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Having sex and making love

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know the majority of encounters people have on here will fall in to the having sex act. I know for a lot of people making love is something reserved for a long term partner etc. And I feel the same way .

Having a conversation with friends at the weekend and they were trying to distinguish the two acts (apart from feelings and intimacy)

So what is the difference? Is it certain positions, certain things you include or not? What is it that determines its sex or lovemaking ? Or are they the same thing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the woman's face

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

To simplify it ... I think it's the level of connection with the person

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think making love includes things like washing each other in the shower, brushing hair, massage, cuddling, caressing and chatting, taking your time, not just a quick shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been together a long time... We don't make love! Haha! (Get me the bucket) We may love having sex together, but making looooove?

I think if he asked me to "make love" I'll leave him!

In my head, making love is about missionary position, with the lights off and no kissing....i.e. my sex life while I was married - how the hell I put up with it once a year for 15 years god only knows!

LOL

x N

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"To simplify it ... I think it's the level of connection with the person "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

the clue is in the question. Making love is about love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's just down being compatible with someone and having the love and intimacy that makes it special. I hate the term making love, but I personally think that's something that can only really happen in a relationship. I think you get the best of both in a relationship. You can have that more intimate and special side of sex with a really deep connection, but then other times that fast, passionate and hard fuck too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I think it's just down being compatible with someone and having the love and intimacy that makes it special. I hate the term making love, but I personally think that's something that can only really happen in a relationship. I think you get the best of both in a relationship. You can have that more intimate and special side of sex with a really deep connection, but then other times that fast, passionate and hard fuck too.

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Totally see where you are coming from, but you can start slow and passionate and end with a hard fuck.... and all the while still be madly in love with each other...yes???

xx N

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"the clue is in the question. Making love is about love "

This. It’s certainly about expressing very strong care and affection (or love). I think it can be more passionate, as it feels like a elemental compulsion to express desire can take over.

For me, it’s nothing to do with certain positions

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

The passion comes from two different places.

Love comes from the heart.

Sex comes from the . . . well, you get the gist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the clue is in the question. Making love is about love

This. It’s certainly about expressing very strong care and affection (or love). I think it can be more passionate, as it feels like a elemental compulsion to express desire can take over.

For me, it’s nothing to do with certain positions "

What an articulate answer. Maybe my marital sex has just made me a little bit cynical with regards to the missionary - but ironically, even that position feels different with my partner. So I guess we are in agreement that it's not about position, but that feeling of desire.

x N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's anything to do with what you're doing physically, you can have slow intimate sex with a casual partner just as you can have raw passionate sex with a partner you love.

It's more about the connection and emotions, the motivations and what you're trying to express and share with the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me....sex changes to love making when the person who are with supports you, comforts you when you are down, picks you up, protects you, listens to you, respects you.

Its all the other ancillary things to 2 bodies being in bed together that makes it making love...IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me....sex changes to love making when the person who are with supports you, comforts you when you are down, picks you up, protects you, listens to you, respects you.

Its all the other ancillary things to 2 bodies being in bed together that makes it making love...IMO "

I agree with this, it's when the connection moves from lust/sexual to a much deeper emotional place.

I've had incredibly passionate sex with a tiny amount of men I've met over the year on fab, I've not loved/don't love them, but value their friendship etc, it's just not love.

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