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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I only really drink alcohol on special occasions so maybe 3 or 4 times in year and I get really tired of being told that I should drink. Does anyone else that doesn't drink get this from other people?

They either think I must being boring by not drinking or find it sad. Ironically I find it a little sad that the same people berating me for not drinking are so dependent on booze to have a good night.

It's not that I don't enjoy drinking, I just don't feel the need to do so on order to have a good time. Of course each to their own but just wanted to vent on the matter as I get told quite often and wondered if anyone else had experienced the same? (clearly I need to stop hanging round with d*unks

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

I have spent my whole life being told what us good for me and 'have a drink'. I don't enjoy the taste nor smell of alcohol. You are not alone

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I only really drink alcohol on special occasions so maybe 3 or 4 times in year and I get really tired of being told that I should drink. Does anyone else that doesn't drink get this from other people?

Don't drink.

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

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Don't drink."

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening."

It is that easy keep away from those venue's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both don’t drink haven’t for a very long time , always getting told we’re boring for not drinking and to loosen up . One we don’t NEED a drink to have a good time & two really don’t enjoy the taste . Makes us laugh when we see people constantly on social media posting numerous pictures of them holding a drink to the camera convincing one & all they’ve having a fantastic time in life , yep I wonder who they’re trying to convince ?? Note , confidence is silent, issues are loud

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's."

Those venues? Like relatives houses then? That doesn't really work. Also responding with just "don't drink" doesn't actually answer the question

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's.

Those venues? Like relatives houses then? That doesn't really work. Also responding with just "don't drink" doesn't actually answer the question

What was the question?

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Try 'I don't want the calories'

I'm not really much help admitted. My group of friends don't drink alcohol. It's coffee and bottles of water as things erm progress.

They really should respect your decision though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try 'I don't want the calories'

I'm not really much help admitted. My group of friends don't drink alcohol. It's coffee and bottles of water as things erm progress.

They really should respect your decision though

That's where it started for me, I started dieting and lost a lot of weight a few years back (unfortunately put a lot back on) and I just cut down drastically ever since. The response I tend to get from that is "there's not much in a whiskey and diet though" but it's a good idea.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I like to drink on a night out but other than that I don't touch it, I never drink at home and don't like drinking in the morning or early afternoon like some do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never drink at home and only if im out with my friends etc

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

"Does anyone else that doesn't drink get this from other people?

We get it all the time. Neither of us rarely ever drinks alcohol.

Basically we don't like the effect that it has of dulling our senses; so adding that to the potential excess calories and the possible health risks (associations with cancer etc) means we don't drink.

Neither do we give a flying feck what other people think. If we seem boring to them we don't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lucky if I drink once or twice a year.

I don't like the taste, I don't like the hangover and I don't like waiting for a taxi home.

I just take the car, no pressure that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do drink but often when I go out I just want soft drinks. My friends are actually ok with it, but other people can be "why's he not drinking? Go on mate, have a drink" and just don't take no for an answer. I'm quite capable of having a good time without alcohol

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I used to drink quite a bit when I was younger. Now I go through phases and sometimes don’t bother for weeks. My friends where I live now are used to it but it can be strange for my friends back home and it made some a bit uncomfortable at first.

One of them suggested that I should warn her in advance if we’re going out for dinner and I’m not going to drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We both don’t drink haven’t for a very long time , always getting told we’re boring for not drinking and to loosen up . One we don’t NEED a drink to have a good time & two really don’t enjoy the taste . Makes us laugh when we see people constantly on social media posting numerous pictures of them holding a drink to the camera convincing one & all they’ve having a fantastic time in life , yep I wonder who they’re trying to convince ?? Note , confidence is silent, issues are loud "

I think they have issues if they can't have fun without a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they have issues if they can't have fun without a drink.

Am afraid so

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

I went through a phase for about a year of not drinking. I just wasn't enjoying it any more. Everyone kept asking if I was pregnant

Gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went through a phase for about a year of not drinking. I just wasn't enjoying it any more. Everyone kept asking if I was pregnant

Gem"

Brilliant! I'll just say I'm up the duff the next time they offer me a Babycham.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

"I went through a phase for about a year of not drinking. I just wasn't enjoying it any more. Everyone kept asking if I was pregnant

Gem

Brilliant! I'll just say I'm up the duff the next time they offer me a Babycham.

It's definitely one way to stop them asking why you aren't drinking

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Similar to me and dancing OP...

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I don’t drink and I’ve never been berated for it, must be the ‘fuck off’ look on my face. It’s other people who squirm when they are drinking in my company.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I like to drink on a night out but other than that I don't touch it, I never drink at home and don't like drinking in the morning or early afternoon like some do."

Well that’s our day drink river cruise out the window lol

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I've never drank any alcohol my whole entire life.

I usually get asked about drinking by strangers who I'm meeting for the first time but a simple confident explanation has been sufficient.

If people harass you to drink then you have to reconsider your social circle and if it's family they need to respect your choice and not go on about it. You have to draw a line and make others respect it 1 way or another.

In respects to people needing Alcohol to have a good time it seems to be a mostly British cultural norm and mostly extreme in the rest of Europe. As someone who travels alot I see Europe in most has a better control when it comes to drinking but that is changing as is obesity because we in the western world can't seem to keep what we enjoy to ourselves lol

I as a tee totaller have seen so many friends and colleagues rely on alcohol almost depend on it to have a good time and it's honestly immature and pathetic to me but it is the norm in our culture unfortunately.

The way people change by and due to it is unreal to.

But have you noticed how drinking is subtly pushed on you from an early age?

As someone that has never drank I have noticed how every opportunity tv shows have they will normalize drinking and having wine with a meal as if it's what civilised people do. No it's what the Romans did and they were not civilised at all haha merely on power and had money oh wait isn't that ironic lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink anymore. When asked, or pressured, I'm honest and say I can't. If you refuse alcohol for medical reasons, they tend to back off pretty quickly.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have had the same. No thank you usually works, I said no thank you, then "how about that (subject change)" after that. Worst case, I have had to resort to "what I choose to put in my body is not up for discussion."

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

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Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's."

Don't be ridiculous. How can I avoid every occasion that involves alcohol. I shouldn't have to. People should stop pushing alcohol to people who don't drink

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens

I always drive when i go out anywhere so i just say im driving plus havent drank alcohol for over 10 years now and dont miss it or need it to enjoy myself

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's.

Don't be ridiculous. How can I avoid every occasion that involves alcohol. I shouldn't have to. People should stop pushing alcohol to people who don't drink

What?I'm not being ridiculous you don't have to drink or drink water or soft drinks.

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

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Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's.

Don't be ridiculous. How can I avoid every occasion that involves alcohol. I shouldn't have to. People should stop pushing alcohol to people who don't drink

What?I'm not being ridiculous you don't have to drink or drink water or soft drinks."

We are discussing the pressure put on people who don't drink. Of course I drink soft d*unks, I don't drink alcohol

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's.

Don't be ridiculous. How can I avoid every occasion that involves alcohol. I shouldn't have to. People should stop pushing alcohol to people who don't drink

What?I'm not being ridiculous you don't have to drink or drink water or soft drinks.

We are discussing the pressure put on people who don't drink. Of course I drink soft d*unks, I don't drink alcohol

Then I agree people shouldn't pressure you into drinking

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

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Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's.

Don't be ridiculous. How can I avoid every occasion that involves alcohol. I shouldn't have to. People should stop pushing alcohol to people who don't drink

What?I'm not being ridiculous you don't have to drink or drink water or soft drinks.

We are discussing the pressure put on people who don't drink. Of course I drink soft d*unks, I don't drink alcohol

Then I agree people shouldn't pressure you into drinking "

Hallelujah

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

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Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's.

Don't be ridiculous. How can I avoid every occasion that involves alcohol. I shouldn't have to. People should stop pushing alcohol to people who don't drink

What?I'm not being ridiculous you don't have to drink or drink water or soft drinks.

We are discussing the pressure put on people who don't drink. Of course I drink soft d*unks, I don't drink alcohol

It’s easy to not drink if you don’t want to. Just say you are not drinking, end of. If you need an excuse, drive to the venue so you can’t drink. Nobody needs to bow to pressure and if people do pressure you then perhaps change who you see.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

People have pressured me before its not nice that's why I try not to drink.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never tasted alcohol and won't be starting now at my age. It's a personal choice.I've always been tagged as boring by the same people who come looking for me at the end of the evening when they can't get a taxi home.

As recently as Saturday night when I spent 2 hrs delivering some of those non boring drinkers home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink anymore. I used to and liked it, but it's not good for me. It became to be solitary more than social.

Now I meet more folk who are sobering up.

There are less highs and lows, more a steady state of well being.

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

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Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's.

Don't be ridiculous. How can I avoid every occasion that involves alcohol. I shouldn't have to. People should stop pushing alcohol to people who don't drink

What?I'm not being ridiculous you don't have to drink or drink water or soft drinks.

We are discussing the pressure put on people who don't drink. Of course I drink soft d*unks, I don't drink alcohol

I never said it wasn't easy not to drink. I SAID the pressure of people trying to persuade you to drink all evening spoils your evening. I always drive. It isn't possible to choose every friend, work colleague or family event

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a colleague give me a vodka and orange at his leaving do when I'd only asked for an orange juice, and I didn't notice until he told me, he thought it was funny. Let's just say I was less than happy.

Mr R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink very often either. I'll happily sit in a pub and drink tea and get told I'm weird for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Love those lesson givers who can't walk straight in curved lines even when they are sober

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Don't drink.

It really isn't that easy. People try and push you to drink all night. The more d*unk they get, the more they persist. It spoils the evening.

It is that easy keep away from those venue's.

Don't be ridiculous. How can I avoid every occasion that involves alcohol. I shouldn't have to. People should stop pushing alcohol to people who don't drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont drink very ofen and it wouldnt bother me if they banned alcohol tomorrow. Personally cant see the attraction of going out and getting pissed and if that makes me boring so be it. Just got to be firm and say no thanks I dont want a drink.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Similar to me and dancing OP..."

Don't get me started on dancing haha

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

To add to this, I don't drink tea or coffee either. I always get " what do you drink then?".

Eerrr cold soft drinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drink, I’m Scottish

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I like a gin

but I can only drink a maximum of three.

I went 13 years without drinking alcohol. I don’t need to drink to have a good time and I didn’t miss it at all. It’s surprisingly how many people can’t understand why others don’t or won’t drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not alone OP, I don't drink, odd gin at the weekend.

I have my works xmas party on Saturday, and yup I will join in with dancing and partying without alchoholic assistance... I don't need it to enjoy myself and I would rather the memory than the hangover.

Having had alchoholics and alchohol dependents in the family I know too well how damaging this legal substance can be, people forget how dangerous and damaving it can be

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I very rarely drink alcohol. If ever. Never really seen the big deal over it, never overly liked the taste. Seen the damage it can cause. And have my own personal reasons for it on top of that.

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By *ountryfansCouple
over a year ago

huntingdon

I find it annoying that pubs charge so much for soft drinks. I would love to find something a bit more interesting to drink that is non alcholic that soft drinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink very often, a few times a year depending on events or parties.

First of all I don't want to spend more time on the pisser than dancing.

I also don't want or like hangovers.

I get a bit panicky around people who drink tho, I know not everyone is gonna flip on a ninepence but more barnies and fights happen when there's alcohol involved.

I'd struggle to be around someone who drank every day, even if it was just one drink

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We don't drink and wouldn't play with anyone who was d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's allergic to alcohol, he wouldn't even eat food that's been cooked using alcohol. I'm just not interested. We like our senses heightened, not dulled.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I find that Britain has a very strange relationship with alcohol. Whereby if you don't go out and get hammered you're seen as dull by lots of people and people are proud of being trollied and acting like knobs!

Weird! I do drink when I want to, I don't drink when I don't. I rarely get d*unk and I don't bow to peer pressure over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a colleague give me a vodka and orange at his leaving do when I'd only asked for an orange juice, and I didn't notice until he told me, he thought it was funny. Let's just say I was less than happy.

Mr R"

People like that are just arseholes mate.

When people try this with me i just leave the drink on the table and get my own, for special cases i will tip it into thier drink. Most of the time though it is enough to just watch the pain in their eyes as the drink goes flat on the table or they have to admit defeat and drink it themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that Britain has a very strange relationship with alcohol. Whereby if you don't go out and get hammered you're seen as dull by lots of people and people are proud of being trollied and acting like knobs!

Weird! I do drink when I want to, I don't drink when I don't. I rarely get d*unk and I don't bow to peer pressure over it."

Alcohol is supposed to be cut with food. You're supposed to drink it while you're eating, not pour it down your neck. A couple of times a year I get a craving for a beer but I mean A beer. And I'll drink it over hours, I sip it like wine cos I just like the taste, not the effect.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Weird! I do drink when I want to, I don't drink when I don't. I rarely get d*unk and I don't bow to peer pressure over it.

I think that's a healthy attitude. I've never gone out with the intention of getting d*unk. It amazes me that people see this as an achievement. (It's hardly an accolade in my eyes)

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Weird! I do drink when I want to, I don't drink when I don't. I rarely get d*unk and I don't bow to peer pressure over it.

I think that's a healthy attitude. I've never gone out with the intention of getting d*unk. It amazes me that people see this as an achievement. (It's hardly an accolade in my eyes)"

Not for you but for the culture and society as a whole getting d*unk was seen an a male act of recognition into a man.

During the 90s females wanted so called equality which meant try to be the same as men which doesn't mean equibility and thus we got the 90s ladettes urgh.

So now it's a confused era we live in.

I believe my reply from above still sufficed for OP though with this matter at hand.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

You are not alone. I had one of Mr Ruggers work colleagues trying to force me to drink a whiskey last year as it was "free and we all need a drink to have fun" Happily I don't need a drink to enjoy myself

It is easy to say avoid any situation that involves drink, but family events etc I don't want to avoid. I do avoid pubs though as I don't like being around people who can't handle their drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like to have an occasional glass of wine, but I'm such a lightweight, I'm quite tipsy and giggly after one!!

I never drink at home, only in a night out.

I certainly don't need a drink to have a good time but 1 does help me relax a little.

The pressure to drink more is always there..."shot shot shot"

I'd just say drinking and drug taking doesn't agree with you, so you'll just stick to the drugs!!! Lol lol

will possibly get them off your back (about drinking) lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

Stopped drinking 1n 1967 when the breathalyser was introduced in the U.K. prior to which I would drink 4 or 5 nights a week.

It was hard for the first few months but gradually I accustomed myself to a life without alcohol.

On the plus side I kept my driving licence and enhanced my bank balance but the big minus was I always seemed to be the driver on nights out.

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