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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Iv been on here a while now but dont have the confidence I use to have due to my ex which is the mother of my children shes put me down till I'm nothing has anyone got advice please

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

Just be careful. If you are lacking confidence or feeling fragile then I think Fab could be an awful place to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be careful. If you are lacking confidence or feeling fragile then I think Fab could be an awful place to be."

Thanks for the heads up and I will be careful just wanna let loose now if u know wht I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor "

Whts a narcissist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist "

Google it. If you've been in a relationship with one you'll recognise the signs. Dangerous individuals who knock the self out of you

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist

Google it. If you've been in a relationship with one you'll recognise the signs. Dangerous individuals who knock the self out of you

P"

I was just about to say the same myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also lost my confidence completely from a relationship. Give yourself time and it'll come back, trust me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist

Google it. If you've been in a relationship with one you'll recognise the signs. Dangerous individuals who knock the self out of you

P

I was just about to say the same myself "

Thank u will have a read of it myself sorry to of bothered u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist

Google it. If you've been in a relationship with one you'll recognise the signs. Dangerous individuals who knock the self out of you

P

I was just about to say the same myself

Thank u will have a read of it myself sorry to of bothered u "

What are you apologising for? You've done nothing wrong x

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist

Google it. If you've been in a relationship with one you'll recognise the signs. Dangerous individuals who knock the self out of you

P

I was just about to say the same myself

Thank u will have a read of it myself sorry to of bothered u

What are you apologising for? You've done nothing wrong x

P"

Just wht I'm use to saying sorry all the time it's a habit when u get the blame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist

Google it. If you've been in a relationship with one you'll recognise the signs. Dangerous individuals who knock the self out of you

P

I was just about to say the same myself

Thank u will have a read of it myself sorry to of bothered u

What are you apologising for? You've done nothing wrong x

P

Just wht I'm use to saying sorry all the time it's a habit when u get the blame "

Defo look up narcissistic relationships. Good luck

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are stronger than the words anyone used to try and weaken you. It sounds tough. But it can be overcome.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

Practise being confident even if you don't feel it, it'll grow on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Practise being confident even if you don't feel it, it'll grow on you "

This assumes you can remember what confidence looks and feels like on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv been on here a while now but dont have the confidence I use to have due to my ex which is the mother of my children shes put me down till I'm nothing has anyone got advice please "

I’m playing the smallest violin in the world. Lack of self esteem is very unattractive. Hold your head up high. Repeat this mantra. Fuck em

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London


"Practise being confident even if you don't feel it, it'll grow on you

This assumes you can remember what confidence looks and feels like on you. "

So for me the stage before was watching people carefully and attempting to copy them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look after yourself first

Look up the advice given and get some help to deal with your ex so that she cannot put you down anymore

You have to learn how to deal with her if she’s the mother of your children

Don’t worry about this place for now until you’re feeling stronger as it can make you feel worse

Wishing you all the best x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Look after yourself first

Look up the advice given and get some help to deal with your ex so that she cannot put you down anymore

You have to learn how to deal with her if she’s the mother of your children

Don’t worry about this place for now until you’re feeling stronger as it can make you feel worse

Wishing you all the best x

"

I see that you are no longer here but good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist "
someone who loves themselves

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wanted to say thank u to everyone for ur advice an I will take it all in an make my self better thanks fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just chat with ppl, be upfront with ppl about your past and avoid anyone who doesn't seem at least 110% genuine. It's all inside you waiting to be set free again I think.... I'd start with friendships rather than sex if you want to build confidence slowly but surely. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist someone who loves themselves "

You couldn't be more wrong.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist someone who loves themselves

You couldn't be more wrong.

P"
having an excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and ones physical appearance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist someone who loves themselves

You couldn't be more wrong.

Phaving an excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and ones physical appearance "

Look up the term in reference to abusive relationships. Runs far far deeper

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist someone who loves themselves

You couldn't be more wrong.

Phaving an excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and ones physical appearance

Look up the term in reference to abusive relationships. Runs far far deeper

P"
i was just advising on its general meaning though but i agree taken to extremes it can be devicive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Counselling. You need to find you again.

P - narcissistic survivor

Whts a narcissist someone who loves themselves

You couldn't be more wrong.

Phaving an excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and ones physical appearance

Look up the term in reference to abusive relationships. Runs far far deeper

P"

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Find YOU first, there is time enough for others.

You have been defined by another and that has hit you, more than anything the sense of loss, as perverse as it sounds, when you have listened to someone defining you for a long time, you may lose your inner voice.

Take some time chap, to define yourself and then the world will open like a puzzle box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All good advice on here OP.

I've been in therapy for a year on my path of recovery from a similar relationship. It takes time but you'll get there x

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"Just chat with ppl, be upfront with ppl about your past and avoid anyone who doesn't seem at least 110% genuine. It's all inside you waiting to be set free again I think.... I'd start with friendships rather than sex if you want to build confidence slowly but surely. Good luck "

^^^ yes this, Nippy wisdom.

Sex is a sticky plaster, it wont help deal with the wound.

Friendships might be best first and finding yourself again. Baby steps. Good luck x

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I also wish you luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow I'm shocked an honoured with so many comments to give me the boost I need an uv all taken ur time out to read an try an help me I'm truly grateful for all the advice u have given me from the bottom of my heart big thank u to everyone in this form big love to all

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