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"I’d like to say none but I’m soft. " I'm similar but trying not to let people walk all over me these days. | |||
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"1% chance. If I discovered that they'd had an accident or something I'd reconsdider." Yes, true. | |||
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"1% chance. If I discovered that they'd had an accident or something I'd reconsdider." Same here. | |||
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"Not a chance, I’m never a second option Exactly this. I had meet arranged in Edinburgh for Saturday evening. The guy messaged in the afternoon to say he was meeting someone else but would let me know if that falls through Oh ok I said and wished him luck, but also reminded him that I won't be anyones back up plan so despite my plans falling through I would be unavailable " | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" Possibly none. If an apology or explanation comes through then may give benefit of the doubt to them but after 2nd chance it's gone | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" Zero chance, because I have added them to my "block" list by now. | |||
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"I have done and they never deserve it " Been there. Gave a second chance to be let down again | |||
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"Depends on their situation could they have been in an accident on the way Or a family member rushed to hospital or something like that. The last thing on their mind would be to message to cancel" There true. | |||
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"What would you say “cancelling within reasonable time” would be? I just worry as I’ve been known to have panic attacks at just going down to the corner shop or local chippy before now, which are largely out of my control." if a guy explained such difficulties before hand then I would understand and try and support him ,give him the chances that he needs | |||
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"What would you say “cancelling within reasonable time” would be? I just worry as I’ve been known to have panic attacks at just going down to the corner shop or local chippy before now, which are largely out of my control.if a guy explained such difficulties before hand then I would understand and try and support him ,give him the chances that he needs " Thank you. That’s actually very lovely of you. People doing things like that help soothe the anxiety away and make it genuinely easier x | |||
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"What would you say “cancelling within reasonable time” would be? I just worry as I’ve been known to have panic attacks at just going down to the corner shop or local chippy before now, which are largely out of my control." I wouldn't mind if he actually text before I left the house or at all | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" Quite simply, I don't. I've managed to avoid no shows, but being ghosted is all to common. I have limited free time, I've had occasions, chat with someone, I'm not free that week or even the next, chat goes on, all OK. Social arranged, then 2/3 days before, radio silence. Send a message the night before, nothing, unread even though they've been online. If I haven't heard from them by the lunch time, then they're blocked. I've had quite a few, who would reappear a few weeks later, with some lame excuse, or not even acknowledge they've basically ignored me & assume I'll be overjoyed they've decided to re contact me. So now I just block. | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it? Quite simply, I don't. I've managed to avoid no shows, but being ghosted is all to common. I have limited free time, I've had occasions, chat with someone, I'm not free that week or even the next, chat goes on, all OK. Social arranged, then 2/3 days before, radio silence. Send a message the night before, nothing, unread even though they've been online. If I haven't heard from them by the lunch time, then they're blocked. I've had quite a few, who would reappear a few weeks later, with some lame excuse, or not even acknowledge they've basically ignored me & assume I'll be overjoyed they've decided to re contact me. So now I just block. " Probably best. | |||
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"If we found out that there was a very valid reason then we maybe would, but it was have to be a damn good reason." Yah it would. | |||
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"What would you say “cancelling within reasonable time” would be? I just worry as I’ve been known to have panic attacks at just going down to the corner shop or local chippy before now, which are largely out of my control. I wouldn't mind if he actually text before I left the house or at all" Thank you. That’s reassuring to know people are okay like that x | |||
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"Depends on the reason why. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. " I try to but it's not always easy. | |||
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"No second chance. Times precious, i wont be messed about in any way." Not even if their granny died | |||
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"They should be thanking their lucky stars I've agreed to meet them in the first place, to stand me up would be madness! " Love it. | |||
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"If they contact prior then fair enough. I know myself I've been called into work on many occasions at very short notice. B has a job where we hardly know where he will be or for how long, so again work dictates. Is it a pain? Yes. However I don't believe we're the only people with jobs that can be unpredictable so I appreciate others may be in the exact same boat. Communication. P" If they don't mail till a few days after though. Would it bother ye? | |||
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"If they contact prior then fair enough. I know myself I've been called into work on many occasions at very short notice. B has a job where we hardly know where he will be or for how long, so again work dictates. Is it a pain? Yes. However I don't believe we're the only people with jobs that can be unpredictable so I appreciate others may be in the exact same boat. Communication. P If they don't mail till a few days after though. Would it bother ye?" Days after? I'd quite probably remind them that although I'm a laid back motherfucker who appreciates shit happens, I'm not a mug and I deserve the respect I'd have given them in whatever situation arose and would have let them know, so on that basis we aren't compatible as our priorities, respect levels and morals are cut from different clothage. P | |||
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"Not a chance, I’m never a second option Exactly this. I had meet arranged in Edinburgh for Saturday evening. The guy messaged in the afternoon to say he was meeting someone else but would let me know if that falls through Oh ok I said and wished him luck, but also reminded him that I won't be anyones back up plan so despite my plans falling through I would be unavailable " Good for you! I guess he was honest but what a lizard | |||
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"Not at all If they can't let me know,there would be no more chances I would probably just block." What a reasonable amount of time to let you know ? | |||
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"Not at all If they can't let me know,there would be no more chances I would probably just block. What a reasonable amount of time to let you know ?" Would depend on the circumstance and whether you got the gut feeling they're taking the piss, are you already friends etc. That's my take on it anyway. P | |||
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"Not at all If they can't let me know,there would be no more chances I would probably just block. What a reasonable amount of time to let you know ? Would depend on the circumstance and whether you got the gut feeling they're taking the piss, are you already friends etc. That's my take on it anyway. P" But I'd expect to know beforehand. Friends I've already met and stuff I'd forgive and give another chance. Me and one of my mates would often have stuff crop up on the day, finishing late at work etc so we'd message and let each other know we need to take a rain check. It's no biggie if you know that might be a possibility already. P | |||
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"Not at all If they can't let me know,there would be no more chances I would probably just block. What a reasonable amount of time to let you know ? Would depend on the circumstance and whether you got the gut feeling they're taking the piss, are you already friends etc. That's my take on it anyway. P" That's very true and a mature way of looking at it. | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" No cancellation and no show = no chance. With cancellation depends on reason but very slim chance. | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it? No cancellation and no show = no chance. With cancellation depends on reason but very slim chance." What excuse would you accept? | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it? No cancellation and no show = no chance. With cancellation depends on reason but very slim chance. What excuse would you accept?" Depends how well you know that person I guess | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it? No cancellation and no show = no chance. With cancellation depends on reason but very slim chance. What excuse would you accept? Depends how well you know that person I guess" True. | |||
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"Not at all If they can't let me know,there would be no more chances I would probably just block. What a reasonable amount of time to let you know ?" A couple of hours before ,i know people have lives and things happen so i'd understand Being stood up not so much | |||
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"Not at all If they can't let me know,there would be no more chances I would probably just block. What a reasonable amount of time to let you know ? A couple of hours before ,i know people have lives and things happen so i'd understand Being stood up not so much" Yah if they let you know it's not so bad. | |||
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"No second chances for a No Show with no message to explain why" It's the not messaging part that would bother me. | |||
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"No second chances for a No Show with no message to explain why It's the not messaging part that would bother me." I don't mind if a Fabber cancels a meet, no matter how short notice. It's not sending a brief message that's inexcusable. | |||
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"If I had built up enough trust and connection with them and believed the reason behind it I would definitely, however it doesn’t take long to send a quick polite message explaining. " True | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" The first time it’s there fault the second time it’s your fault. No reply to tell you before hand should be a instant ban imo. I have the same policy at work no show with no reply they are banned. It takes 10seconds to send a simple text | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" No second chances under those circumstances | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" Nope. No chance. No excuses not to mail | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" I'd give you a second chance but thats it | |||
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"I gave a chap 4 chances owing to his job and family issues, on the 4th he played cat and mouse with me so I blocked him! Time too precious for that! " awwww poor guy | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it? The first time it’s there fault the second time it’s your fault. No reply to tell you before hand should be a instant ban imo. I have the same policy at work no show with no reply they are banned. It takes 10seconds to send a simple text" It's so true. | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" None, zip, zero, zilch. | |||
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"Zero. Our time is way too limited for any timewasters." I'm the same. Fine it very hard to get time away | |||
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"I gave a chap 4 chances owing to his job and family issues, on the 4th he played cat and mouse with me so I blocked him! Time too precious for that! " He would have to be Tom Cruise for me to give anyone a second chance lol | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" Always give a second chance cos some things do pop up that can't be controlled but do it again and I ain't interested any more even if you are banging hot | |||
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"I gave a chap 4 chances owing to his job and family issues, on the 4th he played cat and mouse with me so I blocked him! Time too precious for that! He would have to be Tom Cruise for me to give anyone a second chance lol " Tom cruise is to small | |||
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"If the meet was real resl hot, most people would give them a secomd chance, no?" Well if you hadn't met already. | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" 0 no way, done!!!! I never give 2nd chances | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" I did once when the guy got in touch 3 weeks later and apologised saying he'd been nervous. I admired the guts it took for him to get back in touch again, and when we did meet we had a really great night. It was a lesson in not letting my ego override the better decision to give someone a second chance xx | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it?" Never | |||
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"How likely are you to give people a second chance if they don't turn up for a meet and don't mail to cancel it? 0 no way, done!!!! I never give 2nd chances " Even with a very good excuse | |||
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"I'll tell you in the next 24 hours Okay " Answer was yes | |||
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"I'll tell you in the next 24 hours Okay Answer was yes " Good on you. | |||
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"I always meet in a club that way if they don’t turn up my night isn’t ruined and if they do even better" clubs are expensive for guys would never do a first meet in a club | |||
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