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"That neither of you is intimate with anyone else" except me hopefully | |||
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"And if they they could only see you once a week? " Then it'll be you alone once a week | |||
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"And if they they could only see you once a week? " omg thats pushing it how would you cope? | |||
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"I wouldn’t take it as a relationship but I would take it to mean they had no plans to meet others for sex. " This ^^ | |||
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"I'd ask THEM..... " And if the replied with, whatever we both decided we wanted it to be? | |||
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"I'd ask THEM..... And if the replied with, whatever we both decided we wanted it to be? " was it you asking question? | |||
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"I would say that's a relationship. I dont see how it could be anything different. Or hes jealous and wants to keep the single status but doesnt want you with anyone else " Particularly if they've hidden their profiles everywhere you'd think this wouldn't you! | |||
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"I wouldn’t take it as a relationship but I would take it to mean they had no plans to meet others for sex. " Thats my take as well Well said xx | |||
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"I'd ask THEM..... And if the replied with, whatever we both decided we wanted it to be? " Then a discussion needs to follow of what you both want and agree to. | |||
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"I would say that's a relationship. I dont see how it could be anything different. Or hes jealous and wants to keep the single status but doesnt want you with anyone else " This. There seems to be a bit of that going around and personally, I'd be very wary. | |||
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"I would say that's a relationship. I dont see how it could be anything different. Or hes jealous and wants to keep the single status but doesnt want you with anyone else Particularly if they've hidden their profiles everywhere you'd think this wouldn't you! " I don't know, I was just basing my opinion on what I've read. You're in a better position to answer the question than anyone else | |||
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"I would say that's a relationship. I dont see how it could be anything different. Or hes jealous and wants to keep the single status but doesnt want you with anyone else Particularly if they've hidden their profiles everywhere you'd think this wouldn't you! " should i get a hat? | |||
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"And if they they could only see you once a week? " This I would say is they are in a relationship already sorry | |||
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"And if they they could only see you once a week? This I would say is they are in a relationship already sorry" Not necessarily. I used to work away alot and have my kid on a weekend so could only meet once or week at most. And I was very single | |||
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"I wouldn’t take it as a relationship but I would take it to mean they had no plans to meet others for sex. " this would be my interpretation - however as always, best to seek clarity directly from the individual! | |||
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"And if they they could only see you once a week? This I would say is they are in a relationship already sorry Not necessarily. I used to work away alot and have my kid on a weekend so could only meet once or week at most. And I was very single " A lot of us have responsibilities at home and busy jobs and lives, yes | |||
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"Think it’s open for interpretation really. Best to clarify with them and spell out what it means. Then make sure it works for you, and that it isn’t a ploy just to keep you in line. " This.... Not getting clarification. Doesn't want me near others at all. | |||
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"What would you think that meant? Does exclusive mean something different to everyone? Exclusive FWB? Exclusive Couple meaning full on relationship? " Exclusive to me would mean just them.. and that is going to never happen. Ironically I have a fb who is exclusive to me and it makes me all sorts of uncomfortable as I dont get why he doesn't want others . ( it just doesn't comprehend to me at all ) | |||
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"Think it’s open for interpretation really. Best to clarify with them and spell out what it means. Then make sure it works for you, and that it isn’t a ploy just to keep you in line. This.... Not getting clarification. Doesn't want me near others at all. " Then I think you have your answer lovely...if that is not what you want then maybe it’s time to look for someone new. | |||
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"I wouldn’t take it as a relationship but I would take it to mean they had no plans to meet others for sex. " I'd think this. ^ Unless I'd met them on here, then I'd assume they wanted bareback with me but were still fucking around. (Let's pretend single men get the chance to fuck around!! ) | |||
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"Think it’s open for interpretation really. Best to clarify with them and spell out what it means. Then make sure it works for you, and that it isn’t a ploy just to keep you in line. This.... Not getting clarification. Doesn't want me near others at all. Then I think you have your answer lovely...if that is not what you want then maybe it’s time to look for someone new. " yes and the buck stops here | |||
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" if that is not what you want then maybe it’s time to look for someone new. " Or say you will meet him once a week but still want to see others too. | |||
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"You think a word means the same thing to everyone but being on here for a few years teaches you its clearly not if someone wants exclusivity ask them as like the word straight and also the word honest exclusivity means a wide variety of things to people on her" Fab straight and Fab honest. | |||
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"Exclusive I would take to mean no one else. A relationship?? X" This | |||
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"What would you think that meant? Does exclusive mean something different to everyone? Exclusive FWB? Exclusive Couple meaning full on relationship? " Does he mean that he will be exclusive too,or he just wants you to be exclusive? | |||
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"You think a word means the same thing to everyone but being on here for a few years teaches you its clearly not if someone wants exclusivity ask them as like the word straight and also the word honest exclusivity means a wide variety of things to people on her" Exactly why I posted. Wanted to see what the word meant to different people. | |||
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"Sounds like cake and eat it to me " can i have your cake | |||
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"I'd ask THEM..... And if the replied with, whatever we both decided we wanted it to be? Then a discussion needs to follow of what you both want and agree to." This ^ You both need to talk it through and decide / agree what exclusive means to you | |||
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"What would you think that meant? Does exclusive mean something different to everyone? Exclusive FWB? Exclusive Couple meaning full on relationship? " It could mean many things. There is zero context here for any of us to make a conclusion on! You have to discuss with said person what their idea of exclusive is! I have an exclusive agreement. But it’s not a relationship. We defined what it was, what we expected and what it looks like. Ive also been exclusive with someone - as swing partners. For clubs, parties, events etc. Everyone knew this and was comfortable. As it also meant no drama. I’ve been exclusive in a relationship and that meant both of us didn’t play with others I mean the list could go on and on as to what exclusive means. We can’t advise as we don’t know the scenario or circumstance. You have to have an adult conversation and define what that word means to each of you. Before reaching out and asking the forum to just shout their opinion of what it is! It’s different for everyone! | |||
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"You think a word means the same thing to everyone but being on here for a few years teaches you its clearly not if someone wants exclusivity ask them as like the word straight and also the word honest exclusivity means a wide variety of things to people on her Exactly why I posted. Wanted to see what the word meant to different people. " To me it would mean you didn't see anyone else, think you need clarification and is that what you want? | |||
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"Sounds like cake and eat it to me can i have your cake " You know I don't share, my cake is exclusive to me | |||
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"You think a word means the same thing to everyone but being on here for a few years teaches you its clearly not if someone wants exclusivity ask them as like the word straight and also the word honest exclusivity means a wide variety of things to people on her Exactly why I posted. Wanted to see what the word meant to different people. " I think it's a great question. Interesting to see all the different perspectives. | |||
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"Sounds like cake and eat it to me can i have your cake You know I don't share, my cake is exclusive to me " damn share your tanned arse then | |||
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"Sounds like cake and eat it to me can i have your cake You know I don't share, my cake is exclusive to me damn share your tanned arse then " Nope Back to the thread | |||
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"Sounds like cake and eat it to me can i have your cake You know I don't share, my cake is exclusive to me damn share your tanned arse then Nope Back to the thread " cmon | |||
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"I've had a situation in the past where I was only able to meet once a week so we basically spent all day and night in bed. It wasn't a relationship, we never left the flat, I wasn't going to introduce him to family and friends, it was purely about great sex. After about 6 months it became obvious it was working well, neither of us had time or inclination to meet others, we wanted to dispense with condoms so went for tests, got the all clear but had to have that conversation: I'm not going to dispense with condoms if either of us are having sex with someone else, it only works if there is that exclusivity. I didn't object to him having sex with others but not then bareback with me. It worked for us for a while but needed a discussion to lay out exactly what we each understood the situation to be." This is how I would view things. P | |||
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"Exclusive I would take to mean no one else. A relationship?? X" A WHAT!!!!!!!! | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. " That's certainly how some would play it, and that's sad P | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. " Funnily enough, people have been caught out in those exact situations, through threads like these | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. That's certainly how some would play it, and that's sad P" Isn't it just! | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. " "clean just for them" god never heard that expression before lol | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. Funnily enough, people have been caught out in those exact situations, through threads like these" I can believe that! | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. "clean just for them" god never heard that expression before lol " You know what I meant | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. " I've just had someone wanting to try that with me..... | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. I've just had someone wanting to try that with me..... " Noooo! | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. "clean just for them" god never heard that expression before lol You know what I meant " youve invented a new sexual term which i shall now use lol | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. "clean just for them" god never heard that expression before lol You know what I meant youve invented a new sexual term which i shall now use lol " Oh dam it! You're not gonna let me forget it either are you?!?! | |||
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"It's not necessarily a negative. Could mean they've fallen in love but they're using a buzz word to try and hide it. Keep the person just for them, because their heart would break at the thought of them fucking someone else. But keeping it light pretending it's FWB so they don't scare the other person off. " Very true! | |||
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"'Exclusive' = Obligations 'Obligations' = Strings 'Strings' isn't Swinging I have seen it so often where someone has been played by this con. Keep it simple and stick to the 'No Strings Attached' (NSA) rules and no one gets hurt. I actually prefer 'NBA' or No Bullshit Attached and this 'Exclusive' crap is Bullshit." I like your comment lots!! | |||
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"It's not necessarily a negative. Could mean they've fallen in love but they're using a buzz word to try and hide it. Keep the person just for them, because their heart would break at the thought of them fucking someone else. But keeping it light pretending it's FWB so they don't scare the other person off. " Hmmm ... so they are prepared to mislead someone with whom they have fallen in love? Sounds a great foundation for a 'relationship'. If you feel like that be honest and say so. If the other person doesn't feel the same then end of .... | |||
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"It's not necessarily a negative. Could mean they've fallen in love but they're using a buzz word to try and hide it. Keep the person just for them, because their heart would break at the thought of them fucking someone else. But keeping it light pretending it's FWB so they don't scare the other person off. Hmmm ... so they are prepared to mislead someone with whom they have fallen in love? Sounds a great foundation for a 'relationship'. If you feel like that be honest and say so. If the other person doesn't feel the same then end of ...." Don't think it works like that for some. Previously could have been hurt and doesnt want to be again and too scared of scaring off the person they've fallen for especially if it's early on. Might not be an intentional misleading but more a protection of themselves and how vulnerable it makes them. | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. "clean just for them" god never heard that expression before lol You know what I meant youve invented a new sexual term which i shall now use lol Oh dam it! You're not gonna let me forget it either are you?!?! " no i may put it on my profile 'I'm clean just for you' | |||
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"Was interested to see what people's takes on it would be. I just think the exclusive can be interpreted differently. Aware that someone can say they want you exclusively to keep you for themselves while actually having various others and maintaining a single status while keeping you clean just for them and interested as you won't have been near anyone else. It can be quite a smart way to come across genuine when actually you're just playing people. "clean just for them" god never heard that expression before lol You know what I meant youve invented a new sexual term which i shall now use lol Oh dam it! You're not gonna let me forget it either are you?!?! no i may put it on my profile 'I'm clean just for you' " I'm just going to hide form you from now on! | |||
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"It's not necessarily a negative. Could mean they've fallen in love but they're using a buzz word to try and hide it. Keep the person just for them, because their heart would break at the thought of them fucking someone else. But keeping it light pretending it's FWB so they don't scare the other person off. " That's why my arrangement ended; after a couple of years he desperately wanted more and I wasn't prepared to move in and have kids with him. It was all heartbreakingly sad after so long. | |||
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"That neither of you is intimate with anyone else" I think this...not necessarily meaning a full on relationahip though unless that was also expressed. | |||
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