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Forgive and Forget

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you someone who forgives and forgets?

Or do you forgive but never forget?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It totally depends on the what and the who.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgive, Kove on and all that but never forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually just forget. That way I can’t remember there’s anything to forgive! Xx

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

I've forgiven my Mum countless times for her lack of parenting skills. However now she's older and mellowed somewhat she's an amazing mum. Can't ever forget though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never forget x

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By *heekyredsoloWoman
over a year ago

bromborough

Fool me once shame on me,

Fool me twice shame on you!

Have met a few time waters for socials,

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Depends on the situation, somethings take longer than others to forgive.

However, never forget as it’s part of a lesson to be learned, just don’t let the past eat you up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life's too short, stay wise though....

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

If they’re sorry yes. If they’re not neither. I just box it off and move on.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Depends on the circumstances .... usually neither! If someone stabs me in the back that’s it - end of, whatever the relationship was

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Are you someone who forgives and forgets?

Or do you forgive but never forget?

"

Depends on the person and circumstances most the time neither forgive or forget

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I always forgive but never forget

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I don't forget but I forgive. People say daft things, do daft things when caught in a particular emotion. Holding on to resentment isn't healthy for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I forgive easily, possibly too easily at times and because my memory ain’t what it used to be I probably forget as well.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Family would be always a yes, I'm stuck with them........but others nah, no time for drama at my age.....if someone does something to me that needs forgiveness then their out end of.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you forgive the once only or would you forgive again and again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes sorry isn't enough.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"Are you someone who forgives and forgets?

Or do you forgive but never forget?

"

Draw a line and move on but never forgets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And if you don’t forget, do you bring up the indiscretion in any future arguments?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I will forgive, all depends on situation obviously. If I'm able to I will forgive, if I feel whoever is "sorry" truely is.

I never forget though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some things are unforgivable. Fortunately they've been very rare occurences. I shan't forgive or forget those.

Everything else is just humans bumbling along unintentionally messing up. Eveything is about intent. Inlike to remember the good things about people.

Wjat about you OP?

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

No , i don't do forgiveness. The code of Omerta doesn't allow it ...........Der der der der der der de derrrrr

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"Fool me once shame on me,

Fool me twice shame on you!

Have met a few time waters for socials,

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You have that the wrong way around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am going though this atm with my ex

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Do you forgive the once only or would you forgive again and again?

"

Once bitten twice shy, I distance myself from them and the situation

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

Sometimes forgive, rarely forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it would depend on what has happened and how important that person was to me. To not forgive would be too negative an energy for me to live with. I like to be light on that front. xxx

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

Depends.

I can cut people adrift just like that and not look back should I choose, mind.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I try not to sweat the small stuff. As for the rest totally depends on what and who.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally depends on who it is and what they’ve done wrong. Can forgive but no won’t forget won’t be wronged twice

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Oh I 'never' forget! It just depends on how far you push me, that is what really matters.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

It really depends on who it is , what's happened and how much I like them. I've been guilty of giving too many chances and being too kind in the past. It now makes me think twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of both if I'm honest .

Sometimes I can just shut people out my life if they hurt me without a second thought.

Other times I can't . Often I give them too many chances and they hurt me more.

I tend to forgive and I try not to hold a grudge where possible. I've nothing to gain from harbouring anger

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m a hypocrite because I would want to be forgiven but I don’t forgive or forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't forgive or forget

don't make the list

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"And if you don’t forget, do you bring up the indiscretion in any future arguments?"

No i may not forget but wouldnt bring it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I forgive easily, possibly too easily at times and because my memory ain’t what it used to be I probably forget as well."

Oh I only forgive those who apologise. Anyone who fucks me about and doesn’t apologise will neither be forgiven or forgotten, although I find it healthier if I don’t hang onto the anger so I deal with that in a different way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really depends on what they’ve done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more accept and move on. Some things can be forgiven as we are all human and can make stupid choices. Some things just can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a hypocrite because I would want to be forgiven but I don’t forgive or forget."

Thats a very honest confession. Many people are like that though. Eventually life may lead you to forgive or forget or both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m a hypocrite because I would want to be forgiven but I don’t forgive or forget.

Thats a very honest confession. Many people are like that though. Eventually life may lead you to forgive or forget or both."

No. My heart is hard and cold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a hypocrite because I would want to be forgiven but I don’t forgive or forget.

Thats a very honest confession. Many people are like that though. Eventually life may lead you to forgive or forget or both.

No. My heart is hard and cold

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Confusing your heart with your mind? Hearts are squishy and pumping...

As i said, life will cause you to change. Never say never...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on who and what

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I do forgive, sometimes it takes a minute or two though it depends how hurt I am.

It’s doubtful that I would forget but not in a ‘dwelling on it’ kind of way, just being cautious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m a hypocrite because I would want to be forgiven but I don’t forgive or forget.

Thats a very honest confession. Many people are like that though. Eventually life may lead you to forgive or forget or both.

No. My heart is hard and cold

Confusing your heart with your mind? Hearts are squishy and pumping...

As i said, life will cause you to change. Never say never..."

Life has taught me to never forgive or forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to say something about this because for some reason it crossroaded against other things going on around me. But I wanted to think about how to say it.

Earlier this year, I was challenged in a difficult yet profound break up. And in the recourse, my ex did something of which I responded to in the only way I could - which was publically writing about it as I do write articles and blog on a different site. It was done as a reaction to something he did, the only thing he could do really, to get any reaction from me.

I thought about how you are supposed to forgive and forget, for yourself to move on and then I thought. What is to forgive here? Am I supposed to forgive myself for being so angry about something that it set me off to stand up for myself? Is that something I am supposed to forgive? Am I supposed to forgive him for doing what he did as it literally is something that he will never change about himself? Am I supposed to forgive myself for putting into words, and my words are my treasure, what I wanted to finally say without recourse? I can forgive the hurt, the treachery, the deception. In both myself and from him. But this... this isn't something to forgive. This, what I did, is something that just became. And how do I forgive that?

Maybe, in some things, forgiveness isn't what is needed. How can you forgive something that changed you so profoundly and so remarkably, into something better in the long run? And why would I want to forget that?

Anyways. Maybe this will help someone, or give hope to someone else, or perhaps someone out there would just like to say it to. Forgiveness isn't always something that's needed to move on. Clarity and change is. And that's not a bad thing. Not at all.

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