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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wanting to know is it racism if....

whites only want to meet whites?

blacks only wanting to meet blacks?

Asians only want to meet Asians?

Or let’s say white profile says no blacks

black profile says no whites

Asian profile says no blacks (reason I mention no blacks from Asian profiles because 98% of Asian profile on this site that state preference mention no blacks)

I know there’s loads of none black profiles that state only looking for black men or women and also other races looking for the opposite race from there self. But would you say these profiles have a Racial fetishism? Other than the top example I gave?

I believe the top examples 80% are sexual racist and 20% are racist, just my option would like to hear from you all. I wonder if we couldn’t see would we care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

P"

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

P

Indeed "

Indeed twice

The Princess said frig

I have no idea why that made me giggle so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

P"

Oh, and I haven't come across anyone 90 plus yet that makes me want to get jiggy with them either. I guess I am sexually ageist too, oh the shame!

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preference. End.

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

My thoughts are that if people have their preferences for meeting or not meeting certain people, then it's got fuck all to do with racism, sexism or any other kind of ism

It's their choice...

Del

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

It's hardly racism is it? Some weird people don't like redheads but that doesn't make them Gingerists.

Most people aren't going to fuck someone they dont fancy, and if they only fancy people the same colour as them then so be it.

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

Can't believe someone else used the term Gingerist too... thought I'd just made that up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 98% of the time it's just preference. I'm not looking for single man it doesn't make me homophobic the same as I wear glasses some don't find that attractive doesn't make them speckyist, you can't help what you're attracted too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

P

Indeed

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The Princess said frig

I have no idea why that made me giggle so much"

Coz you're so used to me saying fuck that me being a posho knocked you bandy

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

Sexual racism is the individual's sexual preference of specific races. What you have stated is a Sexual prejudice.

P"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

P

Indeed

Indeed twice

The Princess said frig

I have no idea why that made me giggle so much

Coz you're so used to me saying fuck that me being a posho knocked you bandy

P"

Yes, that's it

You still have you Sunday voice on

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By *aretobareCouple
over a year ago

Central Portugal

People's preferences change but accusations of racism really aren't a good way to describe people's preferences or to attempt to alter them. We all originated from 200 people that survived the ice age. You are far more likely to change a preference by meeting and chatting to someone than by generalising and the world would be very boring if we all had the same preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres white who only want to meet blacks and vice versa.. is that racist too as they also only want to meet from one race?

Most people choose a certain age range does that makes them ageist?

Straight or gay people, are they sexist?

Preference is everything as we are talking about giving your body to another and you need to have an attraction for them..

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I've found if someone has a ism they usually have them all

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

Sexual racism is the individual's sexual preference of specific races. What you have stated is a Sexual prejudice.

P"

Da fuck? Sexual preference isn't any kind of ism.

I swear some people live their lives being offended by everything. Oh, someone doesn't like my new trainers, show me the safe space!

Someone doesn't like me, fucking racist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't believe someone else used the term Gingerist too... thought I'd just made that up "

I could have kept going

Baldist

Long hairist

Shortist

Tallist

Rotundist

Hairyist

Smoothist

Short nailsist

Joggerist

Bad breathist

Penisist

Vaginaist

Too far to travelist

No so smartist

Too intelligentist

Freckleist

Big handsist

Doesn't like dogsist

Annoying voiceist

The list of ists is astronomical, unless you accept they're preferences and people are attracted to things others don't always understand, or don't want to understand or accept. People tend to want to lay blame at the hands of others when sometimes no blame is necessary, just acceptance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its far too easy to suggest a preference is based on prejudice. The best example would be me blocking single guys as I am straight. This doesn't mean I discriminate against men or am sexist or homophobic .

As a mixed race guy I accept some wull not find my colour sexually appealing whilst others may find it a turn on. Many others dont care either way and find my intelligence or charm or personality more appealing.

Have fun and don't worry about it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found if someone has a ism they usually have them all "

Really? I think we all have one but I haven’t met anyone who hates everyone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So to get this straight. Anyone who has a preference relating to skin colour is either a sexual racist or a full on racist. Not convinced that's the case. It is all about attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't believe someone else used the term Gingerist too... thought I'd just made that up

I could have kept going

Baldist

Long hairist

Shortist

Tallist

Rotundist

Hairyist

Smoothist

Short nailsist

Joggerist

Bad breathist

Penisist

Vaginaist

Too far to travelist

No so smartist

Too intelligentist

Freckleist

Big handsist

Doesn't like dogsist

Annoying voiceist

The list of ists is astronomical, unless you accept they're preferences and people are attracted to things others don't always understand, or don't want to understand or accept. People tend to want to lay blame at the hands of others when sometimes no blame is necessary, just acceptance

P"
. The Amazon has spoken. Many thanks

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"So to get this straight. Anyone who has a preference relating to skin colour is either a sexual racist or a full on racist. Not convinced that's the case. It is all about attraction"

I'm fairly sure he's perfectly ok with some women only meeting black guys

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster


"I've found if someone has a ism they usually have them all

Really? I think we all have one but I haven’t met anyone who hates everyone..."
no we all don't have one , some of us are happy to live and let live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to get this straight. Anyone who has a preference relating to skin colour is either a sexual racist or a full on racist. Not convinced that's the case. It is all about attraction

I'm fairly sure he's perfectly ok with some women only meeting black guys "

That made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found if someone has a ism they usually have them all

Really? I think we all have one but I haven’t met anyone who hates everyone...no we all don't have one , some of us are happy to live and let live "

Yep. You carry on believing in yourself sweetheart

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get it but I think you all miss understand the post my thing is it’s okay to have a preference. But to say you will not meet anyone from another race other than your race or a particular race other than your race what is that really?

Me myself some times I only want to meet white women then sometimes Asian or black or whatever tickles my fancy. And I don’t think when a race that limits there self to there own race they are racists, just wanted to know what everyone thoughts where on the topic?

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster


"I've found if someone has a ism they usually have them all

Really? I think we all have one but I haven’t met anyone who hates everyone...no we all don't have one , some of us are happy to live and let live

Yep. You carry on believing in yourself sweetheart"
I do every single day and walk tall sweetcheeks

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm dickheadist, I have a very severe reaction to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found if someone has a ism they usually have them all

Really? I think we all have one but I haven’t met anyone who hates everyone...no we all don't have one , some of us are happy to live and let live

Yep. You carry on believing in yourself sweetheartI do every single day and walk tall sweetcheeks "

And that’s exactly how it should be darling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it but I think you all miss understand the post my thing is it’s okay to have a preference. But to say you will not meet anyone from another race other than your race or a particular race other than your race what is that really?

Me myself some times I only want to meet white women then sometimes Asian or black or whatever tickles my fancy. And I don’t think when a race that limits there self to there own race they are racists, just wanted to know what everyone thoughts where on the topic?"

Exactly, whatever (prefer whoever but up to you) tickles your fancy.

Some don't tickle the fancy of others.

Some prefer to stick to what they know perhaps.

Some may not be racist but have heard rumours about certain ethnicities that make them dubious about meeting so steer clear just in case.

Some maybe are so sick of having the term BBC rammed down their throats they simply can't be arsed as there's more to a person than their penis, and someone who defines themself BY their penis isn't the kind of person they want to hang out with or bump uglies with.

Maybe someone was sexually assaulted by someone of a certain race and that has put them off. You just don't know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think its far too easy to suggest a preference is based on prejudice. The best example would be me blocking single guys as I am straight. This doesn't mean I discriminate against men or am sexist or homophobic .

As a mixed race guy I accept some wull not find my colour sexually appealing whilst others may find it a turn on. Many others dont care either way and find my intelligence or charm or personality more appealing.

Have fun and don't worry about it x"

Fabs should do a preference block list that would make my life easier lol if I could put people not looking to meet blacks and all the other not looking for that would be the best thing ever would save me time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree that for most it's just a preference but let's face it some will be because they are racist.

Iv seen the odd comment on threads like this before saying something along the lines of...

I saw an Asian man behave badly in a club once, so now I won't meet one. Now that is in the very least ignorant. So I would say a very small number "hide" behind the whole it's preference thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I tend to be put off meeting those whose profiles contain text that indicates they are thick as mince as well as those with shit photos.

Ergo I am also an intellectual snob who is prejudice against those with poor photography skills and little imagination. One step away from being the reincarnation of Adolf Hitler really.

I hope there's not many who are facist dictatorist who would be put off meeting me as a result!

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its far too easy to suggest a preference is based on prejudice. The best example would be me blocking single guys as I am straight. This doesn't mean I discriminate against men or am sexist or homophobic .

As a mixed race guy I accept some wull not find my colour sexually appealing whilst others may find it a turn on. Many others dont care either way and find my intelligence or charm or personality more appealing.

Have fun and don't worry about it x

Fabs should do a preference block list that would make my life easier lol if I could put people not looking to meet blacks and all the other not looking for that would be the best thing ever would save me time "

No thats a terrible idea. Often those who dont usually go for someone like me for example will be open and send me a message saying that they haven't previously but would like to.

Whatever their reasons perhaps in meeting someone different if they did have any negative opinions may be changed. Im an equal opportunities fucker !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think its far too easy to suggest a preference is based on prejudice. The best example would be me blocking single guys as I am straight. This doesn't mean I discriminate against men or am sexist or homophobic .

As a mixed race guy I accept some wull not find my colour sexually appealing whilst others may find it a turn on. Many others dont care either way and find my intelligence or charm or personality more appealing.

Have fun and don't worry about it x

Fabs should do a preference block list that would make my life easier lol if I could put people not looking to meet blacks and all the other not looking for that would be the best thing ever would save me time

No thats a terrible idea. Often those who dont usually go for someone like me for example will be open and send me a message saying that they haven't previously but would like to.

Whatever their reasons perhaps in meeting someone different if they did have any negative opinions may be changed. Im an equal opportunities fucker !!"

Listen have you not had couples or women that block single men contact you? If so it all the same as long as you keep your options open

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I totally agree that for most it's just a preference but let's face it some will be because they are racist.

Iv seen the odd comment on threads like this before saying something along the lines of...

I saw an Asian man behave badly in a club once, so now I won't meet one. Now that is in the very least ignorant. So I would say a very small number "hide" behind the whole it's preference thing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally agree that for most it's just a preference but let's face it some will be because they are racist.

Iv seen the odd comment on threads like this before saying something along the lines of...

I saw an Asian man behave badly in a club once, so now I won't meet one. Now that is in the very least ignorant. So I would say a very small number "hide" behind the whole it's preference thing. "

I agree, you can often spot the racists by the way their profiles are written . NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS is usually a sign

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"I totally agree that for most it's just a preference but let's face it some will be because they are racist.

Iv seen the odd comment on threads like this before saying something along the lines of...

I saw an Asian man behave badly in a club once, so now I won't meet one. Now that is in the very least ignorant. So I would say a very small number "hide" behind the whole it's preference thing. "

Once again, my wise friend summarises things well. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a sexual preference isn't racist. People are way over sensitive to the subject and risk looking plain stupid when they argue it. If someone doesn't want to speak to you in the street because of your skin, racist. If someone doesn't want to fuck you because of the colour of your skin, sexual preference. Massive difference. Now where my black girls at

FYI I find all skin types attractive.

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By *amille66Woman
over a year ago

Gerrards Cross London

My preference is white males, it is just that..... my preference and my choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a sexual preference isn't racist. People are way over sensitive to the subject and risk looking plain stupid when they argue it. If someone doesn't want to speak to you in the street because of your skin, racist. If someone doesn't want to fuck you because of the colour of your skin, sexual preference. Massive difference. Now where my black girls at

FYI I find all skin types attractive. "

It is difficult to prove if a preference is based on stereotyping or racism but I am convinced it happens on here , thankfully it is in the minority

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Racist. I could have a preference for white people, that means I mostly prefer white people in who I find attractive, but it doesn't mean I don't fancy an entire race of people.

Those who do discount an entire race of people, without seeing them, I find a bit racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My preference is white males, it is just that..... my preference and my choice."

Of course it is your choice and I am sure this preference isn’t based on racism or stereotyping? but that isn’t the case for everyone

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I totally agree that for most it's just a preference but let's face it some will be because they are racist.

Iv seen the odd comment on threads like this before saying something along the lines of...

I saw an Asian man behave badly in a club once, so now I won't meet one. Now that is in the very least ignorant. So I would say a very small number "hide" behind the whole it's preference thing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's the thing... We all like different things in life and on fab.

It's ridiculous to think that just because a profile states "no black or Asian" that they're automatically racist. Perhaps outside of fab they maybe just that and therefore that's why.

It may also be that it's just not a sexual attraction for them although they deplore racism.

It would be wrong to assume by default that they're racist. Isn't all this a bit of PC taken too far?

Argue about racist twats yes but not innocent choice.

Btw I see that not only is Dudley well represented on this thread but we're all talking sense.... If that's tribalism then we'd better start another thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's the thing... We all like different things in life and on fab.

It's ridiculous to think that just because a profile states "no black or Asian" that they're automatically racist. Perhaps outside of fab they maybe just that and therefore that's why.

It may also be that it's just not a sexual attraction for them although they deplore racism.

It would be wrong to assume by default that they're racist. Isn't all this a bit of PC taken too far?

Argue about racist twats yes but not innocent choice.

Btw I see that not only is Dudley well represented on this thread but we're all talking sense.... If that's tribalism then we'd better start another thread. "

I agree, but why do people find it necessary to put NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS usually in BLOCK CAPITALS? Why can’t they put what they do want rather than what they don’t ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's the thing... We all like different things in life and on fab.

It's ridiculous to think that just because a profile states "no black or Asian" that they're automatically racist. Perhaps outside of fab they maybe just that and therefore that's why.

It may also be that it's just not a sexual attraction for them although they deplore racism.

It would be wrong to assume by default that they're racist. Isn't all this a bit of PC taken too far?

Argue about racist twats yes but not innocent choice.

Btw I see that not only is Dudley well represented on this thread but we're all talking sense.... If that's tribalism then we'd better start another thread.

I agree, but why do people find it necessary to put NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS usually in BLOCK CAPITALS? Why can’t they put what they do want rather than what they don’t ? "

That may be because some people are not respecting their wishes and continue to harass with requests like some girls have NO COCK PICS on their profiles.

I give way to the fact there will be racism in all corners of life. But to assume makes an ASS of U and Me.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I totally agree that for most it's just a preference but let's face it some will be because they are racist.

Iv seen the odd comment on threads like this before saying something along the lines of...

I saw an Asian man behave badly in a club once, so now I won't meet one. Now that is in the very least ignorant. So I would say a very small number "hide" behind the whole it's preference thing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's the thing... We all like different things in life and on fab.

It's ridiculous to think that just because a profile states "no black or Asian" that they're automatically racist. Perhaps outside of fab they maybe just that and therefore that's why.

It may also be that it's just not a sexual attraction for them although they deplore racism.

It would be wrong to assume by default that they're racist. Isn't all this a bit of PC taken too far?

Argue about racist twats yes but not innocent choice.

Btw I see that not only is Dudley well represented on this thread but we're all talking sense.... If that's tribalism then we'd better start another thread.

I agree, but why do people find it necessary to put NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS usually in BLOCK CAPITALS? Why can’t they put what they do want rather than what they don’t ?

That may be because some people are not respecting their wishes and continue to harass with requests like some girls have NO COCK PICS on their profiles.

I give way to the fact there will be racism in all corners of life. But to assume makes an ASS of U and Me. "

I would never assume but if you have a preference state that preference on your profile ? After all it is only a ‘preference’ ? discounting an entire race does seem racist ?

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

Does it really impact on you as an individual? I don’t wish to meet chaps shorter than five eleven; however several hundreds of ladies will. One lady happening not to find a gentleman of colour making her fandango flutter is really not a big deal. (Guess what, quite rightly, the vast majority couldn’t give a fig about a hidden silhouette profile - I live with that).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it really impact on you as an individual? I don’t wish to meet chaps shorter than five eleven; however several hundreds of ladies will. One lady happening not to find a gentleman of colour making her fandango flutter is really not a big deal. (Guess what, quite rightly, the vast majority couldn’t give a fig about a hidden silhouette profile - I live with that). "

Ah, do you prefer men over 5ft 11 or do you discount all men under 5ft 11?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's the thing... We all like different things in life and on fab.

It's ridiculous to think that just because a profile states "no black or Asian" that they're automatically racist. Perhaps outside of fab they maybe just that and therefore that's why.

It may also be that it's just not a sexual attraction for them although they deplore racism.

It would be wrong to assume by default that they're racist. Isn't all this a bit of PC taken too far?

Argue about racist twats yes but not innocent choice.

Btw I see that not only is Dudley well represented on this thread but we're all talking sense.... If that's tribalism then we'd better start another thread.

I agree, but why do people find it necessary to put NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS usually in BLOCK CAPITALS? Why can’t they put what they do want rather than what they don’t ?

That may be because some people are not respecting their wishes and continue to harass with requests like some girls have NO COCK PICS on their profiles.

I give way to the fact there will be racism in all corners of life. But to assume makes an ASS of U and Me.

I would never assume but if you have a preference state that preference on your profile ? After all it is only a ‘preference’ ? discounting an entire race does seem racist ? "

But by putting "NO BLACKS OR ASIANS" is displaying their preference.

By doing that they are of course discounting the entire ethnicity or it would say "SOME BLACKS AND ASIANS" you can't really have it both ways

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over a year ago


"Here's the thing... We all like different things in life and on fab.

It's ridiculous to think that just because a profile states "no black or Asian" that they're automatically racist. Perhaps outside of fab they maybe just that and therefore that's why.

It may also be that it's just not a sexual attraction for them although they deplore racism.

It would be wrong to assume by default that they're racist. Isn't all this a bit of PC taken too far?

Argue about racist twats yes but not innocent choice.

Btw I see that not only is Dudley well represented on this thread but we're all talking sense.... If that's tribalism then we'd better start another thread.

I agree, but why do people find it necessary to put NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS usually in BLOCK CAPITALS? Why can’t they put what they do want rather than what they don’t ?

That may be because some people are not respecting their wishes and continue to harass with requests like some girls have NO COCK PICS on their profiles.

I give way to the fact there will be racism in all corners of life. But to assume makes an ASS of U and Me.

I would never assume but if you have a preference state that preference on your profile ? After all it is only a ‘preference’ ? discounting an entire race does seem racist ?

But by putting "NO BLACKS OR ASIANS" is displaying their preference.

By doing that they are of course discounting the entire ethnicity or it would say "SOME BLACKS AND ASIANS" you can't really have it both ways "

No it isn’t, a ‘preference’ doesn’t discount everything else it just means you ‘prefer ‘ something over the alternative . How can someone discount an entire race without being prejudiced? Is it purely aesthetic ? Not all people of any race look the same ? Is it cultural ? Not all people of any race have the same culture? Is it religion? Not all people of any race have the same religion ? So, what is it?

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over a year ago


"Does it really impact on you as an individual? I don’t wish to meet chaps shorter than five eleven; however several hundreds of ladies will. One lady happening not to find a gentleman of colour making her fandango flutter is really not a big deal. (Guess what, quite rightly, the vast majority couldn’t give a fig about a hidden silhouette profile - I live with that). "

That's Umpa Lumpaism.... Shame!!!

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over a year ago


"Here's the thing... We all like different things in life and on fab.

It's ridiculous to think that just because a profile states "no black or Asian" that they're automatically racist. Perhaps outside of fab they maybe just that and therefore that's why.

It may also be that it's just not a sexual attraction for them although they deplore racism.

It would be wrong to assume by default that they're racist. Isn't all this a bit of PC taken too far?

Argue about racist twats yes but not innocent choice.

Btw I see that not only is Dudley well represented on this thread but we're all talking sense.... If that's tribalism then we'd better start another thread.

I agree, but why do people find it necessary to put NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS usually in BLOCK CAPITALS? Why can’t they put what they do want rather than what they don’t ?

That may be because some people are not respecting their wishes and continue to harass with requests like some girls have NO COCK PICS on their profiles.

I give way to the fact there will be racism in all corners of life. But to assume makes an ASS of U and Me.

I would never assume but if you have a preference state that preference on your profile ? After all it is only a ‘preference’ ? discounting an entire race does seem racist ?

But by putting "NO BLACKS OR ASIANS" is displaying their preference.

By doing that they are of course discounting the entire ethnicity or it would say "SOME BLACKS AND ASIANS" you can't really have it both ways

No it isn’t, a ‘preference’ doesn’t discount everything else it just means you ‘prefer ‘ something over the alternative . How can someone discount an entire race without being prejudiced? Is it purely aesthetic ? Not all people of any race look the same ? Is it cultural ? Not all people of any race have the same culture? Is it religion? Not all people of any race have the same religion ? So, what is it? "

Substitute the word "preference" and use the word "choice". Still not racist but should clarify.

We all have a freedom of choice to prefer whatever we like without fear of being accused of racist ideology.

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over a year ago


"Here's the thing... We all like different things in life and on fab.

It's ridiculous to think that just because a profile states "no black or Asian" that they're automatically racist. Perhaps outside of fab they maybe just that and therefore that's why.

It may also be that it's just not a sexual attraction for them although they deplore racism.

It would be wrong to assume by default that they're racist. Isn't all this a bit of PC taken too far?

Argue about racist twats yes but not innocent choice.

Btw I see that not only is Dudley well represented on this thread but we're all talking sense.... If that's tribalism then we'd better start another thread.

I agree, but why do people find it necessary to put NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS usually in BLOCK CAPITALS? Why can’t they put what they do want rather than what they don’t ?

That may be because some people are not respecting their wishes and continue to harass with requests like some girls have NO COCK PICS on their profiles.

I give way to the fact there will be racism in all corners of life. But to assume makes an ASS of U and Me.

I would never assume but if you have a preference state that preference on your profile ? After all it is only a ‘preference’ ? discounting an entire race does seem racist ?

But by putting "NO BLACKS OR ASIANS" is displaying their preference.

By doing that they are of course discounting the entire ethnicity or it would say "SOME BLACKS AND ASIANS" you can't really have it both ways

No it isn’t, a ‘preference’ doesn’t discount everything else it just means you ‘prefer ‘ something over the alternative . How can someone discount an entire race without being prejudiced? Is it purely aesthetic ? Not all people of any race look the same ? Is it cultural ? Not all people of any race have the same culture? Is it religion? Not all people of any race have the same religion ? So, what is it?

Substitute the word "preference" and use the word "choice". Still not racist but should clarify.

We all have a freedom of choice to prefer whatever we like without fear of being accused of racist ideology.

"

Of course we have freedom of choice, we can fuck or not fuck whoever we want ? This is a very simple question, how can you discount an entire race of people ? You might have a preference or a choice but what is making people discount millions and millions of people? Do they really mean NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS ?

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By *lueEyeSteelBootsCouple
over a year ago

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Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

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over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type. "

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ? "

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

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over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards. "

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?"

Is it Groundhog Day today? Not that there's anything wrong with Groundhogs you understand...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

Is it Groundhog Day today? Not that there's anything wrong with Groundhogs you understand... "

It is only Groundhog Day if you can’t answer the question ?

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By *lueEyeSteelBootsCouple
over a year ago

Bath


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?"

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

P"
but any reference or comment on a profile is by its very inclusion racist sure have the preference but dont write it on your profile, just ignore messages from them

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over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys? "

I was born straight, I don’t find men attractive , this isn’t based on their skin colour, race, religion I just don’t find any men attractive . So, why do people discount an entire race of people, looks? Culture? religion? Skin colour? What is it?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

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"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ? "

Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

I think for me that's the crux of it.

I had never thought of this until another forum user pointed it out. Without even realising there may be undertones that we never thought we had maybe from conditioning from growing up. I don't really know but I think there's something to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your argument has a major flaw in contradiction. You may as well be asking "what comes first... The chicken or the egg"

Thankfully my shift is done and yes I don't like eggs. Not just some of 'em but them all. I wish you a very none racist good day....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys? "

I think you need to google the word ‘homophobe’ then get back to me

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By *lueEyeSteelBootsCouple
over a year ago

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"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys?

I was born straight, I don’t find men attractive , this isn’t based on their skin colour, race, religion I just don’t find any men attractive . So, why do people discount an entire race of people, looks? Culture? religion? Skin colour? What is it? "

And what makes you think that having a preference is not something you are born with? Why are you allowed to have a sexual preference when it comes to gender but not race? Or culture? Or religion?

My wife doesn't even like black dildos, and that has nothing to do with race, why get a black one when the one that you really want is pink with glitter? If you have a choice, then it is your right to choose and no one should be kink shamed for not liking something. It really is not that hard to understand?

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over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys?

I was born straight, I don’t find men attractive , this isn’t based on their skin colour, race, religion I just don’t find any men attractive . So, why do people discount an entire race of people, looks? Culture? religion? Skin colour? What is it? "

They don't find them attractive.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


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I believe the top examples 80% are sexual racist and 20% are racist, just my option would like to hear from you all. I wonder if we couldn’t see would we care "

Different people will have different reasons for asserting their desire for a particular ethnicity.

It's prejudicial to assert that all must be racist.

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over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys?

I was born straight, I don’t find men attractive , this isn’t based on their skin colour, race, religion I just don’t find any men attractive . So, why do people discount an entire race of people, looks? Culture? religion? Skin colour? What is it?

And what makes you think that having a preference is not something you are born with? Why are you allowed to have a sexual preference when it comes to gender but not race? Or culture? Or religion?

My wife doesn't even like black dildos, and that has nothing to do with race, why get a black one when the one that you really want is pink with glitter? If you have a choice, then it is your right to choose and no one should be kink shamed for not liking something. It really is not that hard to understand? "

Who said you can’t have a sexual preference ? Would you discount an entire race of people? And if so why? Have you asked your wife why we doesn’t like black dildos? Seems a very strange thing to mention?

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over a year ago


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I believe the top examples 80% are sexual racist and 20% are racist, just my option would like to hear from you all. I wonder if we couldn’t see would we care

Different people will have different reasons for asserting their desire for a particular ethnicity.

It's prejudicial to assert that all must be racist.

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I agree, I don’t think anyone who prefers or desires a certain race is racist , I am asking why people discount a race

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys?

I was born straight, I don’t find men attractive , this isn’t based on their skin colour, race, religion I just don’t find any men attractive . So, why do people discount an entire race of people, looks? Culture? religion? Skin colour? What is it?

They don't find them attractive. "

Physically attractive ? That makes sense, but surely they can’t find an entire race unattractive ?

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Yes, it is one thing to say you have a particular desire for this ethnicity or that ethnicity.

It is something else to say you cannot be attracted to people of a certain ethnicity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its is your body to allow whomever you see fit to play with it.

It is not a legal right for everyone to have access to it. There are no grounds for discrimination with who you do or dont let fuck you.

imagine the legal cases.... im suing for discrimination because she wont let me fuck her... that will be a £300 fine and oh please let him bum you for a bit

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think we need to be very careful when we chastise peoples sexual preferences. It's rather a slippery slope. There may be some merit suggesting the origins for a particular preference lay in some sort of subconscious subversive racism. After all are sexual desires and preferences (not always healthy per se) are often base deeply from experiences and exposure to the world dating back from the earliest years. But the trouble is our sexual preferences are golden and we shouldn't be judged or be made to feel ashamed for them. So I think you have to be careful not criticising people for their core sex preferences as most people would not view them self as racist and their general intent is not. Clearly there are some people who are openly racist, but find that out in their general attitudes towards race, not their sexual desire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its is your body to allow whomever you see fit to play with it.

It is not a legal right for everyone to have access to it. There are no grounds for discrimination with who you do or dont let fuck you.

imagine the legal cases.... im suing for discrimination because she wont let me fuck her... that will be a £300 fine and oh please let him bum you for a bit"

I never said it was. I never said you can’t have a preference , I will keep asking the same question, why do people discount an entire race of people

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

There are people in life who, when they don't get what they want or when something is happening that they don't like, even if it doesn't involve themeselves will blame it on some sort of ism. That's just how it is with some people.

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By *lueEyeSteelBootsCouple
over a year ago

Bath


"its is your body to allow whomever you see fit to play with it.

It is not a legal right for everyone to have access to it. There are no grounds for discrimination with who you do or dont let fuck you.

imagine the legal cases.... im suing for discrimination because she wont let me fuck her... that will be a £300 fine and oh please let him bum you for a bit

I never said it was. I never said you can’t have a preference , I will keep asking the same question, why do people discount an entire race of people "

And we will keep telling you that it's the same reason you discounted an entire gender. Preference.

And guy grow the fuck up, this is a swinging site so if I mentioned the color of my wife's dildo in relation to a discussion on preferred race its perfectly normal, if you don't think so then maybe you are on the wrong site and should just tottle off back to Facebook you troll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys?

I was born straight, I don’t find men attractive , this isn’t based on their skin colour, race, religion I just don’t find any men attractive . So, why do people discount an entire race of people, looks? Culture? religion? Skin colour? What is it?

They don't find them attractive.

Physically attractive ? That makes sense, but surely they can’t find an entire race unattractive ? "

Why? You discount an entire gender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Freedom of choice. End - ex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are people in life who, when they don't get what they want or when something is happening that they don't like, even if it doesn't involve themeselves will blame it on some sort of ism. That's just how it is with some people."

Do you discount an entire race of people on here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys?

I was born straight, I don’t find men attractive , this isn’t based on their skin colour, race, religion I just don’t find any men attractive . So, why do people discount an entire race of people, looks? Culture? religion? Skin colour? What is it?

They don't find them attractive.

Physically attractive ? That makes sense, but surely they can’t find an entire race unattractive ?

Why? You discount an entire gender. "

Yes, because I am not attracted to men. All men, Not white men not Asian men not black men? Surely you can see the difference ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its is your body to allow whomever you see fit to play with it.

It is not a legal right for everyone to have access to it. There are no grounds for discrimination with who you do or dont let fuck you.

imagine the legal cases.... im suing for discrimination because she wont let me fuck her... that will be a £300 fine and oh please let him bum you for a bit

I never said it was. I never said you can’t have a preference , I will keep asking the same question, why do people discount an entire race of people

And we will keep telling you that it's the same reason you discounted an entire gender. Preference.

And guy grow the fuck up, this is a swinging site so if I mentioned the color of my wife's dildo in relation to a discussion on preferred race its perfectly normal, if you don't think so then maybe you are on the wrong site and should just tottle off back to Facebook you troll"

Wow, swearing and then insults? Somebody is rattled ? If you think the colour of your wife’s dildo is relevant to this thread then I am wasting my time trying to have a discussion with you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Valid non racist reason 1. Maybe some don't believe in abortion and wouldn't want to explain a mixed race baby conceived at a gangbang if they got preggers by accident when both of the couple are white/black.

Valid reason 2.

Maybe someone was sexually assaulted by someone of a certain race and that has put them off. Same as some people cannot have sex with someone with a moustache, as they were assaulted by someone with a moustache so it brings back painful memories. They know it isn't the same person but discount all others with moustaches based on that. That doesn't make them moustacheist, it makes them wanting to avoid any awkward situations/embarrassment/bad reactions.

Are those reasons legit enough for ya?

As I said before way up there, we don't know what goes on in peoples heads and why they are the way they are.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bro, this site is like going to a buffet, there's plenty of food to go around, but are you going to load up your plate with food you have no intention of eating? Do you ask for both fried eggs and scrambled so that one of them doesn't feel left out?

Should I get mad if some girl rejects me coz she's only down for BBC while I only have SWC? Does that make her a racist? No you are just not her type.

Of course she isn’t racist ? But I will ask again ? Why do some people discount an entire race of people ?

Then your contradicting yourself. BBC only you say isn't racist... Yet MO BLACKS OR ASIANS is? That's double standards.

I don’t know her? So I can’t say if she is racist ? I don’t know the people who state NO BLACKS, so I can’t say if they are racist .I will ask again? Why do people discount an entire race of people? I am genuinely interested to know ? Would you discount someone based on race or skin colour?

For the exact same reason you discounted 50% of the world's population by listing yourself as straight. It's your preference. And how would you feel if someone called you a homophobe because your profile says you don't do guys?

I was born straight, I don’t find men attractive , this isn’t based on their skin colour, race, religion I just don’t find any men attractive . So, why do people discount an entire race of people, looks? Culture? religion? Skin colour? What is it?

They don't find them attractive.

Physically attractive ? That makes sense, but surely they can’t find an entire race unattractive ?

Why? You discount an entire gender.

Yes, because I am not attracted to men. All men, Not white men not Asian men not black men? Surely you can see the difference ? "

I get where you’re coming from, I may have a preference for dark haired men but I can’t say I’m not attracted to any blonde haired men. It does seem weird to say you wouldn’t find any black, Asian, oriental, or white men attractive BUT in the end it’s our body and nobody has the right to tell someone else what they should do with their body, whether it’s who they have sex with or anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's hardly racism is it? Some weird people don't like redheads but that doesn't make them Gingerists.

Most people aren't going to fuck someone they dont fancy, and if they only fancy people the same colour as them then so be it."

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over a year ago


"its is your body to allow whomever you see fit to play with it.

It is not a legal right for everyone to have access to it. There are no grounds for discrimination with who you do or dont let fuck you.

imagine the legal cases.... im suing for discrimination because she wont let me fuck her... that will be a £300 fine and oh please let him bum you for a bit

I never said it was. I never said you can’t have a preference , I will keep asking the same question, why do people discount an entire race of people "

Because they are not attracted to them.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I want to meet Asians, Indians, black (hate that word)

Love the appeal of different colours

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"Valid non racist reason 1. Maybe some don't believe in abortion and wouldn't want to explain a mixed race baby conceived at a gangbang if they got preggers by accident when both of the couple are white/black.

Valid reason 2.

Maybe someone was sexually assaulted by someone of a certain race and that has put them off. Same as some people cannot have sex with someone with a moustache, as they were assaulted by someone with a moustache so it brings back painful memories. They know it isn't the same person but discount all others with moustaches based on that. That doesn't make them moustacheist, it makes them wanting to avoid any awkward situations/embarrassment/bad reactions.

Are those reasons legit enough for ya?

As I said before way up there, we don't know what goes on in peoples heads and why they are the way they are.

P

"

I recall being out in a pub one evening and in the company of people at a table - three or four of us, mostly white, one black chap.

Everyone seemed very friendly and sociable towards each other, so I was very surprised when the lady let slip some racist opinion.

The black chap didn't bat and eyelid, but she could tell I was perplexed by it.

Gang-raped by a black youths as a kid, she said.

I'm afraid my mind just went numb at that point.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"its is your body to allow whomever you see fit to play with it.

It is not a legal right for everyone to have access to it. There are no grounds for discrimination with who you do or dont let fuck you.

imagine the legal cases.... im suing for discrimination because she wont let me fuck her... that will be a £300 fine and oh please let him bum you for a bit

I never said it was. I never said you can’t have a preference , I will keep asking the same question, why do people discount an entire race of people "

Some people may not be attracted to certain features of some races and as P has stated, if someone has been assaulted by someone of a certain race they may avoid sex with the entire race to avoid triggers.

It isn't really for you to question because to be blunt, it's none of your fucking business why someone chooses their sexual partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 'it is their body and blablabla...' or ' I won't sleep with ppl I am not attracted to...' doesn't even reply to the question Karen!

The question is : it is racism or not ?

I truly wonder if that sexual racial preference stops at that or does it have influence on other choice, such as job recruitment?

For the sake of the argument let's say that a person says on her/his profile: 'white only'. As we are on fab, it is obviously a sexual racial preference.

Now if that person works in HR and have two candidates with the same school backgrounds, diplomas and same skills...but one is white and one is black... And the skin colour of the candidate influences his/her judgment, we can safely say that it is racist.

To go even further I don't know what make a skin colour looks more attractive than another if we don't combined it with other characteristics ? I believe that people who are into a specific type of skin colours must associate that skin colours with other characteristics such as personality types, behaviours and so on... And in that case it is racist.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Ah one of the perennial favourite subjects

It is easy to see all sides and see how people of race might feel offended by stated preferences.

The lovely Red has experienced gingerism... but that's not classed as a "hate" thing, should it be, who knows ... as has been said there are so many isms ...

No fat

No skinny

Certain races

Ages

Sexual orientation

The list can go on ...

It is ok for people to state preference, but if people then start stating their reasons in a derogatory manner, that then heads towards the various "isms"

I often think it's easier not to directly state these things on your profile, but just to filter your contact with people

But equally, people should also not immediately assume that the stating of preference is indicative of an "ism"

Live and let live people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it but I think you all miss understand the post my thing is it’s okay to have a preference. But to say you will not meet anyone from another race other than your race or a particular race other than your race what is that really?

Me myself some times I only want to meet white women then sometimes Asian or black or whatever tickles my fancy. And I don’t think when a race that limits there self to there own race they are racists, just wanted to know what everyone thoughts where on the topic?"

Wouldn't that make you part-time sexually racist then?

Or is it ok for you but not for others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 'it is their body and blablabla...' or ' I won't sleep with ppl I am not attracted to...' doesn't even reply to the question Karen!

The question is : it is racism or not ?

I truly wonder if that sexual racial preference stops at that or does it have influence on other choice, such as job recruitment?

For the sake of the argument let's say that a person says on her/his profile: 'white only'. As we are on fab, it is obviously a sexual racial preference.

Now if that person works in HR and have two candidates with the same school backgrounds, diplomas and same skills...but one is white and one is black... And the skin colour of the candidate influences his/her judgment, we can safely say that it is racist.

To go even further I don't know what make a skin colour looks more attractive than another if we don't combined it with other characteristics ? I believe that people who are into a specific type of skin colours must associate that skin colours with other characteristics such as personality types, behaviours and so on... And in that case it is racist.

"

You believe that those with such preference associate the skin colour with other characteristics. I believe that is a sweeping generalisation. I always thought I had a preference for certain skin colours until I tried different. However that was only ever in the sexual arena. In the workplace I have frequently gone for the better candidate regardless

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over a year ago


"The 'it is their body and blablabla...' or ' I won't sleep with ppl I am not attracted to...' doesn't even reply to the question Karen!

The question is : it is racism or not ?

I truly wonder if that sexual racial preference stops at that or does it have influence on other choice, such as job recruitment?

For the sake of the argument let's say that a person says on her/his profile: 'white only'. As we are on fab, it is obviously a sexual racial preference.

Now if that person works in HR and have two candidates with the same school backgrounds, diplomas and same skills...but one is white and one is black... And the skin colour of the candidate influences his/her judgment, we can safely say that it is racist.

To go even further I don't know what make a skin colour looks more attractive than another if we don't combined it with other characteristics ? I believe that people who are into a specific type of skin colours must associate that skin colours with other characteristics such as personality types, behaviours and so on... And in that case it is racist.

"

By that rational, white men/women seeking black only are racist against their own colour.

And vice versa.

Ridiculous statement.

Some people are racist. That's a horrible fact if life. But trying to find racism in sexual preference is getting beyond a joke.... but very 2019 of you.

Wonder what 2020 will bring to the party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 'it is their body and blablabla...' or ' I won't sleep with ppl I am not attracted to...' doesn't even reply to the question Karen!

The question is : it is racism or not ?

I truly wonder if that sexual racial preference stops at that or does it have influence on other choice, such as job recruitment?

For the sake of the argument let's say that a person says on her/his profile: 'white only'. As we are on fab, it is obviously a sexual racial preference.

Now if that person works in HR and have two candidates with the same school backgrounds, diplomas and same skills...but one is white and one is black... And the skin colour of the candidate influences his/her judgment, we can safely say that it is racist.

To go even further I don't know what make a skin colour looks more attractive than another if we don't combined it with other characteristics ? I believe that people who are into a specific type of skin colours must associate that skin colours with other characteristics such as personality types, behaviours and so on... And in that case it is racist.

"

Let's be frank, there will be a proportion of racists on Fab, it's too large a sample group of humanity to assume otherwise. And this means that yes, a few stating they won't meet those of a certain race will be card carrying racists. But not the majority I believe and the real issue is them being racist in the first place, their Fab preferences being an aside to this.

The majority will simply not find people of a certain race sexually attractive. And unless they were genuine racists in the first place then it would have no effect on them in their day to day life. I fancy women more than men. If I worked in HR and two identical people applied for the same job (and that's very unlikely in itself) then I wouldn't necessarily choose the woman over the guy?

Racists do exist. Sexual racists I'd regard as a bollocks term really.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't believe someone else used the term Gingerist too... thought I'd just made that up "

It's gingerest*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Preference. End."

Why are you reading so much in to it and trying to label or bucket peoples views. It's down to preferences and honesty from the offset which saves every one time and gives you options xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and to the OP.....

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Personally I’m just not sexually attracted to black men in exactly the same way I’m not sexually attracted to hairy men ...... There is definitely no racism involved it’s just my preference on the other hand I am sexually attracted to black women ....Not sure why this is always made into such a big deal there’s always going to be a small minority of people that are racist but for the majority it’s just a sexual preference....

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Personally I’m just not sexually attracted to black men in exactly the same way I’m not sexually attracted to hairy men ...... There is definitely no racism involved it’s just my preference on the other hand I am sexually attracted to black women ....Not sure why this is always made into such a big deal there’s always going to be a small minority of people that are racist but for the majority it’s just a sexual preference...."

My hairy chest is outraged

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

There's a few minutes of my life I'm never getting back.

"Sexual racist".. *face palm*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 'it is their body and blablabla...' or ' I won't sleep with ppl I am not attracted to...' doesn't even reply to the question Karen!

The question is : it is racism or not ?

I truly wonder if that sexual racial preference stops at that or does it have influence on other choice, such as job recruitment?

For the sake of the argument let's say that a person says on her/his profile: 'white only'. As we are on fab, it is obviously a sexual racial preference.

Now if that person works in HR and have two candidates with the same school backgrounds, diplomas and same skills...but one is white and one is black... And the skin colour of the candidate influences his/her judgment, we can safely say that it is racist.

To go even further I don't know what make a skin colour looks more attractive than another if we don't combined it with other characteristics ? I believe that people who are into a specific type of skin colours must associate that skin colours with other characteristics such as personality types, behaviours and so on... And in that case it is racist.

By that rational, white men/women seeking black only are racist against their own colour.

And vice versa.

Ridiculous statement.

Some people are racist. That's a horrible fact if life. But trying to find racism in sexual preference is getting beyond a joke.... but very 2019 of you.

Wonder what 2020 will bring to the party "

By not seeing racism when there is is beyond a joke as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 'it is their body and blablabla...' or ' I won't sleep with ppl I am not attracted to...' doesn't even reply to the question Karen!

The question is : it is racism or not ?

I truly wonder if that sexual racial preference stops at that or does it have influence on other choice, such as job recruitment?

For the sake of the argument let's say that a person says on her/his profile: 'white only'. As we are on fab, it is obviously a sexual racial preference.

Now if that person works in HR and have two candidates with the same school backgrounds, diplomas and same skills...but one is white and one is black... And the skin colour of the candidate influences his/her judgment, we can safely say that it is racist.

To go even further I don't know what make a skin colour looks more attractive than another if we don't combined it with other characteristics ? I believe that people who are into a specific type of skin colours must associate that skin colours with other characteristics such as personality types, behaviours and so on... And in that case it is racist.

Let's be frank, there will be a proportion of racists on Fab, it's too large a sample group of humanity to assume otherwise. And this means that yes, a few stating they won't meet those of a certain race will be card carrying racists. But not the majority I believe and the real issue is them being racist in the first place, their Fab preferences being an aside to this.

The majority will simply not find people of a certain race sexually attractive. And unless they were genuine racists in the first place then it would have no effect on them in their day to day life. I fancy women more than men. If I worked in HR and two identical people applied for the same job (and that's very unlikely in itself) then I wouldn't necessarily choose the woman over the guy?

Racists do exist. Sexual racists I'd regard as a bollocks term really.

B"

I didn't really use the term sexual racism though. I say that a said sexual racial preference may be racist. That is different.

Well if you choose the guy over the woman it may be regarded as ambivalence sexism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am off now and it is likely that thread will be full when I log back in but if any of you want to debate in private, my inbox is open to all (races )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wanting to know is it racism if....

whites only want to meet whites?

blacks only wanting to meet blacks?

Asians only want to meet Asians?

Or let’s say white profile says no blacks

black profile says no whites

Asian profile says no blacks (reason I mention no blacks from Asian profiles because 98% of Asian profile on this site that state preference mention no blacks)

I know there’s loads of none black profiles that state only looking for black men or women and also other races looking for the opposite race from there self. But would you say these profiles have a Racial fetishism? Other than the top example I gave?

I believe the top examples 80% are sexual racist and 20% are racist, just my option would like to hear from you all. I wonder if we couldn’t see would we care "

Preference,end off

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"The 'it is their body and blablabla...' or ' I won't sleep with ppl I am not attracted to...' doesn't even reply to the question Karen!

The question is : it is racism or not ?

I truly wonder if that sexual racial preference stops at that or does it have influence on other choice, such as job recruitment?

For the sake of the argument let's say that a person says on her/his profile: 'white only'. As we are on fab, it is obviously a sexual racial preference.

Now if that person works in HR and have two candidates with the same school backgrounds, diplomas and same skills...but one is white and one is black... And the skin colour of the candidate influences his/her judgment, we can safely say that it is racist.

To go even further I don't know what make a skin colour looks more attractive than another if we don't combined it with other characteristics ? I believe that people who are into a specific type of skin colours must associate that skin colours with other characteristics such as personality types, behaviours and so on... And in that case it is racist.

By that rational, white men/women seeking black only are racist against their own colour.

And vice versa.

Ridiculous statement.

Some people are racist. That's a horrible fact if life. But trying to find racism in sexual preference is getting beyond a joke.... but very 2019 of you.

Wonder what 2020 will bring to the party

By not seeing racism when there is is beyond a joke as well. "

But unless someone actually says 'I hate (insert race/skin colour here) people', you wouldn't know if it was racism or preference.

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By *oupleforxtrafunCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

P"

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"

......I was very surprised when the lady let slip some racist opinion.

.....

Gang-raped by a black youths as a kid, she said.....

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That’s not being racist. That is just an awful event that happened to her. Poor woman

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

This topic keeps reappearing and what fascinates me is why people have to justify not being racist.

My question is, would you fuck a racist?

I definitely would if I fancied her. So in essence, what's wrong with being racist OP ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This topic keeps reappearing and what fascinates me is why people have to justify not being racist.

My question is, would you fuck a racist?

I definitely would if I fancied her. So in essence, what's wrong with being racist OP ? "

New post buddy.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you question the existence of something you have neither experienced or have an understanding of? Easier to dismiss and dispel such crazy notions...

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I have experienced racism and other isms against me..I don't judge them on it. They would of had reasons. Some people won't meet bi men. I don't judge them for it. It's fine, it's not for them. I don't give a monkeys. They are not bad people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are people in life who, when they don't get what they want or when something is happening that they don't like, even if it doesn't involve themeselves will blame it on some sort of ism. That's just how it is with some people."
exactly i suffer from medtism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you question the existence of something you have neither experienced or have an understanding of? Easier to dismiss and dispel such crazy notions..."

I think you can if you have an objective approach?

Can you look at things objective6if you're emotively opinionated?

I've experienced crude derogatory jokes and belittling comments based on my nationality, but I wouldn't compare to more extreme prejudice.

But staying on track...theres a massive elephant in the room here no doubt. Some people will make preferences based on perceived stereotypes of people and their lifestyles. Some genuinely aren't attracted to them.

Are people ageist for having filters?

We're too ready to use the racist word, which should be saved for those that act with genuine prejudice.

Not everyone will like or be attracted to me. That's nothing to do with my nationality, colour or age. That's life?

Where do we draw the line?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its choice 90% of the time people who don't meet people outside their age limits are not ageist. Men who won't have sex with other men are not homophobic and on and on.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I get it but I think you all miss understand the post my thing is it’s okay to have a preference. But to say you will not meet anyone from another race other than your race or a particular race other than your race what is that really?

Me myself some times I only want to meet white women then sometimes Asian or black or whatever tickles my fancy. And I don’t think when a race that limits there self to there own race they are racists, just wanted to know what everyone thoughts where on the topic?"

I understand your point

Here's a 2 part question for you

If a man has stated on his profile he will only meet with "blonde haired,large breasted Pamela Anderson lookalikes"

Would this be racist?

And would the MANs skin colour change your answer? IE if he's white, is it different to if he's black?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what if they *are* racist?

There are whole groups of people I don't want to fuck.

I don't go on rallies. I don't firebomb houses. I don't call them names. I just don't want to fuck them.

I just say "no thank you" without any reason needed to be given. My decision is final.

People calling it 'racism' are just trying to make people feel guilty. I don't feel guilty at all, so call me whatever you like.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Gingers, they're the worst.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Gingers, they're the worst."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gingers, they're the worst."

They have no souls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gingers, they're the worst.

They have no souls."

You’ve met my mother haven’t you?

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Gingers, they're the worst."

Yep every freckle represents a soul I've stolen

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

What about Gingers,

Just saying,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gingers, they're the worst.

They have no souls."

I've often said we are the last minority group that folk can get away with saying such things about... even in so called jest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said something g si.ilar in the past. Closet racists. Generally I dont find black or asian women as attractive as white but..... some of the most beautiful women I have ever seen have been black and Asian. So inwpuld never state no black or Asian is just racist..its just like saying black people will steal from you

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"

......I was very surprised when the lady let slip some racist opinion.

.....

Gang-raped by a black youths as a kid, she said.....

That’s not being racist. That is just an awful event that happened to her. Poor woman "

No, her comments beforehand were very general and very racist.

When she detected my perplexion, she sought to justify them by disclosing her experience as a teenager.

My moral compass stopped working at that point, basically.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"There are people in life who, when they don't get what they want or when something is happening that they don't like, even if it doesn't involve themeselves will blame it on some sort of ism. That's just how it is with some people.

Do you discount an entire race of people on here??"

Personally no but that has nothing to do with my comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gingers, they're the worst.

They have no souls."

we collect the souls of gingerists

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Leave the Titians alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been called a "fucking racist bitch" plenty of times for "no thanks, not for me" replies.

Now that fucks me off.

Why scream racism and accuse others of it when they've been perfectly pleasant to you?

As I have said before, some can't handle rejection and want to lay blame.

I question whether those that claim racism at every knock back/hurdle/not getting their own way are actually indeed the racists, coz personally race doesn't cross my mind, I merely accept.

P

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"Gingers, they're the worst.

They have no souls.

we collect the souls of gingerists "

You're ok you're strawberry blonde

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"I've been called a "fucking racist bitch" plenty of times for "no thanks, not for me" replies.

Now that fucks me off.

Why scream racism and accuse others of it when they've been perfectly pleasant to you?

As I have said before, some can't handle rejection and want to lay blame.

I question whether those that claim racism at every knock back/hurdle/not getting their own way are actually indeed the racists, coz personally race doesn't cross my mind, I merely accept.

P"

Totally agree on this one.

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Gingers, they're the worst.

They have no souls.

I've often said we are the last minority group that folk can get away with saying such things about... even in so called jest "
but even that is watered down , Jesus in the 80,s everyone was nasty to gingers

My 2 have never been insulted once ,,

They have no clue what it means to be a ginge survivor lol

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Gingers, they're the worst.

They have no souls.

I've often said we are the last minority group that folk can get away with saying such things about... even in so called jest but even that is watered down , Jesus in the 80,s everyone was nasty to gingers

My 2 have never been insulted once ,,

They have no clue what it means to be a ginge survivor lol"

My mum (a red head) who is also from Dublin used to be asked if she had been left out in the rain.

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Gingers, they're the worst.

They have no souls.

I've often said we are the last minority group that folk can get away with saying such things about... even in so called jest but even that is watered down , Jesus in the 80,s everyone was nasty to gingers

My 2 have never been insulted once ,,

They have no clue what it means to be a ginge survivor lol

My mum (a red head) who is also from Dublin used to be asked if she had been left out in the rain. "
ahh lol ffs,

And you are not a purebreed???

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Gingers, they're the worst.

They have no souls.

I've often said we are the last minority group that folk can get away with saying such things about... even in so called jest but even that is watered down , Jesus in the 80,s everyone was nasty to gingers

My 2 have never been insulted once ,,

They have no clue what it means to be a ginge survivor lol

My mum (a red head) who is also from Dublin used to be asked if she had been left out in the rain. ahh lol ffs,

And you are not a purebreed??? "

Nope. Diluted with Welsh blood.

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Both

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Here we go again.

No, it is not racist to have a sexual preference.

No, it is not racist or prejudiced to be attracted to one person and not another.

No, nobody should feel obligated or pressured to 'explain' their sexual preferences.

Yes, it is perfectly acceptable to discriminate when it comes to your sexual partners, otherwise you would be obligated to fuck absolutely everybody, and that's just ridiculous.

I know we live in hyper-sensitive times when just about any kind of preference can be viewed through the lens of racism and being offended by something - anything - seems to have become a national online past-time. But can we ring fence and isolate sex so that each of us can enjoy our preferences and partners without feeling the need to justify why we find one person attractive and not another.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"So what if they *are* racist?

There are whole groups of people I don't want to fuck.

I don't go on rallies. I don't firebomb houses. I don't call them names. I just don't want to fuck them.

I just say "no thank you" without any reason needed to be given. My decision is final.

People calling it 'racism' are just trying to make people feel guilty. I don't feel guilty at all, so call me whatever you like. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a ton of messages already on this thread and my point has probably already been made.

I sometimes get a bit disappointed when I go through a woman's pictures and just when I'm about to hit the message button I see the dreaded "No blacks" text. However, there are usually only Black men, BBC only or no white men text on some profiles too.

I think we should respect people's preferences. No one is entitled to "meet" 100% of the profiles on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had mixed views on this before but I came to the conclusion it’s preferences but however I think the way some profiles display it is abit unnecessary. But then that profile may be fed up and messages so feel the need to state it in profile, I don’t really know any dating sites that ask if you would meet different races but then again this is far from dating site. I think it’s all down to the other persons perception and how they respond. Love4all

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I don't consider myself as racist but when I get a message with 'are you into bbc?' then I have to say no.

Purely because I'm not into big cocks. I've had lots, but it's more that I have nothing in common with the guys, and the rest of the sex isn't great.

I have two regulars who are black but they lack technique and I'll be dumping them in the new year.

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

Just shag away and ask nothing and say nothing.

Shag anyone and everyone that moves or even if they dont move...

Then no body will feel excluded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't consider myself as racist but when I get a message with 'are you into bbc?' then I have to say no.

Purely because I'm not into big cocks. I've had lots, but it's more that I have nothing in common with the guys, and the rest of the sex isn't great.

I have two regulars who are black but they lack technique and I'll be dumping them in the new year."

PMSL, is this for real ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are people in life who, when they don't get what they want or when something is happening that they don't like, even if it doesn't involve themeselves will blame it on some sort of ism. That's just how it is with some people.

Do you discount an entire race of people on here??

Personally no but that has nothing to do with my comment."

Are the words NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS etc necessary on a profile?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"There are people in life who, when they don't get what they want or when something is happening that they don't like, even if it doesn't involve themeselves will blame it on some sort of ism. That's just how it is with some people.

Do you discount an entire race of people on here??

Personally no but that has nothing to do with my comment.

Are the words NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS etc necessary on a profile?

"

Why leave out NO WHITES?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are people in life who, when they don't get what they want or when something is happening that they don't like, even if it doesn't involve themeselves will blame it on some sort of ism. That's just how it is with some people.

Do you discount an entire race of people on here??

Personally no but that has nothing to do with my comment.

Are the words NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS etc necessary on a profile?

Why leave out NO WHITES? "

Exactly ??. I've seen lots of NO WHITES

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By *olaHazeCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Personally I don't find Asian or Black men attractive, it's just a preference, I love everyone in real life, I just choose to sleep with white men.

I'm defiantly NOT racist, just being real x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"There are people in life who, when they don't get what they want or when something is happening that they don't like, even if it doesn't involve themeselves will blame it on some sort of ism. That's just how it is with some people.

Do you discount an entire race of people on here??

Personally no but that has nothing to do with my comment.

Are the words NO BLACKS or NO ASIANS etc necessary on a profile?

Why leave out NO WHITES?

Exactly ??. I've seen lots of NO WHITES "

Same, I'm guessing people don't class that in the same 'sexual racist' bracket.

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"Preference. End."

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We’ve put no earthlings on our profile!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Gingers, they're the worst.

They have no souls."

I can confirm this.

Oh and OP, it's preference, like beards and boobs, bums, baldies and big'uns, svelt, smart, smokers or stupid, fat, fin and somewhere inbetwin. Some people want to fuck you and some don't.

When I see a profile saying "No skinny, bald, ginger pube dudes with the IQ of a lemon", I don't take offence, I move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder what people have against gingers though. I find red haired women incredibly attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My thoughts are that if people have their preferences for meeting or not meeting certain people, then it's got fuck all to do with racism, sexism or any other kind of ism

It's their choice...

Del

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Is that choice-ism?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there un written law that says this same old topic had to come up at least once a month. It’s never going to be agreed on.

It’s totally a woman’s decision who she will and won’t sleep with calling her a racist wont change her mind in any way.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

If a black couple say no blacks???? Are they racist. it's upto people who they would like to have sex with.

Don't make them a racist...and if it does...HOW???

This topic comes up alot.

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"What the frig is "sexual racist"?

If a person doesn't find a certain ethnic group or trait pertaining to them attractive then that's preference surely.

There are many reasons people could have these preferences, some of them won't be preferences and will be racism but to spout racism across the board in a "sexual racism" way is nonsense. Some people don't find slender people attractive, does that make them sexual slenderist or those that don't find ginger people attractive sexual gingerist?

P"

Only a ginger can call another person ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My take on it is that it’s just preference x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I had mixed views on this before but I came to the conclusion it’s preferences but however I think the way some profiles display it is abit unnecessary. But then that profile may be fed up and messages so feel the need to state it in profile, I don’t really know any dating sites that ask if you would meet different races but then again this is far from dating site. I think it’s all down to the other persons perception and how they respond. Love4all"

I generally agree with this.

Racist gets thrown around so much that anything tends to be considered racist these days. Some will obviously hide their racism behind "preference" while others genuinely may not be attracted (regardless of reasons outside of actual hate). Sexual preference is not something that we should force upon or guilt people about. It is much more intimate and personal than just showing hate, refusing to sit next to or even interact in a civilized manner in everyday life.

The fact that people feel the need to state it on profiles to me is very much flirting with racism. Unless you actually take the time to reply to every message (white or not) to decline them, do you really need to be so bold as to state that specific preference fully knowing how controversial it is OK the first place? Though saying that, if I see it stated on a profile that deters me from messaging them (of any skin colour) as I do view it as potential racism - but would never like to just accuse them of it without knowing them.

I'd never go so far to rule out anyone based on the colour of their skin especially if they tick all of my other boxes, I can't see the point when they could end up being the most amazing thing (sexual or more) to ever happen to you. One of the most amazing girlfriends I ever had is of latino heritage.

If I contact a black woman about meeting to which she replies she is not interested in white men, that is fine with me. That is her choice, so long as her "dislike" of white men is purely sexual.

It may be an exclusion to a point but as I say, sexual interest is far too intimate and personal to be put down to just racism. How you treat people minute by minute as people in everyday life, with honor and respect is what should be the focus of racism. I'm not going to shout racial slurs, I'm not going to force somebody to sit at the back of a bus, I will always help somebody out if I see they need it. How you treat people as people, not what you find yourself attracted to should be what draws the line between racism or not.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I state on my profile that I lean towards white men, I only state this so people understand what I'm more likely to be attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m seem to be more attracted to black men and have had better experiences with black men whilst on fab but I choose to politely put this in my profile, when I see “ABSOLUTELY NO WHITE MEN I MEAN NO WHITE MEN ONLY BLACK” I feel a bit offended and I’m not even a white man. I think it’s all about being clear but not rude?!

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I cannot work out the paranoia of the fear of being labelled racist. I am sure there are lovely racist people out there. Would I fuck a racist, hell yes.

Am I racist, hell no. Do I give a monkeys if I am rejected for being bi, hell no. Do I give a monkeys for being rejected for my skin colour, hell no. Get a grip people's..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't consider myself as racist but when I get a message with 'are you into bbc?' then I have to say no.

Purely because I'm not into big cocks. I've had lots, but it's more that I have nothing in common with the guys, and the rest of the sex isn't great.

I have two regulars who are black but they lack technique and I'll be dumping them in the new year."

Why not just dump them now?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I don't consider myself as racist but when I get a message with 'are you into bbc?' then I have to say no.

Purely because I'm not into big cocks. I've had lots, but it's more that I have nothing in common with the guys, and the rest of the sex isn't great.

I have two regulars who are black but they lack technique and I'll be dumping them in the new year.

Why not just dump them now? "

A dump is for life, not just for Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can't help what they are attracted to. You either find something beautiful or you don't, there is no racial factor to this

If someone prefers a sea view over a countryside view does that make them racist to the countryside?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying “no X” on your profile is not expressing a preference. It’s discriminating against X.

A preference is a greater liking for one alternative over another, it’s not rejecting the first alternative altogether.

I understand people having preferences but they could express in a less discriminatory manner.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Saying “no X” on your profile is not expressing a preference. It’s discriminating against X.

A preference is a greater liking for one alternative over another, it’s not rejecting the first alternative altogether.

I understand people having preferences but they could express in a less discriminatory manner.

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Ah .. so .. "I/we prefer X" is ok?

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over a year ago

Over

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying “no X” on your profile is not expressing a preference. It’s discriminating against X.

A preference is a greater liking for one alternative over another, it’s not rejecting the first alternative altogether.

I understand people having preferences but they could express in a less discriminatory manner.

"

We all have free choice on here after all we are inviting someone to have with us we are totally allowed to say who and when we want to sleep with. Not racist ageist sizest or any other name you care to come up with. People choosing who they want to have sex with nobody else has the right to judge that choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying “no X” on your profile is not expressing a preference. It’s discriminating against X.

A preference is a greater liking for one alternative over another, it’s not rejecting the first alternative altogether.

I understand people having preferences but they could express in a less discriminatory manner.

Ah .. so .. "I/we prefer X" is ok?"

It still makes you a closed minded person in my view but from a semantic point of view it’s not discriminatory.

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