FabSwingers.com forum: Face to Face or Internet???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Before the days of the internet on our phones/computers talking face to face was probably the main method.

I use social media as little as possible but I find lots of people create persona’s that aren’t them in real life.

I completely understand each to their own but does anybody actually prefer being chatted up/ holding a pleasant conversation face to face rather than behind a screen anymore or is it just me?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I like both. People created personas that weren't really them long before the net although it is easier since the WWW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely not just you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god, I MUCH prefer being chatted up face to face. Not that it happens a lot. Or at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. F2f when looking for a partner, online for sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer face to face alot of folks have lost the simple art of conversation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is indeed and for some maybe it has it’s benefits. I prefer face to face as I like to see body language/facial expressions when talking.

I’m sure there are plenty out there but it seems those numbers are dwindling or maybe we’re hiding.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep. F2f when looking for a partner, online for sex..."

I slightly disagree as I’m sure we’ve all been on a night out with friends and craving sex, hoping the right guy/girl strikes up a conversation.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It’s more difficult to lie in F2F meetings hence I prefer those meetings. I’m a pretty good judge of character, much easier to assess that when sat across a table with eye contact.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It is indeed and for some maybe it has it’s benefits. I prefer face to face as I like to see body language/facial expressions when talking.

I’m sure there are plenty out there but it seems those numbers are dwindling or maybe we’re hiding."

Do you often approach people in person? We sometimes chat to random strangers if we're out somewhere (not in a chatting up way) and get a mixed reception. Some people will chat back others look at us as if we're a bit odd. More people respond to our friendly overtures on the net than in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep. F2f when looking for a partner, online for sex...

I slightly disagree as I’m sure we’ve all been on a night out with friends and craving sex, hoping the right guy/girl strikes up a conversation."

Oh I was saying for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lovely and I have adhd. Large groups of people spin my melon and leave me feeling uncomfortable.

So large socials are scary. Which is a pain because I would love to attend some socials.

I don't use social media other than FabS. Facebook just had an effect of bringing me down. Who knows why lol

I really like chatting by text /WhatsApp etc, but 1-1 Physical in person type chatting can't be beaten.

I have a weird brain that doesn't let me relax with dishonesty, so not being myself online would be pointless as there's no way I could pretend to be someone I'm not.

In person gets my vote.

It comes with kisses and hugs and all sorts of other thrills.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is indeed and for some maybe it has it’s benefits. I prefer face to face as I like to see body language/facial expressions when talking.

I’m sure there are plenty out there but it seems those numbers are dwindling or maybe we’re hiding.

I chat to everyone when I’m out. Some people can be a little unfriendly but I always find if you make it clear at the start of the conversation your intentions then 9/10 they’re fine and compliments take no effort but sometimes make someone’s day.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

Welsh Lass

I’m not very good at getting chatted up as i don’t realise i’m getting chatted up. So I prefer a direct approach. And it depends how it’s handled.

Online you can be direct and read it in your own tone, so it’s not so bad?

Also, if i find someone very attractive i have a very hard time looking at them as i go very coy and even more shy.

I’m not sure is the answer.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

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I only use this site and enjoy the banter and flirting. Folks mostly take it for what it is, just the crack.

At the same time if I do fancy someone I can make that really known.

I generally have no problem talking to people when out and about. I just don't come across many I'd like to get to know better or take home. Here you get the chance to get an insight into the person. Any pretence can't go on forever and they show themselves for who they are to a point at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is indeed and for some maybe it has it’s benefits. I prefer face to face as I like to see body language/facial expressions when talking.

I’m sure there are plenty out there but it seems those numbers are dwindling or maybe we’re hiding.

Not in my experience. The “block” button is frequently used online, where in person they might answer back for the sake of politeness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't use social media other than FabS. Facebook just had an effect of bringing me down. Who knows why lol

In person gets my vote.

It comes with kisses and hugs and all sorts of other thrills. "

I think Facebook admitted a while ago to “experimenting” on their user base. Showing users “depressing” posts or “uplifting” posts, to see how it affected their mood. All without permission.

Kisses hugs and thrills are always good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is only so long you can pretend for... :/ or you should be incredible liar to keep that persona intact. So much effort. And then they dont even want you.. just the image you created for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not very good at getting chatted up as i don’t realise i’m getting chatted up. So I prefer a direct approach. And it depends how it’s handled.

Online you can be direct and read it in your own tone, so it’s not so bad?

Also, if i find someone very attractive i have a very hard time looking at them as i go very coy and even more shy.

I’m not sure is the answer.

I feel your pain. I never know when I’m being chatted up either. Probably because it happens so infrequently

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is only so long you can pretend for... :/ or you should be incredible liar to keep that persona intact. So much effort. And then they dont even want you.. just the image you created for them.

Judging by some of the news feed updates I’ve seen lately it seems there are quite a lot of good liars on here as people seem to be getting outed after they’ve got what they want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't use social media other than FabS. Facebook just had an effect of bringing me down. Who knows why lol

In person gets my vote.

It comes with kisses and hugs and all sorts of other thrills.

Kisses hugs and thrills are always good

I think the majority of social media websites do similar things. Even Fabs carries out this sort of thing I’d say and people are getting more concerned with there photos being liked lately.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Before the days of the internet on our phones/computers talking face to face was probably the main method.

I use social media as little as possible but I find lots of people create persona’s that aren’t them in real life.

I completely understand each to their own but does anybody actually prefer being chatted up/ holding a pleasant conversation face to face rather than behind a screen anymore or is it just me?"

Much prefer face to face. I like to read facial expressions and body language. Its also easier to flirt when face to face.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Face to face is best, I'm a lot chatter in person than I come across online. You also get a feel for how someone comes across in tone & personality whereas message can be taken wrong

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I find face to face much more enjoyable, you've got body language and intonation as well as the words

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree much easier to flirt face to face. Without hearing the tone or seeing somebody’s expressions then certain comments will surely be lost in translation on sites such as this.

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