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An arrangement or not?

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By *andyMinx_tv OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

So, good people of Fab, I'm interested in your opinions please. I hardly ever post a thread but here we go.

Someone you have met (once) before texts you to say they would like to see you again this weekend. You text back saying I'm free on Saturday evening. Two days go by without a confirmation (no I didn't follow it up) so you make other arrangements. Then you get a reply saying "see you tonight" and you have to let them know about said alternative arrangements. You are then made to feel like something that's dropped off your shoe after walking around a farmyard.

My question is, is there blame to be apportioned here? Was it an arrangement or not? I'm not looking for support (or otherwise), just a few honest opinions. I might not be able to interact immediately as I'm getting ready for my alternate arrangement but I am interested to know what your thoughts are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other person should have confirmed, nothing wrong in what you did

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I'd have texted him the next day when he didn't confirm asking if it was a solid arrangement or not. I don't think you were in the wrong, it was just poor communication all round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miscommunication me thinks. I would have sent another message saying ‘so? We meeting or what?’ before making other arrangements. But that’s me

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For me if I haven’t heard back after sending I am free Saturday night, then I would assume it wasn’t happening, it doesn’t take long to send a message to confirm.

Enjoy your evening OP

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I'd have texted him the next day when he didn't confirm asking if it was a solid arrangement or not. I don't think you were in the wrong, it was just poor communication all round. "

Agree with this poor communication both of you should've confirmed the meet. But the other party more to blame as you replied last

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By *andyMinx_tv OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

Thank you for all replies so far. A lesson learnt I think. Better communication is the key!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, good people of Fab, I'm interested in your opinions please. I hardly ever post a thread but here we go.

Someone you have met (once) before texts you to say they would like to see you again this weekend. You text back saying I'm free on Saturday evening. Two days go by without a confirmation (no I didn't follow it up) so you make other arrangements. Then you get a reply saying "see you tonight" and you have to let them know about said alternative arrangements. You are then made to feel like something that's dropped off your shoe after walking around a farmyard.

My question is, is there blame to be apportioned here? Was it an arrangement or not? I'm not looking for support (or otherwise), just a few honest opinions. I might not be able to interact immediately as I'm getting ready for my alternate arrangement but I am interested to know what your thoughts are? "

You didn't get a confirmation so not yr problem, you could have ended yr text with "ok?" i suppose but your blameless here

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

If I had left the last message saying Saturday works then I would think a reply is in order.

In saying that if I really wanted to see them I would have followed it up myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for all replies so far. A lesson learnt I think. Better communication is the key! "
. Hsve you replied yet? Tell him yr ill and will get back when feeling better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you sent the last message and he didn’t confirm or made firm plans... for e.g discussing what time would be suitable etc then sorry no plans were made. It’s rude assuming someone is just at home waiting on you.

If someone doesn’t confirm or even stay in touch then they can fuck right off. You did nothing wrong here. Hope you have the best night out OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a breakdown in communication. I didn't think they've got any grounds to be annoyed with you because they didn't confirm but equally you shouldn't have made alternative plans without checking.

Not worth worrying about in my opinion

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd have texted him the next day when he didn't confirm asking if it was a solid arrangement or not. I don't think you were in the wrong, it was just poor communication all round. "

This sums up my thoughts.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I'd have texted him the next day when he didn't confirm asking if it was a solid arrangement or not. I don't think you were in the wrong, it was just poor communication all round.

This sums up my thoughts."

Yes. Making you feel like crap isn't quite fair. If someone suggests something I do like to finalise and I also like others to do so. Both parties should do it if there's a genuine interest.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Sounds like a close one there... would you still meet them knowing what you know now about their personality?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Sounds like a close one there... would you still meet them knowing what you know now about their personality?"

This is so true..the reaction seems a bit ott from them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His poor behaviour says it all. Bottom line is if he wanted to meet you then he should have made you his priority and confirmed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, good people of Fab, I'm interested in your opinions please. I hardly ever post a thread but here we go.

Someone you have met (once) before texts you to say they would like to see you again this weekend. You text back saying I'm free on Saturday evening. Two days go by without a confirmation (no I didn't follow it up) so you make other arrangements. Then you get a reply saying "see you tonight" and you have to let them know about said alternative arrangements. You are then made to feel like something that's dropped off your shoe after walking around a farmyard.

My question is, is there blame to be apportioned here? Was it an arrangement or not? I'm not looking for support (or otherwise), just a few honest opinions. I might not be able to interact immediately as I'm getting ready for my alternate arrangement but I am interested to know what your thoughts are? "

No confimation, you were right to make other plans

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