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"Does anyone else find the term Queen of Spades offensive and derogatory? " Why do you find it offensive? (genuinely ignorant here) | |||
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"Does anyone else find the term Queen of Spades offensive and derogatory? " no i love that card in canasta | |||
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"It’s something the person chooses to do so how is that derogatory " Because some people don't agree with fetishising race. | |||
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"I assume that it has nothing to do with the opera or cards " I just Googled the opera. I didn't realise the composer's brother was called Modest Tchaikovsky | |||
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"Does anyone else find the term Queen of Spades offensive and derogatory? Why do you find it offensive? (genuinely ignorant here) " "spade" is an outdated derogatory term for a black man, it used to be used as an insult. | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes." kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy | |||
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"It’s something the person chooses to do so how is that derogatory Because some people don't agree with fetishising race." And others are quite happy going along with it and advertise themselves as such | |||
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"It’s something the person chooses to do so how is that derogatory Because some people don't agree with fetishising race. And others are quite happy going along with it and advertise themselves as such " Indeed. That doesn't stop other people feeling uneasy about the use of outdated terms such as 'spade' which was traditionally used as a derogatory term for black people. | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes. kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy " And yet you find guys using it as part of their user name, go figure! | |||
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"I thought it was a playing card as well. I’m not googling. " This | |||
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"It’s something the person chooses to do so how is that derogatory Because some people don't agree with fetishising race." That’s preference is it not individual choice are we to lose our individuality my face offends people but that’s my choice | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes. kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy And yet you find guys using it as part of their user name, go figure! " Yes you do, which is why I said earlier that I'm not offended on behalf of another race. I'm a white man. Again though, some people are upset by the use if such outdated terminology. I'm not sure why I have to keep explaining this - some people are OK with it, some aren't. This isn't a competition to be right or wrong. | |||
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"Does anyone else find the term Queen of Spades offensive and derogatory? Why do you find it offensive? (genuinely ignorant here) "spade" is an outdated derogatory term for a black man, it used to be used as an insult. " Thanks - I didn't know that. If the term is considered insulting, and a woman uses it in the hope of drawing a black man into her clutches, it would seem counter-intuitive to me. Insulting someone isn't a good way of getting to someone's heart. Or is the label applied by others to denigrate the woman for being sexually attracted to people of a different ethnicity? | |||
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"I’m sure someone put a thread up about this before (women getting it tattooed on them) and I have no idea, I have no idea what it means other than it’s a playing card" It means they like to fuck black guys. Spades. Spade is an old term for a black person, mostly used in the negative. | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes. kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy And yet you find guys using it as part of their user name, go figure! " Stormzy says it. I've always found it distasteful but I guess people can call themselves what they like. | |||
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"It’s something the person chooses to do so how is that derogatory Because some people don't agree with fetishising race. And others are quite happy going along with it and advertise themselves as such Indeed. That doesn't stop other people feeling uneasy about the use of outdated terms such as 'spade' which was traditionally used as a derogatory term for black people." Yes I know what it means, but in the term it is used on a site like this it means certain ladies will only meet black guys, this we know already, no one is being derogatory about them, in fact it is quite the opposite. | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes. kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy And yet you find guys using it as part of their user name, go figure! Stormzy says it. I've always found it distasteful but I guess people can call themselves what they like. " He says a lot of things with numerous meanings and connotations - he's also a young black man. As Chuck D from Public Enemy said, "you're not niggers". That doesn't stop younger rappers using the term - which is a slave term and should not be used by anyone, black or white in my view. | |||
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"It’s something the person chooses to do so how is that derogatory Because some people don't agree with fetishising race. And others are quite happy going along with it and advertise themselves as such Indeed. That doesn't stop other people feeling uneasy about the use of outdated terms such as 'spade' which was traditionally used as a derogatory term for black people. Yes I know what it means, but in the term it is used on a site like this it means certain ladies will only meet black guys, this we know already, no one is being derogatory about them, in fact it is quite the opposite. " Yes, and I keep agreeing with you but you don't seem to notice. Some people (SOME PEOPLE) still feel uncomfortable with the terminology used. | |||
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"Does anyone else find the term Queen of Spades offensive and derogatory? Why do you find it offensive? (genuinely ignorant here) "spade" is an outdated derogatory term for a black man, it used to be used as an insult. " Ah. I didn’t know that. | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes. kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy And yet you find guys using it as part of their user name, go figure! Yes you do, which is why I said earlier that I'm not offended on behalf of another race. I'm a white man. Again though, some people are upset by the use if such outdated terminology. I'm not sure why I have to keep explaining this - some people are OK with it, some aren't. This isn't a competition to be right or wrong." Nope it isn’t, and like the old saying goes some will like it and some won’t | |||
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"It’s something the person chooses to do so how is that derogatory Because some people don't agree with fetishising race. And others are quite happy going along with it and advertise themselves as such Indeed. That doesn't stop other people feeling uneasy about the use of outdated terms such as 'spade' which was traditionally used as a derogatory term for black people. Yes I know what it means, but in the term it is used on a site like this it means certain ladies will only meet black guys, this we know already, no one is being derogatory about them, in fact it is quite the opposite. Yes, and I keep agreeing with you but you don't seem to notice. Some people (SOME PEOPLE) still feel uncomfortable with the terminology used." I have noticed I was just adding to the thread that’s all, blimey | |||
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"If you look for the offense its definitely there ... Spade has been used as a derogatory term and the term Queen suggests superiority over Spades. I cant see it being a term that will be considered acceptable for much longer. Would it be offensive if Jerremy Clarkson favoured hanging about with black friends and declared himself King of Spades? Of course it would. " Yes, but that's because Jeremy Clarkson is a grade A cunt. | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes. kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy And yet you find guys using it as part of their user name, go figure! Yes you do, which is why I said earlier that I'm not offended on behalf of another race. I'm a white man. Again though, some people are upset by the use if such outdated terminology. I'm not sure why I have to keep explaining this - some people are OK with it, some aren't. This isn't a competition to be right or wrong." Because a large number of people fail to realise that you can empathise and be compassionate about such things without actually getting offended over it. I agree I don't like such things because it should not be about a fetish. Thing is it really can't be all that offensive or derogatory (anymore) though since if more than just a few of those it was originally meant to insult embrace it and also enjoy the attention. It is most definitely a very tricky thing to nail down as something that should not be done while it is (in part) embraced by (some of) those that are the core part of it - in this case black men. The only way to make it something that should not be done is for black men as a whole to just deny women who make such "demands" and now allow themselves to be part of it. | |||
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"It’s something the person chooses to do so how is that derogatory Because some people don't agree with fetishising race. And others are quite happy going along with it and advertise themselves as such Indeed. That doesn't stop other people feeling uneasy about the use of outdated terms such as 'spade' which was traditionally used as a derogatory term for black people. Yes I know what it means, but in the term it is used on a site like this it means certain ladies will only meet black guys, this we know already, no one is being derogatory about them, in fact it is quite the opposite. " I think some women use the term without realising what is actually means, and lots of them worship black men. But some do use it as a way to fetishise a black man, especially when it’s a white couple and a black man. That can be really unsavoury. | |||
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"The fact so many seem to be ignorant of the term, myself included, suggests it has faded from linguistic use. My feeling reading this thread is just to let it drift into history rather than revive it. " It’s very popular still on the interracial scene. | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes. kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy And yet you find guys using it as part of their user name, go figure! Stormzy says it. I've always found it distasteful but I guess people can call themselves what they like. He says a lot of things with numerous meanings and connotations - he's also a young black man. As Chuck D from Public Enemy said, "you're not niggers". That doesn't stop younger rappers using the term - which is a slave term and should not be used by anyone, black or white in my view." But part of being free, ie no longer a slave is that you get to call yourself what you like, right? Chuck D talked more sense than anyone else in hip hop I can think of but this is what freedom is. You make your own choices, good or bad. | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes. kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy And yet you find guys using it as part of their user name, go figure! Stormzy says it. I've always found it distasteful but I guess people can call themselves what they like. He says a lot of things with numerous meanings and connotations - he's also a young black man. As Chuck D from Public Enemy said, "you're not niggers". That doesn't stop younger rappers using the term - which is a slave term and should not be used by anyone, black or white in my view. But part of being free, ie no longer a slave is that you get to call yourself what you like, right? Chuck D talked more sense than anyone else in hip hop I can think of but this is what freedom is. You make your own choices, good or bad. " Indeed it is. It is also a case of taking power away from the word. Which is why it is used so freely in mainstream among black rappers. It will forever be a word when used by somebody who is not black to be deemed offensive. The word has too much power because of this - and that is coming from me, somebody who thinks the context of a word should give the power, not the word itself. | |||
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"There is/was a female user of this site with that nickname. I think with most things these days if you look for something you'll find a way to make it a racial issue. " In this case it’s deliberately a racial issue. | |||
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"Offence isn't given, it's only taken!! You can take offence at most things in life if you really want to. Life is far too short to take offence at anything that doesnt concern you " That's ridiculous. Am I not allowed to take offence at children or animals being abused, or racism or slave labour even though they don't directly concern me ? | |||
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"Offence isn't given, it's only taken!! You can take offence at most things in life if you really want to. Life is far too short to take offence at anything that doesnt concern you " Many things are said and done to deliberately cause offence though. | |||
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"Offence isn't given, it's only taken!! You can take offence at most things in life if you really want to. Life is far too short to take offence at anything that doesnt concern you That's ridiculous. Am I not allowed to take offence at children or animals being abused, or racism or slave labour even though they don't directly concern me ?" You can be offended by whatever you like my dear | |||
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"Offence isn't given, it's only taken!! You can take offence at most things in life if you really want to. Life is far too short to take offence at anything that doesnt concern you That's ridiculous. Am I not allowed to take offence at children or animals being abused, or racism or slave labour even though they don't directly concern me ?" You're likening a symbol to child abuse... | |||
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"Offence isn't given, it's only taken!! You can take offence at most things in life if you really want to. Life is far too short to take offence at anything that doesnt concern you Many things are said and done to deliberately cause offence though. " But its personal choice if you accept it | |||
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"Offence isn't given, it's only taken!! You can take offence at most things in life if you really want to. Life is far too short to take offence at anything that doesnt concern you Many things are said and done to deliberately cause offence though. But its personal choice if you accept it" OK | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes." I totally agree with this. I also dislike the term BBC to me it doesn’t matter what colour it is as long as you know how to use it | |||
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"I enjoy seeing women with that tattoo, i don't see it as anymore offensive than when men get a doughnut tattoo to show they're into bbw to be honest. " This thread is quite an education. | |||
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"Offence isn't given, it's only taken!! You can take offence at most things in life if you really want to. Life is far too short to take offence at anything that doesnt concern you " | |||
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"Offence isn't given, it's only taken!! You can take offence at most things in life if you really want to. Life is far too short to take offence at anything that doesnt concern you " Sorry, didn't realise someone had already said it. Very true though! | |||
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"I never go out of my way to deliberately offend anyone" I found you calling me "my dear" offensive. Very patronising. | |||
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"I don't find it offensive as such, since I'm a white man - how can you be offended on behalf of another race? On the other hand, I do find fetishising race to be something I don't enjoy or agree with. Not offended as such, but it does feel a little bit unsavoury, yes. kinda this. I always worry when i see the use of the word chocolate, just makes me a little uneasy And yet you find guys using it as part of their user name, go figure! Stormzy says it. I've always found it distasteful but I guess people can call themselves what they like. " When black people use terms like this, it's their way of owning the term and taking away the sting. Same way some women use B*tch or sl*t. I guess it depends on the intentions of the persons using the term. | |||
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"I never go out of my way to deliberately offend anyone I found you calling me "my dear" offensive. Very patronising. " that's probably why she did it | |||
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"Being offended is a choice. I choose not to be offended by most things - it's a waste of energy." I don't believe I have a right not to be offended. Just because I'm offended by something itb doesn't mean its wrong. My feelings are mine to own and manage. They're no-one else's problem or responsibility. | |||
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"Being offended is a choice. I choose not to be offended by most things - it's a waste of energy." Not quite the samething when it comes to race though is it? There's a difference between choosing not to be offended and stamping out subliminal offensive messaging related to race. | |||
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"Being offended is a choice. I choose not to be offended by most things - it's a waste of energy. Not quite the samething when it comes to race though is it? There's a difference between choosing not to be offended and stamping out subliminal offensive messaging related to race. " I'm black though Isn't it my right to choose whether I'm offended or not? | |||
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"Being offended is a choice. I choose not to be offended by most things - it's a waste of energy. Not quite the samething when it comes to race though is it? There's a difference between choosing not to be offended and stamping out subliminal offensive messaging related to race. I'm black though Isn't it my right to choose whether I'm offended or not?" Well that's another matter entirely. My apologies. | |||
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"I'd never heard that, other than the card, until today. I can't say I find it offensive so if any ladies would like to have 'Drago' tattooed in a visible spot it would save me a lot of faff.. " I’d never heard it either | |||
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"I'd never heard that, other than the card, until today. I can't say I find it offensive so if any ladies would like to have 'Drago' tattooed in a visible spot it would save me a lot of faff.. I’d never heard it either " × 3 . Me neither and I ain't googling it | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. " I'm not sure where people starving comes in to this discussion? | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. I'm not sure where people starving comes in to this discussion?" My point, my dear friend, is that there are far more important issues.. | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. " I thought snowflake meant someone thought they were special ie the construction of every snowflake is unique, kind of like a fingerprint. | |||
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"I never go out of my way to deliberately offend anyone I found you calling me "my dear" offensive. Very patronising. " And it proves my point entirely. It wasnt meant to offend you but you chose to take offence at it! Apologies sent | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. I thought snowflake meant someone thought they were special ie the construction of every snowflake is unique, kind of like a fingerprint. " I don't want to go off topic on the thread but that is one interpretation often given to counter the other one.. | |||
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" I like Swedish girls with big tits.. " Are you going to get a tattoo of a muesli flake ? | |||
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"7 of diamonds man myself " I keep tripping over the jokers of the pack.... Damn this site! | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. I'm not sure where people starving comes in to this discussion? My point, my dear friend, is that there are far more important issues.. " To be clear i am not your dear friend so not sure why you would say that. And of course there are more important issues but its avtgread about a swinging term and how people perceive it. I'm not sure why poverty makes this discussion invalid? | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. I thought snowflake meant someone thought they were special ie the construction of every snowflake is unique, kind of like a fingerprint. " The Google term is spot on. Unique and delicate. "A person, implying that they have an inflated sense of uniqueness, an unwarranted sense of entitlement, or are overly-emotional, easily offended, and unable to deal with opposing opinions." Though to me it is an "and", not an "or" when it comes to being offended. | |||
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" I like Swedish girls with big tits.. Are you going to get a tattoo of a muesli flake ?" I think that's Swiss. A Volvo badge, maybe? | |||
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" I think that's Swiss. A Volvo badge, maybe? " A Volvo/vulva combo ? | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. I thought snowflake meant someone thought they were special ie the construction of every snowflake is unique, kind of like a fingerprint. The Google term is spot on. Unique and delicate. "A person, implying that they have an inflated sense of uniqueness, an unwarranted sense of entitlement, or are overly-emotional, easily offended, and unable to deal with opposing opinions." Though to me it is an "and", not an "or" when it comes to being offended. " Either way.... It's tiresome in the extreme | |||
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" I think that's Swiss. A Volvo badge, maybe? A Volvo/vulva combo ?" Beautifully done | |||
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"I prefer men that aren't knob heads what tattoo should I get? " Hahaha funny as.... | |||
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"I prefer men that aren't knob heads what tattoo should I get? " A picture of a nob head with a red line through it | |||
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"I prefer men that aren't knob heads what tattoo should I get? A picture of a nob head with a red line through it" People might think that denotes a Lesbian | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. I thought snowflake meant someone thought they were special ie the construction of every snowflake is unique, kind of like a fingerprint. " no. | |||
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"The fact so many seem to be ignorant of the term, myself included, suggests it has faded from linguistic use. My feeling reading this thread is just to let it drift into history rather than revive it. It’s very popular still on the interracial scene. " Which is, of course, much more of an American thing than a British thing. I mean that in the sense that the USA still has serious fault lines around race and its history over there which mean that interracial play has a subtext there which isn't as evident or clear in the UK. | |||
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"I find the crap tattoos these "queens" have more expensive, they look shit " 99% are temporary. | |||
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"The fact so many seem to be ignorant of the term, myself included, suggests it has faded from linguistic use. My feeling reading this thread is just to let it drift into history rather than revive it. It’s very popular still on the interracial scene. Which is, of course, much more of an American thing than a British thing. I mean that in the sense that the USA still has serious fault lines around race and its history over there which mean that interracial play has a subtext there which isn't as evident or clear in the UK." That's true. There's a big focus on making race "reparations" over there. | |||
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"The fact so many seem to be ignorant of the term, myself included, suggests it has faded from linguistic use. My feeling reading this thread is just to let it drift into history rather than revive it. It’s very popular still on the interracial scene. Which is, of course, much more of an American thing than a British thing. I mean that in the sense that the USA still has serious fault lines around race and its history over there which mean that interracial play has a subtext there which isn't as evident or clear in the UK." That's very true. I was whipped by a black lady once and that would have a lot more significance in America, I never really thought of it like that. | |||
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"I just think that it's mostly down to intent. I call spice "my girl" I figure many ladies would be offended by that saying it's sexist or derogatory, spice likes it though. As for people taking offence, somebody somewhere will take offence at anything. I'm pretty sure that if I said I like tomato ketchup someone somewhere would take offence at that. " Ha! The things my partner calls me would certainly set a lot of people's hackles up so we play nice in public | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. I'm not sure where people starving comes in to this discussion? My point, my dear friend, is that there are far more important issues.. To be clear i am not your dear friend so not sure why you would say that. And of course there are more important issues but its avtgread about a swinging term and how people perceive it. I'm not sure why poverty makes this discussion invalid? " I respect your opinion and like you immensely .. The threads are richer for your input.. | |||
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"Apart from the playing card what's it mean? " Historically "spade" is a derogatory term used to describe black people, akin to the N word. | |||
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"I just think that it's mostly down to intent. I call spice "my girl" I figure many ladies would be offended by that saying it's sexist or derogatory, spice likes it though. As for people taking offence, somebody somewhere will take offence at anything. I'm pretty sure that if I said I like tomato ketchup someone somewhere would take offence at that. Ha! The things my partner calls me would certainly set a lot of people's hackles up so we play nice in public " Guessing you can't elaborate | |||
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"Apart from the playing card what's it mean? Historically "spade" is a derogatory term used to describe black people, akin to the N word." And some white ladies who either prefer or exclusively like lack men have it tattooed. I respect that . Their body, their choice and their right.. None of our business... | |||
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"If you look for the offense its definitely there ... Spade has been used as a derogatory term and the term Queen suggests superiority over Spades. I cant see it being a term that will be considered acceptable for much longer. Would it be offensive if Jerremy Clarkson favoured hanging about with black friends and declared himself King of Spades? Of course it would. " What he said | |||
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"The grammar police are out in force today. Lots of women on here display tattoos of a spade and prefer black guys. Yes some will like, some will not. I get so bored of people poking their noses into other people's business and claiming to be offended on behalf of others. The language you use today will be outdated in a decade and you will still keep on using it. Why? Because you always have. Snowflakes.. and I am sure someone will find a racial connotation in that word. No it's the melting and unable to cope. Grow up people's. People are starving in this country. " Lots of women have a tattoo of the Queen of Spades not a spade! Get it right! If they had spades tattooed maybe they'd be into Gardner's. Tattoo of a bloody spade? SMFH I agree with everything else you said including your snowflake comment but most people know it's no longer used in a racial context anymore. | |||
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"I'd never heard that, other than the card, until today. I can't say I find it offensive so if any ladies would like to have 'Drago' tattooed in a visible spot it would save me a lot of faff.. I’d never heard it either " Have you got your Drago tattoo yet?.. | |||
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