FabSwingers.com forum: First meet nerves

By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

First meet nerves. They're normal. We all get them. Fancy sharing and helping those who think that they're unusually worried?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go d*unk. Nerves aren't an issue then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First meet nerves. They're normal. We all get them. Fancy sharing and helping those who think that they're unusually worried? "
just try to relax and be yourself. What’s the worst that could happen is now I try to take it x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My first meet nerves manifest as not wanting to go. I always do and have a great time but the hour before hand I just don't want to leave the house

I'm not worried about how I look or if they'll be disappointed or anything like that. I'm just a bit nervous.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm odd in that I don't get nervous about the meeting the person bit but do fret about other things such as performance issues etc so the two tend to cancel each other out to an extent - I get myself ready and en route using the not being nervous about meeting the person bit, by which time I figure it's too late to worry about the other things and whatever will be will be as far as they're concerned

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and one drink can help. Just one.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

What first meet nerves?

I call it first meet excitement

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I was so nervous my first few meets. Swingers are scary and I'm not good enough etc.

They were very kind to me and we still chat all this time later.

But I think people look at those who've gone before and assume they have some secret. Not really! Just experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have fun

Cant say I'm not envious

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I was nervous on my first meet until we kissed, so I since then have adopted the practice of saying hello and bang straight into the kiss and nerves have not plaged me since and it's a great ice breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant say iv ever had nerves on first meets appart from maybe the first one ever as i thought it could be a wind up so had to come up with a meter reader blag incase id been sent to the wrong house and it was actually a little old lady knitting in bed when i walk in the room lol but im kind of used to getting to know strangers but excitement levels thats a different story

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I was nervous on my first meet until we kissed, so I since then have adopted the practice of saying hello and bang straight into the kiss and nerves have not plaged me since and it's a great ice breaker

Ooh I wouldn't dare lol

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Sorry I can’t help, I can’t rem_mber the last time I was nervous before a meet, social or otherwise.

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By *houldibedoingthis!Man
over a year ago

london

I rem_mber my first meet, clearly.

I was so nervous. Just relax, meet in a place that you consider safe for you.

Hopefully you'll both out eachother at ease. Mine was the opposite unfortunately.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’ve not been nervous on any of our past meets

Jo does get nervous, but an excited nervous

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Carry a tissue (no - not that) - sweaty palms are normal (for me) so keep them dry.

A hug is my advice. Hugs tend to relax you and them.

Rem_mber - they are probably nervous too.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My first meet stood me up. A wasted day of nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My first meet stood me up. A wasted day of nerves."

Wow same here horrible feeling x

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By *unky_monkMan
over a year ago

SE London

I’m potentially meeting someone for the first time next week. Normally don’t get nervous but this is a bit different as we’ve been talking for around 8 years. She moved away to HK.

We plan to meet for an afternoon as she is visiting, she has dinner plans.

I think it’s from the uncertainty of what the expectations are.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I get a nervous tummy, so I have to take Imodium. And sometimes I just have to make an emergency dash to a loo. Trying to find a public loo when you’re in need is very stressful!

Thank fuck my first meets are socials only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First meet nerves. They're normal. We all get them. Fancy sharing and helping those who think that they're unusually worried? "

Always disappear when u get there

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"First meet nerves. They're normal. We all get them. Fancy sharing and helping those who think that they're unusually worried? "

I'm always nervous, so many variables to consider.

I still get the shakes before meeting long term friends.

I don't think there's a cure for me

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By *2and3quartersWoman
over a year ago

Bumbletown

"What first meet nerves?

I call it first meet excitement

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always meet in a public place, always verify the person is real eg, video chat prior to meeting. Always follow your gut feeling if something feels odd or off don't do it. If they become pushy don't do it. Nerves are normal and to be expected when meeting new people, just play safe, it's better to be safe than sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine them in their underwear, usually does the trick

Aw met a lovely guy for coffee last week and he noticed the natural tremor I had and said "aww you are trembling, I don't want to make you nervous"

I did not have the heart to say "no mate, it is not you it is my neurological condition"

Instead I replied with "ooh yes! I always get like that when meeting someone new"

Gotta make 'em feel special see!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never think I'm nervous, but Mr abc ALWAYS tells me to calm down before ANY meet, as I act as though I'm uptight and mildly stressed apparently.

I don't act like that at all.

So my advice is, pure denial of nerves. It clearly works for me

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I actually dont get nervous at all if I'm honest. What will be will be, go with the flow attitude.

I find speaking with someone over the phone over a period of time helps. Going into it with no expectations.

If you do get nervous then leaving in plenty of time helps and deep breathing, lots of coffee hah.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I don't get nervous, just excited. It's fun to meet new people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get super nervous (female) it’s not something we actively do often. It’s like a ‘treat’ I guess. So I assume mine is to do with the gap in between, maybe if it was regular I wouldn’t? I’m quite a paranoid person anyway about EVERYTHING

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By *ustyLeRouxWoman
over a year ago

Brecon

"My first meet nerves manifest as not wanting to go. I always do and have a great time but the hour before hand I just don't want to leave the house

I'm not worried about how I look or if they'll be disappointed or anything like that. I'm just a bit nervous."

Totally agree!

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"I get a nervous tummy, so I have to take Imodium. And sometimes I just have to make an emergency dash to a loo. Trying to find a public loo when you’re in need is very stressful!

Thank fuck my first meets are socials only."

Look at looadvisor.org it lists loos!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always nervous the first time I meet, manifesting in lots of silly chatting for a bit. It does down at the first kiss

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

First meet didn't turn up so didn't get chance to be nervous

The other's, no, after all the message's I felt relaxed in their company straight away.

Helped she is a very relaxing person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m much more nervous than I appear. The telltale signs are my hands shaking more than usual. I view it more as excitement than nerves, but my body cannot distinguish and is likely to have an effect on the ease of getting an erection and perhaps how easy it is to cum once aroused. It’s unsurprising that I’ve never had a second meet

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I don't get nervous, just excited. It's fun to meet new people

My kind of lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't nervous as such on my first meet, more fear of the unknown if that makes sense.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Excited

yes! I don’t get nervous though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get very nervous and shake terribly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really get nervous about meeting ppl, I really enjoy the whole experience, if it goes well then great....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get very nervous and shake terribly x "

Well dont waste it and grab hold of the cock pmsl

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