anybody, just me. That might sound selfish but I'm happier single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

It’s looking likely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely single,time spent alone with yourself isn’t time wasted,time with someone you don’t want to be with certainly is.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

"I'd rather be single then be with the wrong person, that's why I'm happily divorced.but it took you years to find out

No just 2 years into the marriage. I've been divorced for quite some time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most definitely."

Rather be single that's why I am getting a divorce

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Been very single for 12 years, except for a blip with my bff, which was the worst ever in the end.

No settling for second best, conned into a fb/fwb arrangement, mistress etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather be single, twice I thought I'd met the illusive "one" and twice I've had to rebuild from nothing if not less than nothing, so this time if I do meet someone they had better be prepared for us to live separate as I refuse to go through it all again

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By *hisguy84Man
over a year ago

Jersey

Single. I love being single. It would need to be someone exceptional to tame me. Not because I’m anything special, just love my free will

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By *ikerdude2017Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Maybe I should learn to be Single. I hate being single, and failing to find my next forever girl. thought I did then I screwed that up.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Yes every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anyone is going to say they would deliberately settle for the wrong person....but a lot of couples seem to stay together for the wrong reasons...

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over a year ago

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Ive been very lucky met my best friend and soul mate at the age of 15 been together since then so don’t know what being single is like and the thought of it in old age scares me shitless be devastated to not have her with me. "

Aw that’s so sweet!

My son’s 15 - nearly 16 - and he’s been with his girlfriend about 6 months now. They seem so in tune with each other that I wouldn’t be surprised if they grow up and grow old together!

He’s clearly a lot better at relationships than I am! I’m a soft shite who always falls in love far too easily and gets very hurt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single, I wouldn't want my negativity to then affect other people I interact with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rather be single all my life than go down that road.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to say single but with my track record I'd just stay in a shitty relationship instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am happily single right now but you never know what is going to happen in life to be honest

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I'm very happily single, after 16 yrs in a bad marriage. I miss someone to scrape the ice off my car in a morning, and mow the lawn... Other than that, I'm pretty sorted and content with everything

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Single and never the wrong person. Happy to compromise on most things but life is too valuable to waste it with someone inappropriate

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

Does the whole settling down with someone not mean you think you’ve found the right one?

It may not work out but I’d have thought no one would settle down for the sake of it a.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does the whole settling down with someone not mean you think you’ve found the right one?

It may not work out but I’d have thought no one would settle down for the sake of it a. "

You would be surprised by the number of people that settle down for the sake of it. Some do it as they dont want to live out the rest of there days alone. Me i rather be alone and happy than attached and unhappy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without a doubt! Would be nice to fall in love all over again though lol

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By *attsNbeard78Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've been single most of my life, I don't click with women easy, it's lonely but Id rather not settle if something doesn't feel right.. Or maybe I'm just a picky fucker! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw that’s so sweet!

My son’s 15 - nearly 16 - and he’s been with his girlfriend about 6 months now. They seem so in tune with each other that I wouldn’t be surprised if they grow up and grow old together!

He’s clearly a lot better at relationships than I am! I’m a soft shite who always falls in love far too easily and gets very hurt! "
awwwww I'm a softie too

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

"Does the whole settling down with someone not mean you think you’ve found the right one?

It may not work out but I’d have thought no one would settle down for the sake of it a.

I have to agree I couldn’t settle down for the sake of it

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i want a bad partner cmon baddies where are you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i want a bad partner cmon baddies where are you

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Bad Santa might bring you one for Christmas

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Not many ever find their PERFECT partner - relationships are about compromise a lot of the time. It's just a matter of how much you compromise as to how happy you are.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i want a bad partner cmon baddies where are you

Bad Santa might bring you one for Christmas

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ooooo excited will she come gift wrapped in gaffer tape?

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

Empowering and that's when you know what your looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i want a bad partner cmon baddies where are you

Bad Santa might bring you one for Christmas

ooooo excited will she come gift wrapped in gaffer tape?

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Yes if bondage is your thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i want a bad partner cmon baddies where are you

Bad Santa might bring you one for Christmas

ooooo excited will she come gift wrapped in gaffer tape?

Yes if bondage is your thing

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lol not especially i like my women mobile

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I was blissfully single 10year, met someone we have banter and we talk about everything and we laughing all the time. I say single all the time until you find someone you adore, that makes you laugh and can speak to without having to second guess what they'd think about what you say and makes you feel comfortable around them. Stay single till

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over a year ago

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