FabSwingers.com forum: Date advice?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some of the best people I know in regards to efficiency with love is swingers. Anyway

Hit up the best girl.

5’3, petite blonde, 4 years younger

3rd date in, she finds out I’m an extreme dominant

Says she’s nervous but excited, we make up a safe word and get to it (Brexit)

Now she’s obsessed but so am I.

I’m off to Asia for 3 months from Christmas and can’t cancel. What do I do? I Can’t take her with me.

I’m scared she’d cheat. I’m scared I’d cheat, and I’m worried we met at the wrong time, in the prime of our lives rather than when we were self sufficient and ready to settle. What do I do?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Worried you will both cheat?.....you need to end the relationship. Without trust there is nothing.

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By *modDMan
over a year ago

Lichfield

Brexit? Fckinell mate, haven't we all had enough?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah she’s a cheesy small town girl. Told her we’d put that one in the maybe pile but she had none of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

3 months in Asia so early on is an exception to the rule though right? Especially for a 21F 25M

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

How long have you been seeing each other?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"How long have you been seeing each other? "

You called her a "date" so I'm guessing it ain't that serious....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

6 dates over 3 weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absence makes the heart grow fonder ... apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to Asia and have fun...if it's meant to be you can pick it up when you're back!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Go to Asia and have fun...if it's meant to be you can pick it up when you're back! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah? we agreed if we’d try to stick it out we’d send letters instead of just hitting eachother up on snap or whatever. Less impersonal. What if I stick to the shit and she doesn’t yknow? What if I’ve just gone abstinent for 3 months to get blueballed by a 9/10? Is the risk worth the reward etc

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I would say take a break and start again when back. Then neither of you will be worrying about trusting each other.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If neither of you can last three months without cheating you don't like or trust each other that much. Your age doesn't have anything to do with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it's not gonna be love.. if you're just concerned about not having a shag for 3 months!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the best people I know in regards to efficiency with love is swingers. Anyway

Hit up the best girl.

5’3, petite blonde, 4 years younger

3rd date in, she finds out I’m an extreme dominant

Says she’s nervous but excited, we make up a safe word and get to it (Brexit)

Now she’s obsessed but so am I.

I’m off to Asia for 3 months from Christmas and can’t cancel. What do I do? I Can’t take her with me.

I’m scared she’d cheat. I’m scared I’d cheat, and I’m worried we met at the wrong time, in the prime of our lives rather than when we were self sufficient and ready to settle. What do I do?

What will be will be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The circumstances caused by age do. And I’m stuck between instinct and rational thinking. Maybe it’s one best kept off Swingers forum boards

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Talk it out. If you decide to give it a go, then commit to it. If you feel that you can't commit ie.no shagging anyone else, then take a break and lick up if possible where you left off.

It's sods law that you meet someone when you're about to leave.

Good luck with

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Talk it out. If you decide to give it a go, then commit to it. If you feel that you can't commit ie.no shagging anyone else, then take a break and lick up if possible where you left off.

It's sods law that you meet someone when you're about to leave.

Good luck with "

Yeah. Tell you what, if it doesn’t play out someone’s going to have to help me with etiquette on here. I’ve been trying for an older woman for like a week. Come close, but No luck.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Talk it out. If you decide to give it a go, then commit to it. If you feel that you can't commit ie.no shagging anyone else, then take a break and lick up if possible where you left off.

It's sods law that you meet someone when you're about to leave.

Good luck with

Yeah. Tell you what, if it doesn’t play out someone’s going to have to help me with etiquette on here. I’ve been trying for an older woman for like a week. Come close, but No luck. "

Oh my darling I chuckled then, a week is nothing in terms of meeting anyone on fab. You've only been here 3 weeks, depending on what kind of experience your looking for things can take time. With time comes experience and then maybe success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talk it out. If you decide to give it a go, then commit to it. If you feel that you can't commit ie.no shagging anyone else, then take a break and lick up if possible where you left off.

It's sods law that you meet someone when you're about to leave.

Good luck with

Yeah. Tell you what, if it doesn’t play out someone’s going to have to help me with etiquette on here. I’ve been trying for an older woman for like a week. Come close, but No luck. "

You've not left for Asia, but you've already been looking for someone to cheat on her?

Just. Why???

Niki

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because its a theoretical. Given the circumstances too, thats not so weird to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hate being just another guy on every woman’s inbox though. There’s got to be a way to stand out instead of just spamming messages and chasing ass ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate being just another guy on every woman’s inbox though. There’s got to be a way to stand out instead of just spamming messages and chasing ass ??"

You're on the right path, Brad. This thread will certainly make you stand out!

x N

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Why so "serious" at your age, if it happens it happens....(cheating that is) obviously it wasn't "serious" in the first place....seems like alot of stressing for nothing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I’m setting a rule for all you baby boomers

No “at your age” “you shouldn’t be doing that at your age” my mind needs to be stimulated for my body to be. And it’s a complex one.

Plus if someones got a piss fetish and share their wife, you do you but I’m not going to take your advice on morals & social norms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I’m setting a rule for all you baby boomers

No “at your age” “you shouldn’t be doing that at your age” my mind needs to be stimulated for my body to be. And it’s a complex one.

Plus if someones got a piss fetish and share their wife, you do you but I’m not going to take your advice on morals & social norms

Just our dating advice, then?

x N

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just our dating advice, then?

x N"

Anyones, but Im not gonna pay attention to 55 year old Gary from Liverpool or whatever lecturing me on principles while his wifes out getting pissed on yknow?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"The circumstances caused by age do. And I’m stuck between instinct and rational thinking. Maybe it’s one best kept off Swingers forum boards"

The situation you describe could arise at my age I think.

Why not discuss it with your date and agree a solution. E.g. you both have a pass for the three months and pick up where you left off when you get back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go to Asia and have fun...if it's meant to be you can pick it up when you're back! "

This.

Good luck OP and have a great time.

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

"Yeah I’m setting a rule for all you baby boomers

No “at your age” “you shouldn’t be doing that at your age” my mind needs to be stimulated for my body to be. And it’s a complex one.

Plus if someones got a piss fetish and share their wife, you do you but I’m not going to take your advice on morals & social norms

Then why ask opinion of people with whom you feel have lower moral standards than you ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just our dating advice, then?

x N

Anyones, but Im not gonna pay attention to 55 year old Gary from Liverpool or whatever lecturing me on principles while his wifes out getting pissed on yknow?"

Oh sorry, I didn't read that until after I'd answered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I’m setting a rule for all you baby boomers

No “at your age” “you shouldn’t be doing that at your age” my mind needs to be stimulated for my body to be. And it’s a complex one.

Plus if someones got a piss fetish and share their wife, you do you but I’m not going to take your advice on morals & social norms

Changed my mind. Hope she finds someone nice while you're away.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Yeah I’m setting a rule for all you baby boomers

No “at your age” “you shouldn’t be doing that at your age” my mind needs to be stimulated for my body to be. And it’s a complex one.

Plus if someones got a piss fetish and share their wife, you do you but I’m not going to take your advice on morals & social norms

Changed my mind. Hope she finds someone nice while you're away.

I'm crying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because everyone’s free to share their thoughts on what got posted, but I can’t lie some advice is better than others. Looking for that sound advice, not gonna sit through life rules with Brian from stoke on trent who wanks over feet pics

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Because everyone’s free to share their thoughts on what got posted, but I can’t lie some advice is better than others. Looking for that sound advice, not gonna sit through life rules with Brian from stoke on trent who wanks over feet pics "

Hehhhh shaming isn't going to help you love, far from it....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Suppose your right guys. Im not the best swinger

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

And you shouldn't judge people lest you want to be judged. That's not what it's about. You may not understand where other people come from but respect goes a long way. I fund if I give it I receive it.

Again,good luck in which ever path you take.

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By *modDMan
over a year ago

Lichfield

I've got time for you, Brad.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

You've been dating her for 3 weeks ?

You joined fab 3 wks ago ?

You're concerned that you're going to cheat ? Really ?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Suppose your right guys. Im not the best swinger

We all start somewhere, it's a learning curve and it's not for everyone x

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If she’s on here then someone’s probably balls deep in her now OP

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

"And you shouldn't judge people lest you want to be judged. That's not what it's about. You may not understand where other people come from but respect goes a long way. I fund if I give it I receive it.

Again,good luck in which ever path you take."

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

My advice? (Paul nearly 45 from the Southwest, partial t face sitting but never been pissed on)

Talk to the fair lady and just say “I’m going away for 3 months, I’ve really enjoyed the short time we’ve had together but it would be a little naive to think that after a short time we could offer commitment, when I get back maybe, if we are both of a similar mind we can pick this up where we left off?”

That way there is no pressure on either of you, but if what you have gained from each other is strong enough you may actually remain true to one another without having set that in stone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We all start somewhere, it's a learning curve and it's not for everyone x"

Yeah your right haha. i got some learning to do. Had 2 requests to cuck some dudes with their wives so far. Lost both of them on message. Thought the whole point was to be aggressive like, shaking a dudes hand before I bang his soulmate doesn’t really make sense yknow?x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brad, I'm not sure, but I read on another thread that you need to do a cum tribute to a couple of forumites on here to actually be considered for shagging an older woman... It may get you noticed with the female forumites that are after a younger bloke too...

Perhaps consider that - maybe not over a picture of feet if you don't like them...

N x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If she’s on here then someone’s probably balls deep in her now OP

Nah she’s pretty clean and christian. Then again, always the shy ones

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

We all start somewhere, it's a learning curve and it's not for everyone x

But you have listed cuckold as one of your interests

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"If she’s on here then someone’s probably balls deep in her now OP

Nah she’s pretty clean and christian. Then again, always the shy ones

Do you know where she is right at this very moment?

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

All that after 3 dates

Jesus

Alarm bells ringing much,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all start somewhere, it's a learning curve and it's not for everyone x

But you have listed cuckold as one of your interests

Green arrow....

N x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you know where she is right at this very moment? "

Fuck knows. She FaceTimed me like 40 minutes ago, but her ex is pale as shit so, could’ve blended with the curtains

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

We all start somewhere, it's a learning curve and it's not for everyone x

But you have listed cuckold as one of your interests

Green arrow....

N x"

Oh Fook. I never learn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All that after 3 dates

Jesus

Alarm bells ringing much,,, "

6 Mr ambassador

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't brude on it if you feel that there is more than lust tell her talk gauge her response if it's meant to be it will be some ladies are worth waiting for only you can make that call ,but hope it works out for you I'm a fucking hopeless romantic

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Do you know where she is right at this very moment?

Fuck knows. She FaceTimed me like 40 minutes ago, but her ex is pale as shit so, could’ve blended with the curtains "

Well I’m sure she’ll be forgotten about when your in Thailand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bro that’s actually sound advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Well I’m sure she’ll be forgotten about when your in Thailand

Japan. Not all Asia is Thailand you absolute swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know where she is right at this very moment?

Fuck knows. She FaceTimed me like 40 minutes ago, but her ex is pale as shit so, could’ve blended with the curtains "

Did the curtains look sticky?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

" Well I’m sure she’ll be forgotten about when your in Thailand

Japan. Not all Asia is Thailand you absolute swinger

Right Japan, OK.

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"All that after 3 dates

Jesus

Alarm bells ringing much,,,

6 Mr ambassador

Nothing for it so kid, ye 2 need to get hitched, do it now get the paperwork in place by Xmas and take her with you as your stay at home wife,,

Easy visa application right there,,

6 dates is huge,,

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm so confused by this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a watermelon with you and give her one to her. Download Skype and let the magic happens dude

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Yeah I’m setting a rule for all you baby boomers

No “at your age” “you shouldn’t be doing that at your age” my mind needs to be stimulated for my body to be. And it’s a complex one.

Plus if someones got a piss fetish and share their wife, you do you but I’m not going to take your advice on morals & social norms

Changed my mind. Hope she finds someone nice while you're away.

Brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read that as Asda not Asia

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I read that as Asda not Asia

It can feel like 3months in the queue sometimes at Asda.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

If she was the one you wouldnt even be asking any of these questions. So for me just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All that after 3 dates

Jesus

Alarm bells ringing much,,,

6 Mr ambassador

Nothing for it so kid, ye 2 need to get hitched, do it now get the paperwork in place by Xmas and take her with you as your stay at home wife,,

Easy visa application right there,,

6 dates is huge,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 months is no time, I took a 3 month holiday on my own this year.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Seriously mate? You're 25!

Go out.

Live your life, tour the world, have amazing adventures, do all that crazy shit.

If she's the one, she'll be waiting when you get back, if she's not, you've had the best 3mths

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