FabSwingers.com forum: Mental health

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

With mental health awareness day being all the way back in October, mental health often ends up being forgotten about again. Despite it being as important if not notes than physical health.

So as the nights are drawing in, Christmas is approaching, and with this site not always being the best place for your mental health, I’d like to take the opportunity to ask how are you?

I hope everyone is doing ok but if not and anyone wants to talk about it, please drop me a message. I may not be able to help with what you’re going through but I’m always happy to listen and sometimes that’s enough. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People ask me what its like living with depression.. being someone that doesnt want to be defined by it its hard to explain..

However this roger sanchez music video sums up a day in the life of living with it

https://youtu.be/rdlvPe959Ck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People ask me what its like living with depression.. being someone that doesnt want to be defined by it its hard to explain..

However this roger sanchez music video sums up a day in the life of living with it

https://youtu.be/rdlvPe959Ck"

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mental health is not good and hasn’t been for quite some time but I have actually found some great, non judgemental people on here that have helped me at times by talking about it. Sometimes easier than talking to friend and family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I was ready to go back to work today. The night sweats, headache and anxiety said probably not. Fed up of it, to be honest, especially when the easy way out would be to get another job. However, I love the one I do, despite it being the most stressful thing you could probably imagine, but something is going to have to give soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My mental health is not good and hasn’t been for quite some time but I have actually found some great, non judgemental people on here that have helped me at times by talking about it. Sometimes easier than talking to friend and family "

It’s a strange place to happen across friends like that but it does happen. I agree with you on the family thing, I’ve had conversations about it with friends that I wouldn’t even consider having with family.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I thought I was ready to go back to work today. The night sweats, headache and anxiety said probably not. Fed up of it, to be honest, especially when the easy way out would be to get another job. However, I love the one I do, despite it being the most stressful thing you could probably imagine, but something is going to have to give soon."

Sorry to hear you’re not doing great. I was in a similar position a couple of years ago and ended up taking the leap to another job. Best thing I ever did. Not everyone is the same though, I hope you start doing better soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes when come on here it's to try and get away from the demkbdin my head but does not always work. Often fear talking about them puts people off. Most of us have issues of some sort and most come places like this to get away and have fun.

Sometimes also find spend maybe bit too much time here as the thought of what night happen and the fantasy is often better than the current reality.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the checking in thread. Mental health is a topic close to my heart (personal, family, and professional reasons).

My mental health has been better since I started therapy a year ago. I would really recommend anyone struggling find a therapist (via GP, charity, or privately if you have means). And if you don’t find the right therapist for you initially, don’t be shy to ask for another or to look elsewhere.

Love to all having a tough day, week, year xx keep fighting the good fight

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I'm doing better this year than any other in my life (that I can recall)...

But I'll bump this all day for people who might need to talk to someone, anyone, and give fistbumps to the OP for being a human dude and for having a nice guitar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People ask me what its like living with depression.. being someone that doesnt want to be defined by it its hard to explain..

However this roger sanchez music video sums up a day in the life of living with it

https://youtu.be/rdlvPe959Ck"

Awwww that I get

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Depression is being alive as opposed to feeling alive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the checking in thread. Mental health is a topic close to my heart (personal, family, and professional reasons).

Love to all having a tough day, week, year xx keep fighting the good fight "

I’d like to second this, chatting with a friend or stranger or whoever else helps to a degree but please, if you are struggling, look for some professional help too in whatever form you can.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm doing better this year than any other in my life (that I can recall)...

But I'll bump this all day for people who might need to talk to someone, anyone, and give fistbumps to the OP for being a human dude and for having a nice guitar.

Thanks very much and good to hear that you’re doing well. Incidentally the guitar isn’t actually that nice, I bought it from a friend maybe 7 years ago for about £50

I like it though

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"I'm doing better this year than any other in my life (that I can recall)...

But I'll bump this all day for people who might need to talk to someone, anyone, and give fistbumps to the OP for being a human dude and for having a nice guitar.

Thanks very much and good to hear that you’re doing well. Incidentally the guitar isn’t actually that nice, I bought it from a friend maybe 7 years ago for about £50

I like it though "

If it looks cool, it is cool.

Music theory at its finest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the outside it looks like i have life all figured out. Because i dress well and look healthy i must not have a care in the world. As if it were expected to wear my demons pinned to my chest in scarlet letters. People assume that if you cannot see it its not really there. As if pain does not exist unless I'm bleeding or my leg is in a cast staggering with a limp, but the most powerful demons are the ones you cannot see.

So i learned how to smile and grin and bear it. Nobody likes to talk about the tough stuff. I don't like to talk about the tough stuff.

I have anxiety.

Sometimes it feels like every nerve in my body is moving so fast that my veins are blurry. That despite the constant metronome of my heartbeat in my ears its like listening to a constant drum line. It feels like bees in my head. Like a broken white noise machine playing all the noise at once and i don't even realise i'm gritting my teeth or cracking my knuckles or holding myself thinking I'm the only thing bridging reality on my own two feet and the constant load noises and the fleeting feeling of blood rushing through my body. I'm avoiding eye contact, not because I'm not listening but because I'm listening to myself, hoping you cannot hear that I'm speaking two octaves to high. On the verge of breaking because my palms are sweating and i forgot to speak without showing my insecurity.

My anxiety feels like fire hot and rash and frustrating as i bite the inside of my cheek as if the solution of this problem lays between my teeth and gum.

It feels like drowning in fire. It feels like forever. It feels like I'm running with a trail of dust behind me because i'm moving faster than the sixty seconds allowed in one minute. All the time playing catch up on a stopwatch.

I cannot add up the problem because there is no problem.

There's no life or death no rhyme or reason. There are just feelings and i'm feeling all of them at once.

Some days were , are better than others. Some are worse ,but they are just days. I've plenty more of them.

Get help I did. It took courage to admit my demons. I'm Ok now. Above was me ten years ago. You can't beat it on your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anxiety and depression I suffer with it it’s quite difficult to explain I think that’s why I’m single difficult to explain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From the outside it looks like i have life all figured out. Because i dress well and look healthy i must not have a care in the world. As if it were expected to wear my demons pinned to my chest in scarlet letters. People assume that if you cannot see it its not really there. As if pain does not exist unless I'm bleeding or my leg is in a cast staggering with a limp, but the most powerful demons are the ones you cannot see.

So i learned how to smile and grin and bear it. Nobody likes to talk about the tough stuff. I don't like to talk about the tough stuff.

I have anxiety.

My anxiety feels like fire hot and rash and frustrating as i bite the inside of my cheek as if the solution of this problem lays between my teeth and gum.

I cannot add up the problem because there is no problem.

There's no life or death no rhyme or reason. There are just feelings and i'm feeling all of them at once.

Some days were , are better than others. Some are worse ,but they are just days. I've plenty more of them.

Get help I did. It took courage to admit my demons. I'm Ok now. Above was me ten years ago. You can't beat it on your own."

Incredible description - poetic and moving! I’m relieved to read that you’re no longer in that place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything is simply for a season. It's easier to live with knowing it will simr day feck right off!

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