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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who else has found that this site is so antisocial when you are trying to get to know people and trying to get verified

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Yeh their all twats!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard isnt it, people dont give you a chance because your are not verified but how you can verified if you cant talk to anyone just running round I'm circles

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The thing you have to ask yourself is, are people being anti-social or are your expectations set incorrectly and have you set your stall out in the right way to encourage people to want to interact with you?

Just because you have a profile on here doesn't automatically entitle you to get meets, and as a result get verified.

If you find you're not getting responses you have to ask yourself why and take a look at things like your profile and pics, messaging style and approach and attitude and expectations and see what you can change to improve things - it's all within your control to maximise your experience of the site but the key is recognising that and taking the appropriate action. It won't guarantee a thing of course, but it will certainly improve your experience.

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Yeh their all twats! "

Haha

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Yeh their all twats! "

And most of them ride Yamahas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wonder what sort of messages guys are sending privately after they start a thread like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not particularly easy if you don't want to put in the effort, I'm afraid to say!

You've got to attend an organised social at least, that's what I ultimately did.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Yeh their all twats!

And most of them ride Yamahas "

Haaaaaaaaa bingo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awful place

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Awful place"

So awful that some people leave and vote never to return and yet...

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Who else has found that this site is so antisocial when you are trying to get to know people and trying to get verified "

I don't think it's anti social when you make an effort

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"The thing you have to ask yourself is, are people being anti-social or are your expectations set incorrectly and have you set your stall out in the right way to encourage people to want to interact with you?

Just because you have a profile on here doesn't automatically entitle you to get meets, and as a result get verified.

If you find you're not getting responses you have to ask yourself why and take a look at things like your profile and pics, messaging style and approach and attitude and expectations and see what you can change to improve things - it's all within your control to maximise your experience of the site but the key is recognising that and taking the appropriate action. It won't guarantee a thing of course, but it will certainly improve your experience."
ABSOLUTLY!!! XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Awful place

So awful that some people leave and vote never to return and yet..."

Appalling behaviour

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Awful place

So awful that some people leave and vote never to return and yet...

Appalling behaviour "

You're back! Wondering where you disappeared to. To the ether and back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your current status is definitely gonna get you meets

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Yes a bit negative

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Just relax and don’t stress about it !!

Life’s to short !!

Try reading profiles and finding people of a similar mind set and put some thought into your messages

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Bite the bullet and get to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing you have to ask yourself is, are people being anti-social or are your expectations set incorrectly and have you set your stall out in the right way to encourage people to want to interact with you?

Just because you have a profile on here doesn't automatically entitle you to get meets, and as a result get verified.

If you find you're not getting responses you have to ask yourself why and take a look at things like your profile and pics, messaging style and approach and attitude and expectations and see what you can change to improve things - it's all within your control to maximise your experience of the site but the key is recognising that and taking the appropriate action. It won't guarantee a thing of course, but it will certainly improve your experience."

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Your status definitely won’t help or being honest I don’t think this thread will, negativity will only come back at you and maybe try smiling in your Photo and be positive about your time here. Take a step back and think about just how many guys are on this site compared to couples/single ladies, how much choice they have & mail they receive, now think about how you come across and what makes you stand out from the crowd ?? Take a fresh positive approach and you’ll be fine

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who wants to meet someone when they’re only trying to get verified?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We have only been here for 4 weeks yet have 9 verifications.

You need to be pro-active. Get out there and make the effort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I didnt sat that just because I'm a member that it entitles me to get meets I am just saying that people are not very welcoming to new people or people that are not verified and yes it may be my fault but how are you ment to know if nobody gives you a chance or tells you and I may not be the best person at starting a conversation but I have tried so it isn't all me if other people are finding that they are getting the same response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not that hard. You have to be proactive people arent just going to fly at you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think fab is a bit like a sweet shop.

So much to choose from

So we pick the beautifully wrapped hand made chocolates that have a good description and a fabulous review. And we leave the unknown, barely described, unreviewed bar on the shelf

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I have no expectations and therefore am never disappointed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not saying it's an awful place just find it hard to get conversation from people I know I'm not great at starting a conversation but I try

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

You haven't asked for profile advice so I won't give any.

You can only control how you engage with people. If you think they are being anti-social why would you want to meet with them? You can get a cam verification if you're desperate for a verification but that still won't get you a meet if nothing else changes about your approach.

Going to a social can get you a verification. However, I have seen men at socials there JUST for the verification who don't bother to make an effort and be social with people.

We do this as our pastime, our hobby, for fun. As such we might be selfish about how we do this.

I used to meet single men to help them along by giving them a verification, but only the ones that I felt I could spend an hour with. Some I genuinely wish I have never bothered to help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou someone that actually helped by giving some honest advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's hard isnt it, people dont give you a chance because your are not verified but how you can verified if you cant talk to anyone just running round I'm circles "

My exact thoughts atm..

Plenty of profiles state won't respond unless verified, or without face shots etc... When in fact they aren't verified or have any face shots....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The thing you have to ask yourself is, are people being anti-social or are your expectations set incorrectly and have you set your stall out in the right way to encourage people to want to interact with you?

Just because you have a profile on here doesn't automatically entitle you to get meets, and as a result get verified.

If you find you're not getting responses you have to ask yourself why and take a look at things like your profile and pics, messaging style and approach and attitude and expectations and see what you can change to improve things - it's all within your control to maximise your experience of the site but the key is recognising that and taking the appropriate action. It won't guarantee a thing of course, but it will certainly improve your experience."

Absofuckinglutely!

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Don't sweat the small stuff and jump into conversations. I'm not a verified chap but I don't let that bother me.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Who else has found that this site is so antisocial when you are trying to get to know people and trying to get verified "

O yes.

Everyone hear is very antisocial.

That's why I have 46 social verys.

Seriously though.

Try to go to a group social.

That will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only human attraction was so easy to quantify into a few messages and a little green tick.

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Who else has found that this site is so antisocial when you are trying to get to know people and trying to get verified "

You mean asocial. Anti social is vandalism etc

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By *lderone1Man
over a year ago

Cheadle hulme, Cheadle, Cheshire

met a guy off here and I tried to verify him and him, me. but neither of us can because we are not verified ffs. Catch 22 springs to mind

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"met a guy off here and I tried to verify him and him, me. but neither of us can because we are not verified ffs. Catch 22 springs to mind"

Only way round that is for one of you to pop into the chat rooms and get a webcam veri and then verify the other

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Meriam Websster Extract:

Anti Social : An accusation to besmirch swingers who haven't dropped everything to run to the assistance of an entitled unverified.

Thanks Meriam x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always think fab is a bit like a sweet shop.

So much to choose from

So we pick the beautifully wrapped hand made chocolates that have a good description and a fabulous review. And we leave the unknown, barely described, unreviewed bar on the shelf"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Meriam Websster Extract:

Anti Social : An accusation to besmirch swingers who haven't dropped everything to run to the assistance of an entitled unverified.

Thanks Meriam x "

...Granny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't anti social, it just has its own rules; I think this is one of the few places I've heard the phrase 'be proactive' outside of a management meeting, and it's just as pretentious as when used in said meetings.

Don't forget you are a single male on here; you'll be reminded a lot anyway so chance would be a fine thing. You'll either get guys commiserating because they are in a similar situation, or gloating/being condescending because they have had a meet and therefore must be special in some way you're not. Then of course you get the guys posting with one eye on how their messages will be interpreted by the females on here. The phrase 'arse kissers' comes to mind.

Ask yourself did you equate NSA, with easy sex? They are two very different things. You have to put in a lot of effort even for NSA.

Accept that you can take all the advice given about pics/profile text, interacting on forums and it will still get you relatively nowhere unless you attend a social.

You may realise at this point, that it's easier just going into your town/city center and meeting someone in the usual way, or you may not, but those are the rules of Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didnt sat that just because I'm a member that it entitles me to get meets I am just saying that people are not very welcoming to new people or people that are not verified and yes it may be my fault but how are you ment to know if nobody gives you a chance or tells you and I may not be the best person at starting a conversation but I have tried so it isn't all me if other people are finding that they are getting the same response "

it is hard but quines are getting hundreds of messages every day. reading them all is impossible. many guys will abuse them for either not reading or not replying to messages. i find you have to show an interest and leave it at that. nothing wrong with trying again in a few days (unless youve been told no) show your prepaired to try but can also have some restraint

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