FabSwingers.com forum: Creepy people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I would mention it to the person and tell them to back off.

If they were persistent I would tell staff, even if they were a regular.

However the club may not always take action if it's a regular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would mention it, there is no place for behavior of that nature.

It happened to me at a club, I was being touched without consent, I had to ask twice for him to stop, someone else told staff who ejected him regardless.

The rules are there to be adhered too regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would mention it to the person and tell them to back off.

If they were persistent I would tell staff, even if they were a regular.

However the club may not always take action if it's a regular."

This exactly and have done before, thank fully we’ve found this to be the minority.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I try to deal with it myself before I talk to staff, but I certainly will.

I really don't care who they are in a club, how important they are, how regularly they come. Rules are rules and need to be applied to everyone so that everyone can feel safe.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

even in vanilla venues I wont look at people.

One time a girl came over and asked me could I stop looking at her friend, it was making her uncomfortable. I asked who her friend was, she pointed her out, i had no idea who she was never seen her before in my life.

Turns out they were between me and the dancefloor.

Anyway I left and never went back.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

Yes I would mention it to the staff so what if they are a regular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not always easy with courage, but if you told the person directly, I reckon they'd probably be mortified and apologize and adjust their ways...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Not always easy with courage, but if you told the person directly, I reckon they'd probably be mortified and apologize and adjust their ways... "

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Sometimes you become the one with the problem because you don't want to be touched or hassled...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd ask them to back off and let staff know so they can keep an eye on them to make sure they're not doing it to others.

Whether they're regular or not, "no means no" and this should always be respected by everyone. This applies to both males and females x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"
nope. Touching without asking is something that really bugs me. I will always mention it if they dont stop if I tell them

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I'd make anyone and everyone know how I was feeling, I'm not subtle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?

Yes I would mention it to the staff so what if they are a regular."

Cliques

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I think I’d probably note to the organiser I felt uncomfortable just so they were aware.

One would assume if it was a ‘regular’ that any organiser would want to know if said person was potentially putting off other guests

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'd ask them to back off and let staff know so they can keep an eye on them to make sure they're not doing it to others.

Whether they're regular or not, "no means no" and this should always be respected by everyone. This applies to both males and females x"

Ooh yes. Sometimes women can be even worse!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?

Yes I would mention it to the staff so what if they are a regular.

Cliques "

And....?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd ask them to back off and let staff know so they can keep an eye on them to make sure they're not doing it to others.

Whether they're regular or not, "no means no" and this should always be respected by everyone. This applies to both males and females x"

I agree, that's why I didn't specify men or women (etc) in the OP.

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym

"I'd ask them to back off and let staff know so they can keep an eye on them to make sure they're not doing it to others.

Whether they're regular or not, "no means no" and this should always be respected by everyone. This applies to both males and females x"

Exactly right. Xx

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym

"I'd ask them to back off and let staff know so they can keep an eye on them to make sure they're not doing it to others.

Whether they're regular or not, "no means no" and this should always be respected by everyone. This applies to both males and females x

Ooh yes. Sometimes women can be even worse! "

They definitely can.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I'd ask them to back off and let staff know so they can keep an eye on them to make sure they're not doing it to others.

Whether they're regular or not, "no means no" and this should always be respected by everyone. This applies to both males and females x

Ooh yes. Sometimes women can be even worse! "
I've found that x x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

nope... a tit can be a tit regardless of if they are a regular or a newbie....

if someone is doing something they shouldn't... tell the staff! because if they have done it with you, you can almost guarentee you are not the first and you won't be the last!

staff are good people... but they aren't mindreaders and unless they know they cannot act upon the information

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?

Yes I would mention it to the staff so what if they are a regular.

Cliques

And....?"

Sometimes it can be harder to stand up against someone you know is close to the staff. It's not right, but it's the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

no different to some random in the bar or anywhere else touching you up, telling no thank you and if he persists tell the security ..unless he is daniel craig

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I would try to deal with it myself and if they were persistent I definitely would tell the staff at the Club, it makes no difference to me how regular they are etc.

Once a member of the staff touched me inappropriately. I loudly told him I did not consent to him touching me, lots of people heard but it did the trick.

I have seen him on many occasions, and he just nods hello... He has never tried to touch me since

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

Is lost then know nicely I want interested if they persist maybe be more blunt if still persist mention to staff. Its not nice to feel that way

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I haven't been to a club in quite some time but I have always challenged if touched uninvited.

The last time was the owner and I had to a little more charming and direct than in other situations.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I haven't been to a club in quite some time but I have always challenged if touched uninvited.

The last time was the owner and I had to a little more charming and direct than in other situations.

I've been there too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry about that but your too stunning Mavis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily I treat everyone the same.. My Bernard manning esq vocabulary is the same standard vanilla or fab world.

Touch me without my consent you and those around will be made aware of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Luckily I treat everyone the same.. My Bernard manning esq vocabulary is the same standard vanilla or fab world.

Touch me without my consent you and those around will be made aware of it

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great comment every girl should have the same attitude. Shouldn't matter if they're regulars or not. Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

Yeah mention it to staff, preferably someone senior. He may have a number of complaints against him so they'll have him down as having form

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

You should mention it to the staff as it's unacceptable and uncalled for.

If a club values it's reputation they should have a zero tolerance policy for this sort of behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was at a club playing with a guy in a locked room. We heard a lady outside our room telling a guy to stop following her around. And she had told him not to, but he had persisted.the guy and me knew something was wrong so we went out to see what was going on. I had heard enough so i asked the lady if she needed help? She told me she did. I went over to the man and raised my voice and said GO NOW.in which he did.the lady thanked me. I saw her friends and they thanked me to. The man was told to leave.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"even in vanilla venues I wont look at people.

Turns out they were between me and the dancefloor.

Anyway I left and never went back."

Awwww - that made me sad!

Have a virtual hug! ((((()))))

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I don't really go to clubs these days, but when I did go regularly and invariably got an uninvited grope I would always raise my voice when telling them to back off so that everyone in the vicinity could hear. I only ever had one person make a second attempt

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Awwww - that made me sad!

Have a virtual hug! ((((()))))"

Aww thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've not had much experience of swinging clubs but we're veterans of spanking parties and I've been really shocked at how much unwanted touching and pestering seems to go on in clubs. It's just unheard of at the parties we've crewed and attended. Maybe it's the naked factor but I've been astonished reading the threads here. We've talked many times about going to a club but if this is the reality of it then I really don't think it's a good idea

there's no way we're going to stand for that from anyone, whoever they are. It's so far out of what we regard as acceptable it's incomprehensible.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"We've not had much experience of swinging clubs but we're veterans of spanking parties and I've been really shocked at how much unwanted touching and pestering seems to go on in clubs. It's just unheard of at the parties we've crewed and attended. Maybe it's the naked factor but I've been astonished reading the threads here. We've talked many times about going to a club but if this is the reality of it then I really don't think it's a good idea

there's no way we're going to stand for that from anyone, whoever they are. It's so far out of what we regard as acceptable it's incomprehensible. "

It isn't acceptable, it isn't normal, but it does happen. I think these threads make it look much worse than it actually is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would try to deal with it myself and if they were persistent I definitely would tell the staff at the Club, it makes no difference to me how regular they are etc.

Once a member of the staff touched me inappropriately. I loudly told him I did not consent to him touching me, lots of people heard but it did the trick.

I have seen him on many occasions, and he just nods hello... He has never tried to touch me since"

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

I have had a couple of experiences where a guy was most definitely not touching me but following me around uncomfortably close by watching whatever I was up to with his hand on his cock.

I was always in open areas and so could not really say anything but he was so uncomfortably close that it put you off enjoying yourself.

I don't mind being watched at all. I'm a swinger, I play on cams, I play in open rooms. But I do enjoy having a little bit of space to enjoy my play.

I felt though I would struggle to report him for this. He was not touching me or trying to join us, he was just watching. It was just that he was watching inches away from my face.

When can we report this?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have had a couple of experiences where a guy was most definitely not touching me but following me around uncomfortably close by watching whatever I was up to with his hand on his cock.

I was always in open areas and so could not really say anything but he was so uncomfortably close that it put you off enjoying yourself.

I don't mind being watched at all. I'm a swinger, I play on cams, I play in open rooms. But I do enjoy having a little bit of space to enjoy my play.

I felt though I would struggle to report him for this. He was not touching me or trying to join us, he was just watching. It was just that he was watching inches away from my face.

When can we report this? "

Ask him to give you some space, back off. If he doesn't, report. If he comes back in, remind him, then report.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him or her too back off.

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

"even in vanilla venues I wont look at people.

Turns out they were between me and the dancefloor.

Anyway I left and never went back."

Wow! We knew things were tough out there for single guys but didn't realise it was that bad

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

Nope. I've reported a regular at a club before for preaching a sermon on how we were in Gomorrah and how we should not be sinning (it was ok for him to be there though because he was only sleeping with his wife

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?

Matthew 6:5

"And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites

are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and

in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men.

Verily I say unto you, They have their reward."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mention it then see how they respond. Regular or not people shouldn't take liberties and if you know the score there is even less excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there's no way we're going to stand for that from anyone, whoever they are. It's so far out of what we regard as acceptable it's incomprehensible.

It isn't acceptable, it isn't normal, but it does happen. I think these threads make it look much worse than it actually is. "

Oh no I realise it's not acceptable, I was just shocked at how prevalent it seems to be. Your opinion is very reassuring, thank you.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

Its been so long since I've had fun I'd probably let her carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would mention it to the person and tell them to back off.

If they were persistent I would tell staff, even if they were a regular.

However the club may not always take action if it's a regular."

Any club worth it’s salt would mention it to the person even if they are regulars

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Yep, all 3 women that have done this have been dealt with by staff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

Not at all..had this recently from a single guy who just grabbed me. I reported it to staff and he was shown the door and membership revoked..

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

Tell the staff, weather they are regular or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would piss into their ass without them knowing about it

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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"I would piss into their ass without them knowing about it "
How

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

"You're at a club and someone is being creepy - leery, making you feel uncomfortable, trying to touch you, etc.

Do you mention it to the staff?

If you find out they are a 'regular' would it put you off saying anything?"

Yes I would

No doesn't matter if they are regular or not they should respect your decisions and the word NO !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would piss into their ass without them knowing about it How

See you can't even remember

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Only ever had women doing this with us but never reported it, I wouldn't know if they were regulars or not though.

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