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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? " Join the freemasons | |||
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"I have done some volunteer work through the years. Each time it's reset my belief in humanity and i've met some selfless and inspiring people who mostly spend their lives enabling others to have better ones. Try it. You'll see." Definitely this too | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? " Business Networking? | |||
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"5yrs ago. Pretty much cut off all contact with the majority of my friends. I hadn't been in a good place for a long time. I decided I needed to change alot about my life, my first goal to lose weight. I didn't realise till I actually started on my plan, just how negative these people were, because I'd been the same too! But suddenly having a goal, something to aim for.. The lack of support, the put downs, the sarcasm & doubts. These people didn't want me to change, they wanted to keep me at the same level, their level. I walked away... I see alot of them around now & then, they still doing the same thing day in, day out, I hear them moan about the exact same things they moaned about 5yrs ago. Only now they add me to their moans once I'm gone.. I'm stuck up, think I'm better than them, wear fancy clothes, drive a flash car. I'm none of that. But I won't apologise for dragging myself out of a hole, and creating a better life for myself & my children " This is similar to my situation, everyone around me is content with their 9 to 5 living for the weekend rat race and they can't see past it, but I can, and I want out, so I've been working on my own projects and business for a few years but I feel trapped by my environment, so I want to mix with like minded individuals but I don't know where to look/go about it. I've gone as far as I can on my own, now i need more. | |||
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"5yrs ago. Pretty much cut off all contact with the majority of my friends. I hadn't been in a good place for a long time. I decided I needed to change alot about my life, my first goal to lose weight. I didn't realise till I actually started on my plan, just how negative these people were, because I'd been the same too! But suddenly having a goal, something to aim for.. The lack of support, the put downs, the sarcasm & doubts. These people didn't want me to change, they wanted to keep me at the same level, their level. I walked away... I see alot of them around now & then, they still doing the same thing day in, day out, I hear them moan about the exact same things they moaned about 5yrs ago. Only now they add me to their moans once I'm gone.. I'm stuck up, think I'm better than them, wear fancy clothes, drive a flash car. I'm none of that. But I won't apologise for dragging myself out of a hole, and creating a better life for myself & my children " Brave and awesome! | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? Business Networking? " Yeah sort of, but not the type of business where its employees talking to other employees, I want free thinkers that can see past a rat race life | |||
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"Meetup group or similar? " This was the direction i was thinking, I've searched for such groups but had no luck so far | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? " They obviously aren’t real friends are they ? I mean if they were real friends and you were looking to jettison them to facilitate a new life that would kinda make you a pretty shitty sort of person - which I’m sure you’re not ... Ps - blaming others for inertia in you life is really avoiding the single most important person responsible for that - and I guess you know who that is | |||
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"Meetup group or similar? This was the direction i was thinking, I've searched for such groups but had no luck so far" What do you want to change and why? Start with that. Reading to learn, self help books, sometimes apps, online communities. World is your oyster. You've just got to do the work. | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? " So you're too good for the people around you? | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? So you're too good for the people around you? " I think that's an uncharitable and unhelpful interpretation. | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? So you're too good for the people around you? I think that's an uncharitable and unhelpful interpretation. " Very unhelpful. Nothing wrong with having ambition, wanting more out of life. If the people around are holding you back, don't want the same things, it doesn't mean one of you, is less or better than the other. It just means you are different | |||
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"5yrs ago. Pretty much cut off all contact with the majority of my friends. I hadn't been in a good place for a long time. I decided I needed to change alot about my life, my first goal to lose weight. I didn't realise till I actually started on my plan, just how negative these people were, because I'd been the same too! But suddenly having a goal, something to aim for.. The lack of support, the put downs, the sarcasm & doubts. These people didn't want me to change, they wanted to keep me at the same level, their level. I walked away... I see alot of them around now & then, they still doing the same thing day in, day out, I hear them moan about the exact same things they moaned about 5yrs ago. Only now they add me to their moans once I'm gone.. I'm stuck up, think I'm better than them, wear fancy clothes, drive a flash car. I'm none of that. But I won't apologise for dragging myself out of a hole, and creating a better life for myself & my children Brave and awesome!" I was thinking just thid | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? So you're too good for the people around you? I think that's an uncharitable and unhelpful interpretation. Very unhelpful. Nothing wrong with having ambition, wanting more out of life. If the people around are holding you back, don't want the same things, it doesn't mean one of you, is less or better than the other. It just means you are different " Exactly, thank you, it's that exact attitude that I'm trying to escape from, whenever I talk about starting business, working on projects, investing in myself with a majority of my friends all I get back is "yeah but have you seen the newest episode of blah blah blah" I work a day job, I then go home and work till 10 or 11 at night on my own things so that one day I won't be having to collect a pay cheque each month. Yes the motivation should come within, but a person is a product of their environment and I ha e reached the limits of my environment, if this makes me sound snobby or above someone, then fuck it, I guess I am, but I have absolutely no shame in wanting to better my life, I wasn't born to pay bills and die. Travelling is an excellent idea, when I'm in a position to take a break for a month or 2 I will definitely be doing that. | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? So you're too good for the people around you? I think that's an uncharitable and unhelpful interpretation. " You're entitled to see it that way but it all looks a bit 'David Brent' to me. | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? They obviously aren’t real friends are they ? I mean if they were real friends and you were looking to jettison them to facilitate a new life that would kinda make you a pretty shitty sort of person - which I’m sure you’re not ... Ps - blaming others for inertia in you life is really avoiding the single most important person responsible for that - and I guess you know who that is " They are still my friends, always will be, but I need more, I need people on my level and above, people outgrow others, same as in a relationship, it happens. | |||
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"Meetup group or similar? This was the direction i was thinking, I've searched for such groups but had no luck so far What do you want to change and why? Start with that. Reading to learn, self help books, sometimes apps, online communities. World is your oyster. You've just got to do the work. " Yeah I consume books like crazy, always got an audible book going or dipping in and out of books during the day, an online or fa e to face community is what I'm after now | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? " Don’t surround yourself with negative people or people not on your business level , however never forget your roots or who you are . No need to find other people only rely on yourself with raising the bar . It’s life I’m afraid it’s natural & inevitable you’re going to leave people behind in life it’s just how it is . Fact , the more successful you become the less friends you will have or can trust ,jealousy will rare it’s head with some people .carve your own way through life /business in a nice way & never look back ( be careful of the karma police though) I hope this is helpful it’s how it is for us both | |||
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"Meetup group or similar? This was the direction i was thinking, I've searched for such groups but had no luck so far What do you want to change and why? Start with that. Reading to learn, self help books, sometimes apps, online communities. World is your oyster. You've just got to do the work. Yeah I consume books like crazy, always got an audible book going or dipping in and out of books " Lynsey Hanley's "Estates" is a bit of a bore if you're not interested in social housing but there's a fabulous chapter in it called "the wall" which is all about her teenage years spent in an area populated by people seriously lacking in any kind of aspiration at all. | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? Business Networking? Yeah sort of, but not the type of business where its employees talking to other employees, I want free thinkers that can see past a rat race life" Won't they be competition? | |||
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""if your circle of friends doesn't motivate you then you're not in a circle, you're in a cage" Has anyone else been in a position of looking for new people to inspire/motivate them? I'm looking to push my business and life to the next level but the mindsets I'm surrounded by are doing the opposite, how can I find new people to help push me to where I want to go? Anyone else had this issue? Business Networking? Yeah sort of, but not the type of business where its employees talking to other employees, I want free thinkers that can see past a rat race life Won't they be competition?" Potentially, but that's not a bad thing. | |||
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"An old boss once told me "if you're the smartest person in the room then you're in the wrong room" so i got up and walked out needless to say i didn't work there much longer " This is spot on, it's harder to learn if you're the smartest in the room! | |||
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