FabSwingers.com forum: Advice

By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

There are lots of threads about advice for newbies. A lot of them turn negative.

What one POSITIVE piece of advice would you give to a newbie.

Play nice and keep it positive x

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Treat people on here like you’d like to be treated x

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Treat people on here like you’d like to be treated x"

That should be a given but unfortunately it's not always the case x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a life outside of fab. Please!

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

There are some lovely, wonderful people on here (including you OP), if I can do it then you can to. Believe, be yourself and keep your expectations of the site realistic

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Don't take the site any more seriously than you take yourself

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Depends on if it was a man or a woman!!

Men ~ don't assume women on here are easy pickings.

Women ~ use the filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have fun.

Take everything everyone says with a pinch of salt and enjoy

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By *apascouseMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Don’t take a ‘no’ personally or to heart

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By *picknspanMan
over a year ago

North West Leeds

Hope but don't expect

Want but not obsessively

Be patient

Watch out for cat fish

Enjoy what comes your way

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By *uryWhipMan
over a year ago

Harringay

Dont vent your frustrations with status updatea, everyone can see that shit.

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Great advice. Keep it fun, dont take it serious and be nice x

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

Never eat yellow snow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socialise and look for friendship rather than a quick fuck... Be patient, and treat people online like you would if you were with them. If you wouldn't say something to someone's face, don't send it in a message.

x N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Treat people on here like you’d like to be treated x

That should be a given but unfortunately it's not always the case x"

behave the same way with people on here as you would if you met them in person and you will get on just fine

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Respect works both ways and goes a long way on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pause and think before you post to the forum, people here have long memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone says no please respect what they say and don't take it to heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a life outside of fab. Please!"

Totally this, or you'll just get unrealistic expectations.

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think the social side is a big thing on here. Clubs, big organised socials and the forums - all a good way to get chatting to people. Get your name/face out there x

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Remember that nobody can be everything to everyone.

And don’t forget the green arrow!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Treat people on here like you’d like to be treated x"

Very much my philosophy

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Have a life outside of fab. Please!"

This too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be patient and courteous and if people don’t reply move on

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

It's a swinging site not an instant sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can make some great platonic friends on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience and effort pay off.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Be you. Authentically so. Who you are is more than enough and you'll meet the right person/people soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can make some great platonic friends on here too

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on here a few times. And got no where being blunt to women.

Be respectful and don’t assume your getting laid if you get a reply back

Took me a while to figure this out.

- women run this show lads. If your lucky to meet treat them with respect

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Patience and effort pay off. "

i'm agreeing with a lot of stuff on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What one POSITIVE piece of advice would you give to a newbie.

Don't make toast in the bath!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Your pics are your portfolio, have some fun taking them

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Your pics are your portfolio, have some fun taking them"

Another!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

If your profile pic is crap chances are your message will get missed in the sea of messages. Personally I am drawn to pics before nessage.

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By *ondonbrotherMan
over a year ago

London

Don't copy and paste messages to tonnes of people hoping for a response. Take the time to contact them as though you're trying to initiate a conversation rather than broadcast a generic message. If you are trying to make some sort of connection beyond the friction of genitals (that could be a band name, no one use that), you're more likely to get a response.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Don't approach people purely because you want to have sex with them. Just talk to people like you would anybody else with zero expectations, except certain topics if conversation are much more acceptable here.

When bonds of friendship form, more possibilities can flow from them.

We have chatted with several women who say they are straight or not looking for couples so we had absolutely no expectations and did not convey any, but we did talk. What happened was they said they aren't straight and they do meet couples that are right for them and have expressed an interest in meeting us.

We are looking at meeting two such people when the time is right. We still have no sexual expectations but we didn't expect it to lead this far either, so who knows?

When I read about couples looking for unicorns or look at messages to us from single men, I just think talk to people normally. Forget the agenda. Remarkable things can happen when you just treat people like people. We literally feel like we haven't tried in the way so many do, but possibilities have really opened up for us.

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

So much good advice. I love the fact that so many are saying to just chat to people. I have had some great conversations on here and have met lots of people that I am now happy to say I class as good friends x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Don't take it or yourself too seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be you and don't take things to seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to women like you would a lady you just met in the street. I.e. don't wave your cock in their face first thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are lots of threads about advice for newbies. A lot of them turn negative.

What one POSITIVE piece of advice would you give to a newbie.

Play nice and keep it positive x"

Trouble is forum posts don't help "oh woe is me i have been here a couple of weeks haven't got a meet" etc etc

My advice is simple be, pictures tell a story - 40 cock pics you know what story they tell.

Nice pic dressed 'smart casual, tidy and reasonable'

Pet hates.

Cock picks

Pictures holding the mobile phone in mirrors.

Should do:

Make an effort to try get a good photo, snaps are just lazy.

Write a clear and concise profile about who you as a person and not what will think will get you laid.

Bragging and moaning is an instant off put.

Put the effort in

lazy profiles, lazy pictures definitely out

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Have an open mind and dont expect too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lemsip

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Men - don't use fab when you're horny.

Women - use fab when you're horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men - don't use fab when you're horny.

Women - use fab when you're horny"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect anything and remember these are normal women not cyber nymphos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't burn your bridges by falling in love with the first woman who reply to your messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Treat people on here like you’d like to be treated x"

That can go both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They cannot have my penis

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By *gm.thomeMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I'm new, n just dipping my toe in, never really new about the forum bit - because I never looked!!! But from what I've seen, most folk are friendly, or dont reply, n to me if the dont reply they ain't interested. Cant believe these get negative !!

I've had some positive chats, but any further advice gratefully received !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They cannot have my anus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get involved in the forums. It’s advice that was given to me, and seems to have increased the interest I get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They cannot have my anus

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dont be sad someone somewhere will want uranus

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Using the forums is great advice x

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Make friends..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're a newbie woman, hide your profile immediately. Come back to it in a week and delete everything in your inbox. There's some very strange men who mail new women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to get too cynical ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont be a dick!

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"If you're a newbie woman, hide your profile immediately. Come back to it in a week and delete everything in your inbox. There's some very strange men who mail new women. "

I would say set filters high until you get used to the site x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck babs in the bum hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck babs in the bum hole"

Brave of you when she isnt here to defend herself

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Try and make your profile the best you can and have an appealing profile pic.

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Try and make your profile the best you can and have an appealing profile pic. "

Most are more likely to reply to a profile with a pic on it, not a silhouette x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Head straight to the games forum

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By *picknspanMan
over a year ago

North West Leeds

I would say do what OP did and block people for what ever reason ....

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By *LARENCE77Man
over a year ago

Skellefteå, Sweden

Be polite,and respectful.

Don't think all responses will lead to anything more.

Don't take the hump if the answer is no.

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I would say do what OP did and block people for what ever reason ...."

I would also say read forum rules. Dont use threads to bypass blocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find block button your gonna need it

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Fab is akin to shifting sands .... it moves quickly - sometimes it’s a calming warm breeze, sometimes it’s a passing storm.

Whatever time you chose to dedicate to using the site, breeze through at your pace, enjoy the view, participate where you feel appropriate but most of all enjoy your time here.

Interaction within the forums will undoubtedly furnish you with new friends and unforgettable experiences and memories.....

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Fab is akin to shifting sands .... it moves quickly - sometimes it’s a calming warm breeze, sometimes it’s a passing storm.

Whatever time you chose to dedicate to using the site, breeze through at your pace, enjoy the view, participate where you feel appropriate but most of all enjoy your time here.

Interaction within the forums will undoubtedly furnish you with new friends and unforgettable experiences and memories..... "

Perfectly put x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be patient all good things come to those who wait

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Read the profile not once but twice

Respect what it says

Jo x

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Honesty is best for every situation xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone wants to meet you

Be respectful of boundaries and ignore the profiles you don’t like

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Stay polite,

Try be creative

Banter is gold dust here,

But no1 be respectful,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join in the forum ... I've talked to people that i wouldn't have naturally interacted with... Its also been an education

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Join in the forum ... I've talked to people that i wouldn't have naturally interacted with... Its also been an education"
see that'll teach you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"see that'll teach you

Collected any more musical items?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"see that'll teach you

Collected any more musical items? "
I'm always collecting something

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Have fun. Use your filters. Chat and get to know people x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be yourself

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Be yourself"

Only if being yourself doesn't mean give abuse out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Duly noted folks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat and talk to people the same way as you would in the street.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Be nice to people and they'll be nice back.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"Treat and talk to people the same way as you would in the street."

Or the pub

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Treat and talk to people the same way as you would in the street.

Or the pub "

Or anywhere x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be patient, polite and proactive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be like gorgeousladboy123

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Be patient, polite and proactive"

Proactive is a good one. Plus set filters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be like gorgeousladboy123"
and never get laid as stated on other thread?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"There are lots of threads about advice for newbies. A lot of them turn negative.

What one POSITIVE piece of advice would you give to a newbie.

Play nice and keep it positive x"

Do what YOU want to do! You are the most important person....!

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

You only live once! Enjoy it

take the dive, move on from the scammers , time wasters and no response. Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be like gorgeousladboy123and never get laid as stated on other thread?

It's not about the shag it's about loyalty and respect - something you obviously don't understand

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

"Depends on if it was a man or a woman!!

Men ~ don't assume women on here are easy pickings.

Women ~ use the filters. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be like gorgeousladboy123and never get laid as stated on other thread?

It's not about the shag it's about loyalty and respect - something you obviously don't understand"
me not know about loyalty

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

"There are lots of threads about advice for newbies. A lot of them turn negative.

What one POSITIVE piece of advice would you give to a newbie.

Play nice and keep it positive x"

Floss and remember to wear sunscreen

hey you got a second bit of advice for free - I must be one of the good guys!

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"Be like gorgeousladboy123and never get laid as stated on other thread?

It's not about the shag it's about loyalty and respect - something you obviously don't understandme not know about loyalty

Can't have your penis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be like gorgeousladboy123and never get laid as stated on other thread?

It's not about the shag it's about loyalty and respect - something you obviously don't understandme not know about loyalty

Can't have your penis?"
good guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy the experience of talking to loads of new likeminded people, use the forums because theyre great and dont forget that like with anything else you get out what you put in *disclaimer pun intended

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

And dont google everything you don't understand... learnt that the hard way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And dont google everything you don't understand... learnt that the hard way x

i google nothing, i just ask my mum

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"And dont google everything you don't understand... learnt that the hard way x

i google nothing, i just ask my mum"

Is her name Alexa?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watch and learn and don't try too hard. Enjoy it or stop....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And dont google everything you don't understand... learnt that the hard way x

i google nothing, i just ask my mum

Is her name Alexa?"

No, genuinley i do ask her what some stuff is that i read on here i like to wind her up because i know shes going to google it, i often get abusive phone calls from her calling all the names under the sun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learn the forum rules so you don’t keep getting sent to the naughty step ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck the police comin' straight from the underground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck the police comin' straight from the underground."

That’s good advice.......

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"And dont google everything you don't understand... learnt that the hard way x

i google nothing, i just ask my mum

Is her name Alexa?

That made me proper laugh. I would do that sort of stuff to my mum if she was still here. I lived to wind her up x

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

It's of course a competition

Treat it as a competition

The winners WIN, the losers LOSE

#BeMoreGMF

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It's of course a competition

Treat it as a competition

The winners WIN, the losers LOSE

#BeMoreGMF "

Not very productive advice x

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Don’t take rejection personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And dont google everything you don't understand... learnt that the hard way x

i google nothing, i just ask my mum

Is her name Alexa?

That made me proper laugh. I would do that sort of stuff to my mum if she was still here. I lived to wind her up x"

I'm the black sheep, cant think why

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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"And dont google everything you don't understand... learnt that the hard way x

i google nothing, i just ask my mum

Is her name Alexa?

That made me proper laugh. I would do that sort of stuff to my mum if she was still here. I lived to wind her up x

I'm the black sheep, cant think why

I was too. Baffles me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be polite, courteous have a personality and be extremely patient

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